QUOTE(Bluetec888 @ Sep 28 2015, 12:23 AM)
Recently I always had very bad arguement with my wife and i hope somebody can advice me
I know my wife for 10 years and we been married for 2 years with a few months baby.
Im 30+ self employed man and My wife however is a exec working in another company. Both of us same age.
I would put our life as good by malaysian standard
We live in a house fully paid and fully renovated by me.
I paid everything for the household expense, baby items etc
Every single meal we dine , i paid too and dine frequently at good restaurant like tgi friday or rukenzen etc
I do most of the housework too and had maid too
However, after married my wife always complaint about me and we always have arguement.
She always say I did not give her money for her own expenses. And she is not happy and always say i stingy cheapskate etc etc
I try telling her many times, is not that i dowan to give her money to let her enjoy more, it is becoz I cant afford more after deducting all the expenses above. Sometimes she also blame me for not taking her to europe or those expensive trip.
I try telling her that give me sometime to earn more money so i can be a better person to her, but seems like she just always looks dissappointed marrying me.
By looking at this perpective am i the 1 wrong or her?
Dear TS
Here's my honest advice:
1. Save for your retirement
2. Save for your child's education
3. Take your wife on a holiday trip at least once a year
4. Pamper your wife on her birthday and anniversary
Prepare a budget and list down all the expenses then show her how much you save for retirement and your child's education fund. Then allocate some money each month to a holiday fund. Have your wife contribute to this too. Then next year use this fund for a holiday for just the both of you (have a babysitter take care of your kid). At least this way she can see that you are truly committed to taking her on a trip. If you can save money each year by travelling locally maybe you can afford that europe trip in a few years.
Communication is key. Let her understand that both of you need to save for retirement but at the same time still saving to enjoy that holiday trip.
Marriage is all about compromising. Make an effort and hopefully your wife will learn to compromise as well.
As for the constant comparison to other people's rich husband and lavish lifestyle, honestly that cannot be helped. Sometimes you need to learn to be deaf