Hi. Im 21 year-old guy. I have an issue with my height since I enter a Uni. My height is 162cm. Roughly 5'3 feet. I feel very unmotivated and a bit depression with my height.. And my bone structure also small (My hands are very small. Like a girl). Everything I want to do I always imagine that Im so small and doesn't fit into the real men social life.

I've always been the shortest guy since primary school (everytime during assembly Im the one who will be at the front bcause Im the shortest).. But during my childhood and teenage even if my friends tease me abt my height, i dont really care.. Until I was 18 y/o, I take things seriously..

Sometimes I blame my parent for not giving me enough and nutritious food eventhough they can afford but they seems to want me to eat just whatever they had for the meal time which most of the time I dont like and dont enjoy the food.

Because Im short, I also have problem with social anxiety.. When I want to go to gym, I feel like I dont fit into it. Even most of the girls at the gym are even taller than me. When I want to play sports, I feel insecure because of my height too.

I easily dont gain respect from strangers.. They treat me differently.. Most of the people I know treat me like Im younger than them.

Sometimes I just motivate myself to accept who I am and dont care about what others think abt me.. But it just words.. Deep inside, it does really matter to me..

Actually there is a lot of things came out in my mind.. Am I fit into my job later on? Can I get a girl?

Sometimes I google about Bruno Mars, Daniel Radcliffe(Harry Potter) because they are short and yet still success in their life..

But I easily unmotivated.

I know my problem is not really a big issue, I still have a lot of things to be grateful for. But I just cant understand myself why is it hard to accept the fact that Im short.

Yes, my parent also say the same thing when I complain about the foods during my childhood and teenage. You cannot expect that if you like cheese, everyone will like and eat cheese too. Your taste for food is a natural thing, you cannot force yourself to something that your taste bud dont like. You get what I mean? That is how my parent treat me. They simply cook and buy food that they like without really considering what Im willing to eat... They said Im choosy.. I never live one day without plain rice and fish when I live with my family.. And you dont know how many times I went to emergency room because of eating fish, the fish bone stuck in my throat since my childhood.. In fact, Im not good in separating the fish fillet and the bone.. But I just force myself because Im hungry

Until one day, my mum fall sick and my father is busy at work, she ask me to buy food for me and her.. So I just buy whatever I like.. At the end, my mum said, "why you buy this? I don't eat this. Go buy me another dishes"... And I said " Didnt you teach me not to complain about food if any food is available? You said dont be choosy? Just eat anything?".. Then only my mum realize that she is being selfish not to consider of what food that Im willing to eat.. Since then, my parent will ask me what I want to eat.. But that was when Im 19 years old.. I stop growing and ended my puberty..

For example will you just eat biscuits for your whole life instead of rice, mee, chicken chop, burger and all that since u said as long as food is available? There is a reason God creates your TASTE BUDS. Again, if you like yellow, blue, green or whatsoever, you cannot expect that other people will also like the same colour as yours. Everyone has their own taste.

I still feel grateful bcause I still have food to eat. Better than other people who live in poverty and starving all the time to survive.

Thanks dude! I really like ur comment! Will nurture myself to control the things that I can control

yes. being a short guy is not easy.. plus, if not good in sports, easily get bully by others..

thanks for ur advice.. i appreciate that

thank you. i also believe that personality and appearance play the role..