Hi. Im 21 year-old guy. I have an issue with my height since I enter a Uni. My height is 162cm. Roughly 5'3 feet. I feel very unmotivated and a bit depression with my height.. And my bone structure also small (My hands are very small. Like a girl). Everything I want to do I always imagine that Im so small and doesn't fit into the real men social life.

I've always been the shortest guy since primary school (everytime during assembly Im the one who will be at the front bcause Im the shortest).. But during my childhood and teenage even if my friends tease me abt my height, i dont really care.. Until I was 18 y/o, I take things seriously..

Sometimes I blame my parent for not giving me enough and nutritious food eventhough they can afford but they seems to want me to eat just whatever they had for the meal time which most of the time I dont like and dont enjoy the food.

Because Im short, I also have problem with social anxiety.. When I want to go to gym, I feel like I dont fit into it. Even most of the girls at the gym are even taller than me. When I want to play sports, I feel insecure because of my height too.

I easily dont gain respect from strangers.. They treat me differently.. Most of the people I know treat me like Im younger than them.

Sometimes I just motivate myself to accept who I am and dont care about what others think abt me.. But it just words.. Deep inside, it does really matter to me..

Actually there is a lot of things came out in my mind.. Am I fit into my job later on? Can I get a girl?

Sometimes I google about Bruno Mars, Daniel Radcliffe(Harry Potter) because they are short and yet still success in their life..

But I easily unmotivated.

I know my problem is not really a big issue, I still have a lot of things to be grateful for. But I just cant understand myself why is it hard to accept the fact that Im short.

162 is fine.........

just go to the gym.......you will be surprised how much better you are then people bigger/taller than you.

Well, bro. I can tell you that, control the things you can control. Thats what I learned in my football training at least. We learned that its all in the mind. You can control when you go to the gym and your routine for that. You can control whether you can approach a girl. You can control how you are going to get that job interview, or what you can become. But, you can't control the growth of your muscles, your height, and your bone structure. You can't control the reaction from the girl you approached. You can't control the decision of the boss who interviews you. These all add up to your motivation. If you can control the things that you can control. Your motivation in life will certainly increase. You must ask yourself, what your motivation is in life. If you don't know what it is, find it. Embrace that part of finding it. As for your height issue, I know girls that love short men, and being short has many advantages than being. Especially in football, I am fairly tall but the shorts players always dribble past me. For that reason sometimes I wish I was short. Well. Good Luck, bro.

"Sometimes I blame my parent for not giving me enough and nutritious food eventhough they can afford but they seems to want me to eat just whatever they had for the meal time which most of the time I dont like and dont enjoy the food. "

You don't want to eat food which is available and complain not growing tall enough.....sigh...youngsters nowadays.

Anyway in gym, I noticed that shorter people tend to bulk up easier, maybe because they don't have to eat as much as taller people.....

Yes, my parent also say the same thing when I complain about the foods during my childhood and teenage. You cannot expect that if you like cheese, everyone will like and eat cheese too. Your taste for food is a natural thing, you cannot force yourself to something that your taste bud dont like. You get what I mean? That is how my parent treat me. They simply cook and buy food that they like without really considering what Im willing to eat... They said Im choosy.. I never live one day without plain rice and fish when I live with my family.. And you dont know how many times I went to emergency room because of eating fish, the fish bone stuck in my throat since my childhood.. In fact, Im not good in separating the fish fillet and the bone.. But I just force myself because Im hungry

Until one day, my mum fall sick and my father is busy at work, she ask me to buy food for me and her.. So I just buy whatever I like.. At the end, my mum said, "why you buy this? I don't eat this. Go buy me another dishes"... And I said " Didnt you teach me not to complain about food if any food is available? You said dont be choosy? Just eat anything?".. Then only my mum realize that she is being selfish not to consider of what food that Im willing to eat.. Since then, my parent will ask me what I want to eat.. But that was when Im 19 years old.. I stop growing and ended my puberty..

For example will you just eat biscuits for your whole life instead of rice, mee, chicken chop, burger and all that since u said as long as food is available? There is a reason God creates your TASTE BUDS. Again, if you like yellow, blue, green or whatsoever, you cannot expect that other people will also like the same colour as yours. Everyone has their own taste.

I still feel grateful bcause I still have food to eat. Better than other people who live in poverty and starving all the time to survive.

Thanks dude! I really like ur comment! Will nurture myself to control the things that I can control

Yes bro. Learn through these challenges, and you'll grow more as a person. Keep moving froward man.
Enjoy life.

Dear Kjk014,

It is allright. Your height is ok. Look, our fingers also got short and long. Not all same height. If you have this feeling of unmotivated or social anxiety, this shows you had develop stress indirectly. Bad news is there is no medicine to cure stress. The only way to cure stress is in a natural way.

Just sharing a bit more about stress.... Stress is a normal psychological and physical reaction to the ever-increasing demands of life. Surveys show that many Americans experience challenges with stress at some point during the year. And same goes to Asia people.

In looking at the causes of stress, remember that your brain comes hard-wired with an alarm system for your protection. When your brain perceives a threat, it signals your body to release a burst of hormones to fuel your capacity for a response. This has been labeled the “fight-or-flight” response.

That’s why stress management is so important. Stress management gives you a range of tools to reset your alarm system.

Without stress management, all too often your body is always on high alert. Over time, high levels of stress lead to serious health problems. Don’t wait until stress has a negative impact on your health, relationships or quality of life. Start practicing a range of stress management techniques today.

Once the threat is gone, your body is meant to return to a normal relaxed state. Unfortunately, the nonstop stress of modern life means that your alarm system rarely shuts off. If you are doing something that you doesn't like or you force to do something you dislike, this is also part of stress that you developed. There is nothing to worry, we still can manage stress easily if you can choose a choice over a choice, it means some twit of your thinking can significantly reduce stress. And I can help you on that, if you interested to learn more feel free to contact me.

Afternoon

Wear clothes that can hid your height.

Short people look younger as they get older.

As long as you stay fit.

Hi there,

I understand exactly how you feel.

I'm also a short guy plus bald head

Just love yourself, keep pleasant personality and stay fit.

If you feel uncomfortable joining gym, go for marathon... that is now what I'm currently enjoy doing.

It's feel so good when you can beat those taller guys haha

One of my boy friend is shorter than me.im 164cm.i think he is shorter than u..
But the things is he has his own personality that will make u comfortable with him
So far no problem with jobs or girls..
So dont worry.ur character plays the role..not ur height

U mau pendek ka or u mau gemok? Becukur ts kalau tak kamu gemok pendek hitam.

kecik kecik chili padi...

be chatty and out of the norm... i know one of my friend which is shorty and baby face.. now he is lovable among the crowds because he controls the way how people look at him ..

yes. being a short guy is not easy.. plus, if not good in sports, easily get bully by others..

thanks for ur advice.. i appreciate that

thank you. i also believe that personality and appearance play the role..

You still have four more years to grow..People actually have the capacity to keep growing in height till the age of 25. So eat right, sleep right (no late super late nights) and exercise right...and maybe you'll gain that extra cm or two!

I'm on the other end of the spectrum. Tall girl in Malaysia at 178cm. I grew two cm while I was at uni - between age 18 and 22. Being tall also has its disadvantages. But hey, just focus on the advantages and everything gets better!

body small + big didi = gain respect
body small + small didi = no future
small body + rich = best