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> how much pocket money should i give daily?, No trolling pls, for my mom.Serious /k

how much money is needed for breakfast and lunch??
 
10.00 [ 21 ] ** [24.71%]
15.00 [ 14 ] ** [16.47%]
20.00 [ 17 ] ** [20.00%]
25.00 [ 5 ] ** [5.88%]
30.00 (give her extra to gamble a bit) [ 28 ] ** [32.94%]
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post Aug 15 2015, 10:52 PM, updated 11y ago

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/k recently told my mom stop work, stay with me (my dad hit her and halau her away). and here is the important point, she is addicted to gambling... my dad hit her because of these(gambling). i am currently trying to rehab her, cutting down all gambling....

Thing is i need to give her pocket money just enough for breakfast and lunch (when i am working and not around). For dinner she will go out together with me.

I gave her 20.00 for breakfast and lunch , then today i found out she ask an auntie to help her buy 4d doh.gif
(She asked someone else buy for her coz i warn her if want to stay with me not to bet even 1 ringgit,otherwise i will disowned her.)

i want to controlled all her finance but at the same times i want her to have good meal and not skipping any. Give 2 little, it isn't enough to eat 2 meal (breakfast and lunch) or have some teeth-bits.

Give too much, she skip meal and ask auntie help her buy 4d , example:- today.

My uncle said it is ok if gamble few ringgit, to be successful we need to take risk and i cant controlled her too much need to leave her some individual space. Which i kinda agree with... but scared she will borrow to bet again if i no control it...

to be honest , when i do my calculation ,i can afford up to 50.00 for her breakfast and lunch. but i already bought her every other necessity + dinner every night + every week got 2 days i will bring her out to walk-walk.(except these week only bring her out 1 day coz she help me clean my house entire day)

So give her too much just for 2 meal ,it doesn't make sense

Btw i might not reply, just want to popcorn and see the poll result so i can judge how much is average meal cost. please help support,

How much do you guys spend only for breakfast and lunch .(just approximation will do) thank you all.

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Aiyaa gambling without money lor
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20 or 25 if feeling generous
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post Aug 15 2015, 10:57 PM

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QUOTE(*************** @ Aug 15 2015, 10:55 PM)
Aiyaa gambling without money lor
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she have history, borrow from people and i help her settle...... doh.gif earn how much also die like these...
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post Aug 15 2015, 10:59 PM

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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 10:52 PM)
/k recently told my mom stop work, stay with me (my dad hit her and halau her away). and here is the important point, she is addicted to gambling... my dad hit her because of these(gambling). i am currently trying to rehab her, cutting down all gambling....

Thing is i need to give her pocket money just enough for breakfast and lunch (when i am working and not around). For dinner she will go out together with me.

I gave her 20.00 for breakfast and lunch , then today i found out she ask an auntie to help her buy 4d  doh.gif
(She asked someone else buy for her coz i warn her if want to stay with me not to bet even 1 ringgit,otherwise i will disowned her.)

i want to controlled all her finance but at the same times i want her to have good meal and not skipping any. Give 2 little, it isn't enough to eat 2 meal (breakfast and lunch) or have some teeth-bits.

Give too much, she skip meal and ask auntie help her buy 4d , example:- today.

My uncle said it is ok if gamble few ringgit, to be successful we need to take risk and i cant controlled her too much need to leave her some individual space. Which i kinda agree with... but scared she will borrow to bet again if i no control it...

to be honest , when i do my calculation ,i can afford up to 50.00 for her breakfast and lunch. but i already bought her every other necessity + dinner every night .

So give her too much just for 2 meal ,it doesn't make sense

Btw i might not reply, just want to popcorn and see the poll result so i can judge how much is average meal cost. please help support,

How much do you guys spend only for breakfast and lunch .(just approximation will do) thank you all.
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like my uncle beli mesin kuda terus.. not a joke.. true.. save money ..
you need to married if not... she need young kid to slow down time.
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post Aug 15 2015, 11:01 PM

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Rm20 is more than enough, unless she don't know how to cook nod.gif
need to do something with that addiction tho
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post Aug 15 2015, 11:02 PM

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post Aug 15 2015, 11:02 PM

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QUOTE(alien3d @ Aug 15 2015, 11:00 PM)
like my uncle beli mesin kuda terus..  not a joke.. true.. save money ..
you need to married if not... she need young kid to slow down time.
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then no win money can ma? if want i can download a lot of casino games on my tv and PC let her play........ but cannot.... already tried.
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post Aug 15 2015, 11:03 PM

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Ask ur mom beli 4d from u. Buy each time only 1 number RM1.
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actually right... i've heard enough stories of gamblers disowned by family members because they just can't be helped.

or mothers gambling their family savings away. anak jual rumah, bapak emptying their retirement accounts to help their mothers to clear their ah long debts.

good luck, ts.
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post Aug 15 2015, 11:06 PM

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QUOTE(WebDpot @ Aug 15 2015, 11:01 PM)
Rm20 is more than enough, unless she don't know how to cook  nod.gif
need to do something with that addiction tho
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i been giving her 20, everyday kosong and today i caught her buy 4d.. i just diam-diam dun wan scold her, coz i did tell her if i catch her gambling i will halau her.... can't tarik balik my word right?
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very hard for them to stop, the 4d one you need to let her play lo, few ringgit only ma, plus max also 3times in a week.

for makan wise give her rm20~30 if im in your position. give her makan better + some buffer for her to gamble small small.
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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 11:02 PM)
then no win money can ma? if want i can download a lot of casino games on my tv and PC let her play........ but cannot.... already tried.
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because addiction .. yes it work for my uncle. but much better go to addiction centre first.. scolding only make worst. last resort old folk centre la.. even you can afford but... she need friend to talk too. you cannot always 100% beside your mom

or you play reverse...

let's go to penang kuda .Life action.. once a month...
buy lot's and lot's 1 ringgit and money give 10.. .. Women like to confuse themselve la. thumbup.gif

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1. Need intervention
2. Rehab center
3. RM 15 enough. No more.
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post Aug 15 2015, 11:11 PM

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QUOTE(alien3d @ Aug 15 2015, 11:08 PM)
because addiction .. yes it work for my uncle. but much better go to addiction centre first.. scolding only make worst. last resort old folk centre la.. even you can afford but... she need friend to talk too.  you cannot always 100% beside your mom
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she did mix with my neighbor, even manage to ask the auntie (who i dun really know well) help her buy 4d doh.gif
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post Aug 15 2015, 11:12 PM

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Don't give also she might borrow from people to gamble.

Your father was right to disown her.

Good luck TS.
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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 11:11 PM)
she did mix with my neighbor, even manage to ask the auntie (who i dun really know well) help her buy 4d doh.gif
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even if u giv her money she may skip meal and use the money to buy 4d


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post Aug 15 2015, 11:15 PM

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20 la because she's your mom. 20 is more than enough.
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she took care of you from small to big ... daily cook for you wash your underwear
take you to school .... make sure you healthy etc etc ...

now you want to stop her from what is making her happy ??
ffs .... MYR 10 for 4d is ok lar ... not as if she goes genting 5k happy go lucky junket program also
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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 11:06 PM)
i been giving her 20, everyday kosong and today i caught her buy 4d.. i just diam-diam dun wan scold her, coz i did tell her if i catch her gambling i will halau her.... can't tarik balik my word right?
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yea, is she alone at home while you go to work? maybe she's lonely, gambling is her only way to socialize? need to spend time more mom and son.
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QUOTE(ryanlaw86 @ Aug 15 2015, 11:16 PM)
she took care of you from small to big ... daily cook for you wash your underwear
take you to school .... make sure you healthy etc etc ...

now you want to stop her from what is making her happy ??
ffs .... MYR 10 for 4d is ok lar ... not as if she goes genting 5k happy go lucky junket program also
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Thing is from age (i dun remember when) she bring me along go gambling den
things i learn

age 8 mahjong , 1 love
age 9 mesin kuda,mesin buah, ramy
age 10 chor dai di (well these one is my father fault) snooker,lucky (also father)
age 11 roulette , mesin kuda version 2 (better graphic) and open 1k or 5k (really random)

by age 14 i know almost all casino games.... lucky i didn't turn pro gambler myself otherwise we all can really tidur bawah jambatan.

i still remember got 1 day, they both (mom+dad) go gambling, keep me alone in the house for more than 24 hours... i cried and cried worry something happen to them.. i was 9 years old that time... i heat up the food mom cook yesterday....

well i can't say i am having a bad childhood.. but it isn't the good one, that's for sure...

thanks to them i really against gambling since young coz because of gambling, i had to endure a lot of hardship.... I learn well from their mistake..

QUOTE(WebDpot @ Aug 15 2015, 11:18 PM)
yea, is she alone at home while you go to work? maybe she's lonely, gambling is her only way to socialize? need to spend time more mom and son.
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every week i got 2 day off, bring her go out shopping, except last week only 1 day... coz she offering to do house chores when i ask her go out + i got give her key, she are free to go outside kopitiam or etc, but why must gamble? unsure.gif

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my friend's mother daily routine.

Toto minimum RM60 bet. Mahjong not sure yet.

Not sure family background is rich or not. Just staying at some double storey terrace.

These kind of housewives they are very thick skin. Borrowing money from neighbours just to bet. Later ended up with Ah Long.
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Hey ts as far as i remember there is one tered of lady /k shared how she finally able to convince her husband to manage his gambling habit..but fotgot which tered ah
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QUOTE(U N K E R @ Aug 15 2015, 11:32 PM)
my friend's mother daily routine.

Toto minimum RM60 bet. Mahjong not sure yet.

Not sure family background is rich or not. Just staying at some double storey terrace.

These kind of housewives they are very thick skin. Borrowing money from neighbours just to bet. Later ended up with Ah Long.
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my mom did... borrow 26k and i was only 25 years old then... earn from scratch is already hard + have 2 stupid parent make it harder.....
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Anak derhaka..lol no wonder la..addicted or not she is the one that raise u, feed u, just help her. Maybe a vacation and activities can help her reduce the addiction.
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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 11:35 PM)
my mom did... borrow 26k and i was only 25 years old then... earn from scratch is already hard + have 2 stupid parent make it harder.....
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Gather your unker and untie mother side to discuss.
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QUOTE(phantom_zero @ Aug 15 2015, 11:38 PM)
Anak derhaka..lol no wonder la..addicted or not she is the one that raise u, feed u, just help her. Maybe a vacation and activities can help her reduce the addiction.
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I am trying to, since past few years.They wont change , age also totaled 110 already

QUOTE(U N K E R @ Aug 15 2015, 11:38 PM)
Gather your unker and untie mother side to discuss.
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i did, my parent borrow money from almost everyone of them, no one in my family will help them.... my uncle advs me if i can't tahan just disowned them... their own siblings also said that... to me.

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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 11:41 PM)
I am trying to, since past few years.They wont change , age also totaled 110 already
i did, my parent borrow money from almost everyone of them, no one in my family will help them.... my uncle advs me if i can't tahan just disowned them... their own siblings also said that... to me.
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I am so sorry to ask this,
Can I ask did debt collector ever find her to resolute the repayment?
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introduce her to korean drama can work or not?
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I cant imagine how to disown a parent. Never thought that in my life.

But somehow people here says it like nothing matters

Internet is ruining me
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Give her rm25 and nothing more for her to gamble because like what you said, she is addicted and you cannot fuel the addiction.

From the rm5 she use to gamble will slowly increase which would result in her poor eating habits, or worse, to borrow money from someone else without your knowledge until it's pay back time.

So best is to maintain this and make sure she understands that no more gambling liao.

Plus I don't know how you could (or just say only then okay lo) disown her. Think about it - if anak gamble, rempit, dadah etc, the mother will gadai all of her belongings just to save the kid. Hence the saying, 1 mother can take care of 8 kids but 8 kids cannot take care of 1 mother.

And of course, you will have a family and a whole new future for you as well as your family. But to disown is bad. Take your time and initiative to make her understand the whole scenario than just curbing her like that.

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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 11:28 PM)
Thing is from age (i dun remember when) she bring me along go gambling den
things i learn

age 8 mahjong , 1 love
age 9 mesin kuda,mesin buah, ramy
age 10 chor dai di (well these one is my father fault) snooker,lucky (also father)
age 11 roulette , mesin kuda version 2 (better graphic) and open 1k or 5k (really random)

by age 14 i know almost all casino games.... lucky i didn't turn pro gambler myself otherwise we all can really tidur bawah jambatan.

i still remember got 1 day, they both (mom+dad) go gambling, keep me alone in the house for more than 24 hours... i cried and cried worry something happen to them.. i was 9 years old that time... i heat up the food mom cook yesterday....

well i can't say i am having a bad childhood.. but it isn't the good one, that's for sure...

thanks to them i really against gambling since young coz because of gambling, i had to endure a lot of hardship.... I learn well from their mistake..
every week i got 2 day off, bring her go out shopping, except last week only 1 day... coz she offering to do house chores when i ask her go out + i got give her key, she are free to go outside kopitiam or etc, but why must gamble? unsure.gif
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eh .... darn, they forgot to sell you when you were a kid
wah, worth alot of money man ...
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post Aug 16 2015, 12:34 AM

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Instead of giving money, just buy the groceries or whatever item she need..
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ask someone cook for her you pay them back la..
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QUOTE(lengzhai @ Aug 16 2015, 12:05 AM)
I am so sorry to ask this,
Can I ask did debt collector ever find her to resolute the repayment?
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Yup, but instead of her , they find me coz she gave my number to them....
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QUOTE(ryanlaw86 @ Aug 16 2015, 12:32 AM)
eh .... darn, they forgot to sell you when you were a kid
wah, worth alot of money man ...
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I understand where you coming from. That's why now i am giving them the last chance and try to rehab my mom as long as she understand in her entire life and so after, she can't get rich anymore... her time is up and now it is my time. Stop thinking of easy money, just live and enjoy her remaining day without creating anymore unnecessary trouble to the family and completely stop gambling.I keep on brain washing her daily. Hope one day she will wake up.

Anyway LCW have one father like that, He earn way more than me. we cant say who's right who's wrong + even their own siblings, my uncle auntie advs me to do so, so it reflected how serious the addiction is and I can't even let them gamble 1 ringgit even if I can afford it.

Deep down inside, I know these is one of the responsible i cant run away and i do not intend to back down.worse come to worse i will just take her freedom by taking her key don't let her go out.

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Your dad so cruel? When your dad need your mum that time, your mum so kind let your dad pleasure and the result got you.. Now your dad bagaikan kacang lupakan kulit...
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How hard can it be to stop gambling? We are not talking about coccain or heroin here.... She just bored n need a new hobby.... Get her to join those taichi group
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Buy or prepare food and other necessities for her.

Never hand her any cash.

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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 16 2015, 04:49 AM)
....  worse come to worse i will just take her freedom by taking her key don't let her go out.
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Please don't do this, it's dangerous. If there's any fire or other incident in the house she will be trapped.


QUOTE(D WADE @ Aug 16 2015, 05:29 AM)
breakfast can get nearby nasi lemak or whatever for rm5 to rm10. For lunch rm20 to rm30 around my housing area. U can report your father for beating your mother. Do not give her any money she want anything buy with u. WHen u not around/working tell her to cook some simple things at home
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I support this.

buy groceries together with her - she can cook breakfast (and you can have breakfast with her b4 you go to work if early enough) and lunch. Occupies her time a bit too.


QUOTE(PVCpipe @ Aug 16 2015, 06:34 AM)
How hard can it be to stop gambling? We are not talking about coccain or heroin here.... She just bored n need a new hobby.... Get her to join those taichi group
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Gambling is a serious addiction - it is not just boredom and can be "cured" by taking up another hobby/activity.

Unfortunately i have no idea how it can be overcomed.

BTW, as you are pretending you don't know your mum tumpang the auntie to buy 4D, u can't scold her. BUT go sound that auntie, tell her husband also that she's harming your mother.

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i feel u ts.gambling addiction very hard to control.i dunno what will i do if got hardcore gambler in mu family.just be strong for ur mummy.
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Unfortunately you can't give money, better you find those caterer or home delivery food service for all three meals
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I think 4d is still ok. Just buy in small amount. Like you said she is addicted. Just let her have her entertainment.
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20 is more than enough la. Anyway pity you have mom with gambling problem. Get her closer to religion n god
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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 11:52 PM)
/k recently told my mom stop work, stay with me (my dad hit her and halau her away). and here is the important point, she is addicted to gambling... my dad hit her because of these(gambling). i am currently trying to rehab her, cutting down all gambling....

Thing is i need to give her pocket money just enough for breakfast and lunch (when i am working and not around). For dinner she will go out together with me.

I gave her 20.00 for breakfast and lunch , then today i found out she ask an auntie to help her buy 4d  doh.gif
(She asked someone else buy for her coz i warn her if want to stay with me not to bet even 1 ringgit,otherwise i will disowned her.)

i want to controlled all her finance but at the same times i want her to have good meal and not skipping any. Give 2 little, it isn't enough to eat 2 meal (breakfast and lunch) or have some teeth-bits.

Give too much, she skip meal and ask auntie help her buy 4d , example:- today.

My uncle said it is ok if gamble few ringgit, to be successful we need to take risk and i cant controlled her too much need to leave her some individual space. Which i kinda agree with... but scared she will borrow to bet again if i no control it...

to be honest , when i do my calculation ,i can afford up to 50.00 for her breakfast and lunch. but i already bought her every other necessity + dinner every night + every week got 2 days i will bring her out to walk-walk.(except these week only bring her out 1 day coz she help me clean my house entire day)

So give her too much just for 2 meal ,it doesn't make sense

Btw i might not reply, just want to popcorn and see the poll result so i can judge how much is average meal cost. please help support,

How much do you guys spend only for breakfast and lunch .(just approximation will do) thank you all.
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Bro,may i know what kind of gamble ur mom like most,how old r she n which state u stay
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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 16 2015, 04:35 AM)
Yup, but instead of her , they find me coz she gave my number to them....
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in 1991, my aunt and uncle won toto usd 1 million and they become very rich got bungalow. afterwards, they stopped gambling. they won it after they feel pity with beggar who sold the toto for 2x price. they actually not into gamble one. sad story their son now 36 yrs old forever alone have already retired no work since he is 25 yrs old. at home just watching c or k drama

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QUOTE(EdBaaBaa @ Aug 16 2015, 07:59 AM)
BTW, as you are pretending you don't know your mum tumpang the auntie to buy 4D, u can't scold her. BUT go sound that auntie, tell her husband also that she's harming your mother.
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I dun think it is right for me to go scold other while my own mom mistake and I myself can't control my own mom (my responsibility not auntie) ....
I made up my mind will confront my mom tonight, see what she said.... Just want to let her know I am aware of what she's doing even though she's trying to hide it. don't try to take her chance and violate the rules I set for her...

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Instead of urging her to stop it, which u know she's still doing it behind ur back....why not try reverse physcology?

Ask her abt her needs & u ownself go buy for her (let say 4d). But u set the limit, start low like 5 bucks per gameday...and if ure afraid it might get higher, set a limit which only u know, let say 15bucks.

Just hope she'll realized that ure trying to make her happy eventhough by doing what ure against... once she understand whats happiness is, whats true love is, no any sh!t is more important...
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No need give money. Find those services that provide home cooked food delivery. Some got monthly packages.
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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 11:41 PM)
I am trying to, since past few years.They wont change , age also totaled 110 already
i did, my parent borrow money from almost everyone of them, no one in my family will help them.... my uncle advs me if i can't tahan just disowned them... their own siblings also said that... to me.
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ur mom's gambling addiction must be really, really, really bad. i feel so sorry for your situation. i hope you can figure out a long-term solution.
I think you need to find her a new hobby or maybe get her a pet fish or some sort, I don't know. just a suggestion.
Honestly, if me, I would have threaten to disown her if she doesn't stop gambling and especially, borrowing money. Some situations need this sort of extreme measures.

QUOTE(kratos123 @ Aug 16 2015, 12:16 AM)
I cant imagine how to disown a parent. Never thought that in my life.

But somehow people here says it like nothing matters

Internet is ruining me
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This is what's happening in the real world. There are just some real shitty parents.
Gambling borrow money and then disappear leaving the family behind and the Ah Longs come and harassed the family.
Newspaper got lots of children disowning their parents due to their parents' gambling addiction or borrow money from ah long.
Honestly, these sort of parents sicken me.

QUOTE(zangief @ Aug 16 2015, 06:39 AM)
Buy or prepare food and other necessities for her.

Never hand her any cash.
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This I agree.
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Download those free gamble apps. So can tipu2 betting instead of real gambling. Might help.
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QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 16 2015, 11:22 AM)
I dun think it is right for me to go scold other while my own mom mistake and I myself can't control my own mom (my responsibility not auntie) ....
I made up my mind will confront my mom tonight, see what she said....  Just want to let her know I am aware of what she's doing even though she's trying to hide it. don't try to take her chance and violate the rules I set for her...
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Not asking u to scold her but to nicely ask her pls dont do that anymore for yr mum cause it is harming yr mum.

The auntie does bear some responsibility - she's an enabler to yr mum's addiction. She probably did not know it but it is fine to warn/ask her not to do it anymore.



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I LOL at I want to rehab my mother. In chinese mentality only got parents want children to list to them. Where got parents want to listen to children or be controlled by their own child geh?

You think of what ryan said here
QUOTE(ryanlaw86 @ Aug 15 2015, 11:16 PM)
she took care of you from small to big ... daily cook for you wash your underwear
take you to school .... make sure you healthy etc etc ...

now you want to stop her from what is making her happy ??
and you will eventually realized that you can't rehab your mother. For say 30 years (my assumption of your age) she controlled you not the other way around. Now you want to turn the table around izzzt? You "fan-kuat-chai". You don't think so? That is because you no chance to hear your mother's inner voice.

She can be happy that you now can support her. Happy with whatever achievement you had in life but it certainly does not mean you can turn around and tell her what to do.

QUOTE(wanted111who @ Aug 15 2015, 11:28 PM)
Thing is from age (i dun remember when) she bring me along go gambling den
things i learn

age 8 mahjong , 1 love
age 9 mesin kuda,mesin buah, ramy
age 10 chor dai di (well these one is my father fault) snooker,lucky (also father)
age 11 roulette , mesin kuda version 2 (better graphic) and open 1k or 5k (really random)

by age 14 i know almost all casino games.... lucky i didn't turn pro gambler myself otherwise we all can really tidur bawah jambatan.

i still remember got 1 day, they both (mom+dad) go gambling, keep me alone in the house for more than 24 hours... i cried and cried worry something happen to them.. i was 9 years old that time... i heat up the food mom cook yesterday....

well i can't say i am having a bad childhood.. but it isn't the good one, that's for sure...

thanks to them i really against gambling since young coz because of gambling, i had to endure a lot of hardship.... I learn well from their mistake..
every week i got 2 day off, bring her go out shopping, except last week only 1 day... coz she offering to do house chores when i ask her go out + i got give her key, she are free to go outside kopitiam or etc, but why must gamble? unsure.gif
Wah so sad story hor. Got people worse than you.

Seriously I think you could turn pro gambler and it is a waste of experience that you did not.

Come divert to let's say science. You want to do a total removal? Nature abhors a vacuum. So you think you can be successful meh? You think by 14 also know all casino games very smart meh? It's no use also mah. You don't know gamblers' mentality. If you try to understand gambler's mentality you can stand a chance to rehab her a bit.

You mouth only say want to rehab your mother but you are not willing to pay the price. You don't pay for it now, sooner or later you will eventually pay for it. If you smoke or know smokers who tried to quit you will know. They stop 1 or 2 day then when beh-tahan they will go wild. So, you seriously want her to not even buy 4D? Gamblers like your mum is very resourceful. One day the lost will be catastrophic. Tell you so much liao, I think you still have not figure out the price you must pay. Read on maybe you know may be also won't have the slightest clue.

I not yet turn 9 years old already know all casino games lor. No need me tell you how and why. You got your sob story. Many people also got similar sob story. I see too much gambling movie that I bought the idea that this problem started from the gambling table and it will be resolved on the gambling table. I turn pro gambler. I know how to learn from the previous generation's mistake. Same for you also but I no need tidor bawah jambatan wor. You on the other hand takut tidor bawah jambatan.

I prove to my mum that I had learned from her mistakes and am a better gambler than her. I can bring bread and butter home by gambling whereas she just give money away. Can I rehab her? The answer is still NO. Don't ask me why. If you do, you have not understood a thing I said. Look back at the first paragraph and you will know. I can only stop my mum from big losses.
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QUOTE(faceless @ Aug 16 2015, 11:50 PM)
I LOL at I want to rehab my mother. In chinese mentality only got parents want children to list to them. Where got parents want to listen  to children or be controlled by their own child geh?

You think of what ryan said here

and you will eventually realized that you can't rehab your mother. For say 30 years (my assumption of your age) she controlled you not the other way around. Now you want to turn the table around izzzt? You "fan-kuat-chai". You don't think so? That is because you no chance to hear your mother's inner voice.

She can be happy that you now can support her. Happy with whatever achievement you had in life but it certainly does not mean you can turn around and tell her what to do.
Wah so sad story hor. Got people worse than you.

Seriously I think you could turn pro gambler and it is a waste of experience that you did not.

Come divert to let's say science. You want to do a total removal? Nature abhors a vacuum. So you think you can be successful meh? You think by 14 also know all casino games very smart meh? It's no use also mah. You don't know gamblers' mentality. If you try to understand gambler's mentality you can stand a chance to rehab her a bit.

You mouth only say want to rehab your mother but you are not willing to pay the price. You don't pay for it now, sooner or later you will eventually pay for it. If you smoke or know smokers who tried to quit you will know. They stop 1 or 2 day then when beh-tahan they will go wild. So, you seriously want her to not even buy 4D? Gamblers like your mum is very resourceful. One day the lost will be catastrophic. Tell you so much liao, I think you still have not figure out the price you must pay. Read on maybe you know may be also won't have the slightest clue.

I not yet turn 9 years old already know all casino games lor. No need me tell you how and why. You got your sob story. Many people also got similar sob story. I see too much gambling movie that I bought the idea that this problem started from the gambling table and it will be resolved on the gambling table. I turn pro gambler. I know how to learn from the previous generation's mistake. Same for you also but I no need tidor bawah jambatan wor. You on the other hand takut tidor bawah jambatan.

I prove to my mum that I had learned from her mistakes and am a better gambler than her. I can bring bread and butter home by gambling whereas she just give money away. Can I rehab her? The answer is still NO. Don't ask me why. If you do, you have not understood a thing I said. Look back at the first paragraph and you will know. I can only stop my mum from big losses.
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Can or cannot control her depends if she can survive without me, I give you simple math,
1st I own my own living place / property and she doesn't
2nd cash on my account is sufficient, not much and she have no savings at all
3rd I can work for another 40 years and she can't, max 5 years
4th I owe no one, and help her cleared her along debt. Yes I am proud of it.
5th she can't survive alone and now that my father had halau her, she really are cornered, all of her siblings, uncle auntie in kampung had ignore her.
6th I am way smarter than her, it is easy for a smart people to control and manipulate people who are less smart, I am not saying I am smartest in the world but just smarter than my mom 1 person is enough.
Lastly you can't control your parent, doesn't mean I can't, your parents doesnt willing to listen to you doesn't mean my parent are the same. The very fact that now, at these moment I'm controlling her is very true.

What talking you? Know the in and out of the games doesn't know their mentality? How do I learned it in the 1st place if didn't know what they think? I learned gambling by watching them, their gambling kaki. They are my parents,are you saying you know my parent mentality more than me? I don't blame you, but if you were to read my post history, you will see I am not someone who like to find a shortcut to fix a problem, but someone who will try to understand the fundamental problems, the cause, the consequences and fix it from there.
Pay for it? Pay her to go gamble more? That isn't the idea I had.rehabilitation have many levels, I think I can handle her and doesn't need to hired any professional counselor or psychologist.
Proved yourself to be a better gambler than your parent? I don't need to do that.afterall you is you, I am I, I dun like use a shortcut solution , I just need to prove to them without gambling, they will be much better person and never in their entire life need to worry about tomorrow meal and betrayed own dignity to borrow money here and there beg here beg there let other people talk bad things. I will return their dignity back to them, teach them how to live a honored life.
Finally 1 things I learned which is very true, age doesn't matter, one wisdom does. Age doesn't matter, mentality does. I can learn something from older people just as same like I can learn from people younger than me. Are you saying you will not listen to a doctor advice who is younger than you?

Anyway professional gambler, your 30 isn't my 30. Things you achieve in 30, someone might achieve in their teen. And please note I am not complaining about my life, I considered myself a quite successful chap and am quite proud of myself. I am doing better than both of my parents now.

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