QUOTE(faceless @ Aug 16 2015, 11:50 PM)
I LOL at I want to rehab my mother. In chinese mentality only got parents want children to list to them. Where got parents want to listen to children or be controlled by their own child geh?
You think of what ryan said here
and you will eventually realized that you can't rehab your mother. For say 30 years (my assumption of your age) she controlled you not the other way around. Now you want to turn the table around izzzt? You "fan-kuat-chai". You don't think so? That is because you no chance to hear your mother's inner voice.
She can be happy that you now can support her. Happy with whatever achievement you had in life but it certainly does not mean you can turn around and tell her what to do.
Wah so sad story hor. Got people worse than you.
Seriously I think you could turn pro gambler and it is a waste of experience that you did not.
Come divert to let's say science. You want to do a total removal? Nature abhors a vacuum. So you think you can be successful meh? You think by 14 also know all casino games very smart meh? It's no use also mah. You don't know gamblers' mentality. If you try to understand gambler's mentality you can stand a chance to rehab her a bit.
You mouth only say want to rehab your mother but you are not willing to pay the price. You don't pay for it now, sooner or later you will eventually pay for it. If you smoke or know smokers who tried to quit you will know. They stop 1 or 2 day then when beh-tahan they will go wild. So, you seriously want her to not even buy 4D? Gamblers like your mum is very resourceful. One day the lost will be catastrophic. Tell you so much liao, I think you still have not figure out the price you must pay. Read on maybe you know may be also won't have the slightest clue.
I not yet turn 9 years old already know all casino games lor. No need me tell you how and why. You got your sob story. Many people also got similar sob story. I see too much gambling movie that I bought the idea that this problem started from the gambling table and it will be resolved on the gambling table. I turn pro gambler. I know how to learn from the previous generation's mistake. Same for you also but I no need tidor bawah jambatan wor. You on the other hand takut tidor bawah jambatan.
I prove to my mum that I had learned from her mistakes and am a better gambler than her. I can bring bread and butter home by gambling whereas she just give money away. Can I rehab her? The answer is still NO. Don't ask me why. If you do, you have not understood a thing I said. Look back at the first paragraph and you will know. I can only stop my mum from big losses.
Can or cannot control her depends if she can survive without me, I give you simple math,
1st I own my own living place / property and she doesn't
2nd cash on my account is sufficient, not much and she have no savings at all
3rd I can work for another 40 years and she can't, max 5 years
4th I owe no one, and help her cleared her along debt. Yes I am proud of it.
5th she can't survive alone and now that my father had halau her, she really are cornered, all of her siblings, uncle auntie in kampung had ignore her.
6th I am way smarter than her, it is easy for a smart people to control and manipulate people who are less smart, I am not saying I am smartest in the world but just smarter than my mom 1 person is enough.
Lastly you can't control your parent, doesn't mean I can't, your parents doesnt willing to listen to you doesn't mean my parent are the same. The very fact that now, at these moment I'm controlling her is very true.
What talking you? Know the in and out of the games doesn't know their mentality? How do I learned it in the 1st place if didn't know what they think? I learned gambling by watching them, their gambling kaki. They are my parents,are you saying you know my parent mentality more than me? I don't blame you, but if you were to read my post history, you will see I am not someone who like to find a shortcut to fix a problem, but someone who will try to understand the fundamental problems, the cause, the consequences and fix it from there.
Pay for it? Pay her to go gamble more? That isn't the idea I had.rehabilitation have many levels, I think I can handle her and doesn't need to hired any professional counselor or psychologist.
Proved yourself to be a better gambler than your parent? I don't need to do that.afterall you is you, I am I, I dun like use a shortcut solution , I just need to prove to them without gambling, they will be much better person and never in their entire life need to worry about tomorrow meal and betrayed own dignity to borrow money here and there beg here beg there let other people talk bad things. I will return their dignity back to them, teach them how to live a honored life.
Finally 1 things I learned which is very true, age doesn't matter, one wisdom does. Age doesn't matter, mentality does. I can learn something from older people just as same like I can learn from people younger than me. Are you saying you will not listen to a doctor advice who is younger than you?
Anyway professional gambler, your 30 isn't my 30. Things you achieve in 30, someone might achieve in their teen. And please note I am not complaining about my life, I considered myself a quite successful chap and am quite proud of myself. I am doing better than both of my parents now.