Having a dilemma here, as my 2 month old baby boy has been crying every night. Not sure what he want. We fed him, and make sure no more wind in his stomach; change his dyper; clean him; change his cloth; play lullaby song; adjust the room temperature (not too hot / cold). We even carry him and soothe him to sleep every night, but he just keeps crying non-stop and we are clueless what he actually wants. Sometimes he even screams, and now he kind of loses his voice abit.

Have any parents experience this before? And how long will he continue to be like this? Many say is normal for the first 3 months, and he will eventually cry lesser when he grow older.

don't stay at the same place, change to other place (dining room) and soothe him there

did you offer him pacifier?

what is the frequency of feed?

change the place for awhile.always work

Yes, but he always spit it out.

Give him 3oz every 2hours. Sometimes he cry for more, so i topup another 2oz until he stop drinking. At first, he will keep quiet feeling sleepy, carry him awhile and when put him down to sleep, he decided to cry. Then carry and soothe him again, but he continues crying after that non stop. He also cant stay at one position, is like when i hold him one position for too long, he show sign wanting to cry. So I need to frequently change position to suit him, and he will never sleep after that.

Ya, moved from the bedroom to living room, and sometimes kitchen too.

Try baby wearing him for skin to skin and even nurse him, sometimes they just needs to be close to feel the warm and the smell of the mother, when you baby-wear him, he will feel like he is in the womb and would feel much safer, once he quiet down, you can wear him and sit with hands-free.

Also for wind, next time try doing 'cycling' with his feet and massaging his tummy before bedtime, you will see that he will burp. Don't put him down to sleep straight away, just wear him for awhile

Also, if he sleeping with you on the bed or in a cot? You might want to try to let him sleep under your armpit area - this has proven to make baby feel more confident and secure when they sleep, to have your warmth and smell nearby.

Don't wait for him to wake up and cry for milk, set your alarm slightly earlier than his feeding him, once you see him to have tongue out or mouth twitching, you can nurse him before he cries, coz once he cries, a lot of wind would have gone into his stomach causing discomfort

Appreciate so much with the suggestions.

Is a stupid idea to make sure baby has an ugly mouth later on

For the first 6 months, you don't expect can make love with your wife.
Best is let baby sleep together with his mother. As for father, sleep other place first.
What baby want now is smell and body heat from mother.

I've just found out some babies are even worst than mine.

http://purplecrying.info/sub-pages/crying/...fant-crying.php

It say is natural as the baby is going through their challenge period. It will eventually gets better at the 5-6 months. Hopefully we can pull it through, just cant wait for the day to come.

Yes, don't too worry, though you will be very tiring at night.
My 2.5 month old baby also very cranky during evening time, it last for 2-3 hours, regardless we do everything like you did.

you r not alone
my baby went through that stage
tried everything lol
heartache c her cry

most important is keep calm and be supportive to your wife. carry baby away a while if she needs a break from the crying.

Recently i noticed my baby has been crying so often until his voice became kinda hoarse. Went to the clinic nearby my house, the doctor give my baby 2ml of saline gas to breath for few minutes. After that the doctor advise to return the next 4 hours, but i insisted and take him to our pediatrician. Our regular pediatrician told is there's nothing wrong with the baby.

Thank god he is healthy. Now me and my wife keep playing with him in the afternoon, and it seems to be working cause he will be so tired during the evening, and sleep off for few hours; however he will be awake again around midnight, and start being active again.

i have same issue but now getting less.
what my wife did was not to let the toddler sleep after 7pm, until 9-10pm, so he is tired and wanted to sleep more.
since he is breastfeeding, my wife just fed him when required and does not have fixed amount.

Have you tried wrapping the baby? In Malay called bedung or Swaddle

You can check out the video in youtube for the Happiest Baby on the Block 5s method.

http://www.colichelp.com/shop/happiestbabyontheblock.html

Doctor Karp teaches new parents to “recreate the conditions of the womb” in order to comfort and quiet babies through using a method he refers to as the “5 S’s“: Tight Swaddling: Karp says, “Tight swaddling provides the continuous touching and support your baby is used to experiencing within the womb.” ( I don’t recommend tight swaddling because I believe babies need and deserve to be free to move their arms and legs, which is one of the ways they discharge energy. Additionally, tight swaddling can cause or aggravate existing hip problems. A better alternative is a sleep sack.) Side/stomach position: “The infant is placed on their left side to assist in digestion, or on their stomach to provide reassuring support. “But never use the stomach position for putting your baby to sleep,” cautions Karp. Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is linked to stomach-down sleep positions. When a baby is in a stomach down position do not leave them even for a moment.” ( I’ve written about the drawbacks of placing babies on their stomachs before they can move into this position independently. It’s not worth the risk to your baby’s health, development, or safety to place her into a side or stomach position in the hopes that it will stop her crying.) Shushing sounds: “These imitate the continual whooshing sound made by the blood flowing through arteries near the womb.” ( I don’t believe loudly shushing a baby sends the message that I’m present, available, and listening.) Swinging: Newborns are used to the swinging motions within their mother’s womb, so entering the gravity driven world of the outside is like a sailor adapting to land after nine months at sea. “It’s disorienting and unnatural,” says Karp. Rocking, car rides, and other swinging movements all can help. ( Babies quickly get used to and become dependent on rocking, car rides, bouncing, or swinging to lull them and to put them to sleep, and then come to need these things. I believe it best to comfort babies with a minimum amount of movement. Rocking, swaying, or walking with a crying baby is often comforting for the adult, but I’d avoid taking the baby for car rides in the hopes of quieting them. Magda Gerber suggested, “All the many forms of what we call comforting, bouncing a child on one’s knee or rocking her in a rocking chair, often express our own nervous energy and frustration when confronted with a crying baby.”) Sucking: “Sucking has its effects deep within the nervous system,” notes Karp, “and triggers the calming reflex and releases natural chemicals within the brain.” (It’s true that babies derive comfort from sucking, but they find their hands or thumbs quickly when given an opportunity.) - See more at: http://www.regardingbaby.org/2012/05/05/is...h.FWijIHbz.dpuf

This is just some ideas. I have also tried white noise which you can download the app free from apple or google store this one on and off success for me.

Its not 100% success but worth reading or trying.

milk, nightmare, and milk...

He still fuzzy at night. He will cry everynight before sleep but sometimes it takes a while, sometimes it takes longer. It depends. I guess i will never understand what is the reason he is crying.

I went to buy a sarong, and after putting him in it, he seem to sleep faster than before.

welcome to parenthood

seems like you've tried most of the solutions, try swaddling. I swaddle my son until he was like 7 months old... keeps him safe i think but do lower the temperature a bit, the baby will get warm since he/she is wrapped up

try rubbing some luyi oil on this tummy before bedtime, it helps reduce gas...

and we resisted giving our baby gripe water or colic drops... hard times during the night but you'll get used to it after awhile

there was once we downloaded those white noise (car engine, washing machine, womb sound, etc) and loaded it into the ipad, it will help calm the crying baby but its very irritating...

This post has been edited by kenji1903: Aug 18 2015, 03:46 PM

I've been having tough time with him going to sleep at night. Not sure because he is scare during night time. Sometimes i have to open all the lights and he will stop crying for a while, after that start back.

Lately during night time, he became very fuzzy again. I normally feed him formula milk during night, and after he finished, he decided to poop all out. Then he will cry again, so I make milk and give him, he drink and decided to poop all out later again.

Sometimes manage to sleep 3-4 hours per day. Just feel 1 kid already so hard to take care, imagine those with 4-5 kids, really salute them.

is it the bottle? Do you feed bm with the same bottle? if not maybe the teat of the FM bottle is not suitable causing wind/colic and he gets tummy upset after feeding..maybe la I don't know..did you burp him after feeding?

Maybe after feeding dont put him down straight away, carry him upright or slanted and keep tummy area warm.

Also my grandma used to tell me that kids are more sensitive to supernatural beings, it's the hungry ghost festival now, maybe don't take him out once sun starts to set (grandma said i just follow)

About the supernatural thing, errr is abit creepy after u said it because sometimes i noticed my LO stare at one place for quite long like duno what he looking. But he is just 2mths, so his vision wouldnt able to see those things gua. Plus so far me and my wife didnt feel any odd.

Erm..2mths old cannot see la...blur vision...maybe just wind in stomach

Nomally for wind, i just pat his back until he burp, but sometimes i see he has difficulty burping. Is there any ways that i can do to release the wind in his stomach?

Not pat directly at the back but towards the sides with yourvhands slightly cupped. You can aldo do cycling with his legs. This will make him fart or burp.

Another thing is to massage the body n tummy after bathing

Baby cry for few reason. Hungry, sick, not comfortable, and feeling unsecure.

I know the reason why he is so cranky at night, i think i hasn't been swaddling him properly all these while. I saw a video on facebook that they teach how to swaddle the baby. I did the exact same thing, and guess what?? My baby cry lesser now..

I cant seem to find the video, but here is some sort similar:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GVIittLbrB4

For those parents facing the same thing, just try swaddle your baby after doing almost everything like feed, check got poop, put yuyi oil at the stomach, or cupped the wind like @craftsnknots said.

After doing everything, if your baby still cry, just swaddle him.. He might not be comfortable for the first time, but just swaddle and let him cry for few minutes.. He will eventually stopped and sleep through the night.. Feel so happy now my baby cry less already..

already try swaddle? My baby sleep easier if in swaddle. But he changed a lot after 44 days, glad he's not crying too often now.

Baby still crying after 9 month.

Have to keep feeding.

At the moment no solution, hoping grow up will be better.

Mine is 7 months old, he starts crying during sleep around 3 mths old until now...

Swaddle is only for babies before 3 months i guess... after 4 months they starts to turn... now 360 degree...

Me and my wife hardly slept at the early stage. But now already used to it... and seems to be improving...

Do not feed the baby too often at night, we should train them to stop milking instead.


For my case, my baby sleep around 9-10pm, 1st 2 hours cries more regularly because it's the shallow sleep stage. Try to be at his side and tap him sleep before he cries seriously which might wake him up. Around 1am he will take his midnight milk, after that he will be in deep sleep stage. 3-4am if he cries I will give him some warm water, then around 7am wake up for breakfast automatically.... If he cries between the routine, I'll give him a pacifier and he will fall back to sleep.

Don't tell me pacifier is bad for babies...... I only know if without the pacifier, it's bad for my life....

Lucky u. My baby will spit the pacifier. Only accept original. Lol

My baby now 2months old. We trained him to self sleep. Surprisingly he slept for 6hours yesterday. In between he just wake up for milk, and adter that he just sleep off within few minutes.

1st i make sure he is clean by giving him warm bath before bedtime. After bath him, give him 2oz breastmilk. If formula, than he will last longer (not so fast hungry). Sometimes he cry because tired and want to sleep, but cant sleep. So wrap him up and let him cry. I make sure the surrounding is silence, he will eventually fall asleep after 2-3minutes.

If the baby's stomach is feeling uncomfortable, try to slowly tap to hear whether got wind anot. There's only 3 things babies are crying normally. Hungry, diaper change and stomach uncomfortable.

Just need to understand your baby and try to see his behavior. My wife and i felt so relief after so many trial n error previously.

my baby is bottle feed since born, although he's taking breastmilk. lol.... so he don't know apatu original....

pacifier he got 5, all different brand... so he don't have choosy issue... i'm so dxxx happy...

What brand bro? Share here.. My baby reject philips avent. Hohoho

unluckily, there not much choices.... bottle i use tommie tippee, pacifier tommie tippie 0-6*1, philips avent 0-6*2, 6-12*2. next week mid valley baby fair, i'll go hunt for some replacement for the 0-6... since he is already 7 mths... lol

Let him cry? How long is that? My boy very hard to sleep if put on baby cot or bed. Will sleep after breastfeed but then when carry to put down on bed, eyes big already. Haihh

Will try tommie tippie pacifier then. The bottle is good though.

This post has been edited by giggs_509: Sep 5 2015, 01:55 PM

I let him cry for 5-10minutes. Depends. Sometime he cry awhile then straight fall asleep. Sometimes he cry longer but i make sure swaddle him tightly so he feel secured.

Dont be afraid to let your baby cry. Baby crying is normal and is natural cause that's what they can do for now. I read most foreign families, they put their baby in a different room and leave their baby to self sleep there after feeding and dyper change.

I use Dr.Brown pacifier. Sometimes it depends on the baby. I bought like 5 pacifiers all different brands include tommy tippi. End up he like the Dr.Brown.

If daytime sleep also do the same is it?

Ya daytime same. Sometimes just play with him like move his hands and legs/exercise/talk to him, before putting him to sleep. Just try because different baby have different living style. Hope it helps

sometimes is the diapers problem too

my girl who is now 6 months used to cry often...

then i observe n c is cuz of diapers.

if i use drypers brand, she will cry when she pee...is like she don't feel comfortable with the wetness around her butt..

but after i change to merries, (si beh exp 1) she no more crying for ntg d...only will cry when she needs to carry and hungry only..

my mom used to tell me to keep the baby up till atleast 11pm...then he will sleep thru the night....

Yeah same goes here.. I noticed my baby cries when his diaper is full.. and when i opened his diaper, he start to pee right away.. Is like the diaper too full and can't filter anymore of his pee, so he cries..

I'm using huggies ultra for now.. maybe sooner later need to use huggies overnight..

i have a 2 month old daughter and her crying at night is inconsistent. so yeah i would assume it is either hungry, need a diaper changer or uncomfortable - wind, bored, too tired etc.

but more interested in the self sleep. now, wife and i would need to carry and rock our baby to sleep. when we put her in her cot, its a 50-50 chance of waking up. before we wanted to let her be and cry to sleep. but our doc suggests not to practice this as baby can suffocate if they cry too long.

so, hmm. my question is how best do we train our baby to self sleep?

My 3 months old daughter is starting to fight sleep at night (from 12am - 7am)....we feed her, cuddle her, rub yu yee oil on her stomach, sing lullaby, give her pacifier, whatever other advice as well but nothing seems to keep her asleep for more than 10 minutes each time. Sometimes she will just cry suddenly waking up and sometimes the pacifier will work and other time it does not.

For the past few weeks, she will only go into deep sleep by around 4-5am but recently that has changed to 7am which means it is now getting harder for her to fall asleep at night. We can leave her on the bed to play by herself for a while but it will turn into a cry for help (i think she wants to sleep but struggle) Both mommy and myself are really exhausted both mentally and physically as this has been going on for weeks now. Any advice from experts out there or where can we find professional consultation here in Malaysia?


Thanks everyone
*Desperate to find a solution*

its normal. u do everything, anything also cannot make the baby stop crying.

u just have to accept that this is a phase that you, your partner, and the baby is going thru.
but do remember, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
it will get better.
good luck and hang in there.

also, have u heard about "The Wonder Weeks" ?

They made a study on thousands of babies, and strange enough, all of the babies goes thru the same "fussy, crying phase" at the SAME age/week.
they calculate the week by the baby's due date, not birth date.
they also teach u how to deal with each phase.

go and research about it. its the only paid app i have in my phone.
its amazingly correct with my baby.

u can also find info online about it.

I think she at the age where this is normal. If she have problem sleeping you can consider make her more tired during the day then at night will be easier to fall asleep. As the baby gets bigger sometime must adjust sleeping pattern. Hope you can find solution for this

sometimes baby cant sleep at night & become boring nobody layan them...so they cry for attention...

The app name is called 'The Wonder Weeks vs 9' am I right?

Dont simply say stupid la..

Wait till u have ur own baby that will keep u up all nite.. All week.. All month long..

U'll desperately try to grasp anything that can make them stop crying or screaming.

sorry didnt really go online lately.

im not sure, but the app name in my phone and app store is just " The Wonder Weeks "

its for iphone.
if for android maybe similar name.

totally agree with this.
people who never have babies before don't understand the "joys" of having a baby, especially at night....

thanks thanks! will download this to try later!