There is an annoying guy who is resigning from my department and a new girl who recently just joined our workforce.

During the first few days when the girl joined, I was sitting on the cubicle next to her's. So obviously, being the senior, I have be friendly, talk to her. If she got question, she also ask me first. Natural cause we sit close by and this is strictly professional.

Until this a$$h0l3 colleague of mine came up and say loudly "WOW! Kao lui ah?! People first week la... Let go of her la." I was very irritated with this sentence, so was she. By accident, I made a mistake. I said to this a$$h0l3 colleague of mine that she is a relative but actually she is not.

She heard bout it too. At first, she was ok. She probably didnt understand that I was just trying to shut that a$$h0l3 up and make him go away instead of annoying me the entire day. The new girl on the other hand probably thinks that two of her senior is making fun of her.

<editted> She started to feel awkward because the a$$h0l3 confronted her about being my relative today and also probably backstabbed me, he's a good-for-nothing-backstabber whom everyone hates thats why he is quitting. Always saying we all dont treat him like family and crap. <editted>

So, I apologised to the girl and she kept avoiding me, saying she is busy - cannot talk cause her sort of senior (another girl) is helping her now instead of me. I told her the reason why I simply claimed her to be my relative is an excuse to make that a$$h0l3 buzz off but she dont seem to get it.

Now, I feel horrible. I have been here for so long and this a$$h0l3 is quitting. We dont like each other very much and he is trying to make my future days difficult. What can I do to rectify this problem?

When I type on the MSN, telling the girl I got explaination to make to her, she just avoid it saying I am sorry I cannot talk now. I am very busy today. Sorry. She is so nice and apologetic but yet she is not getting the whole picture. Now I'm misunderstood as a bad guy and in reality, I dont like that. I prefer to maintain my perfect working environment instead of having it screwed up by that a$$h0l3.

What can I do? Please help.

This post has been edited by Casanova: Nov 6 2006, 07:26 PM

if u are using the same MSN nick (or real life nick) as ur lowyat.net user id here, i suggest you change it to get better impressions lo. serious.

apart from this, i think u've done enuff to set things straight liao,regardless of how she feels. personal peace of mind there... priceless

This post has been edited by alanyuppie: Nov 6 2006, 07:22 PM

Nope, my MSN nick at work is just my name. It is an intranet, internal instant messaging - cannot change nick wan.

And by they way, i think it will be better if you stop explaining. Just let her know your true self from other colleagues. No point for you to keep explaining. Just let it be. She will understand one day.

if true got othe girl senior helping her..
ask the senior to help u to explain to her..
eheh.. casanova.. the nick sometime determn the use

I am not a Casanova but I just happened to register this nick with Lowyat.net only. I uses something else on other boards like Lelong, and even MSN. This is just for fun ler. Dont judge me by the nick - thanks.

yeah.. this quite true.
dont add minyak tanah to fire.. even though both of u not quearelling.. hehe
just be cool.. like nutyn ever happened b4..

later on, she'll cool..



huhuh i'm not saying bout u as the casanove.. huhu dont get me wrong k...

i dont see how u claim yrself to be the gal's relative would actually help in the situation, TS looks like a problem seeker.

anyway, good lesson learn

this situation is pretty tricky..
very hard to "win" lo..

that a**h*** really screwed u up. really felt sorry for u there

since u yourself know u meant no harm n feel the need to explain till she understands.. the more she feels you otherwise.

doing more things to convince her will sure aggravates things loo..
just close de case. i'm sure truth will prevails one day.

I think you have done enough. Maybe it's time to sit back and relax. It's not like you told your a%%hol3 friend that she's your GF.
If you still wanna do something, send her an apologetic card explaining things .. and act like nothing happen afterwards.

the girl might think you are a bit psychotic claiming to be her relative for no reason.

if my colleague say i am trying to kau lui, i will just reply "yes, so what?" afterall it's just a joke. no need to take it seriously.

Yea, unfortunately for me, I cant go on saying "Yes, kow lui, so what?" because my gf is close with my colleagues and when she comes visiting, everyone loves her. So, I dont want to create a misunderstanding.

Not to say I overconfident or what, I dont want a mere young fresh graduate girl like this new colleague of mine to even have any misunderstanding. A workplace is strictly a workplace. Period.

I think I will take your advises. I have done enough, sit back and f*** care. The girl wants to be blunt, blur or stupid - her call, yes? The reason I claim her to be a relative is to show we are blood related and that I am NOT kowing her.

This post has been edited by Casanova: Nov 6 2006, 09:21 PM

I know why she avoid you la... She fall in love with you already, that's why. Bodoh, you went and say relative, jatuh standard la.

Haisheh, the girl see you so 'lam sei', then sekali you say 'relative'... Chance drop to 0%, so from now onwards, she dont need you anymore. Hahahaa

Interesting. At first, I was thinking to say:
"you like her is it? if not, then stop explaining la...(too simple to be complicated). If you like her, also stop explaining....start buying her rose everyday, will do"..


But since yr already got a lovely girlfriend, then i'll suggest u to "shut up". Like what alanyuppie said, "truth will prevails one day."

People will judge you from you "daily behaviour".

Well, for one thing, you're running the risk of trying to push the matter too hard right now.

Is it really needed to explain further more if explaination already given.

let time decide everything. Dont push it..

Im sure the ship will reach harbor properly( translated frm cantonese)

are u rich? u can hire me 2 take care of that ******* for u...

after that u wont have anymore worries

never never talk in MSN. MSN is not a place to talk. just explain why u say she is your relative. then tell her that this guys is always like that. You can ask everyone here in the office. because you only started working here 1 week. So many thing here you still dono. etc etc etc.

So are you the famous buaya king at the office? if not people wont be shouting like this. Or he is really an A$$-O

This post has been edited by 6650: Nov 6 2006, 11:42 PM

Ignore both. Get on with office life.

I dont think she likes me la. It's just a misunderstanding.

Neither do I like her but then I just dont want to mess up at work.

Thanks, I will let it be for now.

I will take your advise. I know what you mean. Boat reach port will automatically align itself straight for docking.

No I am not rich. I am actually looking for a real solution here.

Yea, I probably wont talk to her anymore... And no I am NOT a buaya king.

Thanks, I will just do that.