QUOTE(kron_ka @ Jan 19 2016, 09:01 AM)
Most churches. They are smart, they know they want to pressure new couples to join the church so they can pressure them to make an oath to give tithes solely to the church.
Most christian couples would feel out of place, if they don't have a church marriage. Not me, I don't give a damn. I don't even have many friends at church anyway.
DUMC are close friends with SIB, so they follow the SIB marriage policies.
Personally, giving tithe should not be a burden to anyone. I do not give "fixed" amount to my church. I give what I can, there is no need for extra pressure just because "The Church" forces anyone to give for that matter.
I do not have to justify my reason(s) to the church for my tithes. I don't follow the 10% rule.
Well, church wedding is important to me. Nothing beats a church wedding. On another hand, a beach wedding is kinda romantic too...
Beside my income is not "fixed" every month. hehe...
SIB? Securities and Investment Board, yeah, I know somebody who works there.
QUOTE(kron_ka @ Jan 19 2016, 09:04 AM)
I believed most churches have swayed. They all want to have big building policy without even considering raising better and equipping christians. Going to church is like going to a big shopping mall filled with strangers.
Yeah at first i thought the cg church policy is so good solution to the big hall problem. But not until DUMC deliberately multiply the cgs to death. Now each cg is the size of 6 to 8, minus the family kids. I want to be in a community, feel belong to a church...why make a cg so small and not diverse?
This I can relate too. I remember my first time at DUMC. Sheesh, the whole place is crowded like a pasar malam...
Until I went to UW church that is...Wow that place is huge man!!
What is your ideal CG size? Mine before was almost 30! That's without kids.
I think I prefer small CG. Less politics, less stress, and less gossips. Everytime I went to CG, I noticed people always talking about politics (mind you, these aunties and uncles always talked about church gossips).
Before they start worships, they would chit-chat about other churches as well.
1. Then the hymn worship start. Serious mode.
2. Then the older CG dude starts preaching....
3. CG then stops for makan time.

My favourite time.
4. CG ends. I go home and surf lowyat.
Ah well, I hope you find a good church.