u can enable the "save to" by checking the "always ask me where to save my files" in options->main.

about ur dl window not showing up, could it be that the download is already complete and it's already on ur desktop?

for the uninformed, the "memory leak" is in fact a feature, not a bug. if u do not want it to consume so much memory, u can disable this feature.

http://weblogs.mozillazine.org/ben/archives/009749.html

i'm just wondering, how do u know that it's still downloading if u can't see the download window (ctrl+j)? could it be that the file on ur desktop doesn't look complete, ie it doesn't have a complete .exe or .zip extension?

mm, i admit defeat. u should probably post ur problem in mozilla's forum