Feb 13 2007, 10:32 AM
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The Ladder Theory.
Guys generally have ONE ladder. Every girl they meet in their lifetimes are automatically subconciously graded on this ladder.. The higher the girl is on the ladder, the more attractive the guy finds her. The girl at the very top will usually be the one that the guy is most crazy over at any point in time. Several factors affect this grading - primarily how attractive she is, but other factors also include personality, uniqueness, and availability (Jessica Alba is damn hot, but shes not #1 on the ladder for me becoz she is just waayyy unavailable, while "the girl next door" who is not as hot, but who's flirting with me, might just take the top spot for that particular moment in time).
Do note that positions on this ladder constantly changes - even a guy's wife/gf who occupies the top spot can often be moved down 1,2 or even 3 spaces as the guy comes into contact with more attractive ladies - hence the tendency for guys to commit adultery (when they lose control) or just the plain fact that guys CAN like more than 1 girl at any given time.
Now for the girls. Girls have TWO ladders. Every guy they meet will end up on either one of these ladders. The first one is for guys that girls have an 'interest' in - or in other words, prospective lifepartners. The way this ladder works is nearly identical to guys ladders. The big difference comes in the form of the SECOND ladder. This second ladder is for guys whom that they just treat as friends.
What is important to realize is WHICH ladder you're currently located on. It's very possible and easy for a guy to change ladders from the 1st ladder to the 2nd ladder. However, and i can't state this strongly enough, it's extremely risky for a guy to jump from the 2nd ladder to the 1st because very often he'll just miss and fall into the abyss never on either one of the ladders anymore...
If you're ever stuck in such a situation... the line between friendship and relationship is a very very fine line to tread on. And among ALL of the advice given here.. Altie's is the one that makes most sense. You can't afford to rush this. But if you want to make a move, you've got to start somewhere..
Guys generally have ONE ladder. Every girl they meet in their lifetimes are automatically subconciously graded on this ladder.. The higher the girl is on the ladder, the more attractive the guy finds her. The girl at the very top will usually be the one that the guy is most crazy over at any point in time. Several factors affect this grading - primarily how attractive she is, but other factors also include personality, uniqueness, and availability (Jessica Alba is damn hot, but shes not #1 on the ladder for me becoz she is just waayyy unavailable, while "the girl next door" who is not as hot, but who's flirting with me, might just take the top spot for that particular moment in time).
Do note that positions on this ladder constantly changes - even a guy's wife/gf who occupies the top spot can often be moved down 1,2 or even 3 spaces as the guy comes into contact with more attractive ladies - hence the tendency for guys to commit adultery (when they lose control) or just the plain fact that guys CAN like more than 1 girl at any given time.
Now for the girls. Girls have TWO ladders. Every guy they meet will end up on either one of these ladders. The first one is for guys that girls have an 'interest' in - or in other words, prospective lifepartners. The way this ladder works is nearly identical to guys ladders. The big difference comes in the form of the SECOND ladder. This second ladder is for guys whom that they just treat as friends.
What is important to realize is WHICH ladder you're currently located on. It's very possible and easy for a guy to change ladders from the 1st ladder to the 2nd ladder. However, and i can't state this strongly enough, it's extremely risky for a guy to jump from the 2nd ladder to the 1st because very often he'll just miss and fall into the abyss never on either one of the ladders anymore...
If you're ever stuck in such a situation... the line between friendship and relationship is a very very fine line to tread on. And among ALL of the advice given here.. Altie's is the one that makes most sense. You can't afford to rush this. But if you want to make a move, you've got to start somewhere..
DO NOT get into the FRIENDZONE.... is not SAFE there.... turnaround and WALKAWAY .....
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