I'm Jason me and my girlfriend has been in a relationship for almost 3 years. However, due to the geographical distance between us, it makes us feel a little timid to continue. Here, I’m going to tell you our story right from the beginning. At the end of this story I hope you will give your support to me and to those who are having a long distance relationship.

Our story begins at about slightly more than 2 years ago. On this lucky day, I was set out to Tioman Island, Malaysia, early in the morning from Singapore to attend an underwater clean-up event. During that journey, I’ve met the girl who moves my heart and her name is Yingying. Just like me, she too was travelling alone to Tioman Island from Singapore. We travelled on the same bus, waited in the same ferry terminal hall and boarded on the same ferry to get to our destination. Throughout the journey, I dared not to step up and take my initiative to have a conversation with her, because I was too shy to talk to someone like her as she's being a crush to me. At that moment, I chose to stay silent and admire her from afar. When the ferry stopped at the first pier of Tioman (Tioman Island has several piers and villages), she dashed out of the cabin and disappeared from my sight. My heart was filled with disappointment and regret because I thought I wasn’t able to see her again. However, just a split second after, there’s a voice caming from outside the cabin, I knew that’s her voice trying to explain to the local ferry operator who had limited English proficiency that she had alighted wrongly. Without any hesitation, I quickly moved towards them and get her back in again. Then we started to talk to each other and after a short conversation and some local guidance from me, I find that this was her first visit to Malaysia. Since she was travelling alone in Malaysia and is not able to converse in Malay, I then pass her my mobile number and ask her to contact me in case of emergency.

Thanks to the existing technology and internet, we are able to keep in touch till today. Since then, we started to get to know each other well and only found out that our ancestral originated from a small village called Wuyang in Fujian China. In fact, she grew up in that village where my great grandfather was born and brought up before migrating to Malayan. However, she’s currently working in Beijing, and came to Singapore just for short term project at that time. She was having her holiday trip to Malaysia just before she left Singapore and this is how we met. On the other hand, I’m a home-grown Malaysian who grown up in Kuala Lumpur the capital of Malaysia and I’m currently having a permanent job in Singapore. After slightly more than 2 months, I find that we both have feelings for each other and I decided to confess my feelings towards her. At the beginning she wasn’t really sure to be in a relationship and part of the reason is because of our distance. Despite that, she gradually accepted me and our relationship has become more intimate day by day. Often, we exchange letters, postcards and sometimes gifts whenever we have a reason to celebrate. After about a year of our last meet up in Tioman, I travelled to Beijing to see her. She brought me around the Beijing city and we also visited the Forbidden City, the Great Wall and many more interesting places. Nonetheless, good time always slip by so quickly, till we didn’t even realised it. We did not know what future lies in front of us and we certainly will be missing each other when we were both apart. Fortunate enough after 3 months, she flew to Singapore to attend her ex-superior’s wedding and this allowed us to meet again for the third time. I took her around places in Singapore that she hasn’t visited before. Throughout these 2 years, we had spent our holidays together in several places. She came to my home in Kuala Lumpur, we both travelled to Malacca, Kota Kinabalu, and even hiked up to Mount Kinabalu. In the last holiday, we'd spent some time together in Inner Mongolia during China’s long autumn break. As the winter is approaching, it was very cold when we travelled there. From all the trips that we've spend together, they were indeed great experiences for both of us and we always cherish these valuable time whenever we travelled together.

However, when our relationship comes into the third year (which is this coming September), things have changed a little, we no longer talk to each other as frequent as before, and our conversation has become less and less intimate. At first I thought she was too busy, but after I've tried several times to get her talking in regards of this matter, she finally opened up her feeling to me. She confessed that she was too afraid to continue to commit into this relationship because one of us might not be able to suit ourselves to a foreign country if one of us decided to move in together in the future. Besides, she was also worried that we might quarrel upon our daily chores as both of us were ingrained and bonded to our own culture and lifestyles since we haven’t really spend much time together. Eventually, after some persuasion and guidance from me she gradually put down all these fear and let us return to the our normal states. Since then, I started to ponder about this and now I’ve decided to settle down with her and want to propose to her in our next meeting which will be happening very soon. I wish my proposal will be a memorable experience to her and I need help from all of you good fellow netizens around. It is very simple, all you need to do is to write your message on a piece of paper and take a photo of it together with you and send them to me. Example are as below:





I’ll then make a movie slide from all of the photos I’ve received to give her a surprise and some encouragement on our relationship, and of course I’ll then ask her to marry me.

This is the end of my story. I hope all the long distance lovers around the world can give their best to each other (you all rocks!!). I wish you all like my story and hope you could help me by sending your photos with your messages on it to this email: zslim86@yahoo.com
Let’s pray that I have a successful and memorable proposal. Thank you for your support.

Limited writing skills, hope you all still enjoy reading this.

Below link is the Chinese version of my story, and there's photos too. I really hope you all can help me.
http://cforum1.cari.com.my/forum.php?mod=v...&extra=page%3D1

This post has been edited by zslim86: Apr 12 2015, 05:48 PM

Thank you lace, hope I could get some support from you and all the good people around.
I promise that these photos will only be use barely to show to my girl in my proposal.
I wish the words that you all write in the photos can give her a lift and determine to marry me.
I haven't received any respond since I posted this.

This post has been edited by zslim86: Apr 12 2015, 05:25 PM

Thanks! Please help if you are able. She probably need more motivation from you people. Drop me some photo please.

zslim86@yahoo.com

Hi Flank,

Thanks for your comment, actually we've already discussed about few of these issues earlier.

As for now my PR application is still pending, she said we'll need wait a bit to see whether it is going through or not.
Besides, I'm actually quite mentally prepared and feel positive if she wanted me to move out from Singapore. I've even discuss about this with my parents.

At the moment, I don't have any HDB nor condo in Singapore but I'd bought a house in KL for long term investment and it's not completed yet (probably completed in another 2 years).

What my plan now is to get engage first, and we'll work towards our wedding probably next year if things going smooth.

Moving to another country is not easy, unless you have a marriage cert to make the process much easier. As for baby, I already got my back up plan.

What we need now is to have the right attitude and motive towards this matter, I believe everything will get into place once we've make our decision to be together.

Cheers

Thanks in advance! LDR for 13 years is really a tough one, wish you luck too.