Are singles allowed here?

Time does fly...without realize how fast it flies, it has been 3 years since my last LDR...

Hmmm...

U were too deep into own false hope.

This is about getting bailed on the first meet up only.
I can’t imagine if you have actually dated her for a month.

Ur expectation on her blew out of proportion.

How the f u guys got together without even meeting once?
U guys whatsapp bf-gf or what?

No wonder the silence. Sorry to hear that too.

I hv been single since my last LDR. And I think my last relationship lasted that many years was because LDR. 60mins early in the morning, pure quality.

These days, it's more like...I don't mind headache & heartache on stuff that pays. But same headache and heartache on stuff that doesn't. Not really...

Maybe I haven't found the right one, the dating scene back here is more like compounding my already miserable life.
During college days, my time are free. Now, my time is costly. And die die want me to waste it on some princess tantrums.

You misunderstood my statement. What I meant was I had pretty good LDR until the "eventually will need to be together" became an issue.
And progress didn't come in time. Even I was her I wouldn't be convinced.

Back then, an hour of quality time would be able to get me off the bed and go on another day.

I do agree that no matter how busy I am will need sometime off to gather myself. Like Friday.
That's probably a good time to put on building intimacy and connections. Like quality time where my head is actually relaxed and empty.
And I don't find it quality time if my mind is still on "what's the problem", "what's the next step" or "what should I do now".


I agree and disagree. Agree that everyone's time is costly and valuable. But, not everybody value their time the same.

You know some hours of your day worth more than the other right? But not everyone can understand that.

You are not really expecting to put a negotiation on halt just to pick up a call and say "Bae, good morning. How was ur sleep? My American breakfast was great!".

I wish to be able to do that one day; that I'm a position to put others waiting to address my bae and can't afford to walk away. But now, I'm not there yet.
If I do that now, that day will never come. Prioritize wrongly and poor judgement.

Appreciate it.

or....

There correct way forward is to negotiate and collaborate. Find integration point. Find out topics u enjoy talking. Activities you enjoy doing.

Dunno why people like to threatened and pressure. If you engage me with attitude of making me your b*tch; the only way this ends is, i'm kick u up and down on the field like a football.

Feels like relationship of China with Taiwan and HK. China becoming psychotic controlling BF while Taiwan and HK becoming all walled up GFs trying to runaway.

Seems like here got alot insecure China-pek.

Don't bother to explain to "siham" deprived individual.
Because they can't understand different/actual definition of relationship.
To them "siham" = relationship, LDR = no "siham" = no relationship

When u try to explain what's a relationship and why things don't work out.
They gonna say "don't lie, for real". Perhaps, ur best answer is to tell him that at some point, u might join him to go wet market to get ur dose your "siham" which is probably never.

If the other acquaintance is you; I pass.
Nothing against "siham", everything against stupidity.

This post has been edited by RUI: May 23 2021, 07:26 PM