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post Jan 24 2019, 02:19 AM

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QUOTE(cse.my @ Jan 16 2019, 04:19 PM)
Headache here.. plan to buy engagement ring but how am gonna to know the size. Plan to give her during next meet up. Scare buy too small later double cost if reworks. Anyone experienced before ?
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You could go together to shop for it smile.gif
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post Jan 30 2019, 03:25 AM

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oh ye of little faith.
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post Feb 8 2019, 02:32 AM

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in my opinion, you intending to marry her should not come as a surprise to her. it should have already been discussed before, including all of the important topics like children and finances. how you're going to propose can be a surprise, but it doesn't have to be.

The easiest way to figure out a ring size is to have her go around without you, if she wants to do it that way, and pick out rings that she likes and the jeweler can already measure her ring size for you. All you would have to do at that point is just buy one that you also like.
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post Nov 22 2019, 02:56 AM

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no LDRs going on huh? lol
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post Dec 3 2019, 03:04 AM

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QUOTE(Murasaki322 @ Nov 22 2019, 08:15 AM)
Still going on.. if ldr within peninsular Malaysia is considered ldr. A bit worried about the future whether it will work out fine.
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If you have to travel to see each other (meaning you're not in the same city/town), then yes it's LDR.

QUOTE(deyamato @ Nov 29 2019, 04:50 PM)
still going on too, visiting her place like balik kampung(indonesia) once every month.

and we don't really chat now because we ask the same question everyday, just keep in touch if anything happen.
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lol well, you'd definitely run out of things to talk about if you talk every day smile.gif
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post Dec 10 2019, 08:52 AM

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oh wow. sorry to hear sad.gif
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post May 8 2020, 12:55 AM

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yeah it can feel like an ldr if you don't get to see each other regularly. it's good that you at least try to see her when you can
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post May 13 2020, 05:33 AM

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How long have you been together? Have you talked about the future? Eventually, if you want to be together, sacrifices must be made. I think it would be good to have a goal to work towards together smile.gif
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post May 14 2020, 04:38 AM

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QUOTE(Oklahoma @ May 13 2020, 11:41 AM)
We are young, early 20s who are focusing on our careers sad.gif

I cant relocate to her place nor does she...
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I mean you don't have to do it now, but you have to plan for the future if you want to end up together. Maybe when you're ready to change jobs, you start looking at where she is or vice versa, that sort of thing. If neither of you are willing to move or sacrifice things in your life to be together, then it's not going to end well
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post Jan 23 2021, 03:36 AM

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QUOTE(Quazacolt @ Dec 4 2020, 11:59 PM)
I made mine no longer LDR biggrin.gif

my LDR was from August 2017 and we gotten married on Feb 2020 and been staying together since i got the privilege to work from home during the entire MCO
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a bit late, but congratulations smile.gif
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post Jan 23 2021, 09:53 AM

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April until October is 6 months. How is that not a relationship? Because they didn't meet in person?
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post Jan 26 2021, 12:52 PM

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QUOTE(Cmyong88 @ Jan 25 2021, 06:25 PM)
Come on... By now you guys should've know for a fact that how a person communicates digitally could, and most likely, will be very different from how they communicate in person. I'd give some leeway if it's FaceTime or video chat but texting, like pen pal in the olden days, is grossly out of touch with reality. If you have already meet and started the relationship prior to it going into LDR, that's OK! That's LDR! But if you text a random stranger for 6 mths, a relationship it is not! Maybe my take on the term "relationship" is different than most? Is it me?
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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jan 25 2021, 07:59 PM)
thats penpal.
a real relationship consists of touch, sex and communication.
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It is not up to either of you to decide what constitutes a romantic relationship, since various ones have various priorities.
You can think that it wouldn't be a long-lasting one since they've never met in person nor consummated the relationship, but I don't think you can say that it isn't one.

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post Jan 26 2021, 01:20 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jan 25 2021, 09:06 PM)
there are asexual or demisexual guys out there.
but i think its pretty rare (unless the guy is a complete beta, which affects his testosterone level)
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Oh. This explains everything about you.
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post Jan 26 2021, 02:36 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jan 26 2021, 01:26 PM)
there's nothing wrong with sexuality. Depends how one expresses it.
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That was not what my comment meant.

QUOTE(Cmyong88 @ Jan 26 2021, 01:56 PM)
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You're right.. Who am I to judge.. My apologies
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Exactly. Your example harms no one. So glad you get it.

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post Apr 28 2021, 05:00 AM

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QUOTE(garywind @ Apr 22 2021, 11:24 PM)
How to maintain relationship kl and sabah. Due to MCO, we can not meet
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How often are you communicating?
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post Apr 30 2021, 07:55 AM

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well you know she's busy, so give her some space.
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post Mar 10 2022, 03:28 AM

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sorry to hear, man
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QUOTE(BlueWind @ Mar 14 2022, 04:07 PM)
After years of hiatus, how are you guys doing? For those that are still around. tongue.gif
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WOW long time no see dude!
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post Jul 1 2022, 04:43 AM

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QUOTE(anilin @ May 22 2022, 11:56 AM)
I personally went through tough LDR and I would say it hardly worked out.. regardless how much commitments being put by both party, I still consider it a retarded relationship somehow, close to delusional at times.
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even with all the "commitments", your relationship didn't work out? sounds like they weren't commitments then.
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post Feb 6 2023, 08:33 AM

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guess nobody needs LDR anymore tongue.gif

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