different age have different level of thinking or mindset, just like kids like soft drink adults like coffee.
both my gf and me are 25 but she keeps pushing me for marriage putting aside all those financial planning all, I don't know how to put my quest in a proper language but, what or how can we reach that level( "ok I'm ready for this, let's get married") this kind of thinking?? I'm still thinking I'm too young.

Please advise. Thanks

Hey there! I think I probably know how you feel. I'm 24 and my wife is 25 and we just got registered at Putrajaya last Friday on the 19th Dec 2014.

You might ask why get marry at such a young age? Well to answer your questions, first off me and my gf has been dating for 6 years, and we felt that is time to bring our relationship to the next level, as we've already purchased a place of our own.

As both of us are still working, therefore we took things step by step, we registered this year, and next year December is the big chinese wedding ceremony, all expenses are purely from me and my wife only.

I think to answer your question best is what is the future plan of you and your current gf? As our plan to have kids before 30, after 30 there will be no more kids, and that is one of the reasons why we got married now, as we got a few years of honeymoon together before we start a family together.

Maybe i'm not thinking of getting married so I don't really have any future family plan. But 1 thing freak me out is when thinking about having my own kids, and by looking at other kids, some of them are soooo naughty. I don't think I will have good patience with kids like how to teach them, clean their shit and all,etc. My gf future plan is basically simple, rather than saying plans, its her dream, of having her own family. I've been dating her for 4 years now and I love her, so there goes the reason to start this topic mind to share what kind or what else is considered as "future plan"??? lol sorry for such stupid question

Hey there, as for me and my wife, both of us LOVE kids, as sometimes we would volunteer to help take care of my cousin's kids who is 1 to 2 years old. That's why one of our plan is to stop having kids after 30, as having kids after 30 may have a risk.

Also, for future plan, everybody is different, for me and my wife, one of our plans is to have our own place and start our own family, which is what is happening now, we just bought our own condo, where it will be done in a few years time, therefore in the mean time we are just planning for the chinese wedding ceremony and all.

good to hear that....congratulation once again...which area ur wedding gonna be held? mind to share how much each of u save up for the cost of the wedding? how long did u guys save for? i dunno maybe its not saving, maybe its ur investment return or u r rich enuf

1st: are u ready to get married?
2nd: are you financial and emotional ready?



well to me after married, i dont think anything is different.. just a paper sign..
unless u wan kids.. if not is a life same with non marriage..

but prepare those elder pushing you for kids after marriage,, just taichi away them and u will be fine

your question: what or how can we reach that level
no answer.. is all PLAN PLAN PLAN PLAN and execute


we plan our wedding almost 5 year only successful to execute it... depend how u wanna do.

happy planning

Well, my Gf and i age 26 this year and it also abit headache for the wedding planning especially financial parts..

I was planning to get marry maybe at 30 but my GF just cant wait for that.. because I don't want she facing high-risk pregnancy after that..

But the financial issue is the one headache the most..


I am ready to get marry but still worry.. such an irony

Hi sam ooi.

I understand and been through your situation. Financial is one of the most critical part in a marriage and also relationship. Some major factors of divorce and family disorder is caused by financial insecurity.

Why not, do it one step at a time. Most importantly, your lady must first understand your financial situation. Even with current turmoil, you still can have a lovely proposal, arrange a nice dinner with both side parents invited. After that can arrange for the ROM and maybe a small little party with friends and family. It will not caused much. I think most importantly the lady wants an assurance and so does the parents. Many couple I know had a very simple but meaningful wedding ceremony. Like I always say, a Grand Gring Grong wedding will not promise you a good and healthy marriage.

I agree with you 100%. For man, 30 is just the beginning of our adult life. But for the ladies, is the other way round. There will be risk for pregnancy. Not high like in the 40s but still there is risk.

So I guess you can just do it one step at a time. If she really loves you, she will understand. Like what we Chinese like to say "cheap got cheap ways of doing, expensive got expensive ways of doing".

But most importantly is to enjoy the whole process of your wedding planning experience. You wont want to remember it as "hell".

Cheers and happy wedding planning...........