Bro, nothing is impossible.

I also had major worry about finances. That time tunang, I thought maybe still got at least a year to save and prepare. but relatives on both sides pushed for fast wedding 4 months later! So even with about 1k savings monthly, still had to korek here and there for extra funds.

my wife from sabah too. there can find pair of gold rings for under rm800. also we did kenduri in kampung so jimat a lot since org kg gotong royong and saudara bantu here and there like sponsor wedding cake, etc. this is where communication and social skills play a big role. if you manage to get on everyone's good side and people like you, you will start seeing favours come. even if not immediately, at least with more guests chances are more angpow that can cover some costs like sewa penginapan and transport or for honeymoon. make an effort to build positive relationships even if you are not the kind or feel shy. trust me.

some ways of korek-ing for money:
1. sell any unnecessary possessions on LYN, Mudah, etc. identify things that take up space or simply not used. We sold unused or under-utilised mattress, laptop, table lamp, mini bar, table fan, handheld massager, portable car seat massager, dumbbells, extra vacuum cleaner. of course, be prudent but a little goes a long way.

2. Find cheap photo studio or ask friend or family who are photographers to help. Jalan ipoh got a lot cheap photo studio package comes with album, photo frame, wedding gown/suit rental. We paid only rm1500 coz got promotion. Results not bad also.

To change habits is difficult, but not impossible. If u are a smoker or drinker, quit. I did so and started focusing on fitness. Every free time, go to taman for jogging and other exercise routine, maybe swimming/cycling if you like. First thing is it's FREE and importantly get yourself focused away from negative lifestyle plus get you in shape for the wedding. i read somewhere that it takes about 21 days to a month to make or break a habit.

Regarding finances, if your gf is prudent with money, let her handle it. I passed some financial decisions and money to her as she's better at managing money while I focused on finding other avenues to find money or focus on work when i had to. Cook and eat at home. If can't cook or lazy, learn and stop being lazy. Mind over matter. Exercise frugality and best way is to avoid temptation like go window shopping or browsing internet for happening events and gadgets. my spending at one time was quite bad also, but now I only go to the shops when i have to.

lastly, if you are a person who believes in God, then don't stop your prayers and hoping. you can do it. BELIEVE but also be WISE by taking ACTION.

This post has been edited by PrideNeverDie: Nov 12 2014, 08:38 PM