I have a friend who always seems to be unhappy. She's been telling me she doesn't enjoy life and always see things negatively. Although sometimes I see a smile in her face, most of the time I see someone who is deep thoughts and not there. I tried to cheer her up by taking her out for dinner, movies, and just calling/text her to check on her like how's work, friends etc. the usual. A few days ago, she said she was very down, called me out to hear her out but all she did was cry. This is the first time I see her do that. When I asked her what's wrong, she doesn't want to tell. All she said was she has nightmares. I ask what kind of nightmares, she doesn't want to tell. Then, today I go out with her for dinner. In the car when I sent her home, she cried again. I asked again what's wrong. I asked if it's work pressure, family, bf, money, almost everything I can think of to sort of narrow down the list as much as I can but all I got was she's just doesn't like living here.

This time it got me quite concerned. Maybe I overreacted but I am worried she might loose it and go suicidal. Or go into depression if she can't pull herself out cause it's been going on for a few months now.

What should I do? I already asked many times what's wrong, she doesn't want to tell...how to help???? She has admitted she has been feeling a sense of general unhappiness and I suggested maybe she need professional help, but she's not doing it...How do you pull someone out from sadness?

She is depress. If you couldnt help her then try talk to her parents so they can convince her to seek help.

Hmmmm...i am worried about this too.....seems like signs of minor depression...

Why you said this?

Try maybe arranging a weekend vacation where you can take long drives, try new food and/or culture, sightsee and just let loose. When you feel depressed, you just want to escape reality.

something that you can't share with anyone.....because the prob is too big....just get her to do abortion la....I can advise on that

she dont trust you

thats why she dont let it out

Nothing to do with me bro.....i am not the bf, and I didn't sleep with her either...she's a just a close friend.....

I tried this already, take her go cari makan new places but only limited effect coz she always go back to sad state....

She is in depression, she need profession help. See psychiatrist ASAP ,meanwhile u can try ur best keep her company all the time or all ur mutual fren try to hang out with her to keep her mind at ease .

What is her bf doing? Does he not notice this? Or she is not letting him know?

seek for professional help, really need to. I've been through depression, it wasn't very serious compared to some others, but it was horrible enough.

This post has been edited by Aster66: Sep 15 2014, 12:53 AM

how old is she?

she think too much
she need to solve one problem
so that she can feel good

my advice: run for d hills

after awhile u shud be quite frustrated, no? just tell her la "look, i dont know how i can help, i dont know what i can do...because i dont know what really is wrong...only if u'd tell me, at least i can understand..."

settle lol

it is not depression. at least from her behaviour, depressed person wouldn't want to go out of the house.

she has issues that is obvious, the issue could just very well be her character.

TS, just curious, do you have feelings for her? as she is continuously engaging you, going out with you even though she has a bf.

i'd suggest you leave her issues to her bf as things might get ugly if the bf finds out tht u r constantly spending time with her.

Ya, I already suggested. And I'll try to keep in touch with her....

She is not attached, not that I know of....sorry if I misscomm somewhere...


She's showing depressive signs right? I worry too....

No lah...I have no feelings for her...know her long time d...just friends. Don't think she has bf...sorry maybe I miscomm......

then just be careful that she will latch on to you as a life line.

basically if u were to continue to hang out with her, dont be dragged into her helplessness and negativeness... just divert conversations to a more positive topic... it will be hard but if u dont, then u might be miserable in the end.

Ok, ok....so far haven't been affected by her.....but I'll keep that in mind...tq...

where do get treatment....my friend also have depression

I think maybe she just needs time before she can talk to someone about it. But keep giving her emotional support and hopefully she will open up soon.

If i was there i would able to help her out in many ways