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TSLoveMeNot
post Jul 8 2014, 03:33 PM, updated 12y ago

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Hi all,

I was told by a friend about how one should not attend any wedding, baby shower and funeral 3 months before and 3 months after its own wedding to avoid "luck clashing". I can be quite superstitious. Sometimes I choose to follow just to avoid any mishap. But not to attend any wedding before and after in a span of 6 months is quite difficult especially when you have close friends around you getting married at the same time.


What say you? Any encounter before when you do not follow? A

Any other superstition that I should know associated with wedding?

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post Jul 8 2014, 03:37 PM

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QUOTE(kuntilanak @ Jul 8 2014, 03:36 PM)
Superstitions are in all cultures. It largely depends on whether you believe them or not. No point asking others since everyone has different point of view.  icon_rolleyes.gif
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just to hear their thoughts and experience if they do encounter it before. of course in the end it is all up to me whether to believe it or not.
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post Jul 8 2014, 03:44 PM

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QUOTE(kuntilanak @ Jul 8 2014, 03:42 PM)
Have you encounter any of those, then?
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specifically I am talking about superstition related to wedding. NO then since I've yet to.

others. nothing much. just that whenever I saw a black cat nearby I'll just walk away further; not to cross path tongue.gif
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post Jul 8 2014, 04:24 PM

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QUOTE(kuntilanak @ Jul 8 2014, 04:02 PM)
Well, for wedding superstitions, there are plenty. Difficult to talk about all since different dialect has slight variation of superstitions...  smile.gif I've been to few weddings, but I think basically it's more of respecting the host by dressing appropriately etc.  You know the drill.  tongue.gif
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o.O got such thing? different dialect different one kah? rclxub.gif rclxub.gif so what are the ones you know then? care to share? tongue.gif
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post Jul 10 2014, 02:02 PM

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QUOTE(kuntilanak @ Jul 8 2014, 04:28 PM)
I think so... different dialect, different pantang... haha... actually I only know a little of my own one...  blush.gif  we share share over coffee?  biggrin.gif
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what type are you oh? why must share share over coffee? share over here cannot kah tongue.gif i dunwanna kene baham kuntilanak.so scary

QUOTE(huaymeeng @ Jul 8 2014, 09:07 PM)
there are a lot of superstition for all occasion, it's up to individual to believe it or not.

I know a real case, not related to wedding but pregnancy.

My mother is a baby sitter, last year she take care of one baby, with some complication. He's born with imperforate anus (without butt hole), have to under-go colostomy operation to pass stool. Doctor also found that he got hole in heart, more operations for the baby to fix his condition.

After some questioning, the parent admitted to fix some water pipe while the wife is pregnant and around the house, which is a taboo to the Chinese. Wife also mentioned she don't know any taboo, no one to teach her that.
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that's why lor.i oso got heard ppl don't follow and in the end really happen.dunno if it's coincident or what. scary oso tbh.

QUOTE(aidono @ Jul 10 2014, 10:25 AM)
As for your own customary, the Chinese belief that there should only be one auspicious event at one time. If you and your friend just getting married within the same period, they believe the luck will compete and possibly cancel each other out. Other words, no luck for both parties.

I am not aware different dialects had different kind of taboo but what, it is advisable not to attend any wedding or funeral during pregnancy as pregnancy luck is higher than both functions. Funeral, most will avoid (understandable) but as for wedding, you are considered overshadowing the married couple's luck.
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do majority chinese actually follow this? --> not attending any wedding before and after during their own wedding. I have few close friends getting married about my time too. I'm torn between this. cry.gif


 

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