Hi all,

I was told by a friend about how one should not attend any wedding, baby shower and funeral 3 months before and 3 months after its own wedding to avoid "luck clashing". I can be quite superstitious. Sometimes I choose to follow just to avoid any mishap. But not to attend any wedding before and after in a span of 6 months is quite difficult especially when you have close friends around you getting married at the same time.


What say you? Any encounter before when you do not follow? A

Any other superstition that I should know associated with wedding?

This post has been edited by LoveMeNot: Jul 8 2014, 03:33 PM

Superstitions are in all cultures. It largely depends on whether you believe them or not. No point asking others since everyone has different point of view.

just to hear their thoughts and experience if they do encounter it before. of course in the end it is all up to me whether to believe it or not.

Have you encounter any of those, then?

specifically I am talking about superstition related to wedding. NO then since I've yet to.

others. nothing much. just that whenever I saw a black cat nearby I'll just walk away further; not to cross path

Well, for wedding superstitions, there are plenty. Difficult to talk about all since different dialect has slight variation of superstitions... I've been to few weddings, but I think basically it's more of respecting the host by dressing appropriately etc. You know the drill.

o.O got such thing? different dialect different one kah? so what are the ones you know then? care to share?

I think so... different dialect, different pantang... haha... actually I only know a little of my own one... we share share over coffee?

there are a lot of superstition for all occasion, it's up to individual to believe it or not.

I know a real case, not related to wedding but pregnancy.

My mother is a baby sitter, last year she take care of one baby, with some complication. He's born with imperforate anus (without butt hole), have to under-go colostomy operation to pass stool. Doctor also found that he got hole in heart, more operations for the baby to fix his condition.

After some questioning, the parent admitted to fix some water pipe while the wife is pregnant and around the house, which is a taboo to the Chinese. Wife also mentioned she don't know any taboo, no one to teach her that.

As for your own customary, the Chinese belief that there should only be one auspicious event at one time. If you and your friend just getting married within the same period, they believe the luck will compete and possibly cancel each other out. Other words, no luck for both parties.

I am not aware different dialects had different kind of taboo but what, it is advisable not to attend any wedding or funeral during pregnancy as pregnancy luck is higher than both functions. Funeral, most will avoid (understandable) but as for wedding, you are considered overshadowing the married couple's luck.

what type are you oh? why must share share over coffee? share over here cannot kah i dunwanna kene baham kuntilanak.so scary

that's why lor.i oso got heard ppl don't follow and in the end really happen.dunno if it's coincident or what. scary oso tbh.

do majority chinese actually follow this? --> not attending any wedding before and after during their own wedding. I have few close friends getting married about my time too. I'm torn between this.

I failed at asking a girl out again... haih...

Anyway, the variations in pantang for the wedding attendance may be the period of 2 consecutive one attended, timing, etc... for example. I'm not really sure since I don't really stay in touch my friends...

really up to you to believe it or not.

some will say now modern world d, don't need follow all those superstitious, but if *touch wood* anything were to happen, people will dig out your past and blame you for that.

my mom always say "don't be stubborn, later anything happen, don't come back crying. listen to the elder".

This post has been edited by huaymeeng: Jul 10 2014, 02:11 PM

Depends on individual. Some choose to follow; some ignore.

Whose wedding come first? Normally the one who married later can attend the one who married earlier.

By the way, grats

One thing I do not like the Chinese wedding is when all choose to marry end of the year.

Hi LoveMeNot,

There is also on Actual Day, certain Animal Sign cannot attend the Actual Day. We call it "CHONG". It will bring Bad Luck to the guest who is 'Chong' with the Day.

So, in general, Guests better don't watch the Bride entering the Groom's house.
Thats why, giving angpow to helpers is very important to 'buang sueh'.

And giving Angpow to the Door Opening Boy is very very important.

Many clients of mine have different scenarios.
What I am sharing here is just a general reference.

i did follow, for wedding i still go becoz me and my fren dont really care ( my pregant fren did attend as well )
but as for funeral we didnt go ( not that close also) we just give "pak kam"

this is very base on u and the bride ( if wedding)

u might not care but what if the bride family care.. normally i will tell them ahead " hey, i getting marry to.. u scare clash?, no? ok i attend your "

This post has been edited by yahiko: Aug 12 2014, 10:58 AM

Hello all,

My mum tells me if the going to marry couple dont mind (no pantang) you attend, then you can still go. If the wedding actual day is different from wedding dinner, then just go for wedding dinner.

As for pregnant, many pantang need follow. Cannot take needle and scissors. But for those nurse and manicurist, they everyday also need take scissors one.