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TSTieL
post May 30 2014, 10:50 PM, updated 7y ago

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I closed previous topic  due to some member's ignorant comments. i hope that won't happen again. Please, only leave comment if you have something constructive; else, Kopitiam is the right section for you.


my story begins with a netizen
she response to my thread and we begin to chat via whatsapp
then we come out for movie
she looks very average, but is an MO (Medical Officer, or Doctor in layman's term)

i was newbie in relationship, never hold a girl's hand before
that was first time we met and i made 1st mistake by propose to her
she accepted then she went into my room and begin have sex with me, that was my 2nd mistake

after sweet period, i found out that she have bad temper, PSY disease under medication, and all she want is sex (at least thats what i feel)
she never really care of me, and eventually she also admit she get involved with me might just because i am nice guy
and she not sure if she really loves me

i must admit having an MO gf makes me proud, but i then realize, that shouldn't be the reason she's the right girl
i deeply regret but i couldn't say the words to break up
so i choose to be coward , starts to be cold to her, lesser and lesser phone calls to her
finally she cant take it and asks to break up
she first unfriended me on FB

a week passed

these few days she starts to call me on the phone, and chit chat to me like we were used to be
-oh, i'm so tired , i just arrived home
-hey what are you doing?
-you at home?
-makan already?
...

seriously, i'm heartache feeling unexplained sadness.... even though i realize i must stop our relationship
not a day passed without thinking about my promise to love her forever, my promise to marry her
i took those promise very seriously, i feel bad that i couldn't deliver what i said

so i just speak to her using stranger's tone, more like she Q & i A
i would only "ermm..." , "oh", "ye" "no" on the phone
i would end the conversation in one or two minutes by saying i am tired, i wanna take a bath, i wanna go out

but why she is doing this, keeps calling me?

i prefer not to ask her for now.... so whats your thought on her action?

i hope there is any girl here, to tell me from their point of view

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QUOTE(kopiride @ May 28 2014, 06:13 PM)
Maybe like u said. She wants sex?
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i am not sure, but we broke up...
whats puzzle me is, have you guys ever seen girls behave like this? keep on calling you, and act like you and her are still in relationship?
what they want?

QUOTE(elimi8z @ May 28 2014, 06:46 PM)
Because you ditched her before she ditch you
Keep doing what ya doing,you're doing it right,in the meantime,go look for others

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i will look for others, after i get over all the sadness in my heart
but right now, i feels down, felt i lost everything
i've been putting in all i've got the past 356 days with her


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forgot to mention
the day i visit her, and i expected break up, that night she had sex with me again
-she kiss me at my neck, and seduce me in shower, hug me and kiss me, flirt me while watching movie on computer
-i am a normal man, i had reaction, i couldn't resist

then i still did not tell her to break up
the next day, we went for movie, like usual, thinking about that , now i really wanna cry, what the f*** is happening
i cant keep thinking that shopping mall was the first place we met

and the very last night before i return to my town, she wants to have sex again
but i turn her down in other way, i pretend to sleep to ignore her
then the next day before i leave, i pass me all my belongings like clothes and toothbrush
i return her house key

thats how we broke up, without saying anything like "this is the end for us" "i want to break up"
no we did not say those
i gave her a hug, and i drive back to town with my broken heart

sorry for my poor english, hope you all understand...


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QUOTE(newbrav3me @ May 28 2014, 08:38 PM)
things went too fast? 
marry her?
she is testing u?
she is a b****? she has a powerful sex drive?
is she a virgin?
how old is she?
how old are u?
does she has hiv ? isnt it okay to be abit crazy for girls?
u are a bastrd? u lie her? u cheat her?
u are a play boy?

and etc..

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--> yes, sex on first date
--> at first, yes, i want to be responsible and marry her. three months ago i began felt uncomfortable with our relationship. my mind starts talking. but one fateful sex, she told me she's safe (hey she's Doc) thus i RAW as she requested. didn't knew her period irregular that month, and boom pregnant, so i felt i don't have any choice. then we plan for marriage. but then she miscarried. was that God helping me? i got another chance to rethink again to continue our relationship or not.
--> sometimes i stay for few days, she want sex everyday i visit her, and sometimes at least twice a day.
-->i am virgin until the night i met her. she has five or six Ex
-->28
-->32
--> she is clean. i felt its okay for girls to be crazy for her husband, sex before marriage is not fair for the next man/husband, if she ever breaks up.
--> i never lie to her, i never cheated to her. i practice dating one girl only at one time.
--> no i am not a play boy. but i can't be sure if i would become a playboy after this.


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QUOTE(newbrav3me @ May 28 2014, 09:28 PM)
i am 22 yr old  sweat.gif i am a kid, too complicated, adult world, can't help, good luck.
btw what had happened? miscarried due to accident? just curious.
i am very naive, so i will say u did lie to her, u promised to marry her.
btw, she is a doc ...=.='' and 28 yr old , well according to what u said..
u are 32 yr old.. ok wat?  sad.gif

unless u want go for a big fish... i always knew what i want, so no problems for me.
my Favorited quote, love is not without any intentions.

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the moment we knew she was pregnant
both us doubted, wanted to abort it
but finally we choose to face it and be responsible for that little new life, despite all the pressure we are facing

she had a fight with her parents
her parents think she should abort it cos she is taking medication for depression, which might have bad effect on infant

at 5th weeks, ultrasound not detecting baby's heartbeat
that time we were so worry so sad
6th week, heart beat detected , we were so happy
we bought baby caring books to read, bought mother nutrition, milk poweder etc....
then 7th week, suddenly she woke up bleeding and the baby no more heart beat

till today i dont know what happened to the baby
i suspect two things:
-her parents might had tricked her with some chinese medicine which causing the miscarry... since both of them disagree for the infant to stay.
but i dare not to raise this to her, i dont want her thinking into that way towards her parents
-her depression medication kicks away the baby


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i loved her, love her till i am a fool, till i can't make correct justification & decisions
i quit my high pay job, then couldn't find one at her area, now became unemployed
now i taste what's FUBAR


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QUOTE(Frostlord @ May 29 2014, 03:20 AM)
what does look got anything to do with her being a medical officer? if you're into kinky stuff like doing a doctor/nurse just go buy the costume/uniform
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like newbrav3me said, love is not without any intentions
to be honest, who wouldn't be proud to have a doc as GF?
but nothing to do with uniform on the bed

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post May 30 2014, 10:54 PM

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wth... Did she Q&A u???

n mind elaborate your chit-chat content.. [if OP can]
TSTieL
post May 30 2014, 10:57 PM

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Just now i came back from dinner, i received her fourth call.

she -What are you doing?
me >i just came back from dinner
she -oh, i just came back from part-timing at clinic, very tired.
me >oh...
she -You got eat rice dumpling or not?
me > i'm not celebrate it
she - i got wrapped some rice dumpling just now (sounds happy)
me > oh...
she > you never call me these two days?
me > i don't felt i wanna talk
she - you got smoking or not?
me > no more.
she - (trying to say something)
me > hey, i got to hang up, i need to give a businessman a phone call right now
she - (trying to say something)
me > hang up

TSTieL
post May 30 2014, 11:12 PM

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oh, there comes her fifth call

she- what are you doing?
me> (telling some lie coz i don't really want to talk to her)
she- (telling me what she's doing)
me>oh...
she-you don't want to talk to me ? (sounds really sad)
me-erm.. ya , i just wanna give my brain a break, don't wanna think too much...

my brain already cant think straight, and now i don't even remember how i ended the conversation and hang up

i do scare if she do something stupid like ending her life, or turns into deep depression

the last thing i want to happen is her parents contact me & scolding me for breaking up with her and ruined her life ...

not a day passed without remind myself our encounter was a disaster that should have been avoided. i do deeply regret our relationship does not blossom
i felt i kinda owed her as she once miscarried for me
and thus i do felt sort of guilty and sort of ruined her life
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post May 30 2014, 11:40 PM

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it takes time to really get to know someone. after all relationship is just that a shared time.

its about the shared journey... getting there is a bonus...
good luck to you then... he he he
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post May 31 2014, 12:03 AM

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QUOTE(shea2812 @ May 30 2014, 11:40 PM)
it takes time to really get to know someone.  after all relationship is just that a shared time.

its about the shared journey...  getting there is a bonus... 
good luck to you then... he he he
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i like what you said
relationship is just that a shared time. shared journey... getting there is a bonus...

haiz.... sad.gif
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post May 31 2014, 08:58 AM

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Your MD ex might have MD. She has high libido and will look for you when she is in manic mode. MD=manic depressive
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post May 31 2014, 01:54 PM

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A man is suppose to keep a woman's puss wet, not her eyes. Do the right thing man

This post has been edited by Jackofree: May 31 2014, 01:55 PM
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post May 31 2014, 02:44 PM

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You are ideal candidate to attend for kaunseling kahwin.
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post May 31 2014, 02:53 PM

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If you pick up her calls you don't speak it properly. why don't you tell her let's not talk on the phone. just plain texting. from there on you may avoid it.
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post May 31 2014, 03:13 PM

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QUOTE(mudkipryan94 @ May 31 2014, 03:13 PM)
summon funnybone
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Ehh...here got single girl? brows.gif
TSTieL
post Jun 8 2014, 09:38 PM

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Before break up, i was thinking that i will be suffer whole life, if to married her. And i worried she will suicide if i left her.

What i did not expect, is that now not a day passed without i felt sorry to her. Regrets is eating me inside out. I really wish that our relationship never developed into this situation. I felt i hurts her, i felt i have ruined her life, i felt i should not ever walk into her life. I felt its all my fault. I am desperately wish we could live happily forever. I wish i could reverse everything.

Now i really feel suicidal & wanna jump to my death.
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post Jun 9 2014, 05:45 PM

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and today, she still giving me call
i have mixed filling
she still calling me, so she should be fine, i felt relieved
but i am worried, what if we start over again? will that be another mistake?

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post Jun 9 2014, 08:53 PM

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TS, make up ur mind, if u r not happy together with her then break up, good for u and her. and pls dont feel regret that u cant keep up ur promise to her, obviously she's not the girl for u and u dont want to let urself kena tortured right after marrying her

2 BIG MISTAKES u've made, 1st, to date a PSY DOC, 2ndly, to have sex with her == GG
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QUOTE(TieL @ Jun 9 2014, 05:45 PM)
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will that be another mistake?
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Yup, will be another mistake.
Don't believe me, just fap fap yourself.
After that, you'll know what is your right move.
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post Jun 9 2014, 09:03 PM

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you're killing yourself and her when you do not speak the truth. Hiding everything within you will not keep the relationship any further.

I have a question. Besides she has high sex drive, what else you feel you dislike about her? Bad temper? Talk to her about it! She's not the worm in your stomach but yr damn right, she must be hurting deeply now because she called you so many times and you keeping quiet, avoiding her.

IF you really don't love her anymore. Just be stern and strict, tell her off. Don't be a ***** saying you feel guilty, you feel bad, you feel suicidal. All these are running away and be a man, face the truth and be responsible of what you have started (relationship). You asked her to be your girl right? Then use the same courage to have a proper break up with her.
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post Jun 16 2014, 06:56 PM

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God help me,
She kept calling me and whatsapp me
the worst thing she nailed my heart, is she said, she had my baby
i really between choosing in between continue with her or not

be with her, i wont be happy
not be with her, i will felt guilty for whole life, coz she once had conceived my baby

i really dont know what to do, both choice i also FUBAR
so i just saying lets give us another 3 months
if by then she still bad temper, or i still not really feeling love her anymore, thats it

and damn it, another two weeks she will be in KL for work
and she ask me to sleep with her at hotel, coz she scared alone in hotel

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post Jun 16 2014, 11:05 PM

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QUOTE(TieL @ Jun 16 2014, 06:56 PM)
God help me,
She kept calling me and whatsapp me
the worst thing she nailed my heart, is she said, she had my baby
i really between choosing in between continue with her or not

be with her, i wont be happy
not be with her, i will felt guilty for whole life, coz she once had conceived my baby

i really dont know what to do, both choice i also FUBAR
so i just saying lets give us another 3 months
if by then she still bad temper, or i still not really feeling love her anymore, thats it

and damn it, another two weeks she will be in KL for work
and she ask me to sleep with her at hotel, coz she scared alone in hotel
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God already make the way for you. Is for you to choose.
She had your baby and how much you know of her past? What makes you think she did not have baby with her ex ex ex ex or in future?
I've personal hands on on depress ppl. Trust me, they could do anything to make you stay and pls don't fall into the trap.
This is your only first relationship. Don't let it haunt your future if there is any. Not worth your single sweat.
Resist the temptation for the better for both of you. I know you can do better than this. Good luck. smile.gif

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QUOTE(TieL @ Jun 16 2014, 06:56 PM)
God help me,
She kept calling me and whatsapp me
the worst thing she nailed my heart, is she said, she had my baby
i really between choosing in between continue with her or not

be with her, i wont be happy
not be with her, i will felt guilty for whole life, coz she once had conceived my baby

i really dont know what to do, both choice i also FUBAR
so i just saying lets give us another 3 months
if by then she still bad temper, or i still not really feeling love her anymore, thats it

and damn it, another two weeks she will be in KL for work
and she ask me to sleep with her at hotel, coz she scared alone in hotel
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Tell you what.

Introduce her to me, I'll solve the problem for you.

And no, it does not involve anything sexual laugh.gif

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