Im wondering am i posted in the right discussion board. By looking at the variety segments LYN netizen, consist of different level of background, i hope someone out there could provide a few 2 cents.

I've made my proposal to my gf just recently, and plan to have our wedding to be held in Y2015 end. Which of the major expenses that ready to occur, and is that true that majority of the wedding expenses are to be bear by the man?

For those whom have the past experiences, its the time to have your sweet memories recalled ~

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Wedding Album = RM6,500 (a package where we already signed up in last year)
Wedding Band =
Bride Dowry =
Ang Pao Disbursement =
Wedding Dinner =
Actual day video & photo =
Other??? (pls list down) =

cannot recall so detail

roughly spend 90k for all these

oh and this is 10 year ago

u now budget how much max?

90K ??! @@. How the earth your money spent..? i never expect such a huge amount.

For me, excluded actual day wedding dinner (hope that the ang pow i received manage to cover the whole night expenses), i plan to allocate 25-30k for the rest of the potential expenses, will it be enough..?

The most important, what will be the likely major expenses that i need to cover...?

wedding dinner, place rental

whr u plan to do ur wedding diner?

Johor Bahru. Table rate over here about 900-1200 ++ / table.

Appreciate if someone can breakdown the expenses into particular.

The 90K you mentioned in 10 yrs back, where was your state friend..?

Wedding photo album RM6000
Wedding band RM4000 a pair
Dowry RM10000
Buffet dinner RM2500
Roast pork RM1200
Actual day video & photo shooting RM800
Emcee RM800 for day & night
Ang pow for bestman
Ang pow for bridesmaid
Ang pow for the brothers
Ang pow for the sisters
Ang pow for the little children and your cousins

klang valley

when was this man..?

You didnt go for dinner in restaurant? Jus do buffet?

Last year

Got dinner banquet held but you can exclude this from the list because usually the ang pow money received is more than enough to cover the banquet.

I doubt nowadays people are that generous.

Money tight now, economy not good
people are rushing to get marry before GST kick in, so people will have to pay many new weds angpao and they will give very little cuz so many weddings to attend.

Its your budget decide what to put in the itinerary, not put itinerary and put budget, you dont need to have anything that those weddings that you attended have. Your budget and teir budget is not the same, you might say but hey that guy earn as much as me but who knows he might have screw his financial status by helding such grant wedding. Personal loan for wedding is a no no.

Did you know it cost close to nothing to get legally married?

Remember life after marriage is the most important, not one day of extravaggant.

Inb4 lucifah

Here's mine...

Pre wedding photoshoot: rm5,000
Engagement ring + band: rm11k
Dowry: none
Ang pao: none
Wedding dinner: rm30k
Actual day video: I check latest rate is rm3k fr video, rm2k fr photo
Others - wedding misc: rm7k

Btw I'm doing a beach wedding in KK next march

LOL.

simple rule: spend 1/4 of what you have in cold hard cash, AFTER minusing all your liabilities (loans for example)

if u want to spend rm 100k, u need to have rm 400k if you have no house or car loan

if u drive a RM 150k car (another rm100k need to pay) and a house loan of RM 500k (left 450k), and have cash of RM 600,000

then u are entitled to use: RM 600k - RM 450 - RM 100k / 4 = RM 25k




enjoice. anyone who says marriage comes once in a lifetime is farking stupid

wedding dinner: RM 100 / head cheapest

but will be offset with the ang pao

video is stupid. no one is gonna watch the video after they've seen it once. invest in photos better

others: your bed to make baby. trust me, they're expensive.

honeymoon dun forget. later waifu pull long face

Why not discuss with your fiancee first?

Ajak ging

Haha... boleh bah kalo kao

This post has been edited by RiuK3n: May 13 2014, 10:16 PM

Not sure what you experienced but my dinner was RM800 per table. Most of my guest gave more than RM100 any pow

Mine would be RM2k per table. So I am not expecting to get back everything.
Perhaps 50% is good enough.

Lol 2k per table. KL is so expensive. Good luck to you. Have a blissfull marriage

Thanks. Cheers!

All depends on you, your wife, and your respective parents. There is no "standard procedure" per se. If you are lucky and both side parents are those happy go lucky, whatever la kind, then you got a lot of freedom to cut down on expenses. If either side is big businessman and/or only child and/or super traditional parents then jialat liao.



90% of wedding studios once you take your pre wedding photos, they will hard sell you like shit to pay extra few thousand to "add photos to your album." note that every single married couple will tell you that the wedding album will hardly ever get looked at. As I'm writing this I can't even recall where my wife put the album liao

Wedding bands, dowry, ang bao is up to you and your wife and your in laws, too variable.

Wedding dinner depends, restaruant from rm800-1k per table, 4star hotel from rm1200-rm1500 per table, 5 star hotel from rm2000. normally you can at least break even on restaurant and 4 star hotel; for 5 star normally hard to break even.

Actual day video/photo anywhere from rm2k to rm15k+

conclusion? wedding is as cheap (or expensive) as you want it to be.

please dont expect the angpow given to cover the dinner cost. be prepared to top up.
i'm doing one this year in ipoh.

pre wed photo = 3.6-4 (freelance photog + freelance wedding gown)
actual day vid/photo = 2.1
bride dowry = 10 tables of dinner + (the gor dai lai cost)
accommodation = 3.5k (heng dai + close relative)
honeymoon = postpone as long as possible. LOL

in the beginning i've already told my wife no bridal shop package because i hate it and i feel it is not worth it.

calculate and spend wisely. don't start the new journey in debt.

Wedding Album = 4k
Wedding Band =
Bride Dowry = 88888
Ang Pao Disbursement =
Wedding Dinner = 40k
Actual day video & photo = 3k
Honeymoon = 20k
Reno house = 100k

Wedding Album = Free by friend,in fact 2,both are famous photographer
Wedding Band = Free,hands me down from granny
Bride Dowry = Not discussed yet but +- 10k
Ang Pao Disbursement = She keeps hers,i keep mine
Wedding Dinner = 1k per table,max 20-30 table
Actual day video & photo = Free by friend
Other??? (pls list down) =
Honeymoon = Free by friend at Maldives (GM there)
Honeymoon 2 = Boracay, RM 10k,love the island so much
Apartment = Small apartment for 2,poorfag

Gratz on ur upcoming wedding, infact i am preparing for mine too.
My wedding is end of this year.

Wedding Album = 4k
Proposal Ring = 2k
Wedding Band = 2k
Buffet Dinner = 3.5k
O/s Accomodation = 2k
Bride Dowry = 10k
Ang Pao Disbursement = Should be few hundred
Wedding Dinner = 30 tables at 1.3k ea @@ (Angpow not sure can cover or not )
Actual day photo = 800, you need video? I feel like its kind of waste since you won't be watching it in future.
Honeymoon = Haven't plan budget 10k
Reno house = Big headache, reno + furnitures should be above 50k

KL restaurant now hardly you can find below 900, as I have surveyed alot. Price nowadays have increased to a least RM1k per table but people mindset is still RM100/head angpow.

This post has been edited by Ash1988: May 14 2014, 01:24 PM

Bro, wise choice of not choosing bridal shop package. I signed one of the quite famous bridal shop last year from the wedding fair. It cost me RM4k+ but the service is super lousy. I have not taken my pre-wedding shooting yet and due on this coming Friday. Hopefully they can produce a better photoshoot skills and output else I'm going to get mad and blast them kao kao.

Tell you this type of bridal shop is money-sucking business, whatever extra you need to pay pay pay. Even rent a shoes need to pay LOL.

This is for Chinese wedding in KL Both of us are earning AUD though so take that into account. Me and wife cover all to eliminate calculations from both sides.

Wedding Album = RM 7k
Wedding Band = RM 2k
Wedding Ring = RM 7k
Bride Dowry = RM18888
Ang Pao Disbursement = RM 3k
Wedding Dinner = RM 60k
Actual day video & photo (2x video and photo from both sides) = RM6k
Wedding day make-up artist = RM 2.5k
Dinner Live Band = RM 5k

Honeymoon paid but not yet go: RM 60k
Build New Home DP: RM350k+

Dont panic bro


================ Year 2010 KL ======================
Wedding Album = went to China for the photo shooting (so im taking the amount for the ALBUM into consideration only) RM 6 K
Wedding Band = rm 8xx (a friend of mine know them (2 singers), so this consider as "friend price"
Bride Dowry = 8888 but return back 888 to us.
roosted pig, chicken... kili kala... rm few k .. lupa again
Ang Pao Disbursement = collect all of them and used it to cover our expenses.
Wedding Dinner = rm 8xx per table, 33 tables involved (excluding whiskey:ssss + 3 boxes of red wines) - damage lupa jor
Actual day video & photo = Free by friends but give angpau as thank you (rm 1000 + 300)
Organizers in helping to manage few occasions during the dinner (rm 1000 as thank you angpau)
hotel stay = rm 1K
Angpau for "hengdaiz" = rm 500
Damage for "jimui" = unknown.. lupa jor
Car rental = rm 500 (by relative)
Door gift = rm 750 (those organic soap by friend)
Those small angpau for own family and bride's family (single youngster) = unknown.. lupa jor
night time buffet = rm 2.x K

===> btw... the one in johor should be better right ?
had one round of wedding dinner in batupahat, 1 table cost rm 3xx only... and johor people's angpau is not "littler" wor.. ~q
sure untung

i was not expecting to "earn" from the wedding dinner too but surprisingly, (plain on the restaurant/tables) balance still positive
found out most of them were from "friends".... peers nowadays giving more than rm 100 jor.. but still some with rm 50 (and 2 people coming together) aiks....

u all missed out wedding photographer and videographer costs as well

roughly the cost is around RM 55K..... fuh

Lol, either you make the Mrs happy or bear the grunt for the rest of your life
Btw heard cheapest place you can do in KL is at this place called Cyberview lodge in Cyberjaya

Total spend of about 50k about 5 years back in Penang.
married for 5 years and we had 3 houses now. Staying in 1 and rented the other 2. First house bought after wedding was 2 story terrace.

This post has been edited by sonerin: May 22 2014, 08:26 PM

In my case,

thinking maybe wedding dinner lesser table, lesser wine, wedding band no need, album maybe find a friend with good discount (make some friends with photographers first ), car can try to borrow.

On the other hand, dowry, honeymoon gonna sapu up all the savings made from those adjustment. Wondering when can make up that kind of money to pay for a wedding.

most ppl have parents to assist with the support, or take a personal loan for it

alternatively, just do a cheaper wedding / affordable one

This post has been edited by fuelsave: May 23 2014, 10:33 AM

Lol only close family will give alot la. If normal friends or others some even give minimum RM50,is it still enough to cover?

That's why.. wedding dinner is never a revenue to start with. however it is a memorable moment and the moment for your parents to feel proud

Right, I don't know why some people invited their FRIENDS to their WEDDING but the main objective to collect $$$ from their friends to cover the wedding dinner expenses.

wedding is a time for man to bite the bullet like a man. Having spent some of the cost, interim review left me me wondering from where did I borrow the courage to propose and it surprise that I can actually afford such an amount.
but of course it's also chance to strengthen or break the relationship

This post has been edited by outpace: Jul 2 2014, 06:46 PM

Wedding Album = RM4,500 before add photos
Wedding Ring = 6800 (2 pcs)
Proposal Ring = 11000
Bride Dowry = 15000.00
Ang Pao Disbursement = dunno yet
Wedding Dinner @ 5*Hotel = 40000 (Garden in the afternoon, Dinner at night)
Actual day video & photo = 3000
Other??? (pls list down) =??

This post has been edited by stinky: Jun 26 2014, 07:25 PM

Preparation for my wedding next year just right before GST kick in.


Wedding Album = RM 13k (oversea + local)
Wedding Band = RM5.5 k (include propose ring)
Bride Dowry = 10k (dad insist to pay)
Ang Pao Disbursement = pay the dinner table. if extra she keep it.
Wedding Dinner = 40 tables eta @ RM1.5k (try to reduce the amount of table) dunno can cover anot
Actual day video & photo = photo employ good one RM2.6k (video just employ frenz)
Other??? (pls list down) = ???
Honeymoon = eta rm20k (go UK)

my dad wan no less than 100 tables for the banquet and that is not including my future wife's side of the tables needed.

Haiz... I'm going to married soon. But the expenses made me think twice and I really need to plan well.

100 tables are a lot!

For chinese, normally you can get back your expenses or make profit lol

60 tables + already for family side jor. give and take my dad will wan invite close friends and business partners. there dunno ambik berapa d.

My fiance and I plan to go on a lower budget as we would like to save money to do renovation. In Penang I think you still can do it below RM40k if you don't invite too many people. Do you all know where we can rent bridal gowns and not burn a hole in our budget?

Now a days buying a wedding gown is so cheap compare to renting if you are willing to find it online and take the risk. But the quality, so so only I guess.

Cheers...........

Wedding Album = 2k ( everything freelance and self print at photobook)
Wedding Band = 3k
Bride Dowry =5k ( dad give back 500 ) so 4.5k
Ang Pao Disbursement =
Wedding Dinner = 20K++
Actual day video & photo = 2k
Honeymoon = 5k ( in planning)
other: 5k


i wanna sell off my wedding dress

https://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=3325797&hl=wts have a look here.. i took my prewedding picture in the beach street.
PM me if you interested i can show u my wedding picture with the dress. i can give u the best price

thanks

This post has been edited by yahiko: Dec 22 2014, 01:55 PM

Based on what I noticed from my bridal gown survey, renting is more pricey than buying. Bridal studio at SS2 quoted me MYR900 for renting it. In the end, I bought my gown at a warehouse sale for MYR500.

Wedding photo album RM4.988k (2 gowns, 1 kua, 1 cheongsam for photoshoot, 3 gowns, 1 cheongsam for wedding night)
Wedding band RM3k a pair
Dowry RM18.888k
Wedding dinner RM 74k
Actual day video & photo shooting RM 2k
Emcee RM 2.5k for night
Photobooth RM 1.3k
Live band RM 4k
Dai Kam Lou service RM 3k


This post has been edited by kons: Dec 24 2014, 05:42 PM

Where did you get your gown?

You r clever to buy at warehouse sales, but where got warehouse sales for bridal gown ah?

Nowadays got alot of people sell their gowns online cos they wore it once only. you can search for a group in FB called Preloved

Rental gown equivalent to the cost of you travel to CAN for new dress. Both gown and chinese cheongsam are cheap there, but do not expect like designer's brand unless you want to have expensive wedding

Marry Merry at Cheras. I bought in early 2014...

Was quite lucky to find one, bought at Marry Merry warehouse sale...

thanks , maybe a good input for my fiancee.

she source that one shop in kota damansara actually renting 3 for RM900

This post has been edited by frequency: Jan 7 2015, 09:05 PM

Wedding Album = RM 5200 (just soft copy of photo only at New Zealand)
Wedding Band = RM9500 (1 pair)
Bride Dowry = RM8000
Ang Pao Disbursement = No yet
Wedding Dinner = No yet
Actual day video & photo = No yet
Honeymoon = RM35000 (New Zealand for 26 days)
Other??? (pls list down) =No yet