I've been an anonymous reader of lowyat for quite sometimes, but this is my first time posting here. Because there is an issue which bothers me since last night and I hope to hear some advice from you guys.
I have a steady boyfriend, and we are currently in long distance relationship where he study in the UK.
There are issues here and there but we manage to overcome them eventually. However last night was something really came as a shock to me.
During a recent trip with his friends, he tried to
smoke weed aka marijuana.
When I heard it from him, I cant help but feel mad about it, and my facial expression changed.
He described the whole experience to me, from how they sneaked out from a friend's house and the sort of "high" experience that he felt during the drugs effect. He told me it wasn't something bad as cocaine, and after taking it, one still can focus and actually focus better.
It was his first time smoking weed. He said he just wanted to try, because YOLO.
There won't be second time, he promised.
I am somewhat confused and disappointed by this act of him, he has been a good bf and also a healthy person as a whole as he watch his diet rather strictly and also workout constantly. I feel as if I dont know him as much as I thought.
We nearly have an argument about this. Because I sort of attacked him saying "
is it that you want to try to fit in?"
"
what if your friends go to find prostitute?!"
He was rather pissed by my question and asked me don't always question his loyalty..
I used to trust him a lot, until this thing happened. I don't really know his friends background and else but I choose to trust his choice of friends.
Until this moment, although we had stopped debating about this weed issue, there is some part of me still feeling confused and disappointed..
Should I be worried?
TL;DR - BF smoke weed for the first time
- told GF
- GF shocked and angry
- BF said no more next time but GF skeptical
Cannabis / Weed is actually not as dangerous as you think. It's actually safer to smoke weed than cigarettes! Weeds don't really kill, but the effect of getting high might make users do stupid and daring stuff which might lead to death. As a matter of fact, cannabis has been made into drugs. Weed usage is actually very prevalent in Western countries. My friend actually brought weed to the uni gym and offered me free puffs before and I was very tempted to try, as it was kind of legal to do it there but in Malaysia it's totally illegal. I guess he did it in because he knew it is not possible for him to do it in Malaysia without the risk of getting caught. We have been brought up to think weed is a big no no, but it is not actually that serious.
What you can do is to tell him firmly you would prefer him not to smoke weed. And comparing it to prostitution is way off, as doing so means betraying your trust/relationship. By the way, your boyfriend is good enough to tell you what he did and a lasting relationship is not just about love, but trust and understanding as well.