hmmm been in LDR and following this thread for soem time but didnt participate 3rd time im away from her but for 3 months only, and im back for good

Spare him the pain? Chinese says short pain is better than long pain? Hmm.. story?

Hmn...well, I think both of you must be ready in terms of mentally. Both of you might face the similar problem as mine (distance problem) and from that major problem, all the small small problems will occur especially during those special occasion (valentines, xmas, your / his birthday etc) or when you/he is sad/facing problem. Both of you should really discuss over the matter seriously whether both of you will remain as friends / wish to continue the relationship as couple..

1) If remain as friends, then both of you are not committed to each other and have the freedom to have other gf/bf

2) Remain as couple, then both of you are restricted and committed to each other

Discuss whether both of you are prepared to meet just once in year and for a very short time and be separated for a long time then only can meet again. Actually from my experience, both must really have the same strong mentality and will to make the relationship to succeed as if one party has taken a step back/ doubt in the relationship, no matter how hard the other party works on it, sooner or later the relationship might also fail.

Good luck ya 

Happy birthday jdreamer

OMG japan round trip ar?

What is it about how you look that may attract unwanted attention?

Have you told him about your parents? What does he has in his mind? Or you're trying to solve this alone?

Well, be firm with what you're doing. Try to do something to assure your parents that you two will be doing well in this LDR. Hmmmm...

Glad to hear that he isn't distracted because of the distance. Since both of you are willing to give it a try, I'll say that stay on. Try to win your parents' heart instead of ending this off.

Though I don't know any good ways, try to convince your parents.

Clearly your parents are insisting on that for your own interests. They want to make sure you have no distractions whatsoever. Nada. Zero. I dont know what can be done in such a short time.

Perhaps you could try to prove to them (before you pack and leave somehow) that you both can manage it. If you both are serious enough then perhaps, you could call him and then let your parents talk to him? =/ Bleh .. might not be such a good idea after all. I'll have to think. But one thing i do think you should do is inform him about the matter if he doesn't already know.

A very logical way of thinking and in the long run could be the least stressful method. I guess your parents are looking after your own interests.

my salute to all those who are involved in this LDR....