i call her often. Sometimes im afraid i call her too much. I do buy stuffs for her. I even made a few stuffs myself and send it to her. I never went back except once a year in Spring, but since this year, i go back twice already., and planning to go back in october too.... :sigh:

i'm not sure but i think that's when friends play an important role here, get all the contact numbers of her housemates as she is not living with the parents. her housemates or close friends will be the one who can help in case of any emergency, you get the idea?

yeah...i have a few...her closest frens....
but she is the type of girl who doesnt like to involve personal matters with frens.She is Aries, and i believe it to be an Aries trait...being very secretive and not mixing ,differentiating fren and personal matters. and most of the time, fren comes 1st.

(is this true to all girls or just Aries? girls i used to be with and my gf now, and girls i used to like , 90 percent of them are Aries)

Anyway...if i really got worried to much(waited for hours or so)...and everything else fails..then can only i call. if i dont have a good reason to call...things will turn nasty.

I told her the what i can do(from here) in case of emergency....but still i think i cant do much!!
What other thing can i do to protect my girl? I gave her a pepper spray oso. Reli worried about her well-being.

This post has been edited by quiksilver: Sep 30 2006, 01:41 PM

Of course la..More than welcomed.

quiksilver,
from the way you described, it seems like you've done all the you could do. since you are in LDR, there is indeed some limitation to the things that you can do. and when this happens, i guess, both party needs to accept and compromise. well, if she doesnt want you to get all worried about her, maybe she indeed make you less worry by telling you where she goes and things like that. as for you, try to have some trust in her, as in believe her of being capable of taking care of herself. hey, there might be crime here, but doesnt mean Malaysia is so unsafe mah... crime happens everywhere and in every country mah... dont be too over worried, ok?

thanx miyoko.
ill do my best to be her best.Trusting her in taking care of herself is not an easy thing to do.But ill do my best. U see....she just moved in into a new apartment with her fren...just the 2 of them. The area is secluded, and in the building not many people around yet. I went to see her new home when i was in Mesia (that time she hasnt moved yet) they dont even have street lights at some places.
Sometimes her housemate leaves her alone to her hometown..esp weekends....
Thats why i worry liao.

Pretty girl, alone. Just damned worry.

Thanx for ur advice...ill do my best!

wow,its so quiet here nowadays..

Haha, maybe all couples are having nice and peaceful relationships. Anyway, it's a good sign!

Not really. I went missing for a few days before my breakup too. *touch wood* ... Good luck guys..

yeah, i understand that. but since you have even bought him a pepper spray, then i think it's enough liao. well, maybe buy her a personal alarm also?

*miyoko touches wood*
jdreamer,
dont be pesimistic, ok? how are you doing? do take care oh.

Not doing well, I went to check with the doctor for my current health. He said that I have clinical depression... and now, Im having flu. Btw, I lost 11kg...

This post has been edited by jdreamer: Oct 3 2006, 11:15 AM

losing weight is normal. i lost a lot of weight in the beginning of my break up. however, as you recover and slowly adapt, you'll gain back your weight. dont worry.

depression? hmm... i guess you ought to talk more to your friends and have more outing activities and destress yourself more. dont constrain yourself into remembering about the break up and dont force yourself into forgetting about it. cos the more you try to forget it, the harder it is to let go. because by doing so, you are actually subconsciously reminding yourself to it. try to relax and do more activities that you like, ok? find some new hobby to start off with. you've got all of us here.

true...
i lost more than 10 kgs after break-up....
kept indoors most of the time....
no difference between nite and day for me....
when i do have a chance to go out (have to), the sunlight hurts my eyes.

depression....
but slowly ull regain urself...
u have to.

Was hoping to lose weight, but not thru breakup!!
I have bipolar disorder, that causes my honey to go crazy also sometimes.. so, guess I have to control my temper and depression a lot to keep our relationship alive. Right now, we are trying hard to control each other's temper. Ya.. my honey have bad temper too.. so... sigh...

what's bipolar disorder? care to explain?

Bipolar disorder

geez....did i had this?
do i still have this?

i did thought of suicide b4.

wah,lost 11 kg..during june this year when my gf wanted to break up with me,i lost about 6kg's and diarhhoea for almost two months.now im skinny like lidi.

thanks quiksilver. bipolar disorder is kind of scary. sui teng, hope you recover fast fast oh.

i read the symptoms...
i think i have it liao...

but dont everyone get the same symptoms oso?

just me eh?

no worr... well at times, i do feel helpless lah, but not to the stage of suicidal. i dont dare to suicide, cos it's painful lah... scared!!