why such requirements "2 books a week"?

sounds immature.. u dont put a requirement for love.. it doesn't work that way.

"1 Corinthians 13:4-8

New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

what you're expecting is just self-seeking.. love is about sacrifice, trust, hope, perseverance towards the other. If you can find a man that knows such things and treat you like this.. you are already in good hands.

i'm a married guy so I know what I'm talking about. No point u find a guy that read 2 books a week, can get along well with you but ends up it doesn't lasts.

heard of stories of a wife earning more than a man, and the man only earns like peanut but they remain as a happy family? Or a man super rich marries a kampung girl and yet they have kids and remain happy? Or 2 very poor ppl fighting to make ends meet but they still continue on as a happy family? Do they set such min/max criteria? No they dont.. it's the commitment, the sacrifice, the time, the afford, the preserverance, the patience they put in to make it work.

Love is like sowing a plant, starts off from a mere seed, after putting it in the soil, cultivating it, and giving it all it needs it blossoms to a full and healthy plant. Continuous effort to take good care of it is necessary else it might just wither and die.. if both of you can do that then that's truly love.

Many marriages in the west dont lasts coz they forgot the true meaning of love.. they get in fast only to realize they want out asap or wanna choose someone better. Thats not how the way it should be...

yeah went through 6 mths of PMC at church (premaritial class),

went through marriage life and found out wife has "hidden" attitudes and bad personalities, which i need to face and go through, and try my best to improve her.

having a 2 mth old kid now which cries alot, me and wife have to sacrifice alot of time, afford, giving up alot of own time to take care of him..

went through lots of arguments, ups and downs with her

living wif my mum just make things more complicated

but we're doing well.. coz of the things I just mentioned in my post.. the PMC really prepared us for the unexpected else we both might end up in a worse shape.

marriage life is not easy. dating is only a sneak-peek. Many things will change once you both are together for so long + kids changing the landscape further.

@NXJ

I dont have to read all 50 pages as I lack the time.. doing u a favor by giving u golden advice (which u will thank me for once u go through yourself someday). And I dont find the 3:16 funny, seeing such reply is like seeing how a recently grad college student/ stubborn atheist would reply someone.. and u think good guys will like such an attitude?

This post has been edited by Davidtcf: Jan 16 2014, 02:59 PM