The 1.3 CTD problems are rare to me too,maybe because my comp is somewhat new.

But if you take a look at forums or message boards around the world,you will noticed that almost 1/3 or half of the bf2 community is having this stupid join game CTD problem.

EA gives chicken shit about your email,go sign some petition and hoped EA/DICE will somehow pay micro attention to it.If not f*ck vanilla,and wait for the mods.That is pretty much what i'm doing now,bf2 just took a severe blow from 1.3

and i believe the patch is responsible for the server crashes i had been experiencing nowadays,judging by some of the post made by people who run servers in other forums.