Have any of you (mods and admins), confronted a member of the Lowyat forums face to face to discuss issues at hand?

With only pure, table discussions, and nothing more.

Meaning they will avoid honest, face-to-face discussions whenever possible? That can't be right.

I'm sure they simply do not care, thinking "it's just an idiot in the forums who wastes his time trying to make it serious".

Yes, I know what all of you are thinking. In fairness, I should also ignore you as well in order to proceed accordingly with our lives, except that you assume that everyone is wilfully ignorant about those things that make us human.

I will use your post to quote and to answer to all those who seemed to be curious about this thread.

Online discussions are prone to instantaneous, self-removal from the discussion. Meaning if one can simply bail from the discussion because he/she has nothing to say.

Organic, verbal discussions on the other hand, means that instant response will be required, leaving no room for escape from the discussion. The point of the discussion is to reach a conclusion, and unlike online discussions, you cannot simply log off from an organic discussion. You take your time to think during the discussion before you speak, but know this...there will be no bailing out. Conclusions must be drawn, and both parties of the discussion must accept it.

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Added on October 28, 2012, 9:36 amYou see how nobody replies after a while? This is why I prefer to face-face conversations. Instantaneous response, and no-nonsense.

This post has been edited by Deadlocks: Oct 28 2012, 09:36 AM

You may be true, but it reflects badly on the person to simply leave the discussion without a proper understanding of both sides.

Plus, it will be impolite to just leave a discussion hanging without a mutual agreement of a conclusion drawn in the discussion.

Imagine a job-interview situation. Each party will be required to make a good, acceptable, courteous impression.

That means, with an organic conversation, people may not give you immediate answers, but immediate responses can be defined clearly. That is why in online discussions, people can say things like brb, or afk whenever they wish to ignore you, and if they ever come back they can pretend as if they were really away being busy about something.

However, in real life conversation, you can't do that. You are glued to your seat, and if you simply leave without a mutual agreement during the discussion, you will be seen as discourteous. Again I will say, imagine a situation like a job-interview, or even a courtroom meeting where you will be required to attend, and only allowed to leave where conclusions and agreements are reached in both sides.

This post has been edited by Deadlocks: Oct 28 2012, 10:24 AM

It is easier to remove yourself in the midst of an online conversation. Not so in real life. That's why.

And don't worry. I am not bringing a lawyer into the conversation.