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do u let ur parents know how much u earn?
TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 07:45 AM, updated 12y ago
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My aunty and my cousin gaduh2 last weekend. My aunty asked my cousin how much she earns cos my aunty wants to see if my cousin cukup makan. Especially since my cousin 30+ years old still no car always gaduh2 with younger sis to use family car. My cousin gave my aunty dirty look and said "non of ur business". My aunty rage and complaint to my mom. Then my mom feel serba salah cos last week my mom told my aunty that I tell my mom everything- how much I earn, how much bonus I get, how much my bf earns, how much bonus my bf gets. I tell her cos I know she just wants to see if me n my bf are financially stable. She's not the kind relies on her children's money.
Do u guys tell ur parents ur income? Or is it a sensitive issue? Why ah?
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SUSdantck
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Sep 3 2012, 07:47 AM
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so old already thats why
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SUSYameteOniichan
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Sep 3 2012, 07:48 AM
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I know the exact detail of all my parents money belongings, land, etc.
Likewise, they know the exact detail of MY money, belongings, land, etc.
There is no point hiding this information from own family.
But if its auntie, dont tell them.
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 07:52 AM
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QUOTE(YameteOniichan @ Sep 3 2012, 07:48 AM) I know the exact detail of all my parents money belongings, land, etc. Likewise, they know the exact detail of MY money, belongings, land, etc. There is no point hiding this information from own family. But if its auntie, dont tell them. I dont know how much my parents have. Never asked, I got no share anyway cos we told them to spend everything, dont bother leaving for us. My mom didnt tell my auntie my income. Itu sensitive lo. After my cousin kena bamboo IF I earn more. My cousin n I same age so her mother tends to use me as a benchmark.
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Boldnut
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Sep 3 2012, 07:55 AM
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their WILL detail I also know. lol Theres is nothing to hide.
but if relative = GTFO. I got shitty money eye relative anyway.
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old_and_slow
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Sep 3 2012, 07:56 AM
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QUOTE(YameteOniichan @ Sep 3 2012, 07:48 AM) I know the exact detail of all my parents money belongings, land, etc. Likewise, they know the exact detail of MY money, belongings, land, etc. There is no point hiding this information from own family. But if its auntie, dont tell them. this is a must, even i know my grandfather's assets etc. last time he broke down after losses in stock market, we managed to help him because we know what we can do.
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SUSJeggaSimple
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Sep 3 2012, 07:58 AM
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QUOTE(YameteOniichan @ Sep 3 2012, 07:48 AM) I know the exact detail of all my parents money belongings, land, etc. Likewise, they know the exact detail of MY money, belongings, land, etc. There is no point hiding this information from own family. But if its auntie, dont tell them. Yes. Agree. Some things are meant to be shared with your own family only.
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duckhole
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Sep 3 2012, 08:00 AM
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QUOTE(JeggaSimple @ Sep 3 2012, 07:58 AM) Yes. Agree. Some things are meant to be shared with your own family only. like you running naked infront of them
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Monya Meow Meow
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Sep 3 2012, 08:05 AM
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My aunt - NO My parents - YES
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SUSJeggaSimple
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Sep 3 2012, 08:05 AM
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QUOTE(duckhole @ Sep 3 2012, 08:00 AM) like you running naked infront of them Done that endless time. Me as a toddler last time.
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pisces88
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Sep 3 2012, 08:07 AM
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Aiyo~ ur bf earn hw much n hw much bonus u don't share wit ur mum ma.. Haha
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Boldnut
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Sep 3 2012, 08:09 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 07:52 AM) I dont know how much my parents have. Never asked, I got no share anyway cos we told them to spend everything, dont bother leaving for us. My mom didnt tell my auntie my income. Itu sensitive lo. After my cousin kena bamboo IF I earn more. My cousin n I same age so her mother tends to use me as a benchmark. benchmark parents..... lol..... what kind of parents is this? FAIL one? I tot one must not compare with others but only urself.
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azlansani
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Sep 3 2012, 08:09 AM
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QUOTE(Monya Meow Meow @ Sep 3 2012, 08:05 AM) My aunt - NO My parents - YES
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heavenly91
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Sep 3 2012, 08:29 AM
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Obviously la. Own parents cannot disclose?
I think your cousin can afford a car but stingy fcuk. That's why.
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 08:38 AM
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QUOTE(pisces88 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:07 AM) Aiyo~ ur bf earn hw much n hw much bonus u don't share wit ur mum ma.. Haha hahahahaa, my mother kapoh only la. it's ok cos his parents also know how much i earn etc. we're very open.
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 08:41 AM
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QUOTE(Boldnut @ Sep 3 2012, 08:09 AM) benchmark parents..... lol..... what kind of parents is this? FAIL one? I tot one must not compare with others but only urself. fat hopes! depends on the parents lo. my parents r ok if i earn less than my cousins since my grades always bungkus compared to my cousins. i was a very "ponteng sekolah" kind of child.
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dude1218
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Sep 3 2012, 08:41 AM
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aunty only meet them once a year....never tell them parents sure yes
This post has been edited by dude1218: Sep 3 2012, 08:41 AM
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 08:43 AM
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QUOTE(heavenly91 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:29 AM) Obviously la. Own parents cannot disclose? I think your cousin can afford a car but stingy fcuk. That's why. ya, she's a bit of a yuppie. all her money goes to varies cafes/pubs at bangsar/changkat BB, her VERY extensive clothes and her prada, gucci, dior, burberry & LV. obviously cannot afford car la.
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Boldnut
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Sep 3 2012, 08:45 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:41 AM) fat hopes! depends on the parents lo. my parents r ok if i earn less than my cousins since my grades always bungkus compared to my cousins. i was a very "ponteng sekolah" kind of child. oh yeah... tell ur parents next time not to boost ur "success" so much. Keep low profile. This might indirectly help ur kesian cousin. ur mom telling ur aunty is got some part of "contribution" to this "problem"
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heavenly91
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Sep 3 2012, 08:46 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:43 AM) ya, she's a bit of a yuppie. all her money goes to varies cafes/pubs at bangsar/changkat BB, her VERY extensive clothes and her prada, gucci, dior, burberry & LV. obviously cannot afford car la. This type of ppl are hopeless. Already so old and yet sharing car with ppl. My gosh. If I were your auntie I will chase her out from the house. My father also got tell us (siblings that) If we want tumpang his house can, but nvr ask money from him. If tumpang house but still want ask money he say will chase us out frm his house.
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fantasy1989
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Sep 3 2012, 08:48 AM
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my parents know my income
i know my parents income (approx)
relative? NO ...even grandma i also didnt say liao ...she is blood sucker ...sucked lot of money from my dad then just dump the money to my worthless cheongster uncle (he married)
if just give my grandma then i am OK..but wtf man ....somemore my grandma is helping him to go cheong by asking money from dad ..say sini sakit sana sakit
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Boldnut
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Sep 3 2012, 08:52 AM
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QUOTE(fantasy1989 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:48 AM) my parents know my income i know my parents income (approx) relative? NO ...even grandma i also didnt say liao ...she is blood sucker ...sucked lot of money from my dad then just dump the money to my worthless cheongster uncle (he married) if just give my grandma then i am OK..but wtf man ....somemore my grandma is helping him to go cheong by asking money from dad ..say sini sakit sana sakit I feel u bro... I got 12 relative families. 7 of them is money eye.... 2 of the 7 is blood sucking leach from my family. This post has been edited by Boldnut: Sep 3 2012, 08:53 AM
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kepompong
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Sep 3 2012, 08:53 AM
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sure my parents will be the 1st to know.
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fantasy1989
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Sep 3 2012, 08:56 AM
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QUOTE(Boldnut @ Sep 3 2012, 08:52 AM) I feel u bro... I got 12 relative families. 7 of them is money eye.... 2 of the 7 is blood sucking leach from my family. if just care grandma then OK la(she is my dad mother= similar to next time i care my mom) ...and kuih money isnt that much also ..but now is give the money to her ..then she transfer the money to my uncle ...daffak? ...my uncle 40+ liao,married and got 2 sons (14 years old) ..but still jobless ..just once awhile go take some work n do ..1 week atleast 2 times go cheong why should i/my dad give him money go cheong? ..i take that money go cheong better PS: he 1 month baru kasi RM400 to his waifu as household expenses ...so my dad macam feeding 10 ppl This post has been edited by fantasy1989: Sep 3 2012, 08:58 AM
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Boldnut
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Sep 3 2012, 09:04 AM
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QUOTE(fantasy1989 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:56 AM) if just care grandma then OK la(she is my dad mother= similar to next time i care my mom) ...and kuih money isnt that much also ..but now is give the money to her ..then she transfer the money to my uncle ...daffak? ...my uncle 40+ liao,married and got 2 sons (14 years old) ..but still jobless ..just once awhile go take some work n do ..1 week atleast 2 times go cheong why should i/my dad give him money go cheong? ..i take that money go cheong better PS: he 1 month baru kasi RM400 to his waifu as household expenses ...so my dad macam feeding 10 ppl I already terminate my "relativeship" with them(those 2 leachers). Might wanna terminate the other 5 as well. This post has been edited by Boldnut: Sep 3 2012, 09:05 AM
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fantasy1989
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Sep 3 2012, 09:07 AM
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QUOTE(Boldnut @ Sep 3 2012, 09:04 AM) I already terminate my "relativeship" with them(those 2 leachers). Might wanna terminate the other 5 as well. i just wait my grandma go heaven nia ..then i dont even want give a fark to them ...they wont learn 1 ...if we cabut ..their family will farked upside down they tongkat too long already ..used to it ...suddenly if no more tongkat ..sure collapsed 1
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heavenly91
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Sep 3 2012, 09:08 AM
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QUOTE(fantasy1989 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:07 AM) i just wait my grandma go heaven nia ..then i dont even want give a fark to them ...they wont learn 1 ...if we cabut ..their family will farked upside down they tongkat too long already ..used to it ...suddenly if no more tongkat ..sure collapsed 1 And I thought only my family have this problem
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fantasy1989
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Sep 3 2012, 09:10 AM
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QUOTE(heavenly91 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:08 AM) And I thought only my family have this problem brohug.jpg all family have their own problem la ...just i very pening to him ..if jobless OK la ..go find lo ...then be a responsible man ..not just pump some cum to his waifu body the problem now is ..if he earn money OR not ..he also asking my grandma to take money from my dad (extra income) ...i am not living with my grandma ...then my dad just treat hiring personal security guard to care my grandma i think 10 years be4 ..my dad kena very gai..then we got plan to shift back to grandma house to live(my grandma house is belongs to my dad 1) ...my uncle quickly show their face and REFUSED we shift back ..at the end we managed to overcome that issue(money) ..then now getting better n better ..he baru show his face and be polite This post has been edited by fantasy1989: Sep 3 2012, 09:12 AM
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peri peri
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Sep 3 2012, 09:11 AM
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my income is BIG, im no sensitive
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heavenly91
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Sep 3 2012, 09:12 AM
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QUOTE(fantasy1989 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:10 AM) brohug.jpg all family have their own problem la ...just i very pening to him ..if jobless OK la ..go find lo ...then be a responsible man ..not just pump some cum to his waifu body the problem now is ..if he earn money OR not ..he also asking my grandma to take money from my dad (extra income) ...i am not living with my grandma ...then my dad just treat hiring personal security guard to care my grandma Luckily my father adi teach us to be responsible to ourselves. I dun think my siblings will be like tat next time haha. He somemore say will halau us from the house if any of us a leecher. FUuu lega.jpg
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yahiko
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Sep 3 2012, 09:13 AM
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tell parent is nothing la.. but other relative u can give a bit bit info ( incorrect info also nvm ) just to shut them up
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fantasy1989
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Sep 3 2012, 09:14 AM
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QUOTE(heavenly91 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:12 AM) Luckily my father adi teach us to be responsible to ourselves. I dun think my siblings will be like tat next time haha. He somemore say will halau us from the house if any of us a leecher. FUuu lega.jpg good ..my siblings also no la ...if cousin then i tak tahu
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max_cjs0101
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Sep 3 2012, 09:14 AM
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Tarp hater and detector
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I would feel betrayed if my gf tells her mom how much i earn.
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debbierowe
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Sep 3 2012, 09:14 AM
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of cos, every promotion and every pay rise i 1st one tell my mum. when handled special project and got project bonus i straight away fwd her the email of my project bonus payouts
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fantasy1989
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Sep 3 2012, 09:15 AM
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QUOTE(max_cjs0101 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:14 AM) I would feel betrayed if my gf tells her mom how much i earn. somehow quite true ..if range then is OK ..but exact amount = NO
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heavenly91
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Sep 3 2012, 09:15 AM
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QUOTE(max_cjs0101 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:14 AM) I would feel betrayed if my gf tells her mom how much i earn. What's wrong with salary ? I can't brain this. It is just a figure. I dun see any reason to be sensitive. QUOTE(fantasy1989 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:14 AM) good ..my siblings also no la ...if cousin then i tak tahu Nvm later when your grandma sudah go heaven (not cursing) maybe u all can stop feeding those garbage d. This post has been edited by heavenly91: Sep 3 2012, 09:16 AM
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Quasi-Suave
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Sep 3 2012, 09:16 AM
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Parents yes, even down to how much bonus I get for a particular year.
Other people - None of their business.
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fantasy1989
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Sep 3 2012, 09:18 AM
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QUOTE(heavenly91 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:15 AM) What's wrong with salary ? I can't brain this. It is just a figure. I dun see any reason to be sensitive. Nvm later when your grandma sudah go heaven (not cursing) maybe u all can stop feeding those garbage d. yup ..my dad also said "just give my grandma face" only ...worst thing is my grandma is HELPING my uncle to suck more money from my dad which made me also hate my grandma pamper son also not in that way
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heavenly91
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Sep 3 2012, 09:19 AM
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QUOTE(fantasy1989 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:18 AM) yup ..my dad also said "just give my grandma face" only ...worst thing is my grandma is HELPING my uncle to suck more money from my dad which made me also hate my grandma pamper son also not in that way What goes around come around. A bad apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I wouldn't be suprised if your cousin will be like that. Just be prepared.
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debbierowe
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Sep 3 2012, 09:21 AM
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QUOTE(max_cjs0101 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:14 AM) I would feel betrayed if my gf tells her mom how much i earn. my parents know during the time when he asked for my hands , but later on increment and his business growth till now i dont think they know anymore. maybe i should tell him its time for an update liao. lol
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 09:22 AM
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QUOTE(Boldnut @ Sep 3 2012, 08:45 AM) oh yeah... tell ur parents next time not to boost ur "success" so much. Keep low profile. This might indirectly help ur kesian cousin. ur mom telling ur aunty is got some part of "contribution" to this "problem" my mother accidently la. she tot its normal for children to tell their parents cos me n my bros very open. i got no success, nothing to boast. normal income girl only
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Boldnut
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Sep 3 2012, 09:24 AM
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QUOTE(heavenly91 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:19 AM) What goes around come around. A bad apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I wouldn't be suprised if your cousin will be like that. Just be prepared. out of my 7 retard relative family I got, already produce 6 morons cousins. This post has been edited by Boldnut: Sep 3 2012, 09:26 AM
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 09:24 AM
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QUOTE(heavenly91 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:46 AM) This type of ppl are hopeless. Already so old and yet sharing car with ppl. My gosh. If I were your auntie I will chase her out from the house. My father also got tell us (siblings that) If we want tumpang his house can, but nvr ask money from him. If tumpang house but still want ask money he say will chase us out frm his house. cannot chase her out of house la. after she comes live with me and kacau my romantic time with my bf
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Boldnut
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Sep 3 2012, 09:25 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:22 AM) my mother accidently la. she tot its normal for children to tell their parents cos me n my bros very open. i got no success, nothing to boast. normal income girl only ur "normal" can Prove other's "failure". So ask ur mom careful next time This post has been edited by Boldnut: Sep 3 2012, 09:27 AM
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fantasy1989
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Sep 3 2012, 09:25 AM
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QUOTE(heavenly91 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:19 AM) What goes around come around. A bad apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I wouldn't be suprised if your cousin will be like that. Just be prepared. dont even give a fark to them ..i also not always talk with my UNCLE cousin ...btw ..now i also earning money already ..so my dad + my salary around 5 figure ..my grandma/uncle recently plan to suck money from me ..but too bad ..i wont (give tonne of reason then say tak ada wang) and ya ...recently my uncle wife purposed to my dad to support his son further study ...if really happen ..shitstorm coming ...my elder sister sure rage 1 This post has been edited by fantasy1989: Sep 3 2012, 09:26 AM
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 09:26 AM
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QUOTE(max_cjs0101 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:14 AM) I would feel betrayed if my gf tells her mom how much i earn. my bf very cincai, i also very cincai. both sets of parents know our income. they just worried only cos my bf n i like buying stuff, they scared we go bankrupt! hahahahaha!
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heavenly91
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Sep 3 2012, 09:28 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:24 AM) cannot chase her out of house la. after she comes live with me and kacau my romantic time with my bf Leechers.. QUOTE(Boldnut @ Sep 3 2012, 09:24 AM) out of my 7 retard relative family I got, already produce 6 morons cousins. Life sux. QUOTE(fantasy1989 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:25 AM) dont even give a fark to them ..i also not always talk with my UNCLE cousin ...btw ..now i also earning money already ..so my dad + my salary around 5 figure ..my grandma/uncle recently plan to suck money from me ..but too bad ..i wont (give tonne of reason then say tak ada wang) and ya ...recently my uncle wife purposed to my dad to support his son further study ...if really happen ..shitstorm coming ...my elder sister sure rage 1 Really thick skin @@
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debbierowe
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Sep 3 2012, 09:28 AM
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i think its important to let our parents know our salary la... after all we are their "product" they want to gauge how is their product worth in the market also
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 09:32 AM
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QUOTE(debbierowe @ Sep 3 2012, 09:28 AM) i think its important to let our parents know our salary la... after all we are their "product" they want to gauge how is their product worth in the market also i think most (unfortunately not all) parents r being concern only. to make sure ur children r spending within their means and do not require a lecture on financial planning.
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xsan
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Sep 3 2012, 09:32 AM
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yes.. but when Aunty/Uncle ask told i got bigger salary
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 09:35 AM
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QUOTE(Boldnut @ Sep 3 2012, 09:25 AM) ur "normal" can Prove other's "failure". So ask ur mom careful next time ya lor. told her already. she very blur blur sometimes. too innocent, dont know how to filter stuff.
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fantasy1989
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Sep 3 2012, 09:36 AM
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QUOTE(Boldnut @ Sep 3 2012, 09:24 AM) out of my 7 retard relative family I got, already produce 6 morons cousins. brace yourself QUOTE(heavenly91 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:28 AM) Leechers.. Life sux. Really thick skin @@ thick face level ICI ...and my uncle wife also retarded 1 ...never feel ashamed when taking money from OTHER people husband and yes ..she did REFUSED we shift back to my grandma house that time when my family having problem PS: that house is under my name and they dont even have 1 house ...ada wang then beli kereta and spend like boss ...0 planning ..i wondering why my uncle wife willing to follow that junk This post has been edited by fantasy1989: Sep 3 2012, 09:40 AM
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debbierowe
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Sep 3 2012, 09:37 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:32 AM) i think most (unfortunately not all) parents r being concern only. to make sure ur children r spending within their means and do not require a lecture on financial planning. hate to say this but got to say this, mostly chinese parents. most my malay friends, since secondary school already didn't ask for allowance from the parents. and when in uni, i was with most scholars, and those gov scholarship department can be really painful to deal with, sometime 3 months also not yet give us living expenses, chinese will always get the emergency aids from parents while my malay friends they will never asked. i asked them how they survived? they said 'boleh punya, sudah biasa, hari hari makan 1 kali saje"
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SUSsharpex
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Sep 3 2012, 09:39 AM
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i only my parent know my basic income, which 1 year ago. After that i never tell them the increment i got even its >RM900.
But i did up the amount token of appreciation to them every month.
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 09:40 AM
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QUOTE(heavenly91 @ Sep 3 2012, 09:28 AM) Leechers.. most stuff she is ok actually, quite nice & fun. only her financial planning suxs. sometimes i worry for her. almost mid 30s, single, no house, no car, no savings. if one day anything happens to her parents or their house (touch wood), i dont know how she is going to handle it.
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Boldnut
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Sep 3 2012, 09:44 AM
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one of them, hutang mai dad moneh pun tak bayar balik, even nearly/almost got my dad(when young) kena sue bankrupt from bank. cos my dad retard become his LOAN guarantor, now somemore wanna backstab stuff infront of my grandparents lolz
some people are have sooo amazing attitude lol.....
This post has been edited by Boldnut: Sep 3 2012, 10:12 AM
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 09:44 AM
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QUOTE(debbierowe @ Sep 3 2012, 09:37 AM) hate to say this but got to say this, mostly chinese parents. most my malay friends, since secondary school already didn't ask for allowance from the parents. and when in uni, i was with most scholars, and those gov scholarship department can be really painful to deal with, sometime 3 months also not yet give us living expenses, chinese will always get the emergency aids from parents while my malay friends they will never asked. i asked them how they survived? they said 'boleh punya, sudah biasa, hari hari makan 1 kali saje" ya i agree. she lives with her parents (her parents quite comfortable middle class), they got two maids (i really dont understand y u need 2) to do all the housework, she shares "community" car with her younger sister (that's y always gaduh besar at home, everyone fighting for the car), all household expenses paid by parents, her salary is for clothes and cafes. good life actually, i jelly
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debbierowe
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Sep 3 2012, 09:46 AM
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QUOTE(Boldnut @ Sep 3 2012, 09:44 AM) one of them, hutang mai dad moneh pun to bayar balik, even nearly/almost got my dad kena sue bankrupt from bank. cos my dad retard become his LOAN guarantor, now somemore wanna backstab stuff infront of my grandparents lolz some people are have sooo amazing attitude lol..... relative hutang is unrecoverable one... my uncle also asked my parents to borrow RM8k to him, my parents asked my advice. i just told them, i cannot say "yes" or "no" since you guys r the elderly. I can only tell u one thing , u must be prepared those money you will never get back once u lend to them.
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Exiled_Gundam
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Sep 3 2012, 09:51 AM
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Haha my parents only knew about my true income just recently when I'm applying for house loan. I didn't tell them the actual amount last time, otherwise they will ask where's most of the money went since I spent little on food, clothing and transportation. The rest goes to my hobby Which I know they won't approve
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WannaGetBuffed
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Sep 3 2012, 10:13 AM
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Shouldn't u be married by now?
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Boldnut
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Sep 3 2012, 10:13 AM
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QUOTE(debbierowe @ Sep 3 2012, 09:46 AM) relative hutang is unrecoverable one... my uncle also asked my parents to borrow RM8k to him, my parents asked my advice. i just told them, i cannot say "yes" or "no" since you guys r the elderly. I can only tell u one thing , u must be prepared those money you will never get back once u lend to them. already said, I already "strangerzone" them. I trust my best friend more than them lol.
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peinsama
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Sep 3 2012, 10:14 AM
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well.....
im not going to tell my mum im a mercenary..so no.
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kenji1903
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Sep 3 2012, 10:15 AM
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my parents only know my salary when i started to work... i stopped telling them when they kept restricting and telling me how to spend my money... giving me their financial advices, etc and expecting me to comply i think keeping a certain amount of secrecy especially on money is healthy... good for everyone... family members tend to jelly if they know what you spend your money on... and will kinda pissed off when you spend your money more on yourself and rather than on them...
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rayng18
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Sep 3 2012, 10:17 AM
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My siblings and I dun mingle with my aunties/uncles or cousins from both sides since grandparents (both sides) passed away, only my mom will occasionally chat with her sisters. All my cousins are well off so nothing to compare so its like (river water don't disturb well water (hor sui pat farn cheng sui)
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kenji1903
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Sep 3 2012, 10:39 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:41 AM) fat hopes! depends on the parents lo. my parents r ok if i earn less than my cousins since my grades always bungkus compared to my cousins. i was a very "ponteng sekolah" kind of child. when you get older, there's nothing else to compare so the kids will be the best item to show off my parents always favor my younger bro more because he's earning aussie dollar... they seldom boast about me (which i think is good), but they are not as proud of me as compared to my younger bro and sis cos both also not earning in Ringgit
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servo
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Sep 3 2012, 11:00 AM
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well... my dad told me right after i grad that i will no longer live in his house anymore and do not dare to ask him for money anymore. in fact, he says he expect me to give him and my mom allowances every month or so, or when i can...
so yes.. my parents knows how much i earn... other relatives... GTFO
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pgsiemkia
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Sep 3 2012, 11:03 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 07:45 AM) My aunty and my cousin gaduh2 last weekend. My aunty asked my cousin how much she earns cos my aunty wants to see if my cousin cukup makan. Especially since my cousin 30+ years old still no car always gaduh2 with younger sis to use family car. My cousin gave my aunty dirty look and said "non of ur business". My aunty rage and complaint to my mom. Then my mom feel serba salah cos last week my mom told my aunty that I tell my mom everything- how much I earn, how much bonus I get, how much my bf earns, how much bonus my bf gets. I tell her cos I know she just wants to see if me n my bf are financially stable. She's not the kind relies on her children's money. Do u guys tell ur parents ur income? Or is it a sensitive issue? Why ah? Not currently cos she shares it with her other kakis and they compare and kutuk if low..
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SUSash tray
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Sep 3 2012, 11:04 AM
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Yes, I let my parents know how much I earn, but before I tell them, I divide what i actually earn by 10
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 11:07 AM
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QUOTE(WannaGetBuffed @ Sep 3 2012, 10:13 AM) Shouldn't u be married by now? not ready yet la
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funnybone
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Sep 3 2012, 11:08 AM
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I made the mistake of telling my mom how much I earn.....now i get bambooed every day and night asking me to get married fast and put more into investments... Even ask me to cut down my drinking and don't mingle with mainland china chicks......headache everyday now
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 11:09 AM
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QUOTE(funnybone @ Sep 3 2012, 11:08 AM) I made the mistake of telling my mom how much I earn.....now i get bambooed every day and night asking me to get married fast and put more into investments... Even ask me to cut down my drinking and don't mingle with mainland china chicks......headache everyday now hahahahahaha, she just wants to see fat grandchildren running around the house
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Renekton
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Sep 3 2012, 11:10 AM
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My parents are disappointed with my pay cos my siblings earn much much higher
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jack~daniel
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Sep 3 2012, 11:12 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 07:45 AM) My aunty and my cousin gaduh2 last weekend. My aunty asked my cousin how much she earns cos my aunty wants to see if my cousin cukup makan. Especially since my cousin 30+ years old still no car always gaduh2 with younger sis to use family car. My cousin gave my aunty dirty look and said "non of ur business". My aunty rage and complaint to my mom. Then my mom feel serba salah cos last week my mom told my aunty that I tell my mom everything- how much I earn, how much bonus I get, how much my bf earns, how much bonus my bf gets. I tell her cos I know she just wants to see if me n my bf are financially stable. She's not the kind relies on her children's money. Do u guys tell ur parents ur income? Or is it a sensitive issue? Why ah? i warned my wife not to tell anything about my financial status, later her mom will tell all her friends and show off how good her son in law
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 11:13 AM
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QUOTE(Renekton @ Sep 3 2012, 11:10 AM) My parents are disappointed with my pay cos my siblings earn much much higher join the gang. i earn about 1/5 of what my brothers earn. dont sweat over it. ur life is ur life, their life is their life. as long as ur income is legal, nothing 2b malu about
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stinger82
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Sep 3 2012, 11:14 AM
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if u tell your parents your income, dont be surprised if they boast around to your relatives.
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 11:14 AM
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QUOTE(stinger82 @ Sep 3 2012, 11:14 AM) if u tell your parents your income, dont be surprised if they boast around to your relatives. my parents not that kind la
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FormalCat
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Sep 3 2012, 11:21 AM
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QUOTE(funnybone @ Sep 3 2012, 11:08 AM) I made the mistake of telling my mom how much I earn.....now i get bambooed every day and night asking me to get married fast and put more into investments... Even ask me to cut down my drinking and don't mingle with mainland china chicks......headache everyday now good la. that means you have earning power for a good future already good for you that your mom is telling you about investment. A lot of people have to poke in the dark and figure out themselves. QUOTE(Renekton @ Sep 3 2012, 11:10 AM) My parents are disappointed with my pay cos my siblings earn much much higher Parents are like this. In school/college always trying to make you into a trophy child. I feel this is wrong. When I kena this sort of treatment I gaduh with them for 2-3 days. House like want to fall apart. After a while they realised what they were doing, comparing people with other people, and they stopped doing it. It's not easy but when the time comes you need to tell them that you are not a trophy child and ask them if they are going to give you moral support or not. When your mind is free of these things, you can progress better in life.
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uNeVErwaLkaloNe
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Sep 3 2012, 11:22 AM
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I did tell my parents how much I earn and I used to update them about my increment but not anymore after they stop asking me.
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 11:27 AM
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QUOTE(uNeVErwaLkaloNe @ Sep 3 2012, 11:22 AM) I did tell my parents how much I earn and I used to update them about my increment but not anymore after they stop asking me. they know u richfag already so they stopped worrying
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kenji1903
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Sep 3 2012, 11:39 AM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 11:27 AM) they know u richfag already so they stopped worrying not sure but i think my parents are asking cos they think i earn more than i tell them it's like they are worrying i'm not giving them enough instead of worrying whether i have enough for myself
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Monya Meow Meow
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Sep 3 2012, 11:43 AM
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QUOTE(kenji1903 @ Sep 3 2012, 10:39 AM) when you get older, there's nothing else to compare so the kids will be the best item to show off my parents always favor my younger bro more because he's earning aussie dollar... they seldom boast about me (which i think is good), but they are not as proud of me as compared to my younger bro and sis cos both also not earning in Ringgit Earning AUD but spend in AUD so nothing much to compare about. Moreover, the tax is a killer... This post has been edited by Monya Meow Meow: Sep 3 2012, 11:43 AM
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Renekton
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Sep 3 2012, 11:44 AM
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QUOTE(Monya Meow Meow @ Sep 3 2012, 11:43 AM) Earning AUD but spend in AUD so nothing much to compare about. Moreover, the tax is a killer... is it 40% now?
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Monya Meow Meow
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Sep 3 2012, 11:45 AM
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QUOTE(Renekton @ Sep 3 2012, 11:44 AM) Depending on what bracket you're in. The max is 46% if I recall
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kenji1903
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Sep 3 2012, 11:46 AM
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QUOTE(Monya Meow Meow @ Sep 3 2012, 11:43 AM) Earning AUD but spend in AUD so nothing much to compare about. Moreover, the tax is a killer... most people including my parents only think converting aussie dollar to ringgit, wah... 3.3x, a lot of money
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kenji1903
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Sep 3 2012, 11:47 AM
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QUOTE(Monya Meow Meow @ Sep 3 2012, 11:45 AM) Depending on what bracket you're in. The max is 46% if I recall they'll deduct max first then rebate back depending on your claims and income bracket... forgot max how much... it was 40% 7-8 years back
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Monya Meow Meow
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Sep 3 2012, 11:48 AM
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QUOTE(kenji1903 @ Sep 3 2012, 11:46 AM) most people including my parents only think converting aussie dollar to ringgit, wah... 3.3x, a lot of money That thinking is kinda valid if your bro or sis sends money back home. If they make a living here in OZ and spends in AUD then not much diff seriously.
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Predator10
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Sep 3 2012, 11:52 AM
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need to tell amount? just tell her whether u're stable or not thats all..
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 12:07 PM
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QUOTE(kenji1903 @ Sep 3 2012, 11:39 AM) not sure but i think my parents are asking cos they think i earn more than i tell them it's like they are worrying i'm not giving them enough instead of worrying whether i have enough for myself serious???!!!
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 12:08 PM
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QUOTE(Predator10 @ Sep 3 2012, 11:52 AM) need to tell amount? just tell her whether u're stable or not thats all.. "stable" got dif interpretations ma.
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taitianhin
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Sep 3 2012, 12:18 PM
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sometimes let them know...sometimes not... i got multiple income source...and i change job n got increment q often...so they only know my past pay...
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Exiled_Gundam
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Sep 3 2012, 12:32 PM
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Haha some friends I know have parents who will insist of sending back more money if income increase...
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vinesh22
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Sep 3 2012, 12:57 PM
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I usually let my mom know everything. Dad is a fukken richfag, still working after 35years, in O&G summore, so yeah, you can imagine. They've never actually asked me for my income though. But even if they did, I'd have no second thoughts on letting them know. Heck, my dad has even sat my brothers and I down and told us what to do in case either he or my mom pass away suddenly, that was years ago, but he still reminds us from time to time, wtf..
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kenji1903
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Sep 3 2012, 01:32 PM
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QUOTE(Monya Meow Meow @ Sep 3 2012, 11:48 AM) That thinking is kinda valid if your bro or sis sends money back home. If they make a living here in OZ and spends in AUD then not much diff seriously. it still beats mine if i give RM300 vs his AUD300 or her SGD300 although we are giving the same based on income, mine fail big time due to exchange rates
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kenji1903
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Sep 3 2012, 01:34 PM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 12:07 PM) serious???!!! last time they tell me need to finish paying up their property first... now they keep telling me don't buy so many properties... you say leh?
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Monya Meow Meow
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Sep 3 2012, 01:51 PM
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QUOTE(kenji1903 @ Sep 3 2012, 01:32 PM) it still beats mine if i give RM300 vs his AUD300 or her SGD300 although we are giving the same based on income, mine fail big time due to exchange rates Yeah as I said, one on one should be about the same but if exchanging all to RM then of course you're at a huge disadvantage
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hmalaya
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Sep 3 2012, 01:59 PM
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in small town, aunties like to compare their kids 'achievement' be it meeting at kopitiam, pasar or road side...
school time...how many As uni time...go which U work time...how much salary
better keep the figure to urself...
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Scar_face
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Sep 3 2012, 02:02 PM
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i tell em..i even tell them if they need extra money just feel free too ask me..i know i earn normal2 only, but i'm the only one left who dont have family..so i think i can survive with few hundred left if i give most of my salary to my parent and of coz they dont ask unless they really need it
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FLampard
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Sep 3 2012, 02:04 PM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 07:45 AM) My aunty and my cousin gaduh2 last weekend. My aunty asked my cousin how much she earns cos my aunty wants to see if my cousin cukup makan. Especially since my cousin 30+ years old still no car always gaduh2 with younger sis to use family car. My cousin gave my aunty dirty look and said "non of ur business". My aunty rage and complaint to my mom. Then my mom feel serba salah cos last week my mom told my aunty that I tell my mom everything- how much I earn, how much bonus I get, how much my bf earns, how much bonus my bf gets. I tell her cos I know she just wants to see if me n my bf are financially stable. She's not the kind relies on her children's money. Do u guys tell ur parents ur income? Or is it a sensitive issue? Why ah? hahaha i tell u, if ur relationship with ur family is good. then ok la. in my maternal family, thats the opposite. my mother dun want let other siblings know much about her earning, else u see those ppl come borrow money or come kacao kacao..
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kenji1903
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Sep 3 2012, 02:26 PM
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QUOTE(Monya Meow Meow @ Sep 3 2012, 01:51 PM) Yeah as I said, one on one should be about the same but if exchanging all to RM then of course you're at a huge disadvantage too bad lor... parent's gave me that feel
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Monya Meow Meow
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Sep 3 2012, 02:40 PM
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QUOTE(kenji1903 @ Sep 3 2012, 02:26 PM) too bad lor... parent's gave me that feel Give your parents RM600 instead of RM300 then
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kenji1903
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Sep 3 2012, 03:02 PM
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QUOTE(Monya Meow Meow @ Sep 3 2012, 02:40 PM) Give your parents RM600 instead of RM300 then i'll give if i can but now memang difficult lar... i need to plan for my retirement...
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gundamsp01
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Sep 3 2012, 03:06 PM
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parents/grandparents yes, others no
yet still saying: "why so little?! must aim higher & earn more!"
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titanz
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Sep 3 2012, 03:20 PM
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tell the "lower amount"....dun let them know the REAL amount
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ar188
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Sep 3 2012, 03:23 PM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 07:45 AM) My aunty and my cousin gaduh2 last weekend. My aunty asked my cousin how much she earns cos my aunty wants to see if my cousin cukup makan. Especially since my cousin 30+ years old still no car always gaduh2 with younger sis to use family car. My cousin gave my aunty dirty look and said "non of ur business". My aunty rage and complaint to my mom. Then my mom feel serba salah cos last week my mom told my aunty that I tell my mom everything- how much I earn, how much bonus I get, how much my bf earns, how much bonus my bf gets. I tell her cos I know she just wants to see if me n my bf are financially stable. She's not the kind relies on her children's money. Do u guys tell ur parents ur income? Or is it a sensitive issue? Why ah? hi ah beth.
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ar188
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Sep 3 2012, 03:24 PM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 11:07 AM) not ready yet la always not ready, dunno when only ready beranak..
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takr
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Sep 3 2012, 03:25 PM
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My wife told her parents - lo and behold they started calculating our epf and even tried to budget our salary.. Then start pressuring us to build house on their land.. Then pressure us to pay their investment properties.. When that failed, start comparing us to their friends sons and daughters.. So nowadays I make it a point not to divulge our financial situation.. You'll never know what people and their agendas are.. Even people closest to you
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patienceGNR
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Sep 3 2012, 03:31 PM
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Sep 3 2012, 07:52 AM) I dont know how much my parents have. Never asked, I got no share anyway cos we told them to spend everything, dont bother leaving for us. My mom didnt tell my auntie my income. Itu sensitive lo. After my cousin kena bamboo IF I earn more. My cousin n I same age so her mother tends to use me as a benchmark. Typical elders. Everything also want to compare. I earn peanut or I earn big sum also nobody cares in my family (that include relatives). I think you should watch the world burn by telling your aunt you earn RM3000 (example) while your cousin earns lesser than you.
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TSBeth79
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Sep 3 2012, 03:32 PM
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QUOTE(ar188 @ Sep 3 2012, 03:24 PM) always not ready, dunno when only ready beranak.. hi ar188! if have also, just have one only. one also damn expensive to feed nowadays. little bloodsuckers, hahahahahaha
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lucifah
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Sep 3 2012, 03:36 PM
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QUOTE(YameteOniichan @ Sep 3 2012, 07:48 AM) I know the exact detail of all my parents money belongings, land, etc. Likewise, they know the exact detail of MY money, belongings, land, etc. There is no point hiding this information from own family. But if its auntie, dont tell them. pass me a copy, would you and please include my name is your will eh, bro... hahaha
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Monya Meow Meow
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Sep 4 2012, 07:27 AM
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QUOTE(kenji1903 @ Sep 3 2012, 03:02 PM) i'll give if i can but now memang difficult lar... i need to plan for my retirement... Must be pretty tight for you I'd imagine So fast plan for retirement? How old are you lolz!
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spunkberry
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Sep 4 2012, 07:29 AM
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discussing starting salary, I think it's okay. other than that, that is personal information
This post has been edited by spunkberry: Sep 4 2012, 07:30 AM
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samlee860407
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Sep 4 2012, 07:58 AM
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QUOTE(kenji1903 @ Sep 3 2012, 11:39 AM) not sure but i think my parents are asking cos they think i earn more than i tell them it's like they are worrying i'm not giving them enough instead of worrying whether i have enough for myself some might troll and BS here with your comment, but i understand how you feel
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SUSPepper
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Sep 4 2012, 08:48 AM
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good reason sometimes not disclose it to anyone, coz sometimes ppl mindfucuk by family members their eyes kena blind by money, hear and see too many case liao fight coz of mooney no more family to be liao.
if parent ask, i just say enough eat liao can watch movie everyweek got 5 figure in bank ken liao, no need say so much
see a case got one sister very rich millionnaire from toto but hide the fact and money in bank from aunties and unkers and only gib parents 10k each, everyday still go work, money go invest no tell everyone only give a little hint but never say too much coz if pipu hear you has many money they turn into a wolves.
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kenji1903
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Sep 4 2012, 09:47 AM
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QUOTE(Monya Meow Meow @ Sep 4 2012, 07:27 AM) Must be pretty tight for you I'd imagine So fast plan for retirement? How old are you lolz! sort off cos planning for a kid next year onwards... need to plan as young as possible... calculate backwards then you'll get shocked how much you actually need
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kenji1903
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Sep 4 2012, 09:49 AM
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QUOTE(samlee860407 @ Sep 4 2012, 07:58 AM) some might troll and BS here with your comment, but i understand how you feel *brohug*
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grumpydrive
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Sep 4 2012, 09:53 AM
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QUOTE(pisces88 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:07 AM) Aiyo~ ur bf earn hw much n hw much bonus u don't share wit ur mum ma.. Haha +1.. LOL INB4 - My younger sister like to brag on how much her gwailo husband earns and how "rich" her father-in-law is. . This post has been edited by grumpydrive: Sep 4 2012, 09:55 AM
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Monya Meow Meow
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Sep 4 2012, 10:14 AM
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QUOTE(kenji1903 @ Sep 4 2012, 09:47 AM) sort off cos planning for a kid next year onwards... need to plan as young as possible... calculate backwards then you'll get shocked how much you actually need Ah ok if you're planning for a kid then I guess it changes everything. All the best man!
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kenji1903
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Sep 4 2012, 11:01 AM
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QUOTE(Monya Meow Meow @ Sep 4 2012, 10:14 AM) Ah ok if you're planning for a kid then I guess it changes everything. All the best man! same to you bro
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JerryTeh
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Sep 4 2012, 11:24 AM
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QUOTE(peri peri @ Sep 3 2012, 09:11 AM) my income is BIG, im no sensitive QUOTE(fantasy1989 @ Sep 3 2012, 08:48 AM) my parents know my income i know my parents income (approx) relative? NO ...even grandma i also didnt say liao ...she is blood sucker ...sucked lot of money from my dad then just dump the money to my worthless cheongster uncle (he married) if just give my grandma then i am OK..but wtf man ....somemore my grandma is helping him to go cheong by asking money from dad ..say sini sakit sana sakit peri peri, big income always scare of leeches
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