Kinda hated this guy now coz never really committed to be with my best friend...
After 12 years together my best friend is almost 35+yrs old...
I feel like he kinda wasted her time and youth...
My best friend confided to me that she wanted to remain single for life now..
I know deep down she is hurt and trying to be strong ...
Feel like punching him right in the face !!!

go n smash him face like HULK...btw wat is the reason anyway..

her picture?

Wow. 12 years together. 35 years old Liao still no plan marry (previously)?

Wtf

drillz?

Reason for the break up is the guy not ready to commit ...
And still havent bought a house is also one of the reason...
Guy keep insisting buy a house before settling down...
Didnt have the courage to punch him though...

I think it's disgusting how men label and women continue to believe the expiry date at 30 years of age bullshit. just because she's 35, it really shouldn't mean that she can never meet another guy.

for the record, I rather he ran now than marry your friend out of obligation and not feelings because that marriage wouldn't last. "better to be divorced than never married" is complete bullshit.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Aug 12 2012, 11:26 PM

There are even situations of 20 years marriage, with kids, suddenly break-ups.

Relationships require many things; maturity, understanding, give-n-take of both sides, etc etc.

Break-ups are not the world's end.

Easier said than done...
10yrs or 20yrs is not 10 or 20 days... not to mention the youth that has gone wasted...
but i admire the courage of those who dare to break up/divorced when feeling is not really there anymore..
not to mention the 2 cases i ve experience where the women with kids dare not divorce even found out husband having extra marital affairs..
for the sake of the kids, togetherness and family reputation...
WOMEN do really suffers in silence !!!

you talk as if women don't cheat. women cheat too, almost as much as men.

only if they let themselves.
please don't make women out to be self-sacrificing martyrs when they let themselves stay in such situations.

lol... i saw yesterday paper's about abused husbands ;D

You think the guy must marry out of obligation? 12 years they in relationship they were happy right. So for 12 years they made each other happy. That's the point. Now find someone else la if not happy any more.

And judging by your post, she dumped him, meaning he was still ready to keep her happy. Just not in the financial position to marry.

This post has been edited by JohnDoe93: Aug 14 2012, 12:46 PM

QUOTE(galkelly @ Aug 12 2012, 02:50 PM)
not to mention the 2 cases i ve experience where the women with kids dare not divorce even found out husband having extra marital affairs..
for the sake of the kids, togetherness and family reputation...
you talk as if women don't cheat. women cheat too, almost as much as men.

QUOTE(galkelly @ Aug 12 2012, 02:50 PM)
WOMEN do really suffers in silence !!!

only if they let themselves.
please don't make women out to be self-sacrificing martyrs when they let themselves stay in such situations.[QUOTE]





WOMEN CHEATS ALMOST AS MUCH AS MEN???????

MAN dont have HEART??... not to mention BRAINS !!!
When there is no heart, the brain doesnt matter really !!!!

Yes, they do. Almost as much, if not equally as frequently as men.

You think all women have brains and men have none? Please, I've met as many stupid women as I have met stupid men.
You cannot only follow your heart without using your brain, otherwise you are just ... stupid.

Brains always matter - if you don't think about what you're doing, then you are an idiot.

Based on this user's observation, it has also occurred to me that your friend may have been the one who dumped the guy, citing that he was "not ready to commit".
If this is true, then:
What part of 12 years together wasn't a commitment? She wanted to get married just so she can say she got married? Just so she can have an expensive wedding to show off?

You do not need to marry someone to show that you are committed. Nobody is ever obligated to marry anybody.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Aug 14 2012, 05:25 AM

That is one way of seeing things.

But I gotta agree that most of the time, men are the culprit.

Couldn't have put it better.

Always perceived as the weaker gender when it isn't necessarily so.

Toughen up! You're only as good as you think you are.

This applies across the board, across genders, across race and age.

Why must it be the man who must buy property?
Sharing cannot?
If she has plan to get married, they must make decisions together and help each other. It is not easy to buy a property nowadays, especially in Klang Valley. A lot of people got married using parents' money.
It is good enough if they can use their own money.

I think is excuses only....house got cheap got expensive...unless he aim for bungalow then wait whole life la...

Wow, 12 years... how many 12 years do we have?? That's why it's important to plan & clarify expectations with your partner....

But it takes 2 hands to clap also...