just to let everyone here know that my husband, Fulat, had a bad fall yesterday and hit his head. Currently in a coma at UH. Please pray for a miracle as doctors said chances of him recovering is very slim as his brain haemorrage is too serious.

I m sorry all. My hubby failed the 1st brain stem test last night. Doctors will run another test afterwards at 8am to legally make sure that he is brain dead before removing him from life support.

I really miss him. He fought a great battle but the bleeding in his brain was too much for him to survive through this. He had brain activity right up till 4pm yesterday and after that he lost the battle.

it's until 11pm...

CREMATION IS ON WEDNESDAY!!!

This post has been edited by SoFtBuNnY: Aug 20 2012, 03:31 PM

finally collected my hubby's car from the car accessory shop today...
he modified the radio antaenna to look like a mini shark fin and also changed the ori GPS to a DVD GPS Radio Music thingy....

didn't check it out too much because i was rather emo when i was directing the car shop assistant towards my house...his car now is in my car park basement parked exactly the way he likes it....reversed parking...

are you from Bentong? If you are, are you Muslim or non-muslim? Fulat's fav fav food is there but non halal..if u go back there...maybe can help tabao his fav food and pass to me....I will pay you back...

Today I will be going with his family to collect his bones and ashes and place at his final resting place in ss1 Gui Yuen. Once his tablet is ready, can I please invite you all over with your Preves and his Preve to pay him a tribute visit?

But only if you not pantang lah... I had some understanding from some of my friends that I am not exactly a good luck friend at the moment....

This post has been edited by SoFtBuNnY: Aug 23 2012, 06:10 AM

Let's all say a prayer and thank GOD for all the good things he has arranged for me.

The 1st 10 things that I would like to thank GOD for

1. Giving me 4 happy years with my Hunny

2. Letting me have great photography sessions with him
3. Buying a condo near my own family
4. Have great support from his family and my own family
5. Have great friends and colleagues
6. Not collapsing at home as I was home alone or while driving
7. Signed the insurance policy on 14/8/11 making it exactly 1 year and a bit
8. Not regaining consciousness
9. Left in peace
10. Smooth and good support Funeral arrangements

Thank you GOD!

fulat added dunno what black rubber sticky band on the doors n it really helps...when sitting inside the car...cannot hear too much external sounds...

we drove fulat's preve to his urn's resting place today...just curious...how to update the GPS map ah? I don't have access to the Preve's website portal as he didn't leave passwords behind...

i m not sure...not yet figure out how to switch on the gps after he changed to pioneer dvd player...i still get emo sitting in the car...

i will go look see n upload the interface in here...see if anyone can id what gps it is....

Yup...I am with Jardine OneSolutions (JOS). I released an official email statement on how my Fulat went because didn't want ppl to guess and add salt, sugar, oil or ppl asking me how it'd happened when I came back to work on Monday.

Thank you for your kind thoughts of my hubby. He really loved this car so much but unfortunately I am not able to keep his car after December as I can't afford the loan repayment. A very big pity and alot of heavy heart but maintaining the condo is more important now....

For those who wanna find out how he actually went...pls do leave your email and I will forward the official email statement on the incident.

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Added on August 29, 2012, 7:10 pmHis sound proof rubber is still available for viewing till end November...can come visit at Kelana Parkview Condo. Just PM me if you wish to drop by...

This post has been edited by SoFtBuNnY: Aug 29 2012, 07:10 PM

This was the official email statement that I released to my company

1. Hubby was ok as we had breakfast in petaling street and we bought flowers to deco my hse at 8.30am

2. Hubby dropped me off at home as he wanted to wash his car at 9am. Usually he'd be back by 12 noon

3. 11am something he called and said he wanted to beautify his car...will be an hour late

4. I took a nap at 12 something...woke up at 1 something...
i checked but he wasn't home

5. Called him twice but no pick up phone...so I thought probably he couldn't hear

6. 2pm...still not home...my heart not at ease
called 10 times. on 10th call...someone picked up and asked if I was mrs lew
I said yes...the car shop accessory owner said my hubby fainted at his shop 15 mins ago...the ambulance is on the way

7. I quickly got ready...called my sis...she dropped me off at the shop and the ambulance paramedics were there already

8. they asked me basic questions like allergies, diseases..etc
that time my hubby eyes already fixated (means staring straight ahead and non responsive to light)

9. we already knew got internal brain bleeding but thought was a concussion bec when he fainted, he hit his head

10. wanted to go KJMC bec is nearest but my mum called me and ask to send to UH instead

11. Reached UH, ER told me that if cannot stabilize his breathing n heartbeat...need to intubate
and they had to intubate after I got back from registering him

12. his blood pressure was very high at 233/133 n still unconscious
but when i talked to him...he was moving his mouth...if no one talking to him...he is relaxed

13. after stabilizing him, sent for xray n ct scan, the neuro medical officer is called in

14. 1st scan shows 3 internal bleeds in brain on right side. MO says not optimistic...need further consultation from her lecturer

15. lecturer comes in n orders another ct scan...comes back n tells me to prepare for the worst
as the bleeds have caused him to have high blood pressure and they cannot operate

16. He'd give meds to try n bring the pressure down but will take 2 to 3 hours. he asked me to keep talking to my hubby

17. Heng (my boss) came and so did a group of my frens...my hubby's family were all in SG at that time...when he was brought in to ER, i called his sister n they said they'll arrange to be back the day after since it was already 4pm that time

18. after hearing the lecturer's results, i called his family again n told them to come back immediately

19. At 8pm, my husband was warded...by that time...my friends went home since it was after visiting hours. my parents came n followed me to the ward Neuro ICU (NICU)

20. The lecturer once again explain to me that his condition is not good and prepare that anytime he can pass away as the bleed got worst constricting all blood circulation to the right side of the brain too...pushing the right brain mass in to the left brain side

21. My in laws arrived n my youngest sis in law stayed behind. I went home to rest with my other in laws

22. I couldn't sleep the 1st night...so much going thru n so scared
i text my sis in law n asked her to check how my hubby was
she replied that he was critical as he had a 40 degrees fever
that time was 6am
i called my sis n she came to pick me up at 6.30am
n she n i rushed back to the ward
that time my hubby's fever was subsiding
that morning...my eldest sis sought out a 3rd opinion from another neuro surgeon
and again the recovery chances were very slim
bec the 3rd CT scan showed overnight 2 of the blood clots formed into 1 huge clot

23. it caused my hubby's other part of the brain no blood circulation and the brain shrank
my hubby;s bp was normal by then but no use if operate bec the brain shrink n shifted
it cannot reverse
if he survived, he would be comatose or if he wakes up, he won't be him anymore
but his organs was shutting down one by one
as the bleed got worst n pressured his brain stem
the MO on duty told me taht my hubby already brain dead
that time my sis asked if i wanted to do organ donation...i was ok...n consulted my in laws (except his mum)...n they were also ok

24. As the docs were arranging organ donation, another doc in charge of respiratory came...
n i told him that my hubby was brain dead...n asked what is optimal level of breathing for organs to be in good shape
i also aksed him to teach me how to read
he said horizontal is the machine settings for my hubby which was 16 breathes a min
vertical is total summary of his current condition
then he said my hubby was not brain dead
n that it was illegal to harvest the organs

25. I asked y...n he said the breathing was 20/min meaning my hubby was taking 4 breathes on his own
still got brain activity
after hearing that...my voice more hopeful n my hubby must have heard
bec 20 breaths became 25 breaths
n then i talked longer n the doctor also confirmed more details ...n 25 became 32 breathes
that time esther n kam wah (colleagues) arrived n esther was very kind
she helped motivate my hubby alongside me n my youngest sis in law
n massaged n wiped n fanned my hubby
my hubby was steadily breathing for 4 hours at 16 breathes on his own plus machine another 16 making it 32
then visiting hours over...my hubby's bro took over while i went back to take a rest


26. that day i was supposed to over night...so i'd go in at 6pm ...but at 5pm...my bro in law calls n said my hubby's breathing dipped to 20/min
by the time i rushed there, no matter how i call or talk to him...it stayed at 20 n machine was set at 20
by 8pm..the docs wanted to run the 1st verification test
to check any brain activity or not...
my hubby failed all 9 tests
no brain activity at all
this time was for real
docs told me that if my hubby fail second test, then only will declare him dead
this would be done 8 to `10 hours later

27. I asked the docs...was it heat stroke that caused my hubby to faint n hit his head?
all this while i tot was concussion
but the professor n consultant said no physical knock injury from external
it was internal bleeding...started from an abnormal sized blood vessel in his head
it was something that during normal checkups cannot be traced
only if it starts bleeding...then only would know
it didn't occur from hbp also
that 1 in 80 ppl would have it n my hubby was the unfortunate one
however, when he fell and hit his head, the vessel ruptured and the bled occured at a faster speed

28. after discussion with my in laws, we decided not to do organ donation bec my hubby damn afraid of pain n cuts
i went back to home bec no point waiting there
for 2nd tests

29. next morning all of us went to say goodbye to my hubby
by that time he was breathing at 10/min
n heartbeat was 55/min
his brain no longer controlled the heart
it was beating on its own

30. i called our close frens in...they came to visit my hubby everyday since he was admitted in ER
they said their goodbyes n assured him that they'd take care of me

20 mins after they left...i was outside forcing myself to eat breakfast...my sis in law quick quick call me in

my hubby was failing

from 55/min heartbeat to 20/min...as i said my byes n told him to calmly leave...no need worry abt us...his heartbeat became zero n left

no crying bec dunwan him to worry

then we chanting amithaba continuously n followed him to the mortuary n then followed all the customs to tell him to follow us to where he is to go lor



i was very calm from start till now

bec god is kind. he planned it that my hubby collapsed outside with his good car buddies

if he collapsed at home, i'd have panicked...n not as strong as now

god is kind as he made sure my hubby wasn't driving when it happened

so i m very thankful that i have so many caring family, friends, colleagues, his colleagues n bosses, the hospital staff, the funeral ppl, ambulance paramedics...all very nice

i never encountered any difficult situations whereby ppl not nice to me when all these happened

This post has been edited by SoFtBuNnY: Aug 30 2012, 06:34 AM

my fulat's car will be up for sale once i get the letter of admistration approved.... will be a good value car... soundproofing...nice radio antenna...reverse camera...led lights n dunno what else he did on the car...

This post has been edited by SoFtBuNnY: Sep 6 2012, 06:17 PM