I' just start a relationship with this girl for 2 weeks only, knew her for 6 months...

At 1st, she is kind of a type of girl i like. But she was with another guy at that time...
So i didnt initiate any liking to her. Wouldnt even talk to her for long...

Then last month she broke up with her bf. After 2 week she start to talk to me again.
This time i tried to confirm her feeling, i talked to her and she told me she like me...
After few days of conversation, she love me after getting to know me...

So here is the problem... i do like her, but whenever im with her, i dun feel anything at all...
Meaning i dun feel worry, happy, sad or even hate... everything just seems calm...
Like i dun care abt anything happened to the world... dun think of anything, dun feel anything...

Blank in the Mind & Heart...


So is this feeling love ? or just a like... ?

cause things comes too easy for u dy. so is normal if u feel like that, but it doesnt mean u dun love her.

So what were you expecting? You were expecting to be jealous of her guy friends? You were expecting her to nag you about not spending enough time with her? You were expecting her parents to dislike you? You were expecting drama?

If you're happy with her and she's happy with you, that's all that matters. Appreciate it.

U dun get wat he try to say. Maybe u dunno meaning of love yet.

TS, do you have the feeling want to talk to her or miss her during night or when she not around? U got think of her often?

so fast can accept new relationship? wow..this gal quite geng also lo.....

good luck, hope u don't end up like pemlabung

Probably TS only a jump-stone for her to get rid the old memory....huhuhuuu...

TS how old are you first?

TS it is a rebound...!!!

the girl so geng eh. SO FAST.

This year im 26, she is 23....

Im not expecting Drama or anything, just that do i really have the feeling of love with her, or just nth at all... or izzit what im feeling is love...

I do missed her when she is not around, felt like something missing...
When im with her, i felt like just being with her without doing anything is enough...

Just happy wif her around is good enough since you guys just start. Thats the best time in love wanting to see each other and feel happy doing anything or not doing anything.

If u mean need do something as in sex then u dont haf to. Sex doesnt mean love

i remember a quote from facebook.
you never plan to fall in love.
if you planned, that's not fall in love,
just when you are thinking if you are in love, you have actually fall for her

Ya... mayb thats right...

I think i do love her, just that i dunno whether the feeling im having is love or not... the feeling doesnt match with what i had in mind...

And there are times that i really feel like im a float to her...
But i think we should give each other some time, if in the end cant workout at least i tried...

You need to talk to her this problem.....

Not even feel horny?

Everytime i asked her, she said she love me...
Love the way im being nice to her, being a good guy...

Thats y i felt a bit of skeptical... i cant understand her feeling of love...

So does that means i should get into details with her ? even if breaking her heart ? cos asking is like not believing....

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Added on March 5, 2012, 4:20 pmNope... dun feel the sex drive...

Actually my drive is quite high, but i dun feel the urge...

This post has been edited by James_yka: Mar 5 2012, 04:20 PM

sex drive != love
i might want to have sex with other gals which i do not love

but toward the one you love.. You must have the feel for sex right?

Guess what, the only girl that I love for 3 yrs ++, I felt no sex drive to her at all. To other hot girls yes I do, but to her no I just can't imagine past the range of see her changing...

Everytime I think about her, I felt electrical surge over my body, my jaw felt itchy, my heartbeat increases, I felt hopes. And 2 seconds later I felt I missed her a lot, agonizing depression. I am not sure whether she understands what I felt... but its been 3 months since I last saw her in SPM exam hall. Oh well...

And the frequency that she appears in my dream increases too. Am I obsessed? or what... but I really have no sex drive to her, I only feel the need of her presence by my side...

This post has been edited by honsiong: Mar 5 2012, 05:26 PM

Bro. I think you better look into this clearly. As that girl is easily getting into another relationship in a VERY short time. I worry she just treat you as a replacement for her previous bf. I don't meant to spoil your mood, but this is true that some girls just accept another relationship just because she loses someone special and need someone to fill the hole.

You can try going out with her, get to know her more. If she mentioned anything regarding her ex bf, or she's asking something that her bf usually loves to do. I can almost certain that she doesn't love you. Hope this helps you.

Even im a girl... i think she just hopes to get rid of her past by going out with u... but i can't 100% confirm she just treat u as a rebound..

What I can say is.. stop treating her too nice like trying hard to please her.. just be urself.. just treat her like how u want to treat her.. if she's still into u after u showed less care ... then its love.. if not... hmmm

+1.... For a girl to get out from her old relationship, is really really tough. For a girl to accept another guy in 2 weeks........

I had sensed that im just another Float to her from the 3rd day... but i still want to see to the end...

Male are just Idiots...

Thats y im asking the question, do i really feel the love...
If i really love then i want love her till the end no matter how she feel abt me, even if i would end up breaking up...


Thanks for all the opinion and comments... i think i should do the do...

shit just got serious,
can't believe this just happened to me... and when i've already brushed her off more than 6 months ago...
i wonder if it'll still work out

This post has been edited by maxsia: Mar 5 2012, 08:47 PM

The whole thing makes me feel like u r a rebound. Since she has nothing to lose anyway, no?

Perhaps if u dowan to screw thing up by asking; u can just keep in touch with her without doing anything excessive for her. See if she is willing to put effort to get ur attention. Cos if she doesn't, it kinda reflect that she just wanna hv her void filled up since u r there not bcos she wants u.

Dun be this! This is not love. This is spare tyre,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tkvri2N0AFU

Take a short break, you just need someone to share your ups and downs.I bet you don't really miss her even if she is away from you for weeks.......

i guest the ts is just stepping stone for the girl..
hm, try test her u wanna help from her....

in any case she would help...
if she hesitate.....said to her gtfo

What did she do to make you feel this way?

Let just say that she said a few thing that compare my status with his ex... and her reason of lovin me is bcos im a nice guy...


I also dunno whether i will miss her or not...
Cos before her, im quite bz by myself, when im with her i dun bother doin my own stuff...
If i take a break, i might just go back to my old routine...

But i think i do miss her a bit every night, just not being ard her feel like something missing...

If she makes you feel insecure by bringing up her ex, that may be a little insensitive. But if she's careful to assuage your feelings by telling you she loves you, then what's there to worry about? I don't see any reason to be worried that she's treating you like a rebound.

I also dunno... the way that she said it makes me feel like im in the friendzone... or just over-reacted...

I just had the feeling that she only stay with for the comfort not bcos of love...

Mayb i should just not think too much and love her all the way... thanks...

+1 n00b13

No, this is not love, this is you overthinking.

rebound relationship, good luck TS

My gut feeling tells me you're a rebound. Tell us the result of your relationship a year or two from now.