Hi Parents!

I'm a mommy to a 22 month old son..and recently..everyone is asking me to try for another child...their reason is to accompany my son now. For me, I think 1 is enough..reason is cost of living is going up..and since I want to provide the best for my child, I know that having more than 1 will not allow me to provide the best especially in education.

It is true that he would be lonely and that he would need lots of my attention now and later but when I think about the costs of raising a child..it's scary.

What's your views?

I think 2 kids will make a perfect family.

what is best for your son? Does best means providing material things that money can buy? Or does it also means giving him love and affection that money cannot buy?

Does providing him with a brother/sister something that is positive or negative to your son growing up? Would he be happier when he have someone to share and play with? And also to fight with.

Sometimes, I think parents only think of the best as material things. Buy him best milk, best diapers, best toy. What about giving him best sibling?

phythia, i think it's all up to u n ur hb... if both of u r happy wif 1 then tutup kedai lo... i wanted 3 but my hb scared liao... a boy n a girl would b nice... yeah the cost of living is always on the rise but i dun like my boy to b all alone... he will have wife n kids on his own but wat abt the closest kin? but u'll have prob wif babysitter if u go for no 2

I always wish to have 2 child will be good. If financial allow me, i wish to have total 3.

In my planning, i wanted 3 together....if financila ok......get 1 more, together 4 (balance )

Best thing? best education? have sister / brother also as a best thing, present, education to your son too.....(think about it)

Not all the thing must giving best in quantity or quality to our child one, we must let them know how to " jimat" also, am i right?

Just share my opinion lah, because i imaging if i am the boy.....really feel lonely. nobody to fight....share....enjoy....sad together.....

Financial problems....? Get a new plan and starting planning now or consult the experience family how to do.....(cos i'm have no experience yet)

hehehehe..yes..i'm gonna have problem with babysitter if i get no 2...or..get my hubby to be a house-husband..kekeekekekek.

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Added on June 15, 2011, 9:54 amIt's true that my son may be lonely...and getting a sibling would be the best gift ever...but..

I'm more worried of during the school years..especially college/uni. Education is getting more expensive..and just imagine if my son wants to take up medical??



This post has been edited by phythia79: Jun 15 2011, 09:54 AM

@phythia79

Maybe ur son is intelligent enough to get scolarship, then no need headache loo...

@sunflower808
I know all parents want to give their child the best in whatever. But how do we define Best? Sometimes, i feel that if the child get everything best during their childhood, they will not know how to appreciate it.

phythia, house husband?? wah actually we plan to tell our kids that we only supports them until sec sch... if they wanna go to uni they have to work for it... mayb u could think this way...

I hope he is intelligent..so i don't have to worry so hard..LOL.

house husband..yeah..why must always be us to take the backseat? nolar..coz my company has benefits...as my hubby is self employed - so benefits... boh..but he has time flexibility..

Normally father will think just to support their child until tertiary education only. But the Mother will come interupt and mumbling the husband want to support their child even after out to work.

I just have some sharing with my neighbours about it...I personally have no experience yet. Dont shoot me yaa..

You worry too much. It's no point worrying over things that you cannot foresee.

What you can do is buy insurance for your kids with study fund. When the child is 21, there is a sum that can be taken out.

I did by this for my first child. But second child did not have it. Just thought maybe next time they can share the money and others.

I also wanted to have 3 kids. But due to lack of babysitter, had to forget about getting the third. I would say getting good babysitter is much more important than providing "the best".

lagi jialatt! definitely cannot get 2nd child as not easy to find good babysitter..as my best babysitter refused to jaga if i get another one LOL

I have a 20month old Baby Girl too, wanted to plan for my 2nd child in this 2years too. I think finacial is an issue in a family no matter you have no children, 1 children or more children.... so just take it easy. If we wanto give the best to our children, we have to work harder to earn more $$ lah....$$ is always not enough.....hehe

while i want to have two kids for the family, my hubby wants 3 or 4

anyway, it is very much dependent on our financial as well.

as for the fear of the only child getting lonely, maybe can bring your only child to social with your cousins/ siblings' kids - it would be very much the same, i guess.....

the most important thing is that the kid(s) are financially and emotionally provided, without unfairness in the famly

One is too lonely, at least 2 child! At least got partner. in Future, one can help mum & another help dad!!

wow dunno about u guys man...but all the one child people i know are WEIRDOS! @@
SOrry to say i am abit phobia of them.....2 of them nearly drove me nuts! Everyday need to pray that i stay SANE.

1 was my ex-colleague....he was a real pain in the arse and if u dont invite him for lunch, he will scold you saying what if we work in a place like Sepang, imagine how bad it would be that he will need to drive all the way out himself @@ This coming from a 36 years old man! Who still have his parents drag his luggages at the airport for him to our business trip together @@ And i have to clean after him because he have no manners to do his gentlemen duties like cleaning the plates away after makan. ANyway he got fired because apparently he drive the bosses nuts too......more than 10years of working experience, a junior like me have to train him how to do his work ;/ dont ask me how.....until today this remains a mystery.

2nd is a close relative @@
she wrote in a piece of paper to the neighbour "THIS IS MY PARKING SPACE".
Called us to remove our car if we happened to park at "HER SPACE".
For gawd sake...it is a PUBLIC ROAD! ANd it doesnt belongs to her!
And on CNY EVE....she came, sat and avoided eye contact with everybody.....and not even a HI to anyone on the table @@
If her hair long enuf, she would have covered her face then and there (She did this when she had her long hair, while drying the clothes one day, just to avoid her MIL.....as if that will make her invisible?? @@)
n when i got pregnant with my boy....she stopped talking to me n hubby entirely...cut him from fb also just like that. we suspect she jeles coz she wanted a boy instead of her baby gal?? dunno wat she is thinking la.....and then when i gave birth, my mil announced to her & her mom....she didnt say anything, and her mom replied, "GOOD LOR"
??? Is this how u congrats a close relative?

ANyway...just few of the shocking stuffs these ONE CHILD people i know la.....no time to write so much rubbish
sorry if this is normal...but i really cant stand it.....its NOT Normal to me
& Of coz my other frens also got share similar one child stories of theirs too....which i wont put it down.

So to me.....please have 2 kids.....i think 1 kid might just drives the kid into dreamland/ownworld

PS: And of coz it doesn't applies to all one child... I m just saying there are possibilities of these kind of weird behaviors

This post has been edited by mIssfROGY: Jun 15 2011, 11:26 PM

I wish to have 3 but minimum 2, want my home to be full of joy and laughter lol

You have bad experience with them..hhahahhaa..

As far as i recall...i only know 1 person who is a single child..but she's ok...very independent...Only when she was growing up..she was a pain at times..coz she didn't know how to share..but later on in secondary school..she was cool.

I think...it depends on how the parents bring them up. And every child has their personality...so..unfortunately..you experienced the bad apples..kekeke

If I may voice my opinion as a single kid,I always wanted a sibling but conditions didn't allow that so if you can manage,I would recommend going for a second child.