Since we have a pilih kasih thread, thought might be good that we share some information on "middle child syndrome"

The middle child syndrome is very real. Somehow, the middle child usually turns out a little different from the rest. If we have 3, this is a definite problem. If we have 4, maybe we have some buffer as there are 2 of them in the middle.

My colleague come from a family of 3. She being the middle child, always complain she has no sense of belonging, hates the family, rivalry with her elder sister and parents spoilt the younger brother. I pity her sometimes when she share her sad stories but I'm not sure what can be done. There was a time she shared with me I-thought-painful-but-not experience.

She said to me how she is always the last, her story was about a playground incident that happened 20 years ago where she was the last to slide down from the slide. She hated it because she thinks the world should be ladies first but her brother took the slide before her.

It was no big deal for me but it bothered her obviously, 20 years at that. Scary to me for something so petty.

So, let's discuss on how we can avoid it.

More information:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birth_order
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/14335112/ns/...child-syndrome/
http://www.essortment.com/middle-child-syndrome-62872.html
http://middlechildpersonality.com/middle-child-syndrome/

Actually I start this topic to understand others better. I have a colleague who suffer from this condition. Something petty of 20 years, cannot let go. Refer to my first post above.

I always adivce her to open her heart, discard the past but she like got so many grudges. Mouth keep saying love the siblings but heart like got so many unresolved issues.

We thought 2 kids is little, considered 3 and freaked out by this syndrome so may have 4 provided financially can sustain!

This post has been edited by merchant9: Jun 4 2011, 01:26 AM