Jun 3 2011, 11:06 AM
QUOTE(merchant9 @ Jun 3 2011, 10:14 AM)
Since we have a pilih kasih thread, thought might be good that we share some information on "middle child syndrome"
The middle child syndrome is very real. Somehow, the middle child usually turns out a little different from the rest. If we have 3, this is a definite problem. If we have 4, maybe we have some buffer as there are 2 of them in the middle.
My colleague come from a family of 3. She being the middle child, always complain she has no sense of belonging, hates the family, rivalry with her elder sister and parents spoilt the younger brother. I pity her sometimes when she share her sad stories but I'm not sure what can be done. There was a time she shared with me I-thought-painful-but-not experience.
She said to me how she is always the last, her story was about a playground incident that happened 20 years ago where she was the last to slide down from the slide. She hated it because she thinks the world should be ladies first but her brother took the slide before her.
It was no big deal for me but it bothered her obviously, 20 years at that. Scary to me for something so petty.
So, let's discuss on how we can avoid it.
More information:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birth_order
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/14335112/ns/...child-syndrome/
http://www.essortment.com/middle-child-syndrome-62872.html
http://middlechildpersonality.com/middle-child-syndrome/
im a middle child too,..3rd of 6, ( not exactly middle la, but still midle) yes,i do agrred that this syndrom occur. but, that doesnt mean that the parents doesnt care at all about us. but, to me being in the middle is so much better, the eldest = responsibility more, the youngest = cared too much by parent n are restricted to their observation 24/7 cant do this, cant go there(my younger sister n brother doesnt even know how to take bus! n few friends)..hehe,..but middle = independent. hehe..thats to me la, i love being independent, and still at the same time i love n care for all my family members.The middle child syndrome is very real. Somehow, the middle child usually turns out a little different from the rest. If we have 3, this is a definite problem. If we have 4, maybe we have some buffer as there are 2 of them in the middle.
My colleague come from a family of 3. She being the middle child, always complain she has no sense of belonging, hates the family, rivalry with her elder sister and parents spoilt the younger brother. I pity her sometimes when she share her sad stories but I'm not sure what can be done. There was a time she shared with me I-thought-painful-but-not experience.
She said to me how she is always the last, her story was about a playground incident that happened 20 years ago where she was the last to slide down from the slide. She hated it because she thinks the world should be ladies first but her brother took the slide before her.
It was no big deal for me but it bothered her obviously, 20 years at that. Scary to me for something so petty.
So, let's discuss on how we can avoid it.
More information:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birth_order
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/14335112/ns/...child-syndrome/
http://www.essortment.com/middle-child-syndrome-62872.html
http://middlechildpersonality.com/middle-child-syndrome/
bold : it is true in this world ladies first, but also kids first before older one or a better word then ladies first is, FAMILY FIRST,.. put aside if the age gap is 1 yr or 2 yr, eldest should always care for the youngest, thats how u earn respect from them..if u always want to beat them on everything (i oldest, im first!) then, u are not showing a good example as the older sibling. this is my opinion.
ur friend shouldnt feel bothered at all,.in fact, she is now 20!! should can think better..one way to solve is to prove to her family that she can be succesfull despite of the thing she gone thru in whatever aspect (study, work, financial, love life..etc) just my opinion tho, would love to hear from others as well..
This post has been edited by hadzGBN: Jun 3 2011, 11:07 AM
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