Let me also share my experience.

I'm the eldest child among 3 siblings. However, Chinese culture, being a daughter, even though you are the eldest, there many 'good' things will go to your first brother.

I'm average, not overly smart, not good in Science subjects, but my first brother does. My father loves my first brother more than he loves me, it is very obvious, I know that. There was one time I booked the wrong airasia ticket for my dad, immediately my dad scolded me 'how come you are so careless? So small thing also can't do! Never behave like your brother'. I was hurt deep in my heart but I kept silent, rebook the ticket and print out the confirmation email to my dad. Dad said ok with a gentle tone, he knew he had hurt me somehow, but it's ok.

Before I finished my SPM, my dad had already asked me to take account after SPM, after graduated, help him up in his company; I denied the offer. Not that I do not want to help, I do not want to have a life like my parents do - working day and night for a living but the industry has been too competitive until the profit has been so little. I am not going to sacrifice my family time in the future, I insisted not to take account degree, my dad was quite disappointed. After that, no matter what kind of degree I took, my dad only bashed me here and there with no ending. It's only my mother that supports me.

Although it was hurt, it's ok. No matter how they are still my parents and he is still my dad.

However, I always remind myself I would never follow my parents' footstep.