Too long lazy to read, but you are just a like all normal guys. Such feelings can be avoided by doing so:
1) do not contact your colleague.
2) do not fall for appearance/looks it could be quite deceiving.
3) do not anyhow think of another girl, you should have keep your mind busy with your love one and your work. I wonder how could someone else think of another girl when we have so many other problems to be taken care off.
4) from your post i can see it seems like you do not have any happy moments together... TRY to think harder i'm pretty sure for a 3 years old relationship there is loads of stuff for you to mesmerize when you are alone. At least that's what happen to me when i'm alone.
5) Your colleague is just a temporary interest so stop fantasizing and that would definitely help.

That's good news bro! but from what you replied on my comment;

im team leader, she is under me. i have to lead, guide, teach, and communicate with her...
in term of appearance, she is just okay. not super hot, not super sexy, in fact i find someone in the office prettier than her.
fantasizing happens when my gf says broke to me. me and my gf do have happy moments. thanks for the comments. even though u didnt read it all, but your reply do have some points.

It's time for you to put to a practice of professionalism. Do not favor on individuals when it comes to work, personal feelings and work should never be mixed up, try not to share any personal opinion or thoughts(not only ladies but cars, property, hobbies, interest or any other related topic on personal level - meaning no chit chatting other than work related matters). That's what i do and that's what i will always try to practice, though it's not easy.

*At times i might have to conduct training to customer/internal staff, whether pretty ugly fat or tall, i will still treat them the same way, well pretty might really interest guys but hey those are all about appearance. love and lust is 2 different thing. Avoid any personal comments or anything related which would show your interest/feeling towards a topic.

This post has been edited by kidmad: Feb 28 2011, 10:19 AM