The thing with a relationship is that after sometime, it'll become 'normal'. Not much feeling of looking forward to meet each other, like someone mentioned, it've become like a chore. Updating each other what u're doing/going n then meet up on weekends. N 3 years have been like that.

TS, now u r asking us what u should do as u r currently in a confusing state of mind. It's not a confusing situation, pretty straightforward case. Gf loves u n u admit she's an awesome gf. Then a new working place with a new girl at work. If u really love your gf, if u r really devoted to her, n if u r a really loyal lover, then u won't be easily attracted to this new girl.

Your issue now is, u should ask yourself, maybe examine your past love history, r u the kind whom after sometime with a girl, will easily get attracted to another new girl? If your answer is yes, then u should know that even when u pursue this collegue and get her to be your gf, after few years, d same thing gonna happen coz u r immature in love and always want someone new.

N if u answered that no, that this is the 1st time while u r in a relationship that u r attracted to someone new, then may I ask u what about this new collegue that attracted u to her? How well do u know this collegue? U let go of a good lover, to risk pursuing someone who may or may not be your future lover, or may be your future lover but maybe not a good one. But who knows. It's a risk that u r risking.

People always see or say that the grass is greener on another side, but come on, do look at what u're having now. A good gf, she love u, and u do love her. U r just confuse. Clear up your confusion. Be back with your gf. But if u r still confuse, dun get back to her and spread your confusioness to that poor girl. She may do silly things one day if u keep forcing your uncertainty to her as u said she depends a lot on u n her family.

If u ask me, i'll go back to my great lover, and be the bestest greatest bf that i can ever be. She'll 100% be insecure with u coz of the things that u did. She'll keep repeating the past that u did towards her. N u've to work hard 110% consistenly to win back her heart and give her back the confidence that she deserve. When she repeats your past, listen to her, then assure her that past is past, tell her that u've think thoroughly n u r very sure that she's d one that u wanna live forever with. She'll still doubt it after your reassurance, then prove to her thru your action that u'll do your best to regain her confidence to u.

Action meaning, call her more, do something special towards her that normally u won't do or seldom do. Just 3 years of relationship, dun treat it like already 30 years relationship and already stale. Make it fun and exciting sometimes. Communicate more with her, go to the beach or anywhere that both of u'll enjoy. Make her happy. If u devote your heart to this relationship, think of how to make this relationship work, n stop confusing yourself about this collegue issue, then maybe u'll realise one day in d future how glad that u never really let go of this precious relationship/gf.

U can take some time to think for yourself what u really want. But just remember dun do anymore harm/hurt to your ex, for anymore salt that u throw on her wound, one day she'll be the one who leave u and dun turn back to u n that's when u really will regret.

Wish u good luck, TS.