Depends on what you want. If you like games, Apple has much better games graphically. If you want information, HTC is best with the widgets (ifond no widgets).

But i won't recommend DHD though. You're better off to buy Incredible S.

1) IMO, All phones speakers are crap and rubbish. Maybe i am just to use to my Yamaha amp, receivers, speakers  and Aego-Ms...

2) Don't drop either of them. Sure to break. You sounds like you need Motorola DEFY more.

It's no Android, but Wave 2 is a steal for it's price...i bought one for my wife. No complains from her after 1 month, which i conclude is a pass!!!

Great screen, speedy response, solid build, good camera, best of class HD recording (one of the best phone for capturing video, according to gsmarena), generally friendly UI, GPS also works fine (after some tweaking).

If you don't care about useful widgets or download tons of free apps, this is a fine phone. And yeah, in terms of hardware specs, the CPU/GPU is the same as Galaxy S. It is basically a Galaxy S (with superior build + a camera flash) running on BADA. The CPU/GPU actually beats the iPhone4. I can tell you the 3D graphics is smoother than my HTC Desire and the mutitouch response is also much better.

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Added on March 16, 2011, 8:29 pm
I seriously would not recommend DHD. It is overpriced. I'll rather get a HTC Desire.
1) The camera is no better than the HTC Desire
2) The screen uses TFT, which is inferior to the AMOLED/S-LCD in the HTC Desire.

Lastly, all smartphone battery are weak...what do u expect, non-stop 3G syncing online to fb, emails etc, GPS, gaming, surfing etc. I charge my Desire twice a day! No problem really.