hi alvin,

Did u found your soul mate at the moment? 

seems like this is the only way out for me too, trust the Lord that He'll bring me to the right person at the right time

There is one thread each for the major religions. The other two major religion threads are here:

Islam lounge: http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=877129
Buddhism lounge: http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=1520928

These threads are not meant for debate and discussion of religions (which would belong in RWI), they are more like "chit chat threads" for believers of the respective religions. A place to get together and chat (hence why it is in kopitiam).
Trust God lor. My previous two gf's were non Christians. Somehow didn't work out. Then I was single for five years before my current fiancee literally almost dropped into my lap from the sky (she is Christian too).

Seek the Kingdom of God first. Anyway do come for our young adult service 5pm Glad tidings Petaling Jaya. There are plenty of single and available there but first seek his Kingdom.

your curiosity will makes u gain more knowledge, just like what I usually likes to do.. ask as much as I can
your friend have his own choice, pray hard to god and ask lord for guidance. We can do our best and let god do the rest.
ic, alvin.. have u try to pray and ask for god guidance? if i guess it right, u did not pray to god for guidance. *no offence*
from my point of view, u are lack of self confidence n self esteem, my wild guessing might be wrong.. if is right, u can try work it out. 

lol you go to church and cell more to look for girl rather then God. How God will help you lah. Seek first his kingdom.

Seeking God is not doing God's work or ministry bro.

Seeking His Kingdom and His righteousness is spending time with God, seeking only Him as your source of fulfilment in life.

Not Girls, not property, wealth or work satisfaction because there are only superficial level.

I sense there's emptiness inside you because you have not really been seeking God by spending time with Him.

You're trying to fill it up with works which is not the same.

A lot of Christians have faith that God is able to bring them out of their sin through the blood of Jesus but lack the Faith that God is able to bring them into the promised land life. One of fulfilment and contentment in Christ.

I can tell you there are some Christians who hide their pain in the works of ministry but cry behind the scene before God about the unfairness of their life. Because they don't trust God enough.

There are some people can perform work without really believing in God. Do you know that? They do it for the sake of doing. Now I'm not saying you are but just to give you an example it can be so.

Because works cannot make you holy nor righteous. The Bible is very clear, until your have a right believe, then only your life will be transform.

I know for a fact there are some people who can cry out at the alter " Oh Jesus change me" with tears and emotion but still remain the same after leaving Church.

I'm not trying to bring you down, but your level of trust in God has to go much deeper.

Let me put it this way (I'm trying to help you, really)

Until you can come to a place before God and say,

Dear God, I submit to your will. Even If I don't see my potential wife, I will be contend with you alone to fill my emptiness.

Until you can come to that place, you'll probably not get what you want.

Until you can say I don't need a wife if it's not your will, you will pursue and not find.

I know it's hard to accept this. I know it's not easy.

But bro and you're wrong to say I don't understand.

you're so very wrong.

I was like you, seeking my life partner like my life depends on it.

I got a friend which he is very good cell leader but some how his faith is not really strong as i am. He is very good in the bible verse but his faith is not that strong when he is facing challenges.

good day alvin,

uw did not say that u can sit down n let god spoon feed u, u r right that if u sit down n wait for god to give u a wife is wrong.

he means to tell u that you r empty in your soul, you are not empty from your daily knowledge. you are still not connected with god, u need to understand whay uw told u was from bible and it will helps u to create a connection with god. then god will leads u the way.

from all u had mentioned, i can see that u r counting
on your own knowledge to deal with this matter. In other word to say, you are walking alone without letting god to assist u.

my friend, having own knowledge is very limited, u need to understand and do what the bible told, u can say what i told was wrong. the way u understand bible nor gods word are with your own point of view.. not the real understanding of bible.

i m not trying to proof myself right, i just wants to help u. i hope u can be patient, i had meet ppl that reading the bible for 10 years or 20 years, they may not understand bible if they not willing have the gift "faith" thats cames from god.

Everybody have different needs Skydrake,

For Alvin, It's a life partner, For some to have children, others Finance, For some Healing from body sickness, etc.

All these fall under this verse of God's promise

Matthew 6:25
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life........

Somehow the devil knows the things that worry us through our actions and words spoken in confession and will not hesitate to use it against us to disrupt your peace of mind.

The Holy Spirit already said this in

John 14:27
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

Philippians 4:6
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

and in

Matthew 6:8
for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.

I believe, the reasons why our prayers can be hindered:

1. We don't trust God enough. Lack of Faith.
2. We worry.
3. We let our hearts be troubled and fearful.

These symptoms, I believe will allow the devil to operate anxiety and slow down or hinder the answers.

It's not that the Devil has powers against God. No for sure not, but here's the secret as to why and how.

The devil know he can't touch God. But he can affect the believer to doubt God and hence that's why, things doesn't flow.

The problem is our worrying.

For Alvin, he worries he'll grow old without a partner and perhaps due to age is catching up.

That kind of fear can grip a believer's life to the point of doing things outside the will of God, like looking for unbelievers as life partners.

I hope this sharing helps you in your journey with God.

brother alvin, before I start my quoting & conversation here.. we're all in here chatting as a family, no hard feeling ok? if any words I quoted wrongly, please correct me. 
I came to church empty as a sinner, imagine.. my life is very good, rich with all the material needs and I can full fill my own desire with $. I can buy all materialistic desire needs with $. Do u think I will go church and seek god? I don't think so. Meanings, giving up to go church or seek for god kingdoms does not relates to the word "empty" as we said...
With his grace, we are not superhuman. We walk with him together, we face the challenge together as a team. Its just too dark to walk alone out there. U said that u dislike what other christian told u that "everything in their life is ok not even wanting to bear any weaknesses at all, for fear of saying something would mean that they are empty.", but bear in mind.. u r walking the challenge with god and carrying other ppl cross. And yes, is not wrong to say out that u r facing this and wana do it right, in fact u had done the right things 
Please look properly on this quote here u had write, "U r counting on church mates to help u, when they failed to help u with ur desire needs.. u had blame them". what i trying to tell was here, when anything u failed to archive after u "ask/pray" to god, u don't give up and don't blame other.. having faith to it and continue to make your search and face the challenge together with god. Hold god tight and don't let go.

And again, my english is not good and I hope u don't mind I sharing this to u also. I don't know why I feel so much on u, I had the same feeling that u having last time.. I can't say its the same feeling I had been thru it, but when I read all ur conversation... I feels it. Thats why with my broken english I die die say share this out 
agreed 

Actually God can.

There's a misconception there about this.

if you read up Pehkay's devotion, he mentioned, God can remove his hand of grace to let us fall on purpose.

Do you know why?

So that you start looking to God for strength instead of being self confidence of your own ability.

This is very important and I hope all my friends in this thread take note, the moment things like this happens, straight away come to God

and relieve yourself of all your own abilities. Start Praying that you need to trust and rest in God more than before.

Sometimes crying out and simple prayer like, " God Help me, permit me to have a fresh revelation of the cross" is all you need.

Because the moment you start depending on God totally in spirit and in truth, He will come in and carry you and deliver his answer to your prayer.

When you say I can, God will probably let you go on your own

but When you say I cannot, God will say I can now come in and help you.
2 Corinthians 12:9

But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.

This is your divine solution from God, as in below what you've said?
lol, up to you brother.

Praying and trusting God while you continue doing your daily work and not worrying about your circumstances IS DOING something in the eyes of God. Not worrying IS pointing your Gun shooting the Bullet at the Devil, spiritually speaking. God will work when you have submissive trust in Him.

And the Fact that your leaders or pastors who preached this same message but found their wife and even having Children is not a sign of hypocrisy.
It's a sign to tell you that God blessed and answered them and you should really learn from them how to obtain the same favour. God is a respector of no one, if He can do it for your Church Leader/Pastor, He can do it for you too.

You should see it that way instead of figuring out in your head, they did it on their own, ie to go all out to find their wife to be in their own way.
That is so disrespectful and scornful if I may add.

Yes it's nothing wrong to go out and look for a partner after prayer, I've already said it should be that way. But don't complain when things doesn't work out, pointing finger to Church bureaucracy, Or Church Girls look down on you, Church people not very supportive of you.

Why don't you stop and think for a moment, why this is happening. Perhaps God is speaking to you, you're doing it not according to his will of quiet trust.

btw 2 Corinthians 12:9 talks about total submission to God in our weaknesses. It's not talking about medical condition.

Shalom brother.

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downloading.. btw its this illegal? LOL! 
Good day brother alvin,

How is your day? 
About your quotes above here, I'm curious 'bout the answer u will give to "unknown warrior " question "have u forgiven them"? Add on with another question from me, "have u doubt 'bout god judgement towards them?"..

Have you forgiven them?