Let me put it this way (I'm trying to help you, really)

Until you can come to a place before God and say,

Dear God, I submit to your will. Even If I don't see my potential wife, I will be contend with you alone to fill my emptiness.

Until you can come to that place, you'll probably not get what you want.

Until you can say I don't need a wife if it's not your will, you will pursue and not find.

I know it's hard to accept this. I know it's not easy.

But bro and you're wrong to say I don't understand.

you're so very wrong.

I was like you, seeking my life partner like my life depends on it.

Fren,

The trust in God manifest in my actions. Meaning to say, I go out there and do something about it. Not sit there, pray pray and believe that it will come true...but do nothing about that.

Do you pray earnestly to find a wife. But don't bother to go out there to meet people? Always stay at home do nothing? You're not walking the talk.

Of course, I know there are lots of people hiding behind ministry, crying in pain. That is why I don't spend half my life doing ministries. I still have a job to do.

I only do those ministries that my talents can excel in. I won't simply walk into a ministry that I am not capable or not suitable. of course there's no harm trying to see if it fits me or not.

Aiyoh, of course works cannot make one righteous. But works is a manifestation of your process of sanctification ! The result of your transformation, makes you want to serve for his glory and have a heart of servanthood.

Works are the fruits of your labour. Get it?

Actually, I don't really believe in the power of altar call. Correct me if I am wrong, I have never read anywhere in the book of Acts, about alter call.

i hope spontaneous limb regeneration is also included. many would benefit from it

Whoa...its dangerous to compare your faith to his.

I recall there is a proverb - about a brother who have a giant pebble in his eye, ask his brother whether if he can remove a small speck from his eye.

We are all sinners in the eyes of god. Don't be too sure that you are better than the other brother/sister in christ.

Only Jesus who sits on the righthand of god's judgment seat, will judge all of us in the end of days.

If I am empty, I would have given up going to church or being a christian altogether.

Yes I know, his grace is sufficient for me. But it doesn't mean that I am superhuman and I deny the challenges I face.  I really dislike christians that go around saying that everything in their life is ok not even wanting to bear any weaknesses at all, for fear of saying something would mean that they are empty. Fact is we are all sinners, we face a lot of challenges in life, its not wrong to come out in open and say yeah, i am facing this and I wanna do something right about this.

But face with immense challenges of which the church structure itself is not helping christians to find mates, force me to find alternatives.

So I am not blaming god, I am blaming the church bureaucracy.

brother olga, u might not agreed with this.

confidence is from inside, other can see this from your face and the act u have done.
arrogant is from outside, its an attitude that act out purposely or verbally.
these words does not comes out verbally if a person confidence level high.

brother olga, I does not means to offence u. If I really did, I'm sorry 
If what I said above was wrong, I will admit and I will correct it.

add-on: dear all brothers fellowers in here, I really happy that we all able to chat here. I'm truly appreciated all the sharing in here also. 

Just be careful to put confidence in the Lord rather than self confidence.

because self confidence was what happened to Peter that caused him to deny Jesus 3 times.

If I remember it right, unknown warrior did tell us before in those previous pages. To read again from those previous pages is tough for my reading speeds 
Let's summon unknown warrior! 

I got this from google, to view more go to http://www.diffen.com/difference/Catholicism_vs_Christianity

I believe there's no record for born again believers.

It's in the scripture.

If we are saved based on our how fast we confessed,

one, there's no assurance to begin with because there could be sins done in ignorance years ago and you wouldn't know it.
two, it can turn into salvation based on human effort aka our effort in confession rather on Christ finished work.

Salvation is never based on human effort but on what Christ has done for us.

and I fervently hope that you please read what I found, instead of rebuking it because of 'cheh, rcc thinks only priest has ability to do this and that'

Casting out demons are not as easy as you think, even though we all have the rights.

alright, nights for now.

Dont discuss it anymore.    I rather listen to your sermons