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post Dec 13 2010, 02:01 PM

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post Dec 13 2010, 09:43 PM

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post Dec 13 2010, 09:48 PM

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buahaha?
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post Dec 13 2010, 09:57 PM

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i r speechless
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:00 AM

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ayam awake....omai...i really should not..haha
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:08 AM

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coz its late...but im not sleepy...
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:18 AM

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yes. i feel lonely too...

i dunno even noe wads bothering me...
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:22 AM

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i dun think 10 months being single is too long? lol...
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:27 AM

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QUOTE(FatalitY @ Dec 14 2010, 03:24 AM)
oh...ure still adjusting to the world of singlehood. Im in this world for nearly 4 years edi. i know what ure going through. It hurts when you really need someone n that someone's not there.
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well, even wif the relationship going on, it was still hard n hurts whn u really need some1 n he is not there...
LDR sucked...
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:30 AM

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QUOTE(Chipsy @ Dec 14 2010, 03:26 AM)
physically here but heart is not.. so its sad...

im from penang, moved to kl for work, then moved to melaka - and stranded
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y r u in melaka stranded?
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:38 AM

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QUOTE(FatalitY @ Dec 14 2010, 03:31 AM)
LDR does suck.....but its the best test yet for every people who are in a relationship. Take it as a whole new level to loyalty, trust, sincerity, endurance and communication. I was in one a few times. Though yea, its from the net, but eventually to real life, then to LDR. It only becomes really sucky when you're the only fool who's loyal enough. Fool, but a good fool. =) But it helps you to understand yourself better. For me, Ive passed the test thrice, and I know how far I am loyal to someone. =) I still keep her pen that she engraved my name on it.
Not workaholic lor. When you see my appearence then you'll know why.


Added on December 14, 2010, 3:32 am

oh mai...sound like...ermmm....heart has numbed up...
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well...the test of loyalty, i suppose i'd pass wif flying colours.
the approval part from parents seems to fail most of the time which bugs me and makes me fear most whn thinking of getting into another relationship...

i guess its just a great test n experience...

QUOTE(Chipsy @ Dec 14 2010, 03:32 AM)
i moved here for him... 100% of my things from KL all here... rship has been bad... *read the above.. so i feel stranded, no friends already coz lost touch with them for few years... stay in the room all the time... and face the laptop 24/7 for work..
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oh my..
could the rship be safed or refreshed?
y dont u start to contact ur old frens back. if there are gud of a fren, they'll just let the few years of non-communication aside and stay in touch again...
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QUOTE(Chipsy @ Dec 14 2010, 03:35 AM)
I can understand how u feel dear.... even though u go out and have friends, there are those times huh...

I hate those "times"

But u know, even when i go out with friends, hang out, go clubbing i still feel lonely..  cry.gif


Added on December 14, 2010, 3:36 am

i doubt he appreciates rather takes advantage of my love, but what to do... its a decision i made for the both of us.. im just trying to make things work for all the better..

but yeah, even though he may be next to me, i miss him *if u know what i mean
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yes, the few months post break up the worst...even wif frens, it was lonely as ever.
no day goes by w/o having a single tot of him...hated it...but numb wif the feeling...
i changed my way of thinking, and enjoy myself wif my frens and not think of anything other thn enjoying the moment wif frens...

aww...have u talked to him bout how u feel?
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:47 AM

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QUOTE(FatalitY @ Dec 14 2010, 03:44 AM)
yea...i get ur meaning. =) well...r'ship always comes down to the 4 elements, trust, understanding, sincerity and communication. Break one, you break all. In this case, he's not sincere in the relationship, thus the taking advantage of it comes in.
u have to see from both sides, ur parents just probably dont want u to be hurt from a LDR. Its not easy, but if you both can pull it through, ure better than most of the couples around. My case was the other half's family told me that im too nice, but they did tell me that if she's sick and so on...its not easy for me as i am not there. =(
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well,
the approval wasnt based on the fast the rship was LDR, if it were..it wouldnt have hurt tat much...
rather it was due to difference of religious. well, it sucks whn u tot frm the beginning and was somehow told my the partner tat the parents would not have concerned bout religious, n in the end, it turns out they actually do concern bout the religious difference.
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:49 AM

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QUOTE(Chipsy @ Dec 14 2010, 03:45 AM)
well, your right... there are, but put it this way, i am not allowed to be friends with them.. sucks right.. but i dont mind.. its just disappointing that things has took a turn, a drastic one in fact hence after my decision to come here.. it was decided between the both that it was for the better that we move here together but he was the one that turned his back now..
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u're not allowed? sad.gif

i dont want to come out as harsh or somewhat irrational, but it seems that ur rship now is not working out, so, y r u still in it?
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:52 AM

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QUOTE(Chipsy @ Dec 14 2010, 03:49 AM)
Oh my.. been there... Im a malay mix with chinese.. used to date chinese men before... and i had 3 incidents where the family was very crude to me..
Hell from the parents!
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oh...im malay mix chinese too...
well the thing is tat the parents were nice to me whn i was around them. it didnt come to my mind tat they actually disapprove all along...

oh my..3 incidents? i dun think i can go through tis 3 more times...wif the family being crude to me..i think i'll giv up on love.. unsure.gif
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post Dec 14 2010, 03:54 AM

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QUOTE(FatalitY @ Dec 14 2010, 03:52 AM)
That's the worst....religion. If religion were not to exist....we'll be filled with lust, glutton, hatred, and doing all the wrong things. Then again, its also a big issue when it comes to relationship. =( Luckily Im an atheist. =) But true....most of the time when they say its not an issue, it actually is.
Im also malay mix chinese, but im baba la. Lol....still malay blood but i'd call it ancient malay.
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whn they say its not an issue...i can never believe it anymore...
the prob wif me is tat im attracted to chinese guys...sigh... sad.gif
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post Dec 14 2010, 04:00 AM

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QUOTE(Chipsy @ Dec 14 2010, 03:56 AM)
Ahh... well indeed the parents would be nice to us during the first few rounds.. then, when they see things are getting serious between their son and us.. they will start being protective...

3 my dear, they even called me on the phone and told me to leave their son, 1 even halau me out of the house... ---> in the 2nd year rship...
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well yea...they were nice in the first few rounds..and since it was LDR..i didnt get to meet the parents tat often...whn it was 1 year plus throught the rship, the dad only figured out it was serious...he started to ask him to back out...tats wad according to the ex told me...

oh my...how did u manage to cope wif tat? unsure.gif
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post Dec 14 2010, 04:06 AM

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QUOTE(Chipsy @ Dec 14 2010, 04:01 AM)
Hahaha babe! Sama ler we both.. but I finally open up to Malay... its not being racist or what... i used to mingle around Chinese since young till working..

So erm, hence I thought about the future of my kids, and for my ownself.. I gave myself a chance to date a Malay and now he is my 1st Malay bf...

Well, dont give up hope dear.. there are some that are accepting.. I had one chinese ex, his parents were very nice to me, very accepting, but things did not work out between us, early college years la rite...  but now he is already married to a Malay girl.. and well, happily ever after i wud say...

So dont give up hope ok...
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i think im on the same boat as u...my circle of frens are mostly chinese and if not are indians... ><

yes i've tot of the for my own gud and for the future...and to date malay guys, but i have yet to find a malay dude to date...

its rare to find 1 who are willingly accepting their sons to be married to a muslim girl...

QUOTE(FatalitY @ Dec 14 2010, 04:01 AM)
well...that's harsh. chinese family are quite strict when their children are with a partner from a different religion. Mainly Muslim cuz its a very strict religion.
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yes some are really harsh...its just tat u dont see it...
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post Dec 14 2010, 04:10 AM

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QUOTE(FatalitY @ Dec 14 2010, 04:03 AM)
eh...im confused....all 3 of us are mix....but u guys(ladies) are muslim aren't ya? Cuz Im not muslim as Im Baba. So....yea. Haha.
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QUOTE(Chipsy @ Dec 14 2010, 04:06 AM)
Muslim by IC... baba still chinese right..
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yes im muslim by IC...just like chipsy..
and i dun look merely half a malay woman... ><
i dun think i'd pass as a malay woman just by my appearance wad more a muslim in tis stereotype country.

QUOTE(Chipsy @ Dec 14 2010, 04:04 AM)
Heart broken la of coz... but then, put a thick face lor.. as long as my bf is ok with the both of us.. but in the end, i guess he got quite stressed out, so we broke up due to it
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i guess the guys would resort to breaking up once they couldnt cope wif the stress...i suppose if its not meant to be its just not..


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post Dec 14 2010, 04:13 AM

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QUOTE(FatalitY @ Dec 14 2010, 04:10 AM)
yeap....im chinese. was a buddhist, but some ppl think that buddist is a religion but i take it as a teaching. =) Ure muslim by IC...? Hmm....come to think of it, my friend also is a chinese mix malay but in IC she's chinese as she follows her dad. She converted to full Muslim when she was young though.
yea....my family is in one. cuz my big brother's with a gadis. parents were furious. but for me, its good, at least we are kind of back to where our forefathers were. hahaha.
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i think since u guys are babas, ur bro needed to just talk to ur parents slowly and make them understand and with time i suppose they could accept the gadis...
haha back to ur forefathers eh? notworthy.gif

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