it's common for every new mama because previously they never got the chance to try breastfeeding before. I know it's hard especially to newborn babies, they are so soft and to the parents like us, we are always worried that we put too much hand force on them, worried the baby is actually pain but don't know how to tell us.

Anyway, my wife's condition same like yours, earlier on, she did tried her best to breastfeed but my little prince somehow just don't feel full and keep on crying for milk, could be the position is wrong, ended up we decided to pump it out and feed him with bottle, yaya we do know that direct breastfeeding is the best but in our case, since he couldn't suck well, might as well pump it out, other than that we know how many Oz is enough for him, afterall, it's still breastmilk

My wife told me that she is feeling damn pain on her breast if she didn't pump out the milk, even the nipple is cracked all that, we asked the nurses and they adviced to use a bottle for example (bird nest bottle) filled in with hot water, put at the side of your breast, slowly roll it to the center to massage your breast when pain. It feels better and will help the milk flow better

To help generate more milk for the mother, maybe you can try the enfa mama A+ as MYFM also got advertist but my wife did not have the chance to try that because we planned to breastfeed for 2 months only and after that continue with formula milk.

Babies cried could be due to hungry, pee, sh!t and sick, other than these, most of the times they are sleeping, as for my baby, i would say first 2-3 months they will only wake up for milk, after that continue back to sleep, slowly on they will have longer awake time for us to play with him.. So no worries, just feed him and let him sleep.

got 2 types of enfa mama a+ if i am not wrong, you may need to check with those selling babies things shop to check it out or chinese medicine shop, about the midwife, actually my wife give birth at private hospital, its Adventist Hospital located at Penang, overall the nurses are friendly enough to guide us patiently on how to breastfeed, bath and etc.. things that new parenthood should learn about..

during my wife's confinement, i heard aunty aunty they all say if cook papaya + soup will produce more milk, of coz the papaya is belum masak de, normally those masak de papaya is orange in color, must buy those still in green color papaya then boil with soup, i am not sure about how to cook but my wife told me after had the papaya soup, it really boots up the breastmilk, maybe you can ask your mil or your mother for more details..

anyway good luck ya

yes, you are right on the above hospital nurse intro my wife so too

it depends on the baby itself i should say, case by case, like my baby he is now 5 months, we are feeding him 3-4 hours each according to his demand, if he is asleep, it can be longer like 4-5 hours but when he is awake, it could be less than 3 hours and he is for milk already.. but usually my baby sleep longer in the night, feed once before put him on the bed, be it 11pm+, he will sleep throughout the night until 4-5am then only awake for milk

I believe you can do it, it takes time

One thing good to go for formula feed is we know the total of amount milk(Oz) that our baby needs, but we will not know via breastfeed, and also breastfeed baby usually will cry for milk much more faster than formula feed. probably breastfeed will need to feed them within 1-2 hours approximately

I'm totally agreed with Cas on the working moms nowadays, when you are back to work, it's very hard to perform the breastfeed unless you wake up early in the morning to pump once, lunch time once (in the toilet) and keep it in office's pantry <-- this will be awkward for you especially those male colleagues in and out pantry to open the fridge for drinks.

My advice will be, try to discuss with your hubby on this issue, might need to go more formula feed than breast feed, the ratio can be from 3-4 formula feed : 1-2 breast feed. You have no choice but to practice bottle feed frequently unless you decide to rest another few months more, otherwise when you are back to work, then the nightmare begins

We parents are always trying to give the best to our childrens without hoping for any returns

Oops i forgot to mention that, if we keep the milk outside the fridge, make sure you use it within 24hours, my recommend will be within 6 hours to keep the milk fresh, the reason why we store it in the fridge is to keep it longer

nice if the office is near your home, so during lunch time you can go back home to take lunch and also pump out the milk for your baby, bear in mind that you will be superb tired for the first week when you are back to office, unless your mil can help you during the midnight feed then is okay.. or else, it's gonna be nightmare

me and my wife choosed Anmum stage 1(1-6 months) for our baby, well, he loved it since the first try and soon changing to stage 2(6-12months) next month, some ppls will think that expensive milk powder = best, but actually to us all are the same, most importantly is depends on the baby's taste. i still remembered during my wife's confinement, her mum cooked one type of drink is called "Oh Zoh Teh" in hokkien, i don't know whether you know about it, it's the boild the "Oh Zoh" and then keep in a container to keep warm, when feel thirsty then can pour out to drink, remember during confinement period don't drink any cold water, warm plain water still okay but avoid if can

keep us update ya

To Do List for husband who is gonna be daddy soon :

1) Accompany wife to go for check up.
2) Remind wife to take medicine in time before delivery, because during delivery, the wife will lose tons of blood.
3) Be with her in the labour room to keep her support, it's very pain and only god knows how pain she is.
4) During confinement, maybe you can help wife to massage when she is pain at her back <--- for sure during breastfeeding.
5) Help to take care of your newborn baby whenever you are free, you wife will need a good rest after delivery and during confinement.
6) Standby anytime to help buy things which is needed for your wife and baby, because no one is free besides the husband.
7) Give more attentions & concerns your wife.

and many more

nono, what i wanted to say is, whenever you are back to work + need to take care of baby in the midnight, there you go, you will be superb tired by then, glad that your husband is sleeping with you to take care of you and baby, about the red date tea, i don't know whether the cook one and the instant one brings the same result but you can monitor if it helps you to generate more milk for ya baby, on the ginger part, because what the mother eat/drink will produce out as milk, so if you are going to breastfeed ya little one, it's adviced by the nurses to drink (ginger, dom) after breastfeed, then only will not effect our baby, by that time the alcohol also digest already

about the bubbles on baby's face, maybe you can try to use a warm towel to help him clean the face each time after feed, was informed by nurse as well to keep baby's face keep so that it won't grow any dot dot on the face, if baby sweating also will result of growing dot dots too, always keep clear on the face gambateh and wish you and your baby stay healthy and most importantly a lovely & caring husband beside to support you

you can always ask your husband or mil to help you with the warm towel, be it 2-3 hours wipe one time and maintain it should be alright, a dry hanky also can help but please only use one time only after that change a new hanky to prevent it, i was advised by my aunties not to let baby sleep openly, meaning face up and both hands put on top beside of the head, they will get scared.. try to put your baby for side sleeping, sleep on left / right side with the arm and leg hugging on a pillow, cover with blanket and try monitor it for awhile, another thing is you can go to chinese medical shop to ask for the "Bao Lin Dan" that one is help baby from getting scared, well, i bought mine at Yu Ren Sheng

ahhhh, i also felt heartache to bungkus him with napkin though, see he so pity, just come to this world and get both hands tie up.. i will let his hands out and play with him while he is awake, but its good to swaddle it during sleeping time so that wont get scare easily.. ehhh about the engorgement part i not very sure about it, maybe can ask out ladies here

Hi nickit, hows ya baby doing so far?