Folks,

I am going to say something that you probably will only understand after 10 to 15 years.

It is VERY EASY and VERY HARD to be a good parent.

One of the KEY is are you a GOOD PERSON??

Children LEARN MORE from observing what you DO versus what you SAY.

If you get into a car and fasten your seat belt every time, it is EASY to ask your kids to do the same.  But, if you do not do this all the time, they will not follow your order to fasten seat belt.  Ditto on many many other subjects.

If you are NOT hard working aka "curi tulang", how could you convince your kids to work hard???

YOU are the ROLE MODEL.  You have to earn the CREDIBILITY to convince your children.  They see and observe YOU everyday.  So, they LEARN from YOU by your action and inaction.

Be a GOOD PERSON is a one of the key.

Dreamer

P.S.:  If you are a smoker, please give up smoking or else do not be a parent.

        A) How could you convince your children not to smoke if you are smoking??

        B) If you do not care about your health, how could YOU take care of your children??

        C) How about second hand smoking effect on your family??

        My father died of lung cancer at 49.  He was a smoker.  My mother had to raise 6 children on her own.

i like what you've written. i had become a mom since last year and finally realized it's not easy to be a good parent. i feel bad when i recall how rebellious i was during adolescent period. the good thing is, my parents never give up on me... really appreciate this

i like what you've written. i had become a mom since last year and finally realized it's not easy to be a good parent. i feel bad when i recall how rebellious i was during adolescent period. the good thing is, my parents never give up on me... really appreciate this

me too  i also become a mother last year.i feel so bad for being such rebellious daughter to my mother i feel so sorry for her.when i was pregnant she didnt even ask me to abort the baby she was mad but she said 1 thing to me that i cant never forget she said"no matter what i will be there" 

Mothering is a noble, sometimes thankless task, worthy of nothing less than the best. It's not a day's job or Monday to Friday job. It's 365 days responsibility and mind you there's no vacation or sabbatical leaves. My daughter is just one year old++ and I love it when she's awake in the morning, trying to wriggle in between me and my wife. She's just playful as the way she is and it just melts my heart away.

I do think back how I was brought up. My father is a strict and education-emphasis person and of course, it came with caning, belting and the most dreadful is kneeling down facing Teh Chu Kong (God of Earth) until the joss-stick burns out. You just can't help it but think back, do I want to meted out such punishment as a form of discipline in the future to my daughter? Up-bringing a child is not easy as it seems and sometimes it hurts more when I think I have not always done well in giving my daughter wings.

@pigglet

Here's something for sharing: The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. By Honoré de Balzac

Regards, Joey