Hi,

<< I have to admit that I am lazy and had wasted such a long time>>

I cannot and would not answer your question until you get rid of your negativity about yourself. We are human beings. Some times, we get sick and we need time to heal. Those times are not wasted and we are not lazy. We need a break some time. Some people need a shorter time and some people need a longer time. When you have forgive yourself and starting thinking of yourself in a positive light, you would have find the right answer to those questions. Until then, be nice to yourself for a change.

Dreamer

The following is a poem about self esteem.

http://www.avanta.net/writings/i-am-me.html

"I am me" by Virginia Satir

Virginia came to write this poem when she was working with an angry fifteen-year-old girl who had a lot of questions about herself and what life meant.

I am me.

In all the world, there is no one exactly like me.

There are persons who have some parts like me,

but no one adds up exactly like me.



Therefore, everything that comes out of me

is authentically mine because I alone choose it.

I own everything about me

my body including everything it does;

my mind including all its thoughts and ideas;

my eyes including the images of all they behold;

my feelings whatever they may be...

anger,

joy,

frustration,

love,

disappointment,

excitement

my mouth and all the words that come out of it

polite,

sweet or rough,

correct or incorrect;

my voice loud or soft.

And all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.



I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.

I own all my triumphs and successes,

all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me I can become intimately acquainted with me.

By doing so I can love me and be friendly with me in all parts.

I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.



I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me,

and other aspects that I do not know.

But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself,

I can courageously and hopefully, look for solutions to the puzzles

and for ways to find out more about me.



However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think
and feel at a given moment in time is me.

This is authentic and represents where I am in that moment in time.

When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I
thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting.

I can discard that which is unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting,

And invent something new for that which I discarded.



I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do.

I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,

and to make sense and order out of the world of people
and things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.



I am me and I am okay.



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This post has been edited by dreamer101: Aug 16 2005, 05:07 PM

Hi,
I've never been to any formal interviews so I was wondering what should I say and do once I walk into the room?
Ok maybe I should shake the interviewers hands if he is a male and introduce myself.
"Hi, I'm Kevin."
Um...thats a bit too short for an introduction. What else should I say before I wait for the interviewer to ask me to have a seat?

Also would it be ok if I tell the interviewer that I'll probably be nervous throughout the interview even before the interview starts? I don't want to tell only half-way through the interview.

hmm..usually the first thing you should do is to do a formal greeting.
Do not be too casual.
A nice good morning, afternoon would be much more appropriate.

When you're being interviewed, answer the questions firmly. Do not shake your legs, it pretty much disgust certain people and don't move your finger playing about. All this potrays your being and even though it got nothing to do with your capabilities, a first impression always should be good.

Hi,

1 ) Please be very formal. Introduce yourself in full name.
"Hi, I am Kevin" -> How dare you for you to assume that you are the only Kevin that they are interviewing?? And, this is a job interview... Be very formal..

"Hi, my name is Kevin XYZ" sounds a lot better...

2 ) I will probably be nervous -> This will count as a strike/negative point against you. If you think you can be nervous, why don't you reherse at home before hand?? This is a job interview, no excuse will be accepted..

Dreamer

This post has been edited by dreamer101: Aug 17 2005, 12:03 PM

Thanks for the advice.
I have another question about "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?".
What if my answer is..."I don't plan that far ahead...after all, I could be hit by a bus tomorrow." LOL. I just want to know what the interviewer will think. I won't really say it. Unless I'm in the mood or something.

Another question about "Tell me about yourself"...
What if my answer is... "I am an accounting professional with four years corporate experience who would now like to move over onto the public accounting side. Since your firm is highly regarded, I was very interested in learing more about the opportunities here."
Is that enough? I don't have to tell them about secondary school, hobbies or where I was born, right? I read from somewhere that you should answer this question in less than a minute. Is that true?

usually whenever they always pop this question , "tell me abt yourself stuff", is best to start with ur education line if you're a fresh grad. Then talk a bit about what you've been doing these while, etc, job, projects, your characteristics and past working experience which may enhance your probability to secure the job. Don't need to brag too much.

The question what do you see yourself in 5 years, I used to answer that with, "Well, personally if there is opportunity in the company to progress, I will see myself as one of the contributing factors for the company while moving up the organizational chart." The interviewer would be like, "WTF"....hahaha

Hi,
Those questions had been answerred in great detail. Please go back a few pages on this thread.

Dreamer

When the interviewer asks that type of question they may be trying to determine:

1) do you have plans to further your study?
2) do you intend to work for a company until such time as you can start your own?
3) do you have some intention to work in some area, field or industry that may or may not be in the interest of the company who is looking to recruit someone.
4) do you see yourself leaving work and becoming a full time parent.
5) do you see yourself happy doing pretty much the same job or do you have aspirations to have a continually changing job.
6) do you see yourself always being in a technical position or are you open to managment, sales or other positions.

Sadly, I find that few Malaysians will answer in a meaningful way the open question "Where do you see yourself in X years?". If I ask a closed question like "Do you have intention to further your study?" I will sometimes find the candidate remarking about their plans to get a Masters, PhD when they earlier failed to indicate that in the question 'Where do you see yourself in 5 years time.

hallo.

I have to admit I am low in self esteem and lack of confidence. reasons are probably because my education qualifications are rather low, I'm lack of experience and I took such a long break. so I'm not confident someone would be willing to hire me.

thanks for the poem. actually felt better about myself after reading it. and your words made me think that I can just say directly I took the time to think of in which area I want to advance in and decided to take a break before I start. can say like that ah?

Hi,

Honesty is the best policy.. If they (employer) are not willing to accept the truth, even after you are hired, you will not last long. Let's tell the truth to be sured that you are hired by people that willing to accept you.

Education is not everything. Capability aka ability to do job is more important (see my post on the pinned thread on useful resources). I am a dreamer. I believe that a person can grow and be more than what a person is at the moment. We need to learn to dream and dare to dream like what we used to when we are a child. I am willing to believe that you can grow. Now, you need to believe it for yourself.

By the way, please change your screen name "lazypiggy" to something positive for a start.

Dreamer

This post has been edited by dreamer101: Aug 18 2005, 05:06 PM

Hi,
What should I said if a company ask me "What can you contribute to our company?" let say for IT support position or Event Coordinator position.
Ty.

Hi,

How about this,

"I can contribute to the company by doing the job in a professional and productive manner."

Dreamer

What should we say if we were asked for examples?

Hi,

This is where you have to do your home work. You have to show tasks that you had done in the past that is relevant to the job that you are applying and you had completed the tasks successfully.

Do you know how to make a 2 minutes speech about yourself?? If not, you need to pick up a book on "Dale Carnegie".

Dreamer

Got it. Thanks!

After introducing yourself, is it alright to ask for the name of the interviewer? That way, we wouldn't have to use generic labels like sir,miss,mister..etc when it's our time to ask questions. Or am I wrong?

Hi,

You should ask name, job tilte and his/her relationship to the job that you are applying and write down on a piece of paper. You need to ask in a respectful manner.. But, either case, it is wrong to assume that you can call someone by their name even if you know their name unless they say it is okay. So, you should say Mr. XYZ, Miss ABC and so on. For freshies, it is always good to stick to Sir to show as a sign of respect. For woman, Miss is probably better. Calling somebody "Madam" may get you into trouble for woman..

Dreamer

Ah, I see. Thanks for the tip,dreamer. I guess sir/miss always works...except with our lecturers. Ha ha ha!

Hi,

The easiest way is to ask for their business cards and then ask how they would like to be call..

Dreamer

A little etiquette advice for Malaysians.

I notice that many Malaysians like to address themselves "I'm Mr X" or "I'm Miss Y". That is the wrong way of doing things. You do not call yourself Mr or Ms or Datuk/Datin/Dr. That is an honorific that people can choose to call you. Just say "I'm X" and if they want to call you "Mr X" they will, but you on the other hand, should address your interviewer as Mr/Ms/Mrs/Dr/etc.

I've seen interviewers who even call say "I'm Mr Blah" and it puts me off completely.