Why people are always limiting their options?

My soultion for TS:

Set up for him conditions, if he dont do as you told, then you hold back from giving some things.
Example, maximum 4 hours dota a day, if not, you wont hold his hands/wont cook for him or something like that.
If he wants you to play, then ask him dont scold you.If he scold 3 times, you quit.
He got you to do something he likes, ask him to do something that YOU like.Its only fair, and that way you dont feel that only you that tries to please him.

Also, reward him if he listens to you.
Be creative.

This sounds manipulating, but trust me it will work.
And that boyfriend of yours is really having a serious addiction...

if nothing works, get him to see a doctor