Well. I will just make it short.
Me and my bf been together for like 2 years.
He is very into Dota. When we were back in Malaysia, when his mom and dad are at home, he didnt play that much.
And even if he play, im beside him watching or sleeping.
sometimes, i slept on his gaming sofa n he will carry me to room once he done playing.
To see him, to spend time with him, I learnt to play.
sometimes when i died or feed the game, then he is very unhappy.
most of our arguments came from his games.
His temper is not that good, that's the problem.

We came Perth. and now, its getting worse.
He woke up around 4pm, then eat then go campus play dota til 430am.
Sometimes i follow him. but sometimes if there are classes next day 8am then I will stay at home.
But i feel so boring staying at home.
and I dont like waiting the door to be opened.
I cried almost everyday.
I talked to him.
I tried to make him happy.
Things are still the same.

I even told him "if you continue to behave like that, Im sorry. Im not the girl suitable for you."
He continues playing.

I couldnt stand it anymore.
what else can I do?

DOTA > you

GG

This post has been edited by HuorEarfalas: Sep 30 2010, 02:43 AM

Addiction in games will distract someone from reality.

so you should pawn him back by choosing love and leave him.

I thought those who are going overseas are smarter?

where got. this is wrong concept.

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Added on September 30, 2010, 3:11 ambut its a 2 years relationship. Its hard to let go and forget.

This post has been edited by joyceanne: Sep 30 2010, 03:11 AM

is ur bf started addicted dota since way back in high school life?

I want to ask, how did he celebrate with you in important happenings such as birthday and Valentines day?

I doubt anyone can help you if you're reluctant to bring him back to reality. Games are really addictive and once he's stuck, he's really stuck ( just like me ) . Nonetheless, if you aren't taking any action, what we can do is just to comfort you. Think about it. You must talk to him and let him know games and gf are two different thing. He must have balance or lose one.

Two years relationship and he can start to treasure his games more than you? Does it look like 2 years relationship worth less than a game which will get outdated in a few years to come?

He forgotten our anniversary.
Valentines day? ermm.. we had dinner then back home dota.

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Added on September 30, 2010, 3:29 amYupe. very very addicted.

This post has been edited by joyceanne: Sep 30 2010, 03:29 AM

im sorry but......



if its like this, leave him

Doesn't seem to be healthy.

Dinner, then DOTA...makes things that happened beforehand looks insignificant compared to DOTA.

You must really talk to him about this.

This post has been edited by Kampung2005: Sep 30 2010, 03:32 AM

We actually broke up many times. then he came n get me back.
Last semester, when i really didnt want to get back to him, he flew to perth and get me back.
I was touched then get back to him.
But things didnt change.
It get worse.
I treasure this relationship a lot.
you are addicted as well?
Then what do you choose?

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Added on September 30, 2010, 3:35 amI did.
talked nicely, talked with tears, sms, talked on the pillow.
everything i tried.
He told me he loves me and I have to tolerate his hobby if I love him too.
But its really suffering.
If i dont play with him, im like no bf.
If i dont watch him play, whole night i wait at home.
If i dont let him play, he said that i dont love him.
If i follow him play, Im like wasting my parents money here in Perth studying.

This post has been edited by joyceanne: Sep 30 2010, 03:35 AM

You seem to have BF more in terms of "name" than function.

well,hardcore dota kaki i must say....old habits die hard.....
try talk wit him....get things work out wit patience...
diversed him wit some other activity....mayb outdoor/indoor...

sry to say ur bf still not that mature yet...

your bf is so stupid la =.= sorry to say tis

the term 'bf' is better not?
If i post his name later he lost his dignity.
I have to respect his face?
keke.

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Added on September 30, 2010, 3:43 amThank you. =)
I will try.
But whenever i told him to go shopping with me. His face so dark.
Its like we go shopping once a month ony.
He sleep til 4pm. how to go out oh?
Perth everywhere including supermarket close at 5pm.
fuhhhh......

This post has been edited by joyceanne: Sep 30 2010, 03:43 AM

It is no use for you to keep him around..
I know that us guys want personal space and all but totally not giving a damn when you are in a relationship is unforgivable..
I suggest that you leave him for good..
I have a lot of friends who are DOTA addicts but not as bad..all of them got dumped because to them DOTA>sex

My reply has nothing to do with person's name.

I mean, "You are in relationship, but looking at your BF who spends more time on DOTA...sometimes, you are not getting the full benefits from a relationship".

lol....did u try show back ur dark face whenever he on game for longtime?
other than shopping...try hangout together like watch movie....party...

Joyceanne!
Playing DOTA is not bad as long as one knows how to balance his time between DOTA and you. I mean if a guy plays DOTA or whatever addicting game technology has to offer, make sure he will also find time for his partner more than playing DOTA. DOTA is just a GAME, and JOYCE are just a girl that need LOVE! Sometimes (or maybe to some, often) happens is that one plays DOTA and since its really addicting, he tend to forget the time and his attention is now merely focused on playing that calling or even texting his girlfriend is already forgotten. TIME is VERY important in a relationship, and if most of the guy's time is consumed in playing DOTA, then that would really create a problem. Who would not get jealous if that would be the case?! and the point is, learn how to value time, it makes the relationship grow and spending time with your partner lets your partner feel they are important more than anything else, more than playing DOTA.. Sometime you need to learn let someone go and let someone in your life that will appreciate you like a girl that need love.....

LOL....why do girls have so much problem with DOTA. One rule is never play together with him. He's already ditching you in real life, chances are, you're gonna get flamed in the game as well as he doesn't see you're the gf in the game. End up, both will fight.......

Just leave him, it's easy. Staying with him doesn't seem to be the thing to do as you're almost invisible to him and you're miserable, why not just leave him and be happy. 2 years is nothing. Come on, there are alot of things out there that you haven't experience, go do it now before you graduate and think back and regret not doing it while you're slaving over a 9-6 job. Your bf might still be in college by then as well since he's obviously putting DOTA ahead of everything.

wah this girl is rare d. ... kinda wasted on this guy

back to topic, I think you need to really sit down, switch off his laptop and stare at him. Ask him why he go to Perth just to bring you back. Until you get a satisfactory answer, I suggest you leave him for good this time. No matter how much you treasure him, if he treasure his hobby more than you, there's nothing you can do about it except the aforementioned.

You decide.

find other guy who not playing DOTA..

Him: Dota > you
You: Him > Parents money / education / time

either you let him go and move on, or let him go to teach him a lesson.

still gotta let him go. get your priorities straight, kiddo.

if you still need a great comparison, compare 2 years of being with him to the years of your parents to work to afford your education in Perth.

give kampung a chance to prove tat tis guy is totally useless~
kampung can bring u anywhere u wan n feed u everyday wit nice food~ ^,^

You need to bring your bf for a ride to retune his alignment.

Can find Rascal ^

Lol jk

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Anyway, I think he needs to get his priority straight. He'll screw his studies and you if this goes on. (figuratively).

Or maybe it's time to rethink what do you want out of this relationship, and what can you get out of it.

My 2 cents.

Ur guy has determined his priority, from what u've shared.

Isn't it about time u determined ur own priority?

joyce, i would to take you out and show you how to live life. which part of msia are you from?

i'll not retune alignment for those retard which only knows how to play dota n ignores d gf~
i'll jus whack 9 him n let him sleep in hospital~

she's in perth now la~

It's all part of the plan

Although there is the saying that if you can't beat them, join them. In this case it don't apply.

Don't worry,
YOU ARE THE RIGHT GIRL for him
the problem is
HE IS NOT THE RIGHT GUY for you.

Unless you can make him stop for 3months, don't even think about having him quit. I did 3months, then I kind of found a new hobby, now my GF has to find a way to make me stop this new hobby

meh....i already quited dota for long time and single

He's addicted to Dota, it's his life. As said before his priority is Dota over you, way over you if even breakup doesn't bring a reaction.

I don't think you will be able to change him, so it's either you accept being 2nd to Dota or leave him.

leave him. im sure u can live better like how i do now

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maybe his DOTA life will be over once he jumps to work life, just like me and my other friends
wth...

I notice something here, so you wanting the attention from him also right? Well, to be honest, if he is addicted to it then let him be la. I don't see a reason why should you learn DotA at the first place. Furthermore, you can't compare like that. You already be with him for 2 years, yet now only complain? If he is such a hardcore player, you'd have already know about it since day 1 then why now only want to make a big fuss about it? So, either you leave it or take it. Either way, it's still you got to fix your own life first.

or mayb he havent improved playing dota..feeding all d time lol.. either he fast end, or u end him fast

use your upper and lower base to control his dota. lol

Sorry, I never play DOTA & I don't understand what so addictive with protecting pixels tower.

I will definitely go for love, only if I can get.

i played dota once...then never touch the game, never like the game...i dont und the hype for it...

lol same like I dont understand y ppl love gundam no offense just different hobby.

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Added on September 30, 2010, 9:59 ammaybe u shud join scourge and feed him to cheer him up.
anyway, cheers.

This post has been edited by kaijun90: Sep 30 2010, 09:59 AM

People should go out, enjoy outdoor beauty instead of restricting themselves in front of the screen.

nope, not really fanatic about gundam, i dont collect any figurine or gundam...just happened to like the animation and design only

yes..dota is addictive..
used to be there b4,bout 4 years..but as time passed, he will realize that real life is out there..if he not dumb enuf lor..

1st, from my perception, ur bf is rich kid.. even flew to perth to get u back.. that cost alot of $$
2nd, u were actually touched by his $$.. not i saying u love ur bf because of money, but , let say ur bf is not dat high class, will he be able to fly to perth and get u back? ? i think he wont right . .

I xperienced many sad n sweet memories from relationship.. u shuld try to move on.. it just 2 years relationship, u r still young.. if u continue to stay with him, hw long are u willing to be patient with ur bf attitude.

girl, thre are alot of men outside their waiting for u.. even they will treasure u more than evrything.. i too, was a dota player.. vry2 addicted still same case like this, but, my gf left me for that reason.. im chnged for that..

i got 1 suggestion for u, u break up with him.. he fly to perth to get u back, just ignore him.. Ignore evyrthing about him.. yeah, i know, this is hard for u, but trust me, it will work! just for 1 mnth.. if he still wait for u, that mean he is the man for u but if he doesnt, then move on ur life.. he is not the man for u..

my bf during uni days was something like that but it was cybercafe. only get to see him if i was willing to play games at the cyber cafe. we were going out for 18 months before i got fed up and dumped him. guys like that are not ready for a committed relationship. u need to take care of yourself and your heart.

Don't pay too much heed on the comments that say DOTA > you. That's really not the case.

Obviously the guy takes his DOTA too seriously. You also need to question yourself "what is it that Dota has that I don't?" Then only you can start to attract his attention again.

back to root cause, DOTA = DUNIA ORANG TANPA AWEK. take it or leave it

You just got pawn by DotA itself. Guys who are sooo madly "in love" with dota doesn't deserves a girl like you. Go find someone else.

Any guy in lowyat is better than your guy ... hahahahah sry, just jk Don't take it serious.

The problem here isn't DOTA, as some posters have implied.

It is the same universal problem of my bf/gf likes <insert hobby, job> more than me. If you think he just isn't into the relationship any more, just end it.

find a better guy with more ambition la

u wouldnt want to b with a guy who only play games and duno shit bout outside world and cant finish his studies.

later cant even land a job and provide financial stability lagi worse.

you think u can LOVE DRINK WATER FULL a?

nice

the problem is not with the DoTa la..its the gamer himself..

i have a few friends who's very pro in dota but still got a healthy love life...

you really should know when to stop..TS just dump him la...

wow, i wish i have a GF like you.

Your BF is stuck in Dota world. Many of his time has lost due to stupid un-benefit game. You could break up and do your own thing waiting till he get sick of the game. And, do you think he is worth it to be your lifetime partner? Can he support you in your life?


I'm a gamer but i only played every weekend night only.

what ur GG id? add me

I kinda disagree.

I'm kinda into DOTA too alot. But I always make time for my GF.
Example, every Wednesday (never miss) I'd go cinema with my gf after work.
During weekends, we'd plan something else like going jogging at park, go dim sum, etc.
Other example, we'd plan for future vacation. Example, plan 2-3 months on a trip. We look info & talk about interesting places to go. But some time, I also like some time on my own to do things I like.

Please give him another chance & try to make some plans to get him away from the evil computer.

my gf play dota with me =)

sounds like a perfect couple

i play dota too, but i play ps3 n xbox 360 also,
and i also play cars.

see, us men can multitask one la, only question we want or not

LOL.... i rather play u ...

if u are my gf....dota is old skool..Sc2 is now the thing

GG id and clan please if applicable.
PC games, PS3, car mods, astro HD, gym...so hard to decide what to do every night.

he is just too addicted that he let the time flies.

and you are too free that you felt lonely.

and that is why u dont felt this back in msia cox u have something else to keep you company.

I did get addicted back then, was able to be in the cafe until 4am. spent lots $$$ and let my sweet time flies.
And now it come to a stage that I rarely played virtual game..

good luck to you in dragging him out to the reality..

You just got pawned! Feel so sorry for you.

he just too into DOTA and does not respect you honestly.... you have to remind him from time to time that game cannot accompany you for life! if he still behaves the same... gg to him than

I been playing dota for more than 5years still playing , i know why is so addictive the reason is simple when you dominating players you will feel awesomeness. Anyway thats just for entertainment , regards your bf maybe is too much on it that could be a problem .. yeah too addictive to game usually you will have bad temper .

This post has been edited by Ahsin1987: Sep 30 2010, 12:33 PM

DENG!!!
the ticket i bought de lo.
and he stayed here in my place.
everything i pay.
This one i can say publicly coz ths is a fact and its real.

he won't dump you because u r his cash provider. dun u get it?

He's dotard... let him go~

I wonder why wont u find another boy in perth..therr r so many good one then him or even better~

so umm... when you dump him you let me know ok? I no play DOTA one

wah, slipper rice man!!!

i dun see nothing wrong u paying for him......

this kind of gf where to find =.= oh god....

if u need a guy who don play dota and willing to fly to perth to look for u using the money u pay, well, i'm available

p.s. i can play a little bit of dota (2-3 years since i last played), if u need it


but seriously, your bf sucks
how do u expect him to take care of u for your whole life if he acts like this?

Just dump him, I'm into dota and other online game too but i will manage my time and free myself to be with my gf.

leave him.. seriously.. 1 day he will regret

for now he will just say u don't understand him and bla bla bla like alot of gamers like to blame gf for not letting them play game and so on..


let him stay in the game ... his life will ruin because of his own stupidness ..

This post has been edited by Strawberry<3: Sep 30 2010, 01:59 PM

He like something, doesnt mean u should just agree, while disagreeing with it does not mean u dont love him, whether u think so or not.

If he say something like that, just go ahead and disagree with it because u got ur point,
dont think that he like means u must accept it.
While this is a big problem that affect ur relationship very very much,
u cannot think that just let the problem be is the way to maintain the relationship.

If u go for a long term relationship,
u must understand that ur relationship will eventually face more and more problems, and sooner or later u just gonna sufforcate urself, he wont be anything better as well.

To deal with it, if he just wont listen by words, take action.
U said if u just leave him, its like no bf. I see now his gf is dota, not u.
If u dont feel like accompany him and contribute to make him addict more to the game, just let him be as there is no other good way to make him think gf > dota.
While in the long terms if he still behave in a way that dota > gf,
i dont see how much he think u are his gf eventhough he say love u and wan u as gf very much.
Also, like many ppl reply dump him and break, this is not wrong because it is hard to rely on people like this.

Before end, ask how long he plan to obsessed with dota,
if he plan to play forever, thats mean more problems awaits;
try to ask him to take down the bad habit.

me not dotard, me COD and SC2 tard



You too good d. Too soft too.
Seriously, you should find better one coz you're a very fine girl. Can easily find new boyfriend.

Your boyfriend gonna keep playing till old.
Can't even pay for house, car and your marriage. You want that?

girl, no offence, i'm not self promoting, i can be 10 times better than your bf. if u decide to leave him, beep me, just like others, i'm one of em' who is available LOL kidding (many guys out there are better than him)

I used to dota alot (a guy who must dota EVERYDAY) and can still maintain a healthy relationship. I thought i gonna die without dota, but heck, u know what? i havent play a single dota game in 3-4 yrs. (I'm so glad for myself).

back to topic, he don't deserve you.
Just like many others said, he made his priority, and shouldnt you make yours too?
2 yrs is not short, but it isn't long too, you would rather endure this pain for a period (u decide) or suffer the continuous pain?

P/s: you are a girl that many dream of

Those who plays Dota are pussies ( just kidding ) , those who prefers dota over their own gf is worse than a ***** ( naw this is real ) .

Nuff said, move on baby, you deserve better.

find anor game to play and then become addicted like him...

that way, you'll think less about him..

I hope this is said in jest because i feel like slapping you.

who said 2 years relationship is hard to forget and let go?
then hw bout those who have been dating for 6 years above n nearly to get married, but in the end still break off? so they should kill themself?
its obviously that he doesnt love u that much.
he would rather to spend time with the bloody hell DOTA instead of u.
see how important are u in his heart?
u should think properly whether its worth to continue or not lorr...
btw, did he treat u like a princess at the beginning? while u both jz started to dateee

Lolx ur story just like my old days.. bur broke up already hahaha...
Dota everyday gf msg also lazy reply wan go out also lazy..
then she left me said i dun care about her..
then after i start working after that realize cb got gf dunno take care play dota..
now work so bored life is work back home dota?
wtf wan do no gf keep dota then f*** dota make kids rolf...
but nowday im not that addicted to dota jst play when weekend..
seriusly dota is drug man...

come we play dota together ok?

we fight against AI.

Coz back in Malaysia his parents would stop him. But it's getting worse when he came Perth. In Malaysia he only play 6 hours per day. Now 12.

Aiseh... just pretend to trip over the computer's power cord while he is playing la, hahahah

If he's angry then just say lor "wah DOTA only what, why you so angry? You fail your exams that time see your parents more angry or you more angry" haw haw!!

pull plug la.even syok.