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 DOTA and LOVE, DOTA and LOVE, which would you choose??

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Klemann C
post Sep 30 2010, 03:52 AM

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lol....did u try show back ur dark face whenever he on game for longtime? tongue.gif
other than shopping...try hangout together like watch movie....party...
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post Sep 30 2010, 04:03 AM

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QUOTE(joyceanne @ Sep 30 2010, 02:16 AM)
Well. I will just make it short.
Me and my bf been together for like 2 years.
He is very into Dota. When we were back in Malaysia, when his mom and dad are at home, he didnt play that much.
And even if he play, im beside him watching or sleeping.
sometimes, i slept on his gaming sofa n he will carry me to room once he done playing.
To see him, to spend time with him, I learnt to play.
sometimes when i died or feed the game, then he is very unhappy.
most of our arguments came from his games.
His temper is not that good, that's the problem.

We came Perth. and now, its getting worse.
He woke up around 4pm, then eat then go campus play dota til 430am.
Sometimes i follow him. but sometimes if there are classes next day 8am then I will stay at home.
But i feel so boring staying at home.
and I dont like waiting the door to be opened.
I cried almost everyday.
I talked to him.
I tried to make him happy.
Things are still the same.

I even told him "if you continue to behave like that, Im sorry. Im not the girl suitable for you."
He continues playing.

I couldnt stand it anymore.
what else can I do?  sad.gif
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Joyceanne!
Playing DOTA is not bad as long as one knows how to balance his time between DOTA and you. I mean if a guy plays DOTA or whatever addicting game technology has to offer, make sure he will also find time for his partner more than playing DOTA. DOTA is just a GAME, and JOYCE are just a girl that need LOVE! Sometimes (or maybe to some, often) happens is that one plays DOTA and since its really addicting, he tend to forget the time and his attention is now merely focused on playing that calling or even texting his girlfriend is already forgotten. TIME is VERY important in a relationship, and if most of the guy's time is consumed in playing DOTA, then that would really create a problem. Who would not get jealous if that would be the case?! and the point is, learn how to value time, it makes the relationship grow and spending time with your partner lets your partner feel they are important more than anything else, more than playing DOTA.. Sometime you need to learn let someone go and let someone in your life that will appreciate you like a girl that need love.....

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post Sep 30 2010, 04:11 AM

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LOL....why do girls have so much problem with DOTA. One rule is never play together with him. He's already ditching you in real life, chances are, you're gonna get flamed in the game as well as he doesn't see you're the gf in the game. End up, both will fight.......

Just leave him, it's easy. Staying with him doesn't seem to be the thing to do as you're almost invisible to him and you're miserable, why not just leave him and be happy. 2 years is nothing. Come on, there are alot of things out there that you haven't experience, go do it now before you graduate and think back and regret not doing it while you're slaving over a 9-6 job. Your bf might still be in college by then as well since he's obviously putting DOTA ahead of everything.
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post Sep 30 2010, 04:18 AM

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wah this girl is rare d. ... kinda wasted on this guy laugh.gif

back to topic, I think you need to really sit down, switch off his laptop and stare at him. Ask him why he go to Perth just to bring you back. Until you get a satisfactory answer, I suggest you leave him for good this time. No matter how much you treasure him, if he treasure his hobby more than you, there's nothing you can do about it except the aforementioned.

You decide.
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post Sep 30 2010, 04:23 AM

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QUOTE(coolie @ Sep 30 2010, 04:18 AM)
wah this girl is rare d. ... kinda wasted on this guy laugh.gif

back to topic, I think you need to really sit down, switch off his laptop and stare at him. Ask him why he go to Perth just to bring you back. Until you get a satisfactory answer, I suggest you leave him for good this time. No matter how much you treasure him, if he treasure his hobby more than you, there's nothing you can do about it except the aforementioned.

You decide.
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post Sep 30 2010, 08:01 AM

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find other guy who not playing DOTA..
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post Sep 30 2010, 08:05 AM

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Him: Dota > you
You: Him > Parents money / education / time

either you let him go and move on, or let him go to teach him a lesson.

still gotta let him go. get your priorities straight, kiddo.

if you still need a great comparison, compare 2 years of being with him to the years of your parents to work to afford your education in Perth.
Rascal Stitch
post Sep 30 2010, 08:33 AM

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give kampung a chance to prove tat tis guy is totally useless~
kampung can bring u anywhere u wan n feed u everyday wit nice food~ ^,^
eXPeri3nc3
post Sep 30 2010, 08:47 AM

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You need to bring your bf for a ride to retune his alignment.

Can find Rascal ^

Lol jk

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Anyway, I think he needs to get his priority straight. He'll screw his studies and you if this goes on. (figuratively).

Or maybe it's time to rethink what do you want out of this relationship, and what can you get out of it.

My 2 cents.
eruannwen
post Sep 30 2010, 08:51 AM

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Ur guy has determined his priority, from what u've shared.

Isn't it about time u determined ur own priority?
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post Sep 30 2010, 08:54 AM

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joyce, i would to take you out and show you how to live life. which part of msia are you from? smile.gif
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post Sep 30 2010, 08:57 AM

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QUOTE(eXPeri3nc3 @ Sep 30 2010, 09:47 AM)
You need to bring your bf for a ride to retune his alignment.

Can find Rascal ^

Lol jk

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Anyway, I think he needs to get his priority straight. He'll screw his studies and you if this goes on. (figuratively).

Or maybe it's time to rethink what do you want out of this relationship, and what can you get out of it.

My 2 cents.
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i'll not retune alignment for those retard which only knows how to play dota n ignores d gf~
i'll jus whack 9 him n let him sleep in hospital~ brows.gif brows.gif
Rascal Stitch
post Sep 30 2010, 08:59 AM

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QUOTE(Salience @ Sep 30 2010, 09:54 AM)
joyce, i would to take you out and show you how to live life. which part of msia are you from? smile.gif
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she's in perth now la~ doh.gif doh.gif
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:01 AM

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QUOTE(Rascal Stitch @ Sep 30 2010, 08:57 AM)
i'll  not retune alignment for those retard which only knows how to play dota n ignores d gf~
i'll jus whack 9 him n let him sleep in hospital~  brows.gif  brows.gif
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QUOTE(quest_5692 @ Sep 30 2010, 03:30 AM)
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if its like this, leave him
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QUOTE(pillage2001 @ Sep 30 2010, 04:11 AM)
LOL....why do girls have so much problem with DOTA. One rule is never play together with him. He's already ditching you in real life, chances are, you're gonna get flamed in the game as well as he doesn't see you're the gf in the game. End up, both will fight.......
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QUOTE(joyceanne @ Sep 30 2010, 03:29 AM)
He forgotten our anniversary.
Valentines day? ermm.. we had dinner then back home dota.
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Although there is the saying that if you can't beat them, join them. In this case it don't apply.

Don't worry,
YOU ARE THE RIGHT GIRL for him
the problem is
HE IS NOT THE RIGHT GUY for you.

Unless you can make him stop for 3months, don't even think about having him quit. I did 3months, then I kind of found a new hobby, now my GF has to find a way to make me stop this new hobby whistling.gif
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meh....i already quited dota for long time and single whistling.gif
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:18 AM

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QUOTE(joyceanne @ Sep 30 2010, 02:16 AM)
Well. I will just make it short.
Me and my bf been together for like 2 years.
He is very into Dota. When we were back in Malaysia, when his mom and dad are at home, he didnt play that much.
And even if he play, im beside him watching or sleeping.
sometimes, i slept on his gaming sofa n he will carry me to room once he done playing.
To see him, to spend time with him, I learnt to play.
sometimes when i died or feed the game, then he is very unhappy.
most of our arguments came from his games.
His temper is not that good, that's the problem.

We came Perth. and now, its getting worse.
He woke up around 4pm, then eat then go campus play dota til 430am.
Sometimes i follow him. but sometimes if there are classes next day 8am then I will stay at home.
But i feel so boring staying at home.
and I dont like waiting the door to be opened.
I cried almost everyday.
I talked to him.
I tried to make him happy.
Things are still the same.

I even told him "if you continue to behave like that, Im sorry. Im not the girl suitable for you."
He continues playing.

I couldnt stand it anymore.
what else can I do?  sad.gif
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He's addicted to Dota, it's his life. As said before his priority is Dota over you, way over you if even breakup doesn't bring a reaction.

I don't think you will be able to change him, so it's either you accept being 2nd to Dota or leave him.
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:29 AM

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leave him. im sure u can live better like how i do now biggrin.gif
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:31 AM

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QUOTE(eruannwen @ Sep 30 2010, 08:51 AM)
Ur guy has determined his priority, from what u've shared.

Isn't it about time u determined ur own priority?
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:38 AM

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maybe his DOTA life will be over once he jumps to work life, just like me and my other friends whistling.gif whistling.gif whistling.gif
wth... doh.gif

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