my wedding on the invitation card already stated we cordially decline angpow gifts. and we also put a sign at the receptions in both chinese & english regarding that, the ushers also prep to acknowledge the guests bout tat.

that was my discussion with my husband before the wedding, if got money then have banquet, if no money, then don't. we decided not to invite ppl to cover our cost, we genuinely only wanted to share the joy and treat everyone a dinner.