totally agree with the above. parents mau muka punya pasal...

Real man fund 90% wedding cost on credit

This means they expect money. How long have you lived here, people say that just to appear humble. It's like when you're entertaining people and they say'here, let me pay for it'. This means you should pay for it, otherwise you'll just ruin the relationship. I've even spoke to elderly cab drivers who refused fares, doesn't mean you don't pay for it. It's not even like they want to have a big dinner, it's just that they are forced to do it, so help them out a bit. When it comes to your turn (if it does) and you are Chinese you know it will happen to you too, and you will surely want them to help you out.

at malaeis weddings, "salam kaut" is whenever the guest is eated n ready to go home, they will meet up with the host n give some money. its usually shows appreciation or congrate

the more people comes, the more salam kaut get!

wat kind of kahwin u want? Hotel? Chinese restaurant? Ur budget include mas kahwin? Rings? So general how u want ppl to give u advice?

HAHAHHAHAHA... nice interpretation but WRONG

u came to my wedding or what? when it comes to my turn? the said was my turn if only u read

so far there's not even one chinese wedding i've been has that sign. only me & my hubby decided we do not want OTHERS MONEY for OUR WEDDING. so we put up a sign, genuinely JUST TO SHARE OUR JOY and treat everyone a dinner.



This post has been edited by debbierowe: Sep 12 2010, 06:11 PM

Need RM99mil

not every1 like u marry a rich man!

and also not every1 can afford wat u did!

it's kinda funny if u say like that

married certificate issue by JPN only RM20. then a couple would be legally married. why need money, and why need banquet (If got no money, end up waiting for ppl to "bless" the wedding by giving cash)

dun tell me tat u don't held a wedding dinner? or u and ur hubby fork out certain amount of $$$ to belanja every single guest?

Cos do mentioned tat "JUST TO SHARE OUR JOY and treat everyone a dinner"

lol..
we fork out bcos we can afford it duh! IF cannot we wouldn't have

tats our principle which of cos not very traditionally-chinese. that have it anyway and expect to get back from angpows

Reading all this, makes me to rethink my priority in savings.

as far as I know,is only "ang moh" will do tat! Bcos I attend b4 "ang moh" ppls wedding.And is true tat there is no money involved but me n my frens just buy gift only.

btw,how many guest 1st tat u belanja? mind to tell?

once there was this inferiority-complex melei who criticized meleis for having extravagant weddings; i interrupted him by saying that the cainees (he looks up to the cainees) have even more extravagant weddings... he said no, them cainees are more extravagant about education

while i agree that the cainees do spend a lot on their education, they are just as guilty, if not more when wasting money on weddings compared to meleis, especially with all those wine and hotels ballrooms involved - rarely do i see cainees weddings held at home, while it is rather less common for melei folks to have their weddings at the hotels

This post has been edited by powerfulcool: Sep 12 2010, 07:30 PM

Real man spend 1000% of annual income on wedding

real man no need wedding. they go cheong anytime and anywhere

money involve or not is up to us la, not our race. our parents also support our decision for dropping red-invitation instead of red bomb

300 over guests mainly my parents' & in laws' frens ... those sok-gong-lou-yeh-ah-poh-ah-gu-ah-yi-ah-chek

those i know personally not up to 100.

Bottom line, invite only those who you and your partner know?

u need to think ure self 1st, enjoy while u still can, when u hav a gf, then u can start planing..

which means averagely around 30 tables (1 table = 10 person)

And u invite those relatives and some close ppl.Still quite affordable.But dun tell me those guest dun give u some gifts as well?