So true.
I wore a fitting long sleeve baby T (a plain one, no word, no brand names/logo, no pic, nada) and baggy khaki pants; in fact, since I had to take a bus today, I didn't even wear accessories or what not as to not attract attention. I took a bus today and there was this guy sitting by the aisle on the right, a seat in front of me, so, it's diagonal from me (I was by the aisle on the left).  This guy kept turning around to look at me every few seconds. At first I didn't notice but he wasn't being secretive anyway. I tot he was looking at me but as it turns out, he kept turning around to look at my chest!!!

I didn't even had makeup on or what, I didn't even dress up. Just really plain Jane. It doesn't have to be clothes to be sexy. I know I wasn't. I'm not even heavily endowed! It's not bout clothes, it's subjected to the guy. The guy I ran across today may have been a pervert but his idea of sexy is what floats his perversion, no?

Me too! yay! High five *piak*

I know you weren't. Both and Drian weren't. But kinda lack of reaction. Cos I told what happen to friends and girls would, you know, tell you how ew, their experiences, what we can do, what possible scenarios there can be and counter measures; but the guys, they just haha, maybe this, maybe that, haha, end of story. Even my dad, bf and bro just    then nothing more. It's is girls club after all, so I was kinda hoping similar discussion but so dead and I was goading you and Drian for replies cos you both always have strong points and views. You guys always stick to discussion while many others gives stupid replies

I covered up, not sure if I ignored him by just "what" him, and I can't move on just like that. Ignorance is blissful, yes, but a hazardous move when it comes to delicate stuff like these. Should I wait for something to happen then only for an action to be taken? rather than repair, isn't it better to prevent? If a creep just stared, then ok. Lucky~.. ! But if the creep's persistent, ikut, or got up and approach me or something more then just stare, what should I do? If anything happens, it would be partially my fault for not being prepared and take precaution. Luck favours the prepared.  I want to be prepared. Maybe cos I'm a girl, I give stuff like these more thoughts.

If I get off the bus and while walking to my destination, the guy follows but I was unaware (later kidnapped/raped/whatever), it's not partially my fault for being so clueless in public? if while walking the guy walks quickly by me and grope, is it not my fault for being unaware that he's near, and the fact that I should be since the creep has been staring with malign for almost an hour?

What if it wasn't in such situation? what if the bus was full and the creep had sat next to me? I would have stood up, definitely, but what if I sat by the window? I can't escape, can I? What the hell should a girl do to even feel remotely safe in public?! It's frustrating to go for any public amenities having to take such precautions and so much tedious little details. If it was at night, alone, and lo and behold, sakit perut; cirit birit, in quiet public area, but a public toilet nearby;  as a guy, you'll enter no? but as a girl... I rather look for 7-11 or pharmacy to get sakit perut ubat, or something that I make me able to tahan till I get some where safer.

I yada yada yada so panjang, you get me? I don't think girls should wait for something to happen without taking more possible precautions. I want to know more precautions I can take should my situation had a worst case scenario.

My car keys was the one with pepper spray... so I don't have it with me that time. Like I said, I got complacent liau.
Ace hardware's got one, pretty strong. RM49.50. Safe Guard.

Itu flasher, my last encounter, was a chinese guy. I so happen to carry experiment home. I can't remember what it was but it was something acidic, pH5-6 nia. It was blue, I think dissolved sodium sulfate with dillute HCl. I cabut the rubber stopper and splash it on his thing.  He sped off. lol. My other friends, the flasher was indian, this time, they all stood there laughing at him. When the flasher didn't speed off but got angry, they started whacking him with heavy school bags. lol. Like I said, flashing is so common, student in my school are no longer fazed by it. There was once, I think malay guy, flash my cikgu... and my cikgu carried pen knife, she threaten him and sent him police station straight. Damn funny wei.... I watching the entire thing from across the street.

I don;t like public transport either. Cos it's not safe. And when I have to, so many details to take care off before going out. Cannot dress up oso.

....... I am not paranoid. I just prefer being prepared. I have been paranoid. Like jumping at the mere puttering motor of a bike riding by too closely to me. For years. At that sound, without your brain registering what that sound is yet, your body goes stiff and still, you can feel your heart race, working so hard at pumping blood it felt like your heart vibrating your chest and trying burst out, the nauseating fear, andreline rush, the moment your brains actually register that sound, you already jumped away. You don't even have to see it coming. Your body automatically reacts. and the fact that jumping away, creating only 1 metre difference does almost nothing is freaking irritating.

I have been paranoid. I hate that feeling. This a reason why I take such precaution and such extend at protecting myself. I hate reacting without effect. I hate being helpless. I hate the feeling of being helpless. I hate not being in control when I can. I hate not doing something that could have made a difference. I hate the distress.

I got through that jumpy-paranoid phase when I read more bout self defense, getting myself a pepper spray, simulating possible scenarios over and over. So that when something happens, my body reacted accordingly without having to remember. Just reacting instinctively. I can make myself react faster and effectively too.

I bet you never jump away at the mere sound of a motor riding too closely to you. It's not the same at jumping when a dog suddenly barked ferociously at your feet.

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Added on September 29, 2010, 8:03 pmeh, tech3910, you online now is it? I'll wait for your reply. but i go makan now first. haha, ta!

At that sound, without your brain registering what that sound is yet, your body goes stiff and still, you can feel your heart race, working so hard at pumping blood it felt like your heart vibrating your chest and trying burst out, the nauseating fear, andreline rush, the moment your brains actually register that sound, you already jumped away. You don't even have to see it coming. Your body automatically reacts. and the fact that jumping away, creating only 1 metre difference does almost nothing is freaking irritating.