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BlurSotong
post Sep 11 2010, 09:01 PM

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QUOTE(Feline_gal @ Sep 10 2010, 10:48 PM)
Am just wondering what's sexy to you exactly?

Isit always by what we wear (like short skirt, low-tops, or even revealing g-string)??? most of my guy friends think so although I had known a guy who once told me that he is even "turn-on" by certain moaning sound when gal bang her toe...to him that is very sexy.  blink.gif

Opening this thread in getting gals opinion.
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You're asking girls what turns them on bout other girls?
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post Sep 13 2010, 08:23 PM

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QUOTE(gloomberg @ Sep 13 2010, 04:22 PM)
I want a woman that thinks in a mature way. Is there any out there?
I HATE it when women thinks that men is the ONLY one who should sacrifice when that woman is not ready to commit to the relationship after so long together. Why need to test the partner? Why need to demand this and that and when it's fulfilled, you want more? The problem with girls nowadays is that they think they are smart, and although they do, the are not smart enough to think that the man has feelings too.

Men who are stable would want a woman that can think maturely.Very simple. We don't need u to be unique or whatsoever. We don't need u to be someone else u're not. And when u're 20+ and thinks like a bloody 15 year old who rants all the time, all guys would run away without second thoughts. Men are simple-minded in a way that we're practical, and when we love u means we love u. Those guys who find other women are special case(bad luck for those ladies then), but those who love u unconditionally and u still whine about it. And when all is lost, then u start to whine and say "it's the guys fault!" or "why, why he left me? Sob Sob" and tell me women, what is the purpose in that. Do u think that by crying, the guy would be back?

Women has always been stereotyping that men are evil, although that is partially true(who isn't?), when you are already in the relationship itself, trust is important. Unnecessary jealousy, hatred towards those who come near ur bf. If u don't trust, just immediately break-up, because there is not purpose in the relationship no more. But of course it takes time to build trust. (Those guys who exploited the gf's trust, good luck in ur future endeavors)

So what makes a guy fall in love with a gal? A lot of reasons. Most importantly, positive behavior and attitude, nice and polite as well. Some girls who feel inferior, because they kept on reading those lousy fashion magazines, please stop wasting your time because u will never look like those models. Well, they are called models for a reason. And they are photoshopped. How on earth can someone look that perfect? Attraction itself is not just by looks, although that is the first barrier. So do u think all guys looked handsome as well? All guys won't feel inferior looking at other hunky dude (Edward Cullen)? yes they do!

Always take time in everything u do, and most importantly be urself. If he or she doesn't like they way u are, then never start at all because it would be a waste of time, especially when one is obstinate and hard-headed(there are a lot of girls who are stubborn also ok, not just guys). Patience is the key!

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you made it sound like no one wants to settle down with you. and you PMS kah?
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post Sep 26 2010, 01:52 AM

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QUOTE(spunkberry @ Sep 25 2010, 11:20 PM)
you don't have to wear less to be sexy. my boyfriend finds me sexy even when I'm wearing my baggy sleep clothes xD
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So true.



I wore a fitting long sleeve baby T (a plain one, no word, no brand names/logo, no pic, nada) and baggy khaki pants; in fact, since I had to take a bus today, I didn't even wear accessories or what not as to not attract attention. I took a bus today and there was this guy sitting by the aisle on the right, a seat in front of me, so, it's diagonal from me (I was by the aisle on the left). This guy kept turning around to look at me every few seconds. At first I didn't notice but he wasn't being secretive anyway. I tot he was looking at me but as it turns out, he kept turning around to look at my chest!!!
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I didn't even had makeup on or what, I didn't even dress up. Just really plain Jane. It doesn't have to be clothes to be sexy. I know I wasn't. I'm not even heavily endowed! It's not bout clothes, it's subjected to the guy. The guy I ran across today may have been a pervert but his idea of sexy is what floats his perversion, no?

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post Sep 28 2010, 06:36 PM

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QUOTE(Drian @ Sep 28 2010, 06:18 PM)
Were you wearing white shirt with pokka dot push up bra smile.gif
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Nope, nope and no. Plain plain plain. Plain dark green long sleeve fitting baby T; plain baggy white khaki, boring white tennis shoes. No vpl, or anything for imagination. Nada. I was gonna take a bus, so I was dress pretty boring. Enough to be looked over. In fact, I like being under radars, and I took extra miles to make sure of it whenever I wanna stay invisible. Thinking bout it makes me boil.


Added on September 28, 2010, 6:42 pm
QUOTE(goldfries @ Sep 28 2010, 06:23 PM)
LOL BlurSotong. purposely go find Misaki to show expression. he thinks you have nice bust size perhaps?
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Ew, no thanks, I prefer creeps to not have any opinion bout me at all.. You watch Kaichou wa Maid-sama too?? Yay, another fan. But season ended on the same day that pervert was on the bus. What a day. Any news bout second season? We still have Usui's secret!

On a happier note, last episode: moe~ They made my flowers of moe bloomed.


Added on September 28, 2010, 7:38 pmWait, hold on a sec. Why are both of you looking for reason for a creep???? Drian's humorously looking for something that might reason a creep's action, and goldfries's defending the creep's action. I understand I'm a stranger but if some guy is looking inappropriately at your whoever (say daughter), I willing to bet it gets your blood boiling too. Let's see if you guys would look at things so lightly. And that's few times less how a girl feels. What are you ideas of counter measures? Being a guy, you're better aquantainted with what male perverts perspective, what can a girl do to deter these creeps?


Added on September 28, 2010, 7:40 pmIn a good way, I think I came off pretty aggressive in my post, ignore the aggression pls and thanks.

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post Sep 29 2010, 05:00 PM

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QUOTE(Drian @ Sep 29 2010, 10:42 AM)
Well because nothing happened, not defending him or whatever but staring at your boobs is not going to harm you physically in anyway. There bound to be people like him around.  Just cover up, ignore him and move on.
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I covered up, not sure if I ignored him by just "what" him, and I can't move on just like that. Ignorance is blissful, yes, but a hazardous move when it comes to delicate stuff like these. Should I wait for something to happen then only for an action to be taken? rather than repair, isn't it better to prevent? If a creep just stared, then ok. Lucky~.. ! But if the creep's persistent, ikut, or got up and approach me or something more then just stare, what should I do? If anything happens, it would be partially my fault for not being prepared and take precaution. Luck favours the prepared. I want to be prepared. Maybe cos I'm a girl, I give stuff like these more thoughts.

If I get off the bus and while walking to my destination, the guy follows but I was unaware (later kidnapped/raped/whatever), it's not partially my fault for being so clueless in public? if while walking the guy walks quickly by me and grope, is it not my fault for being unaware that he's near, and the fact that I should be since the creep has been staring with malign for almost an hour?

What if it wasn't in such situation? what if the bus was full and the creep had sat next to me? I would have stood up, definitely, but what if I sat by the window? I can't escape, can I? What the hell should a girl do to even feel remotely safe in public?! It's frustrating to go for any public amenities having to take such precautions and so much tedious little details. If it was at night, alone, and lo and behold, sakit perut; cirit birit, in quiet public area, but a public toilet nearby; as a guy, you'll enter no? but as a girl... I rather look for 7-11 or pharmacy to get sakit perut ubat, or something that I make me able to tahan till I get some where safer.

I yada yada yada so panjang, you get me? I don't think girls should wait for something to happen without taking more possible precautions. I want to know more precautions I can take should my situation had a worst case scenario.
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post Sep 29 2010, 07:19 PM

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QUOTE(tech3910 @ Sep 29 2010, 06:37 PM)
i think u think too much.....@_@
a bus full of perverts? it's like in JAV scene.......-.-"

there r many good people of there.
in fact, there way more good people & those perverts u talking about is only small percentage of the society....

p/s, u covered up, but i think it must b tight.....
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it was fitting... not tight... and no lah, not a bus full of perverts. Just one. But if that one preys on you, I got no space to run to on a crowded bus. I wasn't clear I guess. You guys are not understanding what girls felt like, being preyed on. If something happens, it's very traumatic. Before it happens, you sense something bad, if you can control the situation, would you not? Girls get preyed on everyday and it's getting rampant and common. You hear who and who got this and that. For a girl, and being a girl, it so common, it might happen to you. I prefer to be prepared. If I can be prepared enough to prevent something bad from happening, isn't it better? I am ONE girl, but I've been flashed 3 times in the span of 4 years. And that is just the stats of being flashed. What are other sexual innuendoes should a girl go through? Being under such situations so many times, and being only MY personal experience, what do you think the incident stats of 100 girls? 500? Female population?


Added on September 29, 2010, 7:21 pmand I'm gonna assume JAV is some porn so let's not get there.

But a bus with few ppl of malign intent? why not? There was news about 2 months ago bout a guy being robbed or his handphone while travelling on the bus. and it was a team of three men.

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post Sep 29 2010, 07:59 PM

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QUOTE(tech3910 @ Sep 29 2010, 07:30 PM)
there is a fine line between precaution & paranoid......
u dont hav 2 cross it........
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....... I am not paranoid. I just prefer being prepared. I have been paranoid. Like jumping at the mere puttering motor of a bike riding by too closely to me. For years. At that sound, without your brain registering what that sound is yet, your body goes stiff and still, you can feel your heart race, working so hard at pumping blood it felt like your heart vibrating your chest and trying burst out, the nauseating fear, andreline rush, the moment your brains actually register that sound, you already jumped away. You don't even have to see it coming. Your body automatically reacts. and the fact that jumping away, creating only 1 metre difference does almost nothing is freaking irritating.

I have been paranoid. I hate that feeling. This a reason why I take such precaution and such extend at protecting myself. I hate reacting without effect. I hate being helpless. I hate the feeling of being helpless. I hate not being in control when I can. I hate not doing something that could have made a difference. I hate the distress.

I got through that jumpy-paranoid phase when I read more bout self defense, getting myself a pepper spray, simulating possible scenarios over and over. So that when something happens, my body reacted accordingly without having to remember. Just reacting instinctively. I can make myself react faster and effectively too.

I bet you never jump away at the mere sound of a motor riding too closely to you. It's not the same at jumping when a dog suddenly barked ferociously at your feet.


Added on September 29, 2010, 8:03 pmeh, tech3910, you online now is it? I'll wait for your reply. but i go makan now first. haha, ta!

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post Sep 30 2010, 12:09 AM

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QUOTE(tech3910 @ Sep 29 2010, 11:40 PM)
was taking a nap just now....=.=

yeah, there is bad people out there, but there is a lot of good people who willing to help too.

speaking of self defense, last time my gf (b4 she bcom my gf) was in train.
& there is some dude sticking his hand into her bag & try to steal her HP.
luckily she spotted it & proceed to beat the guy to the ground.
my gf is small & look adorable & vulnerable, but damn she kick ass...... blink.gif
it happen near the door when the train just reaches a station. a guy from outside quickly pull her out b4 door closes, den later tell her better wait for next train, avoid being wit the thief on the same train.

actually she got learn self defense bck in school last time.
& i do support girl having som knowledge of self defense.

as for flasher story, i can say it is unavoidable.
every girl i know, frens & family, sure got story of encounter flasher b4......
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I was watching some shows on comp, so it's okay. smile.gif I know there are ppl willing to help but should I wait for their help if I can help myself? What if no one helped? There are plenty of incidences no one did anything and just watched drama unfold.

Your gf's lucky... and yeah, lotsa chili padi out there. thumbup.gif my favourite peeps. and your gf beat the guy up. Hell yeah! flex.gif Instinctive no? I wanna be able to react like that if it happen to me. I would probably just "Hey!! You-...!!" I would think too much, like throw my shoes/slippers at the thief but my aim's not that good, might hit someone innocent... this that... yada yada..

I've never learned before. Watch self defense vids got lah. That's the extent of my kung fu. (if any, haha)

What about molestation? Snatch theft? They always prey on girls. It doesn't have to be sexual but still girls are the ones preyed. Flashing was so rampant in my secondary/primary school that hours students goes/leaves school, we have police guarding. That was how many police reports flooding the station. Enough to get police to guard everyday at 7am, 12-2pm and 6.30pm to 8pm. But when reports stop flooding, students, school authorities, police gets more complacent, then the flasher returns, even if they were once caught. Now I don't know. Kids have camera phones now. I wish that was invented back then. That time, the latest phone was phone with polyphonic ring tones. Imaging that. haha, and the following year when I was in pre-u, then coloured screens and few months later came camera phones. *getting off topic*

Does your gf gets complacent when she's with you? Cos I am. Nothing happen to me after I met my bf, (till last saturday). then I know I'm getting too comfortable feeling safe with my bf around. I should have been more on guard. Then I wouldn't have felt so helpless, I'll feel ready to unleash my wrath.
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post Sep 30 2010, 03:35 PM

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QUOTE(Drian @ Sep 30 2010, 10:39 AM)
Precaution? Don't go out at night. If the creep is stupid enough to follow you just go to somewhere crowded or just go out with your bf. It's actually plain common sense or get a car so that you would not need to take public transport again.

And why is it if you sat by the window you can't escape? You can't stand up and walk away ?
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I can't always meet/go out with my bf, can I? He works, I have household chores, ferry my bro and his friends around, babysitting pretentious wide-eyed evil monsters cousins (once a month, they'll tire my grandma if I don't let her take a break. all cucu takes turn smile.gif ) My scenario was not just for myself, but those young girls manning stalls in pasar malam, girls working as sales reps in shopping complexes, their shift is up to late hours no?

I pengecut, I don't go out late at nights. Mom's curfew: 12am; self curfew: 11pm. I have a car, but my uncle's cr-v got crashed into by "wira ngan enjin evo" and deemed totaled only the other day. I lent him my car cos my bro's grounded for PMR, I don't need it as much as he does.. Explain common sense part, I don't think I see your perspective just yet.

you don't take busses, smile.gif do you? The seats in some busses have small leg rooms. Imagine airplanes, constantly experiencing turbulence. You have the window seat but you gotta go potty, and the guy by the aisle's got a larger than average... er- body surface area.
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post Sep 30 2010, 03:46 PM

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QUOTE(tech3910 @ Sep 30 2010, 03:24 AM)
hahaa
watching kungfu movie is very different wit the real deal......
actually is very ez to learn those self defense technique.

btw, i do agree dat female shud hav som form of protection in their bag/purse like taser, pepper spray...etc....(& condom...... whistling.gif)
where can buy pepper spray? i wan get 1 for my gf as well.....

dealing wit flasher, the problem is women scare, scream & run away. dis is wat excite the flasher.
like u say, now a days who dont hav camera HP.
girl shud just stay calm, calm tek out the HP & snap photo & den GTHO.
if got pepper spray, go spray his junk....oh yeah!

i think my gf do get complacent....
ntgh ever happen to her since v 2gether.....
i dont prefer her tak public transport alone.
sometimes she no transport after say after class o shopping, i would rather go fetch her myself.

wat was the topic again?..... tongue.gif
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My car keys was the one with pepper spray... so I don't have it with me that time. Like I said, I got complacent liau.
Ace hardware's got one, pretty strong. RM49.50. Safe Guard.

Itu flasher, my last encounter, was a chinese guy. I so happen to carry experiment home. I can't remember what it was but it was something acidic, pH5-6 nia. It was blue, I think dissolved sodium sulfate with dillute HCl. I cabut the rubber stopper and splash it on his thing. laugh.gif He sped off. lol. My other friends, the flasher was indian, this time, they all stood there laughing at him. When the flasher didn't speed off but got angry, they started whacking him with heavy school bags. lol. Like I said, flashing is so common, student in my school are no longer fazed by it. There was once, I think malay guy, flash my cikgu... and my cikgu carried pen knife, she threaten him and sent him police station straight. Damn funny wei.... I watching the entire thing from across the street.

I don;t like public transport either. Cos it's not safe. And when I have to, so many details to take care off before going out. Cannot dress up oso.

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Added on September 30, 2010, 3:54 pm
QUOTE(spanker @ Sep 30 2010, 03:45 PM)
Then just imagine you're taking a plane going through a lot of turbulence lor. hahahah
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When push comes to shove, I will lah. But which direction? My front facing him or my rear? either way, he might pretend to move to make space and take the chance to push himself forward. It's very uncomfortable.

You're a guy, if an old auntie with big bag of vegie/clothes/whatever sat next to you on a two-seater, you're by the window (in a bus with small leg room), and she's inching closer towards you, to the point her lower arm kept grazing closer towards your nether region... the majority of the riders are old ppl, females... and no one can see what's going on. What would you do?



.... reading back my post(s), I'm still pretty paranoid, aren't I?

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post Sep 30 2010, 04:20 PM

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QUOTE(Drian @ Sep 30 2010, 03:59 PM)
They flash you, then you smart enough and say , "Yuks not nice one".
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I walked away twice, splash chemical once. My friends were the ones making fun of the guy. They were in a group, so I guess their fears ebb away. laugh.gif


QUOTE(Drian @ Sep 30 2010, 03:59 PM)
When I was clubbing in UK, there are females who flash their tits. Nobody gives a damn about it and just cheered when they do that.
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I- I cheered too... blush.gif but it was during a marathon in front of Westminister Abbey. But if a guy flashed at you???

QUOTE(Drian @ Sep 30 2010, 03:59 PM)
You're being paranoid. You have to simulate scenarios over and over? If that's not paranoid what is?
The way you describe yourself reminds me of a passage from a Mills and Boon, whenever the guy starts to makeout with the girl. LOL.
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that was then... during paranoia... I seriously jumped at that sound. Heighten senses and all. My friends were really spooked by me then. And when they try to calm me down by touching my shoulder, I jerked away. The entire body was just so alert and suspicious, any contact was automatically on defence and offence if must. It was tough seeing the pain look in their eyes at the same time trying to calm down and chill. and what's worst... they wanna talk about it.


Added on September 30, 2010, 4:23 pmI'm merely describing what I felt. It took me years to stop jumping. My mom was robbed by snatch theives on her way to work, along jalan ampang. She had the same experience. When she describe then, it was just a story to me. But having experiencing it years later was entirely different story.


Added on September 30, 2010, 4:25 pmDid I mention that times seems to slow down? You'll notice every detail. You'll remember what happened very vividly and yet you don't... I remember down to the assailant's slipper details, windbreaker, hair, face, look, but not his goddamm number plate!

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post Sep 30 2010, 04:35 PM

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QUOTE(Cheenoo @ Sep 30 2010, 04:32 PM)
u guys are way off topic.
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post Sep 30 2010, 04:52 PM

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Isn't the topic bout how girls are attractive?
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QUOTE(Joey Christensen @ Sep 30 2010, 05:39 PM)
Age range?

Regards, Joey
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What's your age range for "girls" and "women"?
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post Sep 30 2010, 06:13 PM

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I find the word lady's older than woman. But that's just me'.
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post Sep 30 2010, 06:22 PM

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QUOTE(Core- @ Sep 30 2010, 06:13 PM)
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Added on September 30, 2010, 6:14 pm
really? O_o
i thought lady suppose to be in between. i might be wrong though. lol...
anyway... i see ur status offline yet u able to replies...  shocking.gif
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post Sep 30 2010, 09:36 PM

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I agree with tech3910

@chiiupe,

i dress like you in uni! like a nerd. biggrin.gif but when I have presentation on a day and I dress differently, (approved by religious elders), I also get more small talks. They come up and asked "hey, you look different today. What's up?" or "hey, presentation? What about? good luck." You get my driff...

 

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