Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true?
Can gals and guys be good fren?
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Emm, depends on individual. Some guy there like to get much of female frens then male frens. Still, they are just frens.
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? In my opinion, a gal and a guy could possible end up to be just good friends but probably not for ex-couple. |
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Why not? Girl and guy still can be friend without involving love.
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Apr 14 2005, 02:56 PM
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can why not?
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Apr 14 2005, 02:58 PM
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yes, I have lots of good girl firends. Depends on both sides really. Need to be open minded. I can tal/ask very personal things about girls and not feel ebarrassed of it. Thats how close we are
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Apr 14 2005, 03:04 PM
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lol, too much influence from HK drama? ofcoz can become good friend la.
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But last time i have one really good fren, alwiz tok to each other, when i got problem he will advise me and so on.. but suddenly he just ignore me for long time and i really dun understand. So one day i just call him up... you know wut her say? Because i have new bf already. Also i consider other ppl oso never consider him.
 I only treat him as my good fren wor, and he never even give any hint when he know i break off with my ex..(or may be i dun get the hint  )  So now we r not that close already lor.. hardly even contact.. |
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I have a close friend who's a female, too bad I fall for her....now we're not as close anymore
 But anyway i think it's not necessary i will fall for a girl if she's my best friend....coz here, i fall for her because there's things about her that i like........had she have a bf earlier before I fall for her, or she is err....let's just say looks that don't fits my taste ......this would not have happend and we'll still be good friends.....so it's possible, depends... |
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@ngel
Wei. Working hour don't goof off leh.  Goofing off at work is my job wor.  Guys and girls can be close friends, but they need to have an understanding partner as well. Otherwise the other party may feel jealous, etc. *Looks at your dit* But hor, you fren me coz you wan "free lunch" wor. How?    |
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 03:05 PM) But last time i have one really good fren, alwiz tok to each other, when i got problem he will advise me and so on.. but suddenly he just ignore me for long time and i really dun understand. So one day i just call him up... you know wut her say? Because i have new bf already. Also i consider other ppl oso never consider him. that means he is not your 'good fren' . He is somehow 'on' you. Just ignore him, he wasn't really being 'true' to you , in terms of friendship. I only treat him as my good fren wor, and he never even give any hint when he know i break off with my ex..(or may be i dun get the hint ) So now we r not that close already lor.. hardly even contact..Get over it . This post has been edited by kuanyj: Apr 14 2005, 04:07 PM |
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can not be good friend but, friend yes lorr.
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Apr 14 2005, 04:51 PM
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Depends on each individual lah actualy. Everything just "Maybe..."  |
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QUOTE(Gamers @ Apr 14 2005, 04:01 PM) @ngel wah you ar.. just seeking opinion oso u "jealous" ar? My hubby din even make a noise Wei. Working hour don't goof off leh. Goofing off at work is my job wor. Guys and girls can be close friends, but they need to have an understanding partner as well. Otherwise the other party may feel jealous, etc. *Looks at your dit* But hor, you fren me coz you wan "free lunch" wor. How?  ya means i am lucky to get one understanding hubby to allow me to be fren wit u isit? Ok lor.. one day free then give u "free lunch" back lor.. Any way now off work liao lor.. bye bye! going back liao This post has been edited by ngel: Apr 14 2005, 05:17 PM |
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ngel> I think your that fren is being paranoid.
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Apr 14 2005, 05:18 PM
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of course man and women can be good friends, until they end up locked together in a small room, then that's when the hormones start talking (unless one of them has terrible B.O that is, hahah).
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well... i am glad that i have 4 best friends... 3 of them are guys... and our relationship is still very good for so many years... this one i can very sure... we sleep together, do many things together, we go out with each other's bf/gf... things are still very smooth... i even place them right after my family and before my bf...
i think if ex lovers can be friends without the past feelings coming back, that would be very good... coz they understand each other most... as for me, NOT YET... hhahahahaa... still dont know how to face my ex like a normal friend yet... |
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Apr 14 2005, 06:03 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 03:05 PM) But last time i have one really good fren, alwiz tok to each other, when i got problem he will advise me and so on.. but suddenly he just ignore me for long time and i really dun understand. So one day i just call him up... you know wut her say? Because i have new bf already. Also i consider other ppl oso never consider him. wel, here's my 2 cent I only treat him as my good fren wor, and he never even give any hint when he know i break off with my ex..(or may be i dun get the hint ) So now we r not that close already lor.. hardly even contact..He have feelings for u, and logically it's not possible for him once he knew u had a bf. So he has to let go. Although friendship is improtant, there are things more important than that. namey our own life. i understand how he feels like one he knew u had a bf, and so he decided to let go, else he'l continue to be hurt, and the only way to do so is forget about u. how to do that u knows it too.....that's one sacrifice we sometimes have to make when we fall for a girl. either both will get closer or further apart. |
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Apr 14 2005, 06:09 PM
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Other party refers to bf/husband/gf/wife lar. Aiyoh. Simply put, if you are too close to your friend of the opposite sex, your significant other may feel jealous (depends on person). Dun lar simply drag me into it. I'm innocent leh. |
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Apr 14 2005, 06:23 PM
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guys are fun to have as friends. and they're easier to talk to than girls cos they tend to be more sociable
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Apr 14 2005, 06:55 PM
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sure .. why not?? .. why don't u make a poll for this question .. and let's see the result ...
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Apr 14 2005, 07:26 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? your friend is true, actually when u are too good with someone, there might be some sparkling in btwn, then it happens to be...from good frens...then...  couples?? |
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Erm... I dun really think so le.. I hv a few females fren which we are really good with each other... But I really dun hv any sparks with them... Maybe cuz we're buddies for too long edi... So, wun hv feel lo...
Hmm, with ex also can become good frens la...hehe...All also depends on urself onie.... By the way, not all guys is like wut u said le angel.. We become frens cuz we can clicked on to each other... Tat's all.. Its not like I really wan something from u... |
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gal and boy sure can be a good frens la....
i got some female frens like to join us and most of their frens are boys ! |
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Apr 14 2005, 10:23 PM
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y not..
if the guy is gay and u are a les anyway, i believe in platonic true friendship... most of my good friends are male..so my answer is 'Yes' |
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Apr 15 2005, 01:37 AM
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definately yes.
girls are more emotional and sensitive, whereas guys are more logical. (not all, but maybe most...) when i need to talk to somebody, it's easier to solve the problem when i can get the girls' side point of view and their perspective. when same sex talk about a problem, it usually ended up the gang all b1tched about the same thing... and nothing get solved. (no offence to anyone) |
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Apr 15 2005, 04:38 AM
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Despite My constant Bullsh*t about Nature wanting us to reproduce and everything is about procreation, I would have to say "yes" to this.
guys and girls cant be friends/best friends? That's the most absurd thing ever. Everrrrrrrrrr. That's like the urban legend about breaking mirrors on the friday of 13th. geez. Typing with the stereo is a bad habit that apparently what ppl who agreed to this statement are doing. This post has been edited by lamely_named: Apr 15 2005, 04:42 AM |
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Last time I also think can one lor.. but after that i really think it depends on wut the others were thinking oso lor.. you might only want to be fren but the others is not thinking the same, if you are too good to him, then it will coz misunderstand that you are giving chance to him. So now how good oso i will keep a gap lor...
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Apr 17 2005, 10:38 PM
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Hmm I think it's possible but somehow it's just kind of difficult to maintain that friendship. Like what DiT said earlier... we might think about friendship with them only, but for the other party, they might think differently from us. For some point, from close friends, 1 party or the other might develop some extra feeling towards the other. But, I have a few close guy friends. However, I have a few close guy friends before which ended... they have some special feelings. :S
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Apr 17 2005, 10:46 PM
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can
i listen to girl's problem then i tok to girl n get comfort advise her, she tease me, wish her, she tease me again....wat the..??? |
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QUOTE(elle @ Apr 17 2005, 10:38 PM) Hmm I think it's possible but somehow it's just kind of difficult to maintain that friendship. Like what DiT said earlier... we might think about friendship with them only, but for the other party, they might think differently from us. For some point, from close friends, 1 party or the other might develop some extra feeling towards the other. But, I have a few close guy friends. However, I have a few close guy friends before which ended... they have some special feelings. :S guys are like that.  especially young guys... they will start to "imagine" things if you're close to them. draw your line... before you're too close to them. but still that doesn't make guy/girl to become best friend impossible. i have a best friend (girl) who i only talked less than 5 times for the last 5 yrs. and still we are good friends. good friends always appear when you need help... |
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Apr 18 2005, 02:14 AM
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usually guys cant draw the line and scare away the girls.some even take them as their pet sister.so as i c as long as both of them can draw the line,y not?
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Apr 18 2005, 02:20 AM
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a gaL and a guy cannot be bEst fren coz the gaL will fall for the guy or thE other way...
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QUOTE(kyagami @ Apr 18 2005, 02:20 AM) a gaL and a guy cannot be bEst fren coz the gaL will fall for the guy or thE other way... Yes GOD. hahahahhahaha. why? coz GOD said so. and to top it off, it's written in the great book of universal law too. hot damn this is funnay.   |
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why not?!
if either of party dun always think about "man and woman are impossible to be good fren" and they know how to draw the line, i believe it is possible. Around my side got many good male frens, even...... hehehehe. However, i still think my best fren would be a gal in the end because still gal understand what gal needs. |
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well... i had 2 best gal friend... one left... coz she says she fallen for me... another, occasionally chit chat go for a drink to catch up times....
and... well... feelings for both of them are mutually best friends.... so... it does prove... that guys and gals can be friends... well...think of the consequences if u jeapardize this relationship...u can't depend the same sex to talk to u about certain stuffs... u can't simply read the megazines to know more... and... u can't waste the friendship which u have build for so long.... my two cents.... |
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Sure.. why not. I have a 7 years grilfriend & lots of female best friends
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? False!!!!! Salah salah salah!!I have plentiful of good guy friends. I dont see them wanting me for something. We have good time together all the time. It never fails and I do not know why. I have so many guy friends which I am close with that sometimes I feel damn pampered yet frustrated. They treated me like a little girl and like a guy too!!. They offer me sweets/dinner/coffeebean/movies and they can wack me damn hard on the back during games and talk porno in front of me. So whats wrong having good guy friends. At least I can click with them, whats wrong??? |
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Apr 19 2005, 10:49 PM
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why not? last time i have 1 very very close gal fren. we can even shopping together, watching movie together, play together and so on. all my frens said we are couple. now she married. i don feel sad, i only bless her...
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I had a girl best friend once, gave her a ride to the college everyday for 3 semester, I didnt feel anything for her, lots of ppl said she looks like kelly chen and wants to "kao" her, but to me she's just normal. By "ride", I mean on a bike with two wheels, and still nothing happened, now that's the best proof that we are best friends. we help each other a lot, on assignments, project, lecture, etc. she even talk about her problem with her boyfriend with me sometimes (nothing serious, just occasional couple squabbles) |
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? Yup, y not? My good friend is a guy. When we have problem, we'll share to each other. Even our triumphs and failures too. QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 03:05 PM) But last time i have one really good fren, alwiz tok to each other, when i got problem he will advise me and so on.. but suddenly he just ignore me for long time and i really dun understand. So one day i just call him up... you know wut her say? Because i have new bf already. Also i consider other ppl oso never consider him. As for my case, my good friend start to treat me cold after i have a bf. I ask him y he did so, he said that he dunwan any misunderstanding between my bf and me. I told him it's ok. So, we're still good friends now I only treat him as my good fren wor, and he never even give any hint when he know i break off with my ex..(or may be i dun get the hint ) So now we r not that close already lor.. hardly even contact.. but sometimes my bf jealous, but that's just another thing coz we're talking about best friends here mar |
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Apr 22 2005, 01:10 AM
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can ma.i find it memorable if friendship day can c 2 pairs of frens,boys n gals holding each others shoulders posing in front of the camera.
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Can but it's not like you can do that with everyone. I accept, girls belong to girls group and guys belong to their own groups, because that's what make us so different and special !
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Apr 22 2005, 01:19 AM
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can happen but quite hard and rare
both muz be very close and open and can talk about everything |
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The only reason it's rare is due to too many hornay men!!!. although there are cases where the girls crossed the line first, but most of the time, it's becoz of the hornay men that cant keep a friendship and must turn it into a deeper love affair. arghhhh. |
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Apr 23 2005, 12:49 PM
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I got a good friend that is female for more than 10 years liao.
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Apr 23 2005, 01:04 PM
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yeah why not? good friends can do
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Apr 23 2005, 03:36 PM
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^ haha
hmm, their 'relationship' is quite abnormal ... but it's fun if there's really tat kind of 'relationship' in the real world ... so far, i havent meet any ... |
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QUOTE(CupidCupid @ Apr 23 2005, 03:36 PM) ^ haha but... i think that even how close both guy and gal together, sure there's a little bit spark between them... example: if there's one girl suddenly appear to that guy and that guy just "layan" her much than his best friend, the girl sure will have a bit jealous... either both way also might happen!. i saw that incident happen infront of me! so... u all get what i mean rite, guys and girls... hmm, their 'relationship' is quite abnormal ... but it's fun if there's really tat kind of 'relationship' in the real world ... so far, i havent meet any ... |
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can happen as well as cannot happen. If so happen the fren ur close with and you developed feel for her, then its natural cause something about her/him attracts you to developed that kind of feeling.
That feeling might not developed also and the relationship will always remain as best friend. To develop feelings does not entirely depend on being best fren or not. The feeling just happens and its not up to us to control. The chances are higher if your best fren is of the opposite sex. |
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Apr 28 2005, 02:05 PM
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Highly doubt it.
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can!
Cuz i've one really great girl friend. Awesome girl, no intrest at all to have a bf/gf relationship or get laid relationship. (I'm damn scared to post at girls club,after that bo pasal kena ban so sorry yah if say anything salah) |
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May 5 2005, 06:56 AM
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Sure can be friend...
Last time i fall for my good friend, i confessed and i know me and her only will be friends and wont cross the line, so i confessed and not hping her to be my gf....Then till now, she is my best friend dy...and i have a gf that is very understanding... Other than that, i have a lot of good friends that is female, y not guys and girls can be good friend? IMO, i can tell my secrets to girls and they wont be "speakers" but some guys are not so trustable...they will spread ur secret to the whole world...for me, girls are much more trustable than guys... |
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May 5 2005, 07:03 AM
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i didn't read the whole thread but i say cannot be very good frens. there will always be a sexual boundry that screams to be broken. unless the guy is gay or the gal is les then can be best frens....
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May 6 2005, 02:32 PM
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After breaking up with my ex (who was a good friend of mine), I thought it's impossible for girls and guys be good friend.
When I went overseas to study, I met this friend of mine, who later became one of my best friends. We've been best friends for years and we don't have that 'special feelings' towards each other. Just friendship. So, I can say it loud - YES, girls and guys can be good friends |
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May 25 2005, 11:46 AM
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Well, i can say it is possible if both part are sincere enuf to be friends...
I have a few female good friends, share alot of stuff together... But now i have a gf already so have to control abit my outings wif my female good friends.. u know la, gf can get jealous very easily, but we all still keep in contact... |
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May 25 2005, 11:22 PM
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I don't know about you ppl but guys can't be my best friend. It's difficult for two different sex to be together so close without any physical or emotional attraction. Not impossible but....to me, I feel more comfortable being best friend with girls.
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May 25 2005, 11:39 PM
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I think can. Now I found a very nice friend which is a girl.... and she know I got gf... and we are talking crazy stuff....
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May 25 2005, 11:46 PM
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can.....but still i got no good female friend since i was born....
anyone wanna be my good friend? |
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May 26 2005, 01:15 AM
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if both are not attach, might be hard, depends, i not sure
but if both attach, by all means....not to say it's 100% safe though BTW, there's this saying i saw before Friendship to love, possible Love to friendship, impossible |
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May 26 2005, 04:37 AM
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but if a gal and a guy be good fren
it might end up become couples |
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May 26 2005, 01:28 PM
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yes....I have few good male friends - more or less than 5. So, it's possible.
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May 27 2005, 04:14 AM
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vagina and penis.... hmmm, do u think they can be just "good friends" ?
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? My answer is can. Beacuase I got one female good friend. We are very very close until sometime people misunderstood we 'pak toh'. We always play misscall, sms, and sometime when I call her, we can talk for 1 and a half hour. |
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yep yep!! of cos gal n guy can b gud frenx!! but..sumhow things will be diff if they both found their other half. coz i dun tink anyone's bf/gf wud like to see their partner being close wit someone of the opposite sex. u noe..jealousy? hiakz~ unless they r realli da open-minded type. which is realli rare here
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Jun 2 2005, 09:30 AM
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why not? i have tons of friends who are females.... its not like you'll "kow" all they girls you know....... its just that when they find thier partner... its pretty hard to ask them out cause their BF might get jealous..
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Jun 3 2005, 12:44 PM
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gals and boyz surely can be frens.........but if they are too close 2gether,mmmhhh.........i think tat,one day in future one or both of them may fall in love v their partner.........(juz my own opinion....) bcoz i like to read novel, then i may got a bit bit influence from the romance love story lah......
if they are a group of frens with gals and boyz they might be frens forever............. .....if only one girl and one boy.....he....he......he.   |
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Jun 6 2005, 09:37 PM
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good friends...definitely can lu ^^
all my good friends are guys =) i dun have many girl friends >< with 5 fingers can count dy >< |
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Jun 7 2005, 01:57 PM
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Why not?!
I have a boyfriend, and he has a girlfriend, but we still a good friend... What's that problem i wonder... |
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Jun 7 2005, 02:01 PM
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sure... if a guy can be friends with a guy, a girl with a girl, why not guy and gal? but just the definition of good friend needs to be clarified....
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Jun 13 2005, 09:48 AM
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692 posts Joined: Dec 2004 From: Johor Bahru
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My opinion is Girl can be good fren with boy, if SHE is not so Beauty.
aiyo ... they always called gan mei mei, gan ge ge ... shit lah ... just wanna have S** only lah .... :T |
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Jun 13 2005, 10:49 AM
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How abt being a good friend wit some1 thats married?? do u guys thinks its possible?
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Jun 13 2005, 10:54 AM
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can 2 best friend make love and still can be best friend?
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Jun 13 2005, 11:08 AM
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QUOTE(reeyon @ Jun 13 2005, 09:48 AM) My opinion is Girl can be good fren with boy, if SHE is not so Beauty. ha? aiyo ... they always called gan mei mei, gan ge ge ... shit lah ... just wanna have S** only lah .... :T  |
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Jun 13 2005, 04:55 PM
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of coz gals n guys can hav platonic relationship oh....even though both sides might develop "more than frens" feelings in da first place....but hey!! v r after all sexual beings who yearn 2 love n b loved......me n my best buddy instantly clicked when v first met, chatted over da phone every nite talking bout lotsa stuffs...i did fall 4 him earlier n even told him tat, guess wat? after tat incident, 2 my surprise, v become closer than b4 coz no more secrets between us ( well, tat's wat he tot ler after i said da onli secret i hav is crushing on him....hehehe)....nowadays, v stil share our common grounds, n he's more like a big bro than a guy i used 2 fall 4....actualli when u get 2 know a guy 2 one point, u wil realized tat being his best bud is da wiser than being his gf after all....and i m glad v din become more than best buds tat time ( even though he said he has feelings 4 me...) coz i might lose da best buddy in da end...he has a steady gf of 5 years now n i m still enjoying my singlehood but still hav him 2 talk 2 when i m lonely or looking 4 ways 2 tackle my latest crush!!! so having an opposite sex buddy is fun ler....
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Jun 15 2005, 01:32 PM
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Its really depends on both individuals (Guy and Gal) and also the kind of friendship whether it will upgrade to the next stage (couples) or just remain on that stage (friends).
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Jun 17 2005, 12:14 AM
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friendship -> lover = no ship in the end
strangers -> lover = strangers in the end friendship forever = forever friends friendship + lover = forever lovey dovey stranger + lover + friendship = marriage |
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Jun 17 2005, 09:44 AM
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i can't be a good frienb with a pretty girl( that i really think pretty)~~~~
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Jun 17 2005, 02:16 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? why does girls always think that guys who wants to be their good friend has something behind what he wants?? actually is nothing to be good friends with both guys and girl.... unless that guys wants something more than that then only the girl should consider about it...whyh not just put the relation matter apart first and just be a friend... |
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Jun 17 2005, 08:09 PM
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hrm.. i do have some good male frens... from my secondary school days.. and yes even now i'm makign good male frens online..
but i'm really really very afraid of sending the wrong signals to other party... i feel that once the other party develop feelings beyond frendship for the other it's the end of it... |
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Jun 17 2005, 08:30 PM
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305 posts Joined: Mar 2005 From: Subang Jaya
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? As i said, there will always be a boderline between guy and girl friends.. if you know your boderline with the guy/ girl... i mean y not? you guys can be good friends... i got a lot of guy friends.. and we really close to each other and treat each other nice.. cos each one of us, we knew the boderline.. this should not cause the problem for our friendship... |
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Jun 18 2005, 01:18 PM
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QUOTE(rourou @ Jun 17 2005, 08:09 PM) hrm.. i do have some good male frens... from my secondary school days.. and yes even now i'm makign good male frens online.. this always happens to me when i am online.... but i'm really really very afraid of sending the wrong signals to other party... i feel that once the other party develop feelings beyond frendship for the other it's the end of it... QUOTE(C@Th @ Jun 17 2005, 08:30 PM) As i said, there will always be a boderline between guy and girl friends.. if you know your boderline with the guy/ girl... i mean y not? you guys can be good friends... yeap good point... i have lotsa girls who are my good friends... nothing is beyond friendship... no problems at alli got a lot of guy friends.. and we really close to each other and treat each other nice.. cos each one of us, we knew the boderline.. this should not cause the problem for our friendship... |
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Jun 18 2005, 02:55 PM
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497 posts Joined: Mar 2005 From: ::+::Kuku@ng3L::+::
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i got many buddy geh wo..hohohoh... whn im secondary skool always yc with all guys n jus me 1 gal geh la.. i dun giv a FXXX wat other gals think of me one.. gal n guy can b good fren de la..but when got gf/bf thn u hav to keep a distance lo...jus to some of them la.. cos mayb ppl bf/gf dun like leh..will jeles leH? who noes rite?
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Jun 18 2005, 06:24 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? If good friend includes holding hands, hugging, kissing, making out and sex, then YES, you can. |
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Jun 18 2005, 07:08 PM
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QUOTE(p4n6 @ Jun 18 2005, 07:24 PM) If good friend includes holding hands, hugging, kissing, making out and sex, then YES, you can. good fren will do this all geh meh wat la! |
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Jun 18 2005, 07:50 PM
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well....for others, i dont know...but i am damn good friend with girls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
girls and guys friendship IS EXIST...!!!! |
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Jun 19 2005, 03:30 PM
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QUOTE(p4n6 @ Jun 18 2005, 06:24 PM) If good friend includes holding hands, hugging, kissing, making out and sex, then YES, you can. wow.... if only both party especially the girl is willing to go for that.... |
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Jun 21 2005, 10:39 PM
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hrm... well about drawing the bordeline thingie... you guys think it's never wise to flirt with your good fren?? (i mean to avoid misunderstanding and such)
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Jun 22 2005, 03:31 PM
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QUOTE(rourou @ Jun 21 2005, 10:39 PM) hrm... well about drawing the bordeline thingie... you guys think it's never wise to flirt with your good fren?? (i mean to avoid misunderstanding and such) man, i agree with you !!!dont flirt too much with your close friends x'D .... missunderstanding always go around .... experinced it b4 ... somemore is others friends ... at behind api-api kan keadaan ... i dont blame them x'D ... but still not a good choice to flirt with close friends ... |
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Jul 15 2005, 01:44 AM
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yup..can..y not..i got guy good fren rite now..cz we know that we wont b a couple...
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Jul 15 2005, 02:02 AM
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good friend until she hates me....wasted
what to do.... its not easy. |
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Jul 16 2005, 03:10 AM
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QUOTE(NickyEng @ Jun 18 2005, 07:50 PM) well....for others, i dont know...but i am damn good friend with girls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Nickyeng....exist because you are gay. Not an insult but it's true. Gays and girls become best of friend.girls and guys friendship IS EXIST...!!!! |
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Jul 16 2005, 03:22 PM
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good fren mean?always be with u when u r down n willing to listen 2 ur problem..of coz can but depend on situasion..
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Jul 17 2005, 02:14 AM
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2,360 posts Joined: May 2005 From: East malaysia
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hey hey... i wanna ask gals opinion about boys... what u thinking about boys when u 1st meet them or talk to them although they are not so handsome...?
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Jul 17 2005, 11:23 AM
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QUOTE(Sim (2) @ Jul 17 2005, 02:14 AM) hey hey... i wanna ask gals opinion about boys... what u thinking about boys when u 1st meet them or talk to them although they are not so handsome...? Here's a little different between guys and girls. We girls don't crave too much for looks. We don't go around looking for more gorgeous men to become friend with. When first meet and talk, I don't judge from look first. Courtesy comes first. |
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Jul 17 2005, 02:28 PM
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QUOTE(Kii @ Jul 17 2005, 11:23 AM) Here's a little different between guys and girls. We girls don't crave too much for looks. We don't go around looking for more gorgeous men to become friend with. oic... thanks for the info... i hope all girls are not like that looking for those kind of men...When first meet and talk, I don't judge from look first. Courtesy comes first. |
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Jul 19 2005, 02:35 AM
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I know a gal few days ago thru the net. We havent yet meet each other or exchange picture of us, means we r not even know the looks of each other. But....yesterday, we r chatting thru phone for abt 2 1/2 hrs (i'm scarred her phone bill will 'bengkak' this month, cuz she is calling me, hahaha....). We chat fr A to Z....our life style, our career, our vision, her hubby...and much more...
Ok, guys n gals, pls tell me, is this called "good relationship" between she n i??? R we good frens??? i wanna know opinion fr u all..... |
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Jul 19 2005, 03:40 AM
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QUOTE(Rouq @ Jul 19 2005, 02:35 AM) I know a gal few days ago thru the net. We havent yet meet each other or exchange picture of us, means we r not even know the looks of each other. But....yesterday, we r chatting thru phone for abt 2 1/2 hrs (i'm scarred her phone bill will 'bengkak' this month, cuz she is calling me, hahaha....). We chat fr A to Z....our life style, our career, our vision, her hubby...and much more... brave dude... good luck... and yes u two have a good relationship and friends...Ok, guys n gals, pls tell me, is this called "good relationship" between she n i??? R we good frens??? i wanna know opinion fr u all..... |
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Jul 19 2005, 02:52 PM
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sigh....surely cannot be...i try before....at last falling in luv...now ended up didn't seeing each other for long time....
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Jul 19 2005, 03:16 PM
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QUOTE(Ken @ Jul 19 2005, 02:52 PM) sigh....surely cannot be...i try before....at last falling in luv...now ended up didn't seeing each other for long time.... ive been through tht before...now she doesn't talk to me dythe hardest part is not to fall in love. |
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Jul 20 2005, 12:11 AM
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The Question :
QUOTE(Rouq @ Jul 19 2005, 02:35 AM) I know a gal few days ago thru the net. We havent yet meet each other or exchange picture of us, means we r not even know the looks of each other. But....yesterday, we r chatting thru phone for abt 2 1/2 hrs (i'm scarred her phone bill will 'bengkak' this month, cuz she is calling me, hahaha....). We chat fr A to Z....our life style, our career, our vision, her hubby...and much more... The Answers :Ok, guys n gals, pls tell me, is this called "good relationship" between she n i??? R we good frens??? i wanna know opinion fr u all..... QUOTE(Ken @ Jul 19 2005, 02:52 PM) sigh....surely cannot be...i try before....at last falling in luv...now ended up didn't seeing each other for long time.... andQUOTE(Hornet @ Jul 19 2005, 03:16 PM) ive been through tht before...now she doesn't talk to me dy The Verdict :the hardest part is not to fall in love. Girls and Guys cannot be the best of friends. If too close, either one (if not both...if fortunate enough) will fall in love. |
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Jul 20 2005, 01:34 AM
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hi
can i think as long as u dont fall. |
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Jul 20 2005, 01:48 AM
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^ yay! over complication summed up in a one liner!
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Jul 20 2005, 08:57 AM
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its ok if just b 'fren' but not a "good fren" lor..if both get knw each other well...either 1 mainly will fall in love ..mostly secretly fall in love ..n end up relationship geting loose....
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Jul 20 2005, 01:36 PM
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but if the gal and guy dun hav bf and gf then surely will change from best frens to couple....
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Jul 24 2005, 01:03 AM
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some of my closer (and best) friends are girls
having girls as friends is waaayyyy fun-er girls know how to have fun and hold more intereseting conversations. as do gays actually. straight guys talk abt a lot of boring crap...im straight mind u..i just enjoy having companions who know how to have fun and the safest girl acquaintance are the ones with bfs coz they know u know that they are attached..so flirting with them isnt really a problem. its just pure fun. its just that sometimes the bf wld be really jealous (has happened to me before)so i guess to sum it up, its POSSIBLE for a guy and a girl to have a normal friendship without crossing the line. just make it known that all u want is pure friendship. although i have encountered some really perasan girls who are so not worth my time |
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Jul 24 2005, 02:51 PM
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my ever best frend is a guy all my good good frens r guys ~! so i believe tat gals n guys can b good good frens~ |
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Aug 2 2005, 10:23 PM
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then she'll looking for u for something she needs, not something she wants.
guys who spend most time with girls make ur choice, n u know u're honestly know what u're feeling. This post has been edited by Shiyoujined: Aug 2 2005, 10:24 PM |
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Aug 3 2005, 01:20 AM
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IMO, it depends on few things.
1) How do you think a r'ship is categorized as 'good/best' friendship? 2) How sporting or open minded are the parties involved? 3) The 'respect' that should be given to their significant half. Well.. if some ppl like me once think that good/best friendship is one that I call once in a while to catch up. Then of course...it won't create any 'problems' that most of us here are trying to avoid hehehe... but if otherwise, then I think both the guy and gal should be sporting and open minded people, not that perasan type but to a certain extend if let's say their other significant half is with strong jealousy, misunderstanding is bad. Maybe, prevention is better than cure... just my 2cents..hehehe.. Peace. |
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Aug 3 2005, 01:20 AM
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IMO, it depends on few things.
1) How do you think a r'ship is categorized as 'good/best' friendship? 2) How sporting or open minded are the parties involved? 3) The 'respect' that should be given to their significant half. Well.. if some ppl like me once think that good/best friendship is one that I call once in a while to catch up. Then of course...it won't create any 'problems' that most of us here are trying to avoid hehehe... but if otherwise, then I think both the guy and gal should be sporting and open minded people, not that perasan type but to a certain extend if let's say their other significant half is with strong jealousy, misunderstanding is bad. Maybe, prevention is better than cure... just my 2cents..hehehe.. Peace. |
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Aug 3 2005, 02:14 AM
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QUOTE(Ken @ Jul 20 2005, 01:36 PM) but if the gal and guy dun hav bf and gf then surely will change from best frens to couple.... tht's the hard partit's ok if both have feelings for each other but when it's one sided, the friendship is heading for a kaboom |
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Aug 4 2005, 04:46 PM
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y not?
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Aug 5 2005, 05:59 PM
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can be good friend of course.
but she always complain i'm not treat her like gal n treat her like de way i used to treat my boy side friend n we used to dicuss lot's of thing. Because sometime i don't know de way how gal think, so must ask for her consultant. |
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Aug 5 2005, 05:59 PM
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repeated..
sorry This post has been edited by Pv_Ice: Aug 5 2005, 06:00 PM |
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Aug 5 2005, 06:05 PM
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 OF COURSE THEY CAN! Otherwise, I have to marry an artificial girl as my bride! |
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Aug 6 2005, 07:09 PM
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Why cant a girl and a guy become good friend? I for myself have close friend which is a girl.
most of we asian people mindset is that girl and guy cannot be close friend. If they ever saw a girl and a guy together they will start kepoh-ing spreading rumour. |
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Aug 30 2005, 12:13 PM
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if kenot, then u'll only have one fren of the opposite side who is ur bf or gf!
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Sep 5 2005, 03:40 AM
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yeah can..good friend and girl friend are not the same..i myself have a female best friend...widen ur thinking society!boy and girl can only be couple is grandmother thinking...
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Sep 9 2005, 09:16 PM
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uhmmm... can of course... well, sumtimes it's depends on situation...^^;;;
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Sep 9 2005, 09:18 PM
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One word to answer u. CAN
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Sep 9 2005, 11:29 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? totally dun agree....coz i have a good buddy that is a guy..... we know each other for 9 years aledi.... he has a good gf now.... |
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Sep 16 2005, 05:47 PM
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QUOTE(mochaangel @ Sep 9 2005, 11:29 PM) totally dun agree.... yap yap...coz i have a good buddy that is a guy..... we know each other for 9 years aledi.... he has a good gf now.... i have plenty of em.... we shopping together, eat together, play togther, even sleep together.... we've been good buddies for 8 years d... in moments which is sweet n sour.... most of em got bf jor, yet still some r single.... kesian we nvr bother wat or how ppl think of us... as long as we're good then its done, no worries dude! long live our frenship!!! |
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Sep 16 2005, 08:08 PM
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yes i do belief gal n guy can b gud fren ..
cz 1 of my best fren is a girl .. v share alot of things 2gether .. bt honestly she fall in luv wif me b4 n i rejected her b4 .. bt then now v're still d best buddy ard .. |
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Sep 16 2005, 10:29 PM
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307 posts Joined: May 2005 From: Penang, Malaysia
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Sure. There's no problem with it.. I have female friend, which is quiet good with me.. But just friends, nothing more..
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Sep 17 2005, 12:01 PM
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Gals and guys be good fren seem very normal nowday, as @ahwei-7 said they can do a lot of things together. Of coz, both of them know the limitation.
I have a fren which is a gal, and we can do a lot of things as well such as shopping, movie, playing, sleeping as well. i even accompany her to lingeries shop  , of coz she din ask me see how she wear la.. She n i also need to report to someone but wat's the big deal? As long as we know the limitation can go, then everything will be different. |
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Sep 17 2005, 12:11 PM
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QUOTE(B-Hong @ Sep 17 2005, 12:01 PM) Gals and guys be good fren seem very normal nowday, as @ahwei-7 said they can do a lot of things together. Of coz, both of them know the limitation. Agreed.. I have a fren which is a gal, and we can do a lot of things as well such as shopping, movie, playing, sleeping as well. i even accompany her to lingeries shop , of coz she din ask me see how she wear la.. She n i also need to report to someone but wat's the big deal? As long as we know the limitation can go, then everything will be different. |
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Sep 17 2005, 07:58 PM
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agree~
the only think u need to keep in ur mind is..... dun go too over =) |
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Sep 17 2005, 08:31 PM
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yep...guys and girls can be great friends.. one of my bestest friend is a guy.. i did fall for him once before..but he didnt reject nor did he accept.. but we're have a great relationship going on now.. people always think that we have feelings for each other when they see us talking and joking around.. but we dont..
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Sep 17 2005, 08:32 PM
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QUOTE(mochaangel @ Sep 17 2005, 07:58 PM) agree~ Hmm, set a limit.. Don't think too much.. Be safe.. Then everything will be fine..the only think u need to keep in ur mind is..... dun go too over =) |
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Sep 17 2005, 10:05 PM
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both can be indeed good friends.. but most of the time.. it leads to complicated relationships... again.. it's hard to have such a friendship... we should treasure them
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Sep 17 2005, 11:02 PM
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for me actually it is depends on how u take that friendship. some ppl can changed thier friendship into couple relationship if they want, it's really depend on u. sorry for the bad english tho...hahaha..
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Sep 18 2005, 03:20 AM
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if u too good to ur opposite sex they might misunderstood.. then mahfan will appear..
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Sep 18 2005, 08:09 AM
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Actually why not create a poll, we can vote and might as well give out comments..
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Sep 19 2005, 12:25 PM
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Guys and gals.. can be very very good fren...
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Sep 19 2005, 02:10 PM
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IMHO, it's possible, as verified by many personal experiences here.
I myself is close to a girl too, especially since we're coursemates. We tend to rely on each other for many things, especially when it comes to education. Heck, people even mistake us for a couple since we're virtually almost always together in campus. But then again, it's merely a platonic relationship, and we're both actually happily attached with our respective partners. No problem from that part, although my gf does get jealous occasionally. |
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Sep 20 2005, 12:35 AM
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my opinion it may can be happened.....but for me,as a guy i wont get a best female friend. cause she not my gf why i also need some time to take care of her??? just let her bf take care of her lar....can say i selfish but i dont have much time to spend on her to care,chat or advice her at all.if dont love me dont add me as best friend or step sister....really hate this kind of relationship...in my opinion girl like to have guy to be best friend because u all like ppl care about u when u have problem u all girl sure can get a person to talk about it.....this is ur girl thinking but for some guy like me dont like it because i feel that u girl are fooling me...jsut like what the chinese ppl say 'da yuin chai ng yew wo siong'....mean after using us just let us gone.....are u all girl really thinking after ur problem is settle and getting care by us already, do u all really will continue what u all call "we care each other as best friend"???? i beat some of u wont after u got bf or otehr reason....not all can do this...jsut my opinion la..that y i dont and wont acept any step sister or best female friend......waste money and time.....hahaha.....casue need money to buy her present when birthday or call her to care her.
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Sep 20 2005, 06:57 PM
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i totally dun agree wif ya.....
but that's ur opinion..... u can't say that we are using each other..... maybe some of u ppl out there really thinks so..... because u tend to get something from ur friend..... but not everyone is lidat okay..... some ppl really care for their friends thru deep heart..... they dun get anything for that..... or should i say expect.... just my opinion.... no offence.... |
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Sep 20 2005, 07:29 PM
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QUOTE(chosei @ Sep 18 2005, 03:20 AM) if u too good to ur opposite sex they might misunderstood.. then mahfan will appear.. i only treat the girl I have a crush on super nice....i try to keep the distance from the rest...heh |
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Sep 21 2005, 10:47 AM
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QUOTE(mochaangel @ Sep 20 2005, 06:57 PM) i totally dun agree wif ya..... i oso believe some of u will truely care with the best friend btw girl and guy but all the girl that i met is not like this like what u said....we keep sms each other in a period of time.....but after that no longer existing her sms to me even she didnt reply me also.....maybe i too unlucky to meet a nice girl at all but that's ur opinion..... u can't say that we are using each other..... maybe some of u ppl out there really thinks so..... because u tend to get something from ur friend..... but not everyone is lidat okay..... some ppl really care for their friends thru deep heart..... they dun get anything for that..... or should i say expect.... just my opinion.... no offence.... ............"ming jong chu deng ku dok yat sang" |
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Sep 21 2005, 11:12 PM
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2,343 posts Joined: Jan 2003 From: Earth Federation Forces
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Guy: Hello.
Gal: Hi. Guy: ... Gal: ... Guy: ... Gal: ... Guy: ... Gal: ... Guy: Uh, wanna go get some lunch and then blow some shit up using our awesome giant robots before preaching crap about senseless killings and questioning human morality at times of war? Gal: Sure. This post has been edited by Hangmen: Sep 21 2005, 11:12 PM |
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Sep 22 2005, 01:24 AM
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yes, but only if you stop having wet dreams.
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Sep 23 2005, 08:54 AM
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Blimey of course they can!
I am one close super close friend with this girl, haha. (Not gay ok?) We hang out in each others house, eat and sleep together and stuff even we both have our own partners already. (We're so not FB's FYI.) She's like my sister and I'm like her brother haha. |
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Sep 23 2005, 10:28 AM
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4,251 posts Joined: Jan 2003 From: Malacca, Malaysia, Earth
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its easy if both have own partner...
if not, it's a different situation |
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Sep 23 2005, 12:20 PM
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QUOTE(andrewthy @ Sep 23 2005, 08:54 AM) We [...] sleep together [...] i'm sure you two are real close friends |
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Sep 23 2005, 07:25 PM
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Can the very cute and sweet dog or cat be your good friends regardless if you are male or female?! |
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Sep 24 2005, 11:19 AM
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QUOTE(outsider @ Sep 21 2005, 10:47 AM) i oso believe some of u will truely care with the best friend btw girl and guy but all the girl that i met is not like this like what u said....we keep sms each other in a period of time.....but after that no longer existing her sms to me even she didnt reply me also.....maybe i too unlucky to meet a nice girl at all ahaha~ ............"ming jong chu deng ku dok yat sang" me and my guy friend can really crap alot...... |
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Oct 6 2005, 10:38 PM
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yes it is possible. know your boundaries.. and if u dont have feeling for the other person.. u juz wont have it! if it wants to happen in a way that you guys fall for each other.. then.. i guess its juz fate.
but it is always possible for girls n guys to stay juz frenz. i got few really close guy frens.. and we are STILL friends. |
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Oct 15 2005, 03:00 AM
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QUOTE(stella @ Oct 6 2005, 10:38 PM) yes it is possible. know your boundaries.. and if u dont have feeling for the other person.. u juz wont have it! if it wants to happen in a way that you guys fall for each other.. then.. i guess its juz fate. i agree with stella.. why girls n boys cannot be good frens?? wat make u think like this ??? but it is always possible for girls n guys to stay juz frenz. i got few really close guy frens.. and we are STILL friends.  |
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Oct 15 2005, 12:21 PM
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Friendship = Yes
Real good friends = Yes But as long as you get your emotions straight and dont think too much with your heart... then all should be well. Just treat her like a buddy and just hang out.... The only time where a guy and girl cannot be good friends is if either one falls for the other and when that happens, its sad to see the friendship breaking apart.... |
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Oct 30 2005, 04:47 PM
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i believe girl and guy can be good friend !
and i can proof it , cuz myself as a guy have a female as my very good frnd. we always share anything each other no matter happy or sad thing ! |
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Oct 30 2005, 05:13 PM
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194 posts Joined: Jan 2003 From: Somewhere I Belong
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yes, it is POSSIBLE
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Nov 6 2005, 09:49 PM
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i have many gf....
i love them |
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Nov 15 2005, 03:06 PM
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my best friend is a guy and alot of my close friends are guys.... doesn't mean that we have to have feelings for each other... alot of the times they make fun of me alot so it's hard to like them
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Nov 17 2005, 02:07 AM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? Oh yes. VERY good friends. I owe a lot of them so much for helping me through rough periods. |
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Nov 18 2005, 11:35 AM
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guys and gurls definitely can be good friends..or best friends... when i was in primary, i have a really close friend who is a guy.. although many ppl teased bout us being always doing things together or talking to each other.. but we know that there's nothing on between us... but as we go to different sec school, our interest changes and we seldom contact each other already..
now i still have a very close guy friend... ya we always joke and talk and play games together, and he has a gf too... his gf is my classmate... although sometimes she is jealous ..but after a while she understands the situation and now we are good friends  QUOTE(edifgrto @ Sep 23 2005, 07:25 PM) Can the very cute and sweet dog or cat be your good friends regardless if you are male or female?! my cat and puppy were CLOSE friends!!! they always played together ..and it's soooooo entertaining looking at what they did to each other (sumtimes bite, sumtimes scratch...but din really hurt each other).. although both died already T_T |
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Nov 18 2005, 07:01 PM
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err.... I wish to say YES, it's possible.
but sadly it never happen on me |
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Nov 25 2005, 11:48 AM
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150 posts Joined: Apr 2005 From: Perak, Sitiawan
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Never happened to me too.
I have close friends, as in..a group where we always hang out together. But not like really close bestfriend where u hang out only two together or something like that. The last time i had this kinda really close friend, we ended up as a couple. lol. Over now though ;p |
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Nov 25 2005, 11:53 AM
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yea possible... i hav a few great frens that are females.. they know that any relationship between us would kill the friendship. so v jus keep it as good frens..
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Nov 25 2005, 12:01 PM
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can...of course can, only if the girl doesnt meet my criteria, therefore i wont hv any feelings for her...then can be just frens lo...
if meet my criteria, then CANT be frens...not even good frens. |
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Nov 25 2005, 12:53 PM
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never happend to me 3
stupid feelings... |
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Dec 8 2005, 09:58 AM
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why not??? ere's no rules stated dat guys n gals couldnt make as frens...well 4 me, i have more boy friends den gurlfrens....n im cool n happiee wit it...i dun fall for them..but actually its a new thing oredy..
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Dec 8 2005, 10:15 AM
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sometimes quite hard ... the boy may fall for the gurl or vice versa .. but not impossible lar ...
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Dec 8 2005, 12:10 PM
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sometimes can wan la..it happens 2 me..my own close fren fall iinto me...kinda awkward....
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Dec 10 2005, 11:47 AM
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Definately. Its more like brother-sister relationship to b exact.
I hv a few good frens of d opposite sex n we can really talk crap or anything under d sun. But for my case where i hv a gf, i prefer to let her noe n meet d ppl close to me so tat she wont misunderstand. |
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Dec 12 2005, 11:34 AM
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ya, is possible! but not much!
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Dec 15 2005, 03:37 PM
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handsome guy with ugly gal, yes can be just good friend
handsome guy with pretty gal, no way! not just friend anymore, more than husband and wife relationship, "tong kui", u know. |
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Dec 16 2005, 11:22 AM
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my opinion, definitely not for ex-couples (despite the 'we are still frens' declaration)...anyway, i always prefer guys for frens...no rivalry ma...girls can be pretty mean to each other...but then the sexual tension....hmm...depends on individual...it'll be easier if not so attractive...otherwise, tough...i did something wrong with a 'fren' before...
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Dec 17 2005, 01:33 AM
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QUOTE(sonovabich @ Dec 16 2005, 11:22 AM) my opinion, definitely not for ex-couples (despite the 'we are still frens' declaration)...anyway, i always prefer guys for frens...no rivalry ma...girls can be pretty mean to each other...but then the sexual tension....hmm...depends on individual...it'll be easier if not so attractive...otherwise, tough...i did something wrong with a 'fren' before... me and my ex are still good frenz... and yes, u r right... its easier to do the 'wrong' when u find each other attractive |
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Dec 20 2005, 05:38 PM
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i knew this one girl few years back coz she always lepak with us. im not even talk much with her. but recently we're getting closer and closer, almost everyday we went out together until our friends thought that 'something' goes on between us. when we lepak together they asking a killer questions.
i denied and refused to answer them. few days later she suddenly changed and we are not 'that' close anymore. she told me that she don't like people talking about us. so then i'm a bit sad coz i can't go out with her as always like before. she's been a good partner to me. i can't hide that i starting to like her but when i think about what she said that she dont like people talking about us so i think i better keep my feelings and just being a friend to her |
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Dec 21 2005, 02:14 AM
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My friend once told me this... No matter how close a guy and a girl can be bestest of friends, the guy will always have a thought of fuxxing that girl in the corner of his mind.
Nowadays, I believe this applies to girls as well. We live in a fair world now, mutual respect, mutual needs. What men can do, women can do better! |
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Dec 23 2005, 12:25 AM
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all i know is when the relationship become better n better the boy/girl will fallin in love wif the girl/boy........
possibilities of being a gud fren only is 10% ( tat oso ole d higher ) |
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Dec 23 2005, 03:24 AM
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Simple - if you want to make friends - shag them first; you create fcukbuddy friendship and emotional relationship is not built.
As to ex-lovers being friends, why not? If they split with no hard feelings it's fine. It only requires respect for each other, no insecurity and being grown up emotionally. |
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Dec 23 2005, 04:17 AM
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QUOTE(Polishman @ Dec 22 2005, 11:24 AM) Simple - if you want to make friends - shag them first; you create fcukbuddy friendship and emotional relationship is not built. Wow.. you just made into my dumb and dumber list. I never seen anyone so shallow as you man! You are the man!As to ex-lovers being friends, why not? If they split with no hard feelings it's fine. It only requires respect for each other, no insecurity and being grown up emotionally. |
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Dec 23 2005, 12:40 PM
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558 posts Joined: Sep 2004 From: Subang Jaya
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I used to have a very close girl friend and now she's my lover.
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Dec 24 2005, 07:52 AM
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QUOTE(kyliemin @ Dec 23 2005, 04:17 AM) Wow.. you just made into my dumb and dumber list. I never seen anyone so shallow as you man! You are the man! Shallow? Hmmmm well maybe if years of experience indeed make me dumb. Else you are just so naive... Usually being young = being naive. I guess you're still in your early 20s? |
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Dec 26 2005, 06:16 PM
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me and my close girl friend...we sort of made it known (indirectly) that we are really good buddies...we share a lot of stuffs...we even teach each other to tackle guys/girls...besides...she's totally not my type...so i guess we're alright... =)
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Jan 2 2006, 08:37 PM
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yeah why not le?
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Jan 4 2006, 11:55 AM
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It's really depends on individual...
But, whatever so, you partner will be not happy with it if like that... |
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Jan 5 2006, 10:53 PM
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why not.... girls and boys, men and womens, uncle and aunties can be good 'ol friends.
i have 6 female good close friends. and 43 female good friends. and 72 female friends. and 205 female hi and bye friends. |
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Jan 7 2006, 11:36 AM
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no way....if a gurl is nice to a boy...then she will have the hots for his boy 'fren' if the boy is her taste or the boy tak layan her....
the samething to a gurl...she cant be a boys best fren coz if she is too hot to handle...then Free!!! Free!!! Free Bump Bump!...just like the sitcomm FRIENDS...and the boy will have the hots for her Gurl 'fren' but the gurl just tak layan..."frens is just frends ok!!"<---ever heard this phrase guys??? |
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Jan 7 2006, 11:51 AM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? Sorry, just passing by here. IMO, gals and guys can be good friends. But then, in my definition of good friends are someone that can do anything. Talk, drunk, sleep, crying together loh... just not up like lovers, which can make love. Do you think you can sleep together with your male friends? I mean,... just sleep lah,... Well, am not messing up here. Just say my points of view, though. |
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Jan 7 2006, 12:34 PM
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QUOTE(edifgrto @ Jan 7 2006, 11:51 AM) Sorry, just passing by here. IMO, gals and guys can be good friends. But then, in my definition of good friends are someone that can do anything. U got a point. Sometimes, being good frens with opposite sex, simply endanger to a point of being too open minded. And mind u, if u both wanna screw each other or even try somethign stupid, wouldnt it actually ever jeopardize the whole idea of being good frens? So the verdict. Juz Frens OK. Good and best of frens, gotta constantly keep it in check Talk, drunk, sleep, crying together loh... just not up like lovers, which can make love. Do you think you can sleep together with your male friends? I mean,... just sleep lah,... Well, am not messing up here. Just say my points of view, though. |
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Jan 9 2006, 04:33 PM
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of course they can. they just have to be mature enough to not let their loins get in the way.
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Feb 27 2006, 02:19 AM
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i have a female friend, which i knew for 10 years. When in secondary school, many of my friend try to go after her, but none of them is success. SO, they like to use me as dating them out. Sooner, later i found out i fall in love with her, but didn't confess to her. Cos i scare to lost her.
One day, i watch a chinese love story. It's said, if u love someone, u will do anything in order she happy even though she is somebody gf. Till now, i still love her, but still keep in a distance of friend, should be call "best friend". We keep contact each other always talk about her carrier, life, love story, etc etc. Can say, i know most of her secret that her boyfriend and her very best female friend also don't know. I hope to keep maintaining this relationship until the last breath of my life. SHe is my very "best female friend" So, gals and guys up there, in reality, it's not necessary that u wan to be with her/him so that her/him is happy. If u really love someone, u will willing to help and support her, even though she/he is someone else boyfriend or galfriend so that can be happy. That's is truth love. We human, sometimes, need to sacrifice something that's very meaningful, just for other happiness. |
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Feb 27 2006, 02:56 AM
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depends... sometimes it's work...lolz
i dun have good frenz... so this case cannot apply to me..lolx |
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Feb 27 2006, 10:10 AM
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QUOTE(jonglik @ Feb 27 2006, 02:56 AM) depends... sometimes it's work...lolz i be your good friend lah.. i dun have good frenz... so this case cannot apply to me..lolx i think boys and guys can be good friends if they are in a group but if you say that a guy and a girl become a best friend then it would be hard. |
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Feb 27 2006, 10:13 AM
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why not?? of cz can be!!!
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Feb 27 2006, 11:11 AM
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it's take a big desire and sacrfices to do so...
cos not easy to have good female friend's cos "irresistable" |
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Feb 27 2006, 11:15 AM
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lol can irrestible probably not kua.... if both of u does have any feelings lolx but who knows... sexual chemistry is weird!!!
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Feb 27 2006, 02:01 PM
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QUOTE(FiftyOne @ Feb 27 2006, 11:15 AM) lol can irrestible probably not kua.... if both of u does have any feelings lolx but who knows... sexual chemistry is weird!!! maybe idont have the patience and strong willing |
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Mar 6 2006, 02:37 PM
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yes, the 'platonic bf' issue
this is something i can comment about. my answer to the topic question is -- YES, it is possible for guys & gals to be best frens & best frens only.well, i have a guy-best-fren throughout my high school years (we just graduated high school and he still is ). i must admit, he used to go after me during my earlier high school years, but tat spark sorta faded and we became best frens instead. so once the do-we-have-tat-spark question is over, we could really become platonic-bf-gf without doubts watsoever. haha.i recently took a test from a cleo mag about platonic-bf-gf. and i scored 34/35 to officially confirm we're just best frens. heheThis post has been edited by youhei_mito: Mar 6 2006, 02:38 PM |
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Mar 7 2006, 02:08 AM
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haha if theres love why don juz expand it? hmmm....if theres no love sorry loh can do nth about but to be best friend.... juz dunno loh... sometimes too good to each other then it will trigger love off... well... let it be and see the next step who knows best friend ended be your best lover pulak lolx
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Mar 7 2006, 04:32 PM
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Never. A man and a woman can never be good friends. Unless you're talking about a man and a woman that is having sex with each other. Then yes. |
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Mar 9 2006, 07:30 AM
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Mar 9 2006, 07:13 PM
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How interesting the ladder is.
More reason to get rich, no? |
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Mar 13 2006, 08:36 PM
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I guess the reason why so many are skeptical that platonic relationships just don't work out is probably because either you personally haven't tried to supress those childish feelings or you just don't know where to draw the line.
I'm proud to have a fantastic relationship with my girl friend whose 25(i'm 20), hails all the way from Iraq, filthy rich and bloody attractive. I personally believe what keeps the strings attached is to be open minded talks. This post has been edited by Kagekiyo: Mar 13 2006, 08:37 PM |
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Mar 13 2006, 10:42 PM
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nice ladder well.. maybe kua... but 1 thing sex for pleasure? maybe can juz quote it as 'friend sex' nth more than that... well... juz like 1 thing in the industries... we dont needa have to be friend or lover in order to have sex... we juz pay lol
i think whether good friend or not.... maybe sex is juz an excuse loh to seperate the terms of female and male be good friend... a best friend mostly got many things or interest in common thats why we call them 'best friends' if.... the situation like in the ladder thing... both got some clash i guess... they arent suitable to be a best friend... lolx maybe can try to differs 'friend' , 'good friend' and 'best friend' |
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Mar 22 2006, 02:09 PM
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Hi guys and gals,
Plz let me involve in here also. I got a female best frenz also well. "no guy and gal can be best frez" I pretty agree "A guy and a gal can be best frez" I do agree I am in such confuse state. But got 1 thing i can sure that if you are an ugly gal, there is still guy treat you very good, as true frez. That guyz is your best frenz for sure. For pretty ladies, I think is hard for them to figure out who is the true best frenz. Although she might tough that guy is best frez, actually most are just bees. If 1 day you no longer pretty, then maybe only till that time you can find out maybe just 1 or 2 is true to you if you are lucky. Else none of them. So, sometime i feel that is pity for pretty gal, is easy for them to find boyfren, but is hard for them to find best frez for different gender. Actually I do not that sure about my placing in my best frez heart. Maybe need her clarify to my lo. haha personal idea only, correct me if i am wrong.This post has been edited by ToGo: Mar 22 2006, 04:37 PM |
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Mar 22 2006, 03:54 PM
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pretty gals are pityful now?
and.. i dont get this paragraph... QUOTE(ToGo @ Mar 22 2006, 02:09 PM) Besides, if you can accept that kind of feeling : " The gal will priority the guys who might make her 4 in love " The guys (not mean her bf only). can you explain?There is more guys touch her heart, then you will need to queue farer. If that is ok for you, then go ahead This post has been edited by Zoe: Mar 22 2006, 03:54 PM |
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Mar 23 2006, 07:17 PM
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queue farer? further or farer? xD bah! i say girls and guy can be best friend.. i have it
hard to find a girl that you can have a guy talk with her including sex life and such.. well i have a few which i know them for few years back hehe.. they are very open, very comfortable and can talk what ever shits or topics.. its kinda nice to have such a close girl friends.. rather than "girlfriend" sometimes and ofcourse it all depends what kind of girl friends you are mixing with.. some are just err you know "GIRLS" hehehe cheers.. |
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Mar 25 2006, 11:10 AM
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I always thought yes to this question. But something happened....so I don't think so now.
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Mar 25 2006, 08:56 PM
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guy and girl sure can be good frens...
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Mar 26 2006, 01:10 AM
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for sure yes, so called "others" may misunderstand your friendship as something else, dun care about others thats what i think always
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Mar 27 2006, 06:35 PM
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definitely can...
i've got my good friends who are guys.. and i love em all for being such great friends =) |
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 Mar 29 2006, 05:32 PM
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QUOTE(xcutelilgal @ Mar 27 2006, 06:35 PM) definitely can... wow... make sure you love them properly i've got my good friends who are guys.. and i love em all for being such great friends =) j/k j/kBTW, I also have few of good female friends, and they usually find me comforting coz i spend my time attending their problems (not all lah, what I can listen & help oni!) It's good to have such friends, in a way I can understand people better, especially the opposite sex.  Maybe because I'm the only male sibling in family. haha~ |
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Mar 30 2006, 01:01 AM
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hm....as for me....i do think dat guys can be gals best fren as they are easier to talk to...not to say that galz are hard to listen to u....but sumtimes the way a guy thinks is much more simpler....i do have a few best frens who are guys...n we've been frens quite a long time....
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Mar 30 2006, 04:34 PM
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while i do agree with that guys n girls can be friends,
I'm more interested in knowing what happens at the time when 'good friends' cross the line? One of the things that I keep an eye out for is, personal space. With strangers, i'll probably put them at arms length, friends closer, and lastly is the lover's space. Would like to hear from girls on this one, do you get into your best guy friends' lover's only space (touching/very near distance)? for example, deliberate slow touch on his face, literally laying on him with your upper body while both of you were having a cup of tea? Not drunk Or is it entirely possible for a girl to be so friendly that she crosses into the lovers only space? While totally thinking of him as a friend? This post has been edited by eltaria: Mar 30 2006, 04:36 PM |
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Mar 30 2006, 04:57 PM
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QUOTE(eltaria @ Mar 30 2006, 04:34 PM) while i do agree with that guys n girls can be friends, er.. nope. not for me. i still think there's should be a limit.. but some girls do that. actually depending one la.. some think its okay while some don't think so. so maybe the girl being that friendly is really only treating him as a friend.I'm more interested in knowing what happens at the time when 'good friends' cross the line? One of the things that I keep an eye out for is, personal space. With strangers, i'll probably put them at arms length, friends closer, and lastly is the lover's space. Would like to hear from girls on this one, do you get into your best guy friends' lover's only space (touching/very near distance)? for example, deliberate slow touch on his face, literally laying on him with your upper body while both of you were having a cup of tea? Not drunk Or is it entirely possible for a girl to be so friendly that she crosses into the lovers only space? While totally thinking of him as a friend? |
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Mar 30 2006, 05:37 PM
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ntg is impossible
tats all i want 2 tell watever the line between good friend n couple |
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Mar 30 2006, 06:08 PM
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I've said this many times. No, No, NO. Guys and gals cannot be friends. Sex is always on the guy's mind. Understand. And every guy here that says that this isn't true. Please... stop lying.
It's a big problem if the gal is pretty, and it's a big problem even if the girl isn't pretty because eventually you'll want to nail em too. Remember, the average that a guy thinks about sex is 623 times a day. This post has been edited by refnulf: Mar 30 2006, 06:08 PM |
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Mar 30 2006, 06:45 PM
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Haha, refnulf's post is really funny.
Very emotional, and a strong stand point. But who knows man... |
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May 12 2006, 08:55 AM
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I have a girl as a good friend. We can talk anything. We fool around with each other. I admit that sometimes the thought of sex comes to mind, but I'll just brush it aside and tell myself we are good friends. She's pretty too, but all I want is to be good friends, nothing more. We're practically like brother and sister
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May 12 2006, 04:21 PM
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having a guy's shoulder to cry on is not bad sometimes
if u dun have a bf....... |
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May 12 2006, 09:01 PM
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QUOTE(aida^146 @ Mar 30 2006, 01:01 AM) hm....as for me....i do think dat guys can be gals best fren as they are easier to talk to...not to say that galz are hard to listen to u....but sumtimes the way a guy thinks is much more simpler....i do have a few best frens who are guys...n we've been frens quite a long time.... i agree v u..........  |
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May 14 2006, 07:08 AM
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QUOTE(refnulf @ Mar 30 2006, 10:08 AM) I've said this many times. No, No, NO. Guys and gals cannot be friends. Sex is always on the guy's mind. Understand. And every guy here that says that this isn't true. Please... stop lying. There's some truth in this, but it's not 100% clearcut. I have plenty of female friends. Do I find them attractive? Yes. Do I sometimes fantasize about them? Yes. Would I sleep with them? If they offered, sure. It's a big problem if the gal is pretty, and it's a big problem even if the girl isn't pretty because eventually you'll want to nail em too. Remember, the average that a guy thinks about sex is 623 times a day. But I don't actively hang out with them thinking "Wow, I really want to f*** her." Doesn't even occur to me at all! And it wouldn't even be considered unless "feelings" were brought up somehow. It's irrelevant. See, I don't think there's anything wrong with having the occasional fantasy about a friend. After all, what goes on inside my head is inside my head, right? Besides, half half the fun of having female friends is the sexual tension. |
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May 14 2006, 10:22 AM
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QUOTE(coriandery @ May 14 2006, 07:08 AM) There's some truth in this, but it's not 100% clearcut. I have plenty of female friends. Do I find them attractive? Yes. Do I sometimes fantasize about them? Yes. Would I sleep with them? If they offered, sure. That's what I meant. We're in the same situationBut I don't actively hang out with them thinking "Wow, I really want to f*** her." Doesn't even occur to me at all! And it wouldn't even be considered unless "feelings" were brought up somehow. It's irrelevant. See, I don't think there's anything wrong with having the occasional fantasy about a friend. After all, what goes on inside my head is inside my head, right? Besides, half half the fun of having female friends is the sexual tension. |
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May 22 2006, 08:57 AM
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I used to think that guy-girl friendships do exist until I found out that most of my guy friends secretly had feelings for me or wanted something deeper from/with me. My lesson? Guy-girl friendships are so overrated. However, there are those few decent and honest guys out there who really do want to be just your friend.
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May 22 2006, 09:07 AM
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they want to be your friend because they don't find you attractive or sexually appealing to you in the first place. if they do find you attractive and sexually appealng, they will want to have sex with you. it is human nature.
watch WHEN HARRY MET SALLY . it is the best movie dealing with the subject. |
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May 22 2006, 05:33 PM
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I have A lot of girlfriends... everdy day come to see me... ai bea tahan... wat do i can do... maybe i too handsome... sum ppl say me like superstar... auyo.. how... i is kura kura la.... u know.. they all is my costomer atually hahahaaha... i like eat pizza ~~~ n my sifu is mouse... =.="
Now say gud fren nia.. later that girl got bf liao.. balu tao.. can u accept ur gf be gud wif another guy? if can let mi know ur gf la pls... msn mi la.. This post has been edited by tort: May 22 2006, 05:42 PM |
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May 22 2006, 07:21 PM
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Er. Can I like, that back my words? And to make a statement? A guy and a girl, in my experience cannot be good friends. Why? Earlier I said a have a good friend, a girl. We're together now
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May 29 2006, 02:24 AM
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Nah...I don't think so. Casual friends, sure. Exclusively best friends where they think its ok for only the two of them to hang out together on a daily basis, hell no! I don't like guys who has female best friends. Please don't give me the lame excuse "but..but we're just best friends!" when I catch the two of you sleeping together on the same bed. There should be some kind of limit to what you can do with your "best friend" and your girlfriend. Especially, if you already have a gf/bf, please don't go all touchy-feely with your opposite sex "best friend".
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May 29 2006, 10:32 AM
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i hope to be good friend with angel(the thread starter)
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May 29 2006, 06:11 PM
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i think a girl can have a good guy friend, but a guy cannot really have a good girlfriend. what i'm trying to say that i think most girls know what they're thinking about, but if the guy treats u as a good female friend, there might have some intentions. hahaha well not all people are the same though.
as for girls.. if u've got a boy i think it's best not to have good guy friends..he might be jealous. |
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May 30 2006, 10:57 PM
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QUOTE(kerrk @ May 29 2006, 06:11 PM) i think a girl can have a good guy friend, but a guy cannot really have a good girlfriend. what i'm trying to say that i think most girls know what they're thinking about, but if the guy treats u as a good female friend, there might have some intentions. hahaha well not all people are the same though. same mahh... if we guys have a lotta of lady friends, our gf will be jealous as well. even worse, they say things like "ask your so and so to do lorr..". as if the "so and so" is my gf. aiyoh, girls ahh... takes things very personal lerr. that is why, no close lady friends. got also let our gf "phang chou/shoo away" with a fly swat. see... now want one single miserable lalat also don't have. so sad. as for girls.. if u've got a boy i think it's best not to have good guy friends..he might be jealous. |
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May 31 2006, 04:32 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? Yes we can be platonic friends all right. I have just as many male friends as girlfriends. I find I can talk to the guys the most personal things and it stays with them, unlike girls......and I can count on them all the time.. |
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Jun 5 2006, 01:04 PM
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Girls and guys definitely can be good friends!!!
If not, guys will have many girlfriends, right? |
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Jun 6 2006, 01:36 AM
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QUOTE(kerrk @ May 29 2006, 06:11 PM) i think a girl can have a good guy friend, but a guy cannot really have a good girlfriend. what i'm trying to say that i think most girls know what they're thinking about, but if the guy treats u as a good female friend, there might have some intentions. hahaha well not all people are the same though. as for girls.. if u've got a boy i think it's best not to have good guy friends..he might be jealous. QUOTE(fashionbuyer @ May 31 2006, 04:32 PM) Yes we can be platonic friends all right. I have just as many male friends as girlfriends. I find I can talk to the guys the most personal things and it stays with them, unlike girls......and I can count on them all the time.. i hope to be good friends with u two also |
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Aug 4 2006, 03:41 PM
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can......girls and guys can be frenz....
i got 3 very good girl frenz ...now erm 6 years alreadi we know each other i fallen for one of them be4 but we over that already now we al just very very good frens... we help out each other ....talk and comfort if anyone are sad... i can discuss girl stuff and they can ask y guys this y guys tat.... all of them have bf and i think they don't mind me being their good fren coz we understand the boundaries i always ask them out to eat, drink, movie, talkin on the phone....etc etc |
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Aug 4 2006, 04:28 PM
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Can. I have male good friends. =p
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Aug 5 2006, 09:02 AM
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For sure can be good frens lar, if wanna cheat there's many ways..don't need 2 be goodfrens
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Aug 9 2006, 08:52 PM
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yes...
why not? |
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Aug 10 2006, 12:55 AM
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why not ask these question then... if a girl rejects a guy, can both of them become close frens...
well... for me... the girls who rejected me.... one of them became quite close with me... another in da end became my adik angkat... ... now u see how things can turn around... i even manage to accidentally present myself better fitted for one of my close lady fren eventhough she has a bf at that time... |
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Aug 10 2006, 05:37 PM
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QUOTE(fashionbuyer @ May 31 2006, 04:32 PM) Yes we can be platonic friends all right. I have just as many male friends as girlfriends. I find I can talk to the guys the most personal things and it stays with them, unlike girls......and I can count on them all the time.. yeah... my gf also say like that... she say when make fren with gal they will say sumthing bad behind u.... and dun feel like talk any personal to them... but when come to guys she can talk a lot include family and her relation.... that's y she don had many gal fren but got lot of guy fren.... QUOTE(Larrylow @ Jun 5 2006, 01:04 PM) Girls and guys definitely can be good friends!!! sure y not....If not, guys will have many girlfriends, right? QUOTE(pangping1510 @ Aug 4 2006, 04:28 PM) Can. I have male good friends. =p i'm available... lolz.... my gf also support me to find more gal fren.... |
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Aug 10 2006, 07:52 PM
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I think can lah dont lah every girl you know you want to marry her because she is so sweet
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Aug 12 2006, 04:10 AM
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Er... for me... casual friend sure.. but... when getting really close... Girl always will fall to me... then finally cannot be fren anymore... I dunno why... i treat everyone just like good friend... also dunno why girl will so easy fall into someone... and if kena rejact... cannot be fren anymore one... come on... be sporting la... Don because of this spoilt nice nice friendship ma... right?
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Aug 13 2006, 08:44 AM
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One way or another, girl is the most beautiful creature God ever created.. hehehe
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Aug 13 2006, 12:38 PM
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best friends... how bout the gal says "bro and sis" relationship???
wad u pip thinks? will it last? or will end up engaged? coz i'm having problem... *sob* |
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Aug 13 2006, 08:12 PM
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QUOTE(Lipyueng @ Aug 12 2006, 04:10 AM) Er... for me... casual friend sure.. but... when getting really close... Girl always will fall to me... then finally cannot be fren anymore... I dunno why... i treat everyone just like good friend... also dunno why girl will so easy fall into someone... and if kena rejact... cannot be fren anymore one... come on... be sporting la... Don because of this spoilt nice nice friendship ma... right? Why you so damn lucky one!!!!! No GIRL FAll For me even though been around with girls for one year |
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Aug 14 2006, 12:15 AM
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erm... i think it can be exist!! cos i got a lot of 'bro', they treat as a guy as well!!
a bit troublesome cos they all treat me as a guy so nobody woo me at all... |
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Aug 14 2006, 12:19 AM
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can.... especially when both are colleagues
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Aug 14 2006, 04:12 PM
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some yes and some no.. depends on the situation and who is the person..
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Aug 16 2006, 01:27 AM
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depends....
i do believe but meanwhile no also...clueless... |
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Aug 16 2006, 01:28 AM
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QUOTE(witch @ Aug 14 2006, 12:15 AM) erm... i think it can be exist!! cos i got a lot of 'bro', they treat as a guy as well!! as what u say,they wont woo you at all..a bit troublesome cos they all treat me as a guy so nobody woo me at all... then can u comfirm that u wont fall in one of them?????  |
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Aug 16 2006, 08:11 AM
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They exist and its possible but it's rare. Even when the guys are only treating you as friends, chimui, bro shit... They would still want to get into your pants. Dont believe me? Try to turn him on, get it on with him and ask him if he wants to do it with you while having your hands rub his thighs, be serious... He would show his true self then and later apologise when you say you're kidding. Trust me, it bloody work.
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Aug 16 2006, 10:18 AM
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^ it bloody work even if she's a stranger. sex does not equal to love. 2 frens having sex doesn't make them a lover.
IMO. No, guys and girls cannot be very close fren. but u can have many good frens who're opposite sex. This post has been edited by ky_khor: Aug 16 2006, 10:26 AM |
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Aug 16 2006, 03:34 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? absolutely not agree with u, that is completely not true, dont you believe in sincere relation??  |
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Aug 18 2006, 07:56 PM
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sure can be fren...
i have best frens are guys... i feel sometimes better talk to them than female frens... can chit chat,can gossip, can fool around,can talk secrets... |
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Aug 19 2006, 10:37 PM
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So basically girls juz can't keep their mouth shut is it from wat u're sayin? hehehe
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Aug 19 2006, 11:25 PM
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erm..i think i wont!! cos is too weird, if i m being in luv in one of them~~
is impossible!!! they all my sis!! |
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Aug 25 2006, 02:11 AM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? for me it's possible for a gal and guy be a good frenz..coz i have few girls which is my best friend that also best friend with few guys.. we never think anything related to sex when we all together.. (except joke lah, that one sure always). we all always sleep together... n normally the guys only use their boxer n we didnt feel guilty. n often for us to call them wake up in the morning by going to their room... n they just wearing their boxer, underwear or sometimes naked.. n we just feel nothing... maybe becoz we very close since we are form 1. |
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Aug 26 2006, 01:44 AM
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Why not?
It actually depends on the individual alone.If u urself are not expectnig a relationship,being friends with the opposite gender is definitely one of the ways to understand girls more. just my 2 cents. |
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Aug 26 2006, 01:03 PM
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QUOTE(witch @ Aug 14 2006, 12:15 AM) erm... i think it can be exist!! cos i got a lot of 'bro', they treat as a guy as well!! if one of yr best bro come n chase u, wat will u do??a bit troublesome cos they all treat me as a guy so nobody woo me at all... accept or jz 4get abt it n continue b gud friends?? |
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Aug 26 2006, 02:11 PM
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I've a best fren which is male. At first i thought we really can work it out since both of us sincere & comfortable click as close friends, we almost share everything daily. and 2 years after he got promotion, he made busying with his work an excuse, so end up treat me like stranger after all.
Friendship between male & female, i believe some happen success out there, but i would not try again, like me kinda sad for my situation. Good luck to you |
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Aug 26 2006, 10:09 PM
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i think can but oso 1 see loh, coz if u treat the guy very good, some of them will fall in love 2 u loh ... but i believe hv 1 lah
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Aug 31 2006, 01:34 PM
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QUOTE(apple_8850 @ Aug 26 2006, 10:09 PM) i think can but oso 1 see loh, coz if u treat the guy very good, some of them will fall in love 2 u loh ... but i believe hv 1 lah Wat will u do if dat guy fall in love 2 u??Accept him?? Ignore him n lose the friendship mayb?? |
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Aug 31 2006, 01:58 PM
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depends on whether u like him or not loh....
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Sep 1 2006, 04:30 AM
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I think guys and girls can really be frens.
I got few male buddies, we used to hang out 2gether, talk craps and secrets. when we think bout dating or havin a relationship or sex wit each other, we feel disgusting and rather die.. haha |
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Sep 4 2006, 10:51 PM
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QUOTE(ennui_gal @ Aug 26 2006, 02:11 PM) I've a best fren which is male. At first i thought we really can work it out since both of us sincere & comfortable click as close friends, we almost share everything daily. and 2 years after he got promotion, he made busying with his work an excuse, so end up treat me like stranger after all. i feel pity for your case....it shouldn't go wasted like that....Friendship between male & female, i believe some happen success out there, but i would not try again, like me kinda sad for my situation. Good luck to you prolly you could call him up one day, and tell him how you feel about this whole friendship thing since you guys were that close for 2 years...not a short period if you ask me.... i believe through this frank question that you could pose to him, that the friendship could be revived instead of dyin' a slow death good friendship's hard to find, so give it least a last shot before makin' any conclusion... |
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Sep 9 2006, 09:22 PM
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Well, I have this guy I know who spent most of his time talking with this particular girl. With her around, this guy will most likely spent most of his conversation with her instead of me and my friends. Where she go, there he will be. What do you think about this?
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Nov 5 2006, 04:17 PM
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ITs must be exits somewhere.. but it's never been to me.. A time will change everything.. time will take everything.. can the time stop or reverse? haiz..
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Nov 5 2006, 04:52 PM
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Hey hey.im new here..anyway..jus gonna share a bit of my experience regarding this topic..as for myself..i cant never be a good buddy with a guy..always turn out to be the opposite thing..In the end of the day, these guy friends of mine ( as in a few of them) wil confess their feelings for me..askin for more... So, since then..ive learned my lesson..not to get too close with a guy.. cos 9/10 will want something more than a friendship..
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i HATE this kind of relationsip.....
cause all the girl that i chased also say this same answer to me when i ask her can she be my gf.damn it........my forehead got written down "bestfriend" meh?? |
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Nov 6 2006, 08:46 PM
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if u want to be best fren leh... don treat ur best fren 2 special... might spoil them... and guys... if wanna be more then bf leh... learn some body language... don treat tat gal v v good and expect her to be more than best friends...
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Nov 6 2006, 10:05 PM
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QUOTE(night @ Sep 9 2006, 09:22 PM) Well, I have this guy I know who spent most of his time talking with this particular girl. With her around, this guy will most likely spent most of his conversation with her instead of me and my friends. Where she go, there he will be. What do you think about this? Well, IMO this guy is interested in this particular girl.......QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ Nov 6 2006, 08:46 PM) if u want to be best fren leh... don treat ur best fren 2 special... might spoil them... and guys... if wanna be more then bf leh... learn some body language... don treat tat gal v v good and expect her to be more than best friends... wat body language??share yr experience plz |
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Nov 7 2006, 02:57 AM
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is possible......i have few female....good...fren....they ...came out wif mi in the nite...den they didnt want to go bax ...home...so....might aswell...sleep over in my houz....noting happened...tats bcoz...we...joke around...like brother n sister...den sleep...2gather oni ...
the thing is...u need to...tell urself...wad relation ur gona ...step in to ....wif those good frens ....ofcoz... |
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Nov 7 2006, 06:54 PM
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QUOTE(evilhomura89 @ Nov 6 2006, 11:05 PM) wat body language?? gametaipan already gave a very detail story bout body language in some other thread in GC... search them urself... share yr experience plz |
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 Nov 7 2006, 06:55 PM
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QUOTE(taor3n @ Nov 7 2006, 03:57 AM) is possible......i have few female....good...fren....they ...came out wif mi in the nite...den they didnt want to go bax ...home...so....might aswell...sleep over in my houz....noting happened...tats bcoz...we...joke around...like brother n sister...den sleep...2gather oni ... good point... the thing is...u need to...tell urself...wad relation ur gona ...step in to ....wif those good frens ....ofcoz... |
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QUOTE(LoveMeNot @ Nov 5 2006, 04:52 PM) Hey hey.im new here..anyway..jus gonna share a bit of my experience regarding this topic..as for myself..i cant never be a good buddy with a guy..always turn out to be the opposite thing..In the end of the day, these guy friends of mine ( as in a few of them) wil confess their feelings for me..askin for more... So, since then..ive learned my lesson..not to get too close with a guy.. cos 9/10 will want something more than a friendship.. I am just the opposite of you, i could easily be good buddy with guy. I find it very easy going with them. They are usually not picky, they will take whatever that is left in the cookiess jar, most importantly... they dont use up your extra tissue when they are crying... they just rub in on their shirt. "I guess, maybe the different between me and you is that, you are pretty, lovely and admirable. I dont think that you are completely lose out yet, you can still be guy's best friend, but, it likely be a homosexual guy though. This post has been edited by Gametaipan: Nov 8 2006, 12:09 AM |
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Nov 8 2006, 04:13 AM
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QUOTE(taor3n @ Nov 7 2006, 02:57 AM) is possible......i have few female....good...fren....they ...came out wif mi in the nite...den they didnt want to go bax ...home...so....might aswell...sleep over in my houz....noting happened...tats bcoz...we...joke around...like brother n sister...den sleep...2gather oni ... although i damn admiring u got this kind of relationship but i wont bring a bestfriend girl to my house n sleep together. the thing is...u need to...tell urself...wad relation ur gona ...step in to ....wif those good frens ....ofcoz... cause i'm not so open minded. kolot a bit. but i really dont know why.........very ti.uuuu......cause every time i chased that girl, and in the end when i ask her i got chance or not, sure the same answer will come out from them. "i just treat u like my best friend only".....pkimakkkk..... cant say i didnt put my effort ler....cause i do every guys do when they chase a girl. call her every nite, ask her out, give her some preesent sometime, cook soup for her, bring her see doc and others.....but still cant success to chase girl ....haiz....... really make my confident down n down This post has been edited by outsider: Nov 8 2006, 04:16 AM |
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Nov 8 2006, 06:00 PM
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QUOTE(Gametaipan @ Nov 8 2006, 01:07 AM) I am just the opposite of you, i could easily be good buddy with guy. I find it very easy going with them. They are usually not picky, they will take whatever that is left in the cookiess jar, most importantly... u sure...? i mean every1 choose... but depends on wat's the choice...QUOTE(Gametaipan @ Nov 8 2006, 01:07 AM) I guess, maybe the different between me and you is that, you are pretty, lovely and admirable. I dont think that you are completely lose out yet, you can still be guy's best friend, but, it likely be a homosexual guy though. haha... seeing from the majority of guys's attitude... i juz gotta second tat... may her fate release her... |
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 Nov 8 2006, 06:02 PM
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QUOTE(outsider @ Nov 8 2006, 05:13 AM) although i damn admiring u got this kind of relationship but i wont bring a bestfriend girl to my house n sleep together. i would do all tat for my frenz... cause i'm not so open minded. kolot a bit. but i really dont know why.........very ti.uuuu......cause every time i chased that girl, and in the end when i ask her i got chance or not, sure the same answer will come out from them. "i just treat u like my best friend only".....pkimakkkk..... cant say i didnt put my effort ler....cause i do every guys do when they chase a girl. call her every nite, ask her out, give her some preesent sometime, cook soup for her, bring her see doc and others.....but still cant success to chase girl ....haiz....... really make my confident down n down ntg special also... |
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Nov 8 2006, 11:56 PM
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new here jz wana add some comments
QUOTE(LoveMeNot @ Nov 5 2006, 04:52 PM) Hey hey.im new here..anyway..jus gonna share a bit of my experience regarding this topic..as for myself..i cant never be a good buddy with a guy..always turn out to be the opposite thing..In the end of the day, these guy friends of mine ( as in a few of them) wil confess their feelings for me..askin for more... So, since then..ive learned my lesson..not to get too close with a guy.. cos 9/10 will want something more than a friendship.. hehe perhaps just the guys that u have met...well sometimes guys like me like to talk to girls , share things and it is easier to open the mouth to say something ...i mean fren la..i like to have female frens..its so good ...coz i have no sis which i think is sth i will regret for the whole life..u c..as a guy ..speaking to a good fren..good female fren its so comfortable...IT IS POSSIBLE IF BOTH TREAT EACH OTHER AS GOOD FRENS ONLY/OR EVEN BEST FRENS ....sharing things with a girl , u know she is so caring whatever she say she wil feel for you , she will comfort u and really care for u ..differs from a guy , will ejek u etc laugh at u ...having opposite sex frens is good , but both parties mz be really want to be frens onli 1 la..."QUOTE(outsider @ Nov 5 2006, 05:05 PM) i HATE this kind of relationsip..... LOL hehe bro sometimes need some time to change..u mz give indication first...when u talking to the girl u shud be very clear in mind , what is ur status in her heart....u must be clear , as a guy , u must handle the situation and take hold of the whole thing ..hehe if u blur blur lidat , if im a girl i also dont want u la....LOL jk jk ....but u need to analyze, if u think she treats u as good good fren, then ok u need to do something now...perhaps give some indication bit by bit, let her create some doubt in her heart , create the possibility that ur after her in her heart......then slowly , let her be comfortable with the new identity of YOU in her heart..this may take up some time bro ...be patient with a girl , care for them , love them , they can feel it and they will love u too :> cause all the girl that i chased also say this same answer to me when i ask her can she be my gf.damn it........my forehead got written down "bestfriend" meh?? p/s dont play with girls , u will regret :> |
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Nov 9 2006, 12:59 AM
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QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ Nov 8 2006, 06:00 PM) u sure...? i mean every1 choose... but depends on wat's the choice... Positive, and i was refering to light matters. Guy would just grab any blank cd that let them burn, whereelse for girls, in most cases, they will spend time going thru the whole selection b4 they choose. You ever wonder why black and white is the most common fashion choice for guys to a ballroom party? And girl's are usually more colorful and trickier? Do u know why it takes 4 hours for girl to try the wedding grown and maybe 45 minutes for guy?This post has been edited by Gametaipan: Nov 9 2006, 01:06 AM |
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Nov 9 2006, 01:17 AM
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best friend ?? oh yeah . he'll ended up liking u ..
best friend for guy and girl .. is like wannabe couples .. might as well stay as friends . and know what ur doing is right .. which is just for friends . =) ! |
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Nov 9 2006, 10:59 AM
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Well, there's something I would like to know.
Let say u already confess to yr bestfriend, but he/she didn't give u a hard "NO", maybe he/she gives u some reasons such as work, studies, family prob etc, IMO as a blunt rejection to u. U didn't lost yr friendship aft that, later he/she jz treats u normally like before as though as that confession never happened.....well, should u give up even if u really likes him/her?? Or u should wait and jz do like wat jcheok said for guyz?? As for gals, I dun really know, continue waiting?? QUOTE(jcheok2 @ Nov 8 2006, 11:56 PM) LOL hehe bro sometimes need some time to change..u mz give indication first...when u talking to the girl u shud be very clear in mind , what is ur status in her heart....u must be clear , as a guy , u must handle the situation and take hold of the whole thing ..hehe if u blur blur lidat , if im a girl i also dont want u la....LOL jk jk ....but u need to analyze, if u think she treats u as good good fren, then ok u need to do something now...perhaps give some indication bit by bit, let her create some doubt in her heart , create the possibility that ur after her in her heart......then slowly , let her be comfortable with the new identity of YOU in her heart..this may take up some time bro ...be patient with a girl , care for them , love them , they can feel it and they will love u too :> p/s dont play with girls , u will regret :> |
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Nov 9 2006, 02:49 PM
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QUOTE(Gametaipan @ Nov 9 2006, 01:59 AM) Positive, and i was refering to light matters. Guy would just grab any blank cd that let them burn, whereelse for girls, in most cases, they will spend time going thru the whole selection b4 they choose. You ever wonder why black and white is the most common fashion choice for guys to a ballroom party? And girl's are usually more colorful and trickier? Do u know why it takes 4 hours for girl to try the wedding grown and maybe 45 minutes for guy? haha... cuz to guys those are small matters lor... i'm saying tat guys do choose when needed to do so... but in most cases... guys are very lazy to choose... tat applies for me 2 |
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Nov 9 2006, 02:51 PM
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QUOTE(avengers88 @ Nov 9 2006, 02:17 AM) best friend ?? oh yeah . he'll ended up liking u .. i have to agree on tat... cuz i know some gals who like to boast their own beauty and manja here n there... best friend for guy and girl .. is like wannabe couples .. might as well stay as friends . and know what ur doing is right .. which is just for friends . =) ! |
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Nov 9 2006, 05:54 PM
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QUOTE(evilhomura89 @ Nov 9 2006, 10:59 AM) Well, there's something I would like to know. it depends ...if u really love the girl , go on ,.dont let go , unless she is owned by other guy already then too bad lo ... i would say if u hold on , use the corect technique and show sincerity , prove to her your love for her , make her comfortable with u , 80% u will succeed..all u need to do is to make urself important in her life, make her happy ..unless u realy bad until ugly, poor , ah beng all those kind la....girls get touched...this 1 confirm apply to all girls 1...so .. work hard..haha need advice can add me msn ..lol not to say i pro but i good in advising i guess....got quite some fren kao lui also find me ask me to help....zzzzz i also dont knw why ...Let say u already confess to yr bestfriend, but he/she didn't give u a hard "NO", maybe he/she gives u some reasons such as work, studies, family prob etc, IMO as a blunt rejection to u. U didn't lost yr friendship aft that, later he/she jz treats u normally like before as though as that confession never happened.....well, should u give up even if u really likes him/her?? Or u should wait and jz do like wat jcheok said for guyz?? As for gals, I dun really know, continue waiting?? QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ Nov 9 2006, 02:49 PM) haha... cuz to guys those are small matters lor... i'm saying tat guys do choose when needed to do so... but in most cases... guys are very lazy to choose... tat applies for me 2 wow this 1 real issue....guys only see real big things as big things.. girls see everything as big thing..... eg wedding...it is the event which is important..not that gown ....zzz or that tux... |
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Nov 9 2006, 09:22 PM
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QUOTE(jcheok2 @ Nov 9 2006, 06:54 PM) wow this 1 real issue.... yarlo... nvr thought of wat kind of tux to wear also... guys only see real big things as big things.. girls see everything as big thing..... eg wedding...it is the event which is important..not that gown ....zzz or that tux...  match the bride's gown enough lar...  This post has been edited by t3chn0m4nc3r: Nov 9 2006, 09:26 PM |
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Nov 9 2006, 09:25 PM
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QUOTE(jcheok2 @ Nov 9 2006, 06:54 PM) it depends ...if u really love the girl , go on ,.dont let go , unless she is owned by other guy already then too bad lo ... i would say if u hold on , use the corect technique and show sincerity , prove to her your love for her , make her comfortable with u , 80% u will succeed..all u need to do is to make urself important in her life, make her happy ..unless u realy bad until ugly, poor , ah beng all those kind la....girls get touched...this 1 confirm apply to all girls 1...so .. work hard..haha need advice can add me msn ..lol not to say i pro but i good in advising i guess....got quite some fren kao lui also find me ask me to help....zzzzz i also dont knw why ... same here dude... but giving this kind of tips to the public kinda ruin us although we don charge for them... and u must have not met those tough gals... |
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Nov 10 2006, 03:50 AM
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QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ Nov 9 2006, 09:22 PM) yarlo... nvr thought of wat kind of tux to wear also... yeap ...like chinese say ...women can never be "siu sa" 1...all po po ma ma..zzzzzz sorry girls .. guys still need girls to survive anyway ....why God made it this way ...no idea match the bride's gown enough lar... QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ Nov 9 2006, 09:25 PM) same here dude... but giving this kind of tips to the public kinda ruin us although we don charge for them... and u must have not met those tough gals... huhu dont worry , next time perhaps i can run some business like love consultant and that kinda thing....wan a share ? lol |
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Nov 10 2006, 09:28 AM
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QUOTE(jcheok2 @ Nov 9 2006, 05:54 PM) it depends ...if u really love the girl , go on ,.dont let go , unless she is owned by other guy already then too bad lo ... i would say if u hold on , use the corect technique and show sincerity , prove to her your love for her , make her comfortable with u , 80% u will succeed..all u need to do is to make urself important in her life, make her happy ..unless u realy bad until ugly, poor , ah beng all those kind la....girls get touched...this 1 confirm apply to all girls 1...so .. work hard..haha need advice can add me msn ..lol not to say i pro but i good in advising i guess....got quite some fren kao lui also find me ask me to help....zzzzz i also dont knw why ... Well, aft yr frens asked for yr advice for kao lui, did they succeed??If yes, then yr advice should be really "geng".......haha Jz added u into MSN.....hoping for some useful advice |
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Nov 10 2006, 10:11 AM
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If guy n gal very good frens then can become bf n gf onot? any chances?
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Nov 10 2006, 02:15 PM
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QUOTE(jcheok2 @ Nov 10 2006, 04:50 AM) yeap ...like chinese say ...women can never be "siu sa" 1...all po po ma ma..zzzzzz sorry girls .. guys still need girls to survive anyway ....why God made it this way ...no idea haha... maybe we were match-makers in our previous life... huhu dont worry , next time perhaps i can run some business like love consultant and that kinda thing....wan a share ? lol can consider... |
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Nov 10 2006, 02:20 PM
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QUOTE(evilhomura89 @ Nov 10 2006, 10:28 AM) Well, aft yr frens asked for yr advice for kao lui, did they succeed?? most basic advice is patience... like fishing... haha... If yes, then yr advice should be really "geng".......haha Jz added u into MSN.....hoping for some useful advice |
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Nov 11 2006, 12:30 AM
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QUOTE(evilhomura89 @ Nov 10 2006, 09:28 AM) Well, aft yr frens asked for yr advice for kao lui, did they succeed?? If yes, then yr advice should be really "geng".......haha Jz added u into MSN.....hoping for some useful advice haha oh well i must say many made it many dint... well sometimes there are many things u cant teach 1...sometimes need to have the feeling...and analyze small small details like when she looks at u , what kind of espression all these..i can only hear from ppl , but i cant teach u guys how to analyze well its jz naturally will have the feeling...and my brain works lidat i duno why can analyze...lol.... QUOTE(stsh90 @ Nov 10 2006, 10:11 AM) If guy n gal very good frens then can become bf n gf onot? any chances? zz i duno i think to b v good frens...1st thing in both the gal n guy mind also memang want to be frens only...or else impossible be real good fren lo..but of course sure it is possible....hehe when u understand each other that much and spend alot of time together , that feeling will come sometimes..and 1 more thing i have seen quite often is , bf always v close with gf's best frens...ya and then sth happen between the bf and the gf's best frens.hehe girls out there becareful ya... |
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Nov 11 2006, 07:09 PM
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QUOTE(jcheok2 @ Nov 11 2006, 01:30 AM) and 1 more thing i have seen quite often is , bf always v close with gf's best frens...ya and then sth happen between the bf and the gf's best frens.hehe girls out there becareful ya... u notice tat huh... most of the cases starts when gals brag bout their bf to their close frenz... then her frenz will start some moves due to other frenz encouragements... so... better keep the good stuff to ourselves.... |
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Nov 27 2006, 12:49 PM
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QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ Nov 11 2006, 07:09 PM) u notice tat huh... most of the cases starts when gals brag bout their bf to their close frenz... then her frenz will start some moves due to other frenz encouragements... so... better keep the good stuff to ourselves.... Her frenz will start some moves towards who??Dat gal's bf or other guy available?? |
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Nov 27 2006, 01:40 PM
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Hahahh... i think its real hard for us to be good friends with frens with the opposite sex here. dats y i prefer to befriend gays
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Nov 27 2006, 01:42 PM
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Back to the first question..
Of course girls and guys can be good friends. There's no line placed inbetween a male and a female in the term of friendship. Genders doesn't matter. As for me, I've got best friends consist of both genders. And no, I don't have any special feelings towards my guy best friend, and vice versa. |
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Nov 27 2006, 06:04 PM
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QUOTE(chachachaaa @ Nov 27 2006, 02:40 PM) Hahahh... i think its real hard for us to be good friends with frens with the opposite sex here. dats y i prefer to befriend gays gays are known to change their perception for certain reasons... watch out... |
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 Nov 27 2006, 06:05 PM
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QUOTE(Myra @ Nov 27 2006, 02:42 PM) Back to the first question.. unless ur personality is very very bad... Of course girls and guys can be good friends. There's no line placed inbetween a male and a female in the term of friendship. Genders doesn't matter. As for me, I've got best friends consist of both genders. And no, I don't have any special feelings towards my guy best friend, and vice versa. don be so confident... 1 day u will see... |
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Nov 27 2006, 06:25 PM
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in this issue, i admit myself not a gentleman... coz i don think guys and gals can be closed frens... unless its love... if no love means no frens... well, tats my own opinion...
if love arises, we will be lovers... if don, then i don think there is a possible to be frens anymore... then lets be strangers... or more, lets be enemy... tats wat i do lar.. coz to me no love means hate...btw, i oso think its kinda suffer if u try to be frens with a person after u n tat person had a past which is kinda sad and unforgettable... |
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Nov 27 2006, 06:49 PM
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QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ Nov 27 2006, 06:04 PM) gays are known to change their perception for certain reasons... watch out... Hahah... If really they can like me, I will be darn happy!Coz I can turn a queer guy into a straight one! Not everyone can do that, even the gays themselves oso can't control their gayness |
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Nov 27 2006, 11:09 PM
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t3chn0m4nc3r, don't even go there. I trust my friendship. I can't explain. It's just how things are. You're not in my place, so you wouldn't know. And what will I see one day? Still the same friendship.
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Nov 28 2006, 04:43 PM
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QUOTE(Myra @ Nov 28 2006, 12:09 AM) t3chn0m4nc3r, don't even go there. I trust my friendship. I can't explain. It's just how things are. You're not in my place, so you wouldn't know. And what will I see one day? Still the same friendship. haha... i understand... but u r juz 15 and u got lots more to see b4 u judge... |
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Nov 28 2006, 04:47 PM
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QUOTE(Myra @ Nov 27 2006, 11:09 PM) t3chn0m4nc3r, don't even go there. I trust my friendship. I can't explain. It's just how things are. You're not in my place, so you wouldn't know. And what will I see one day? Still the same friendship. There's no absolute until the one day suddenly sparks ignite.... |
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Nov 28 2006, 07:51 PM
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hahaa.. why not?
i have tons of guys frenz.. even my ex bfS are my good frenz.. maybe somesay there might be something going on.. but.. i think it's still possible for guys and girls to be good frenz without involving the mushy mushy relationship.. hahaa.. plus, it's good having a guy fren as a best fren, u can look for him when u are having love problem.. he'll give u a guy's opinion hahaa.. |
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Nov 28 2006, 09:42 PM
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hmmm theres 2 reason why guys and girl become good friends
1.guy/ girl want court the guy/girl 2.just like to be/feel comfortable when with them,and they can share problem with each other,some thing like sis and bro i my self also got girl as good friends,i treat them like my own sis,and nothing more,and they are very close to me,i help them out when they need help |
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Nov 28 2006, 10:20 PM
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^^
Aww... dats so sweet |
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Nov 28 2006, 10:49 PM
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Well, Wacky Angel and t3chn0m4nc3r. You guys are right. We never know what will happen in the future. Hell, I, for one, know that most (note: most) friendship, whether it's a friendship between the same gender or not, won't last forever. I'm already accepting that fact, I see how everyone changes, including me. I've seen my best friend in the past moved on. I've seen me moved on. So it's like, why look forward for the time when you and your bestfriend are going to drift apart? For now, I should just enjoy the moment. What will happen next can wait.
But as for my friendship, you really can't tell. Unless you're me, that is. x) It depends on the individual. How they work their friendship with the same gender or not the same gender. It really doesn't matter in the end. That's my point of view. x) |
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Nov 29 2006, 08:41 AM
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but wat if u know ur ex-gf/bf had done sth very wrong, tats y baru u both break up... since then u still willing to be frens with them?
i watched a show named Gang of Guo Guang last nite, they talk bout this topic... they all ended up with 76% of majority unwilling to be frens after they break up... well, tats the result they got in taiwan... a quite open country... |
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Nov 29 2006, 09:11 AM
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QUOTE(Myra @ Nov 28 2006, 10:49 PM) Well, Wacky Angel and t3chn0m4nc3r. You guys are right. We never know what will happen in the future. Hell, I, for one, know that most (note: most) friendship, whether it's a friendship between the same gender or not, won't last forever. I'm already accepting that fact, I see how everyone changes, including me. I've seen my best friend in the past moved on. I've seen me moved on. So it's like, why look forward for the time when you and your bestfriend are going to drift apart? For now, I should just enjoy the moment. What will happen next can wait. Thats why i never care whether "Can gals and guys be good fren?"....But as for my friendship, you really can't tell. Unless you're me, that is. x) It depends on the individual. How they work their friendship with the same gender or not the same gender. It really doesn't matter in the end. That's my point of view. x) I dont care..... So what if its gal and guy can be good fren? what about that? huh.... |
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Nov 29 2006, 01:26 PM
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Well Jasonist. The only problem with "Can guys and girls be good friends" is when they had a special relationship before.
If you notice, almost all the friendships one had before with the ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend will be forgotten once they broke apart. It's just the way it is.. they tend to get uncomfortable with each other's presence.. and stuffs. Maybe they will be friends again in the future.. maybe not. It's about forgive and forget (which is like the hardest thing to do..) they need time to heal the wound that's been made. But whether or not they'll be close again as before, well that's up to the individual. x) But that's just my point of view. xD. This post has been edited by Myra: Nov 29 2006, 01:28 PM |
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Nov 29 2006, 03:45 PM
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QUOTE(Myra @ Nov 29 2006, 02:26 PM) Well Jasonist. The only problem with "Can guys and girls be good friends" is when they had a special relationship before. tat's acceptable... bravo... If you notice, almost all the friendships one had before with the ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend will be forgotten once they broke apart. It's just the way it is.. they tend to get uncomfortable with each other's presence.. and stuffs. Maybe they will be friends again in the future.. maybe not. It's about forgive and forget (which is like the hardest thing to do..) they need time to heal the wound that's been made. But whether or not they'll be close again as before, well that's up to the individual. x) But that's just my point of view. xD. |
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Nov 29 2006, 06:26 PM
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hmm... looks like this touches the issue of maturity lor... unless those who are sporting enough then they may do so... understand!
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Dec 1 2006, 04:07 PM
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There is no way in heaven, gals and guys can become good fren. By instinct male will not treat a female htat good/ helpful unless the male is attracted to the opposite sex.
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Dec 1 2006, 09:32 PM
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^ That's only your point of view, of course.
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Dec 2 2006, 11:36 AM
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QUOTE(chaoshero @ Dec 1 2006, 04:07 PM) There is no way in heaven, gals and guys can become good fren. By instinct male will not treat a female htat good/ helpful unless the male is attracted to the opposite sex. and one more, they treat them good oso coz they have sth they have to accomplish... |
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Dec 5 2006, 12:01 PM
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this depend on individual la... open minded and friendly are the easiest to be friends wif... uptights, perverts and actors are the hardest to be friends wif...
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Dec 5 2006, 06:36 PM
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QUOTE(chaoshero @ Dec 1 2006, 04:07 PM) There is no way in heaven, gals and guys can become good fren. By instinct male will not treat a female htat good/ helpful unless the male is attracted to the opposite sex. hahah.. but in this world got many dat are so pathetic, they treat the person so good because wan tackle dat fella... manatau, never happen... so can oni be good frens haha |
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Dec 6 2006, 12:02 PM
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i do believe gals and guys can be frens. I got a guy fren of like.......4 yrs d. In our little circle there's another gal. So the 3 of us is like very good frens with each other
. We now sometimes still call each other and say hello. We even complain about our life and help each other out when either one of us is in need of help. |
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Dec 6 2006, 09:39 PM
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^ Finally someone agrees. @_@
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Dec 7 2006, 09:33 AM
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QUOTE(Myra @ Dec 6 2006, 09:39 PM) ^ Finally someone agrees. @_@ well those that did not agree is because either they have not experience it themselves or either they have too small brain . Boys and girls have not much differences except for our sexes since we're definitely human . Well as long as 2 humans can speak in the same channel they're buddies |
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Dec 8 2006, 11:51 AM
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QUOTE(quireyuyue @ Dec 7 2006, 10:33 AM) well those that did not agree is because either they have not experience it themselves or either they have too small brain partially agreed... diff ppl got diff psycology... u can't say all of them got small brains... it's their environment... how they grew up... who they grow up wif... and where they grew up at... . Boys and girls have not much differences except for our sexes since we're definitely human . Well as long as 2 humans can speak in the same channel they're buddies |
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Dec 8 2006, 02:10 PM
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I agree with the both of you lol. (: In the end, it comes back to the individual.
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Dec 9 2006, 05:52 PM
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i got lot female friends
all are good chatting mate and all are attached so what i still havent got gf |
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Dec 17 2006, 11:43 PM
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my answer is no.........
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May 4 2007, 03:54 PM
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all my male frens oso cannot after reject by me, they juz want go after me only, fren also dont 1 make wif u when they know no chance anymore
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May 4 2007, 04:36 PM
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QUOTE(sweet & sour @ May 4 2007, 03:54 PM) all my male frens oso cannot after reject by me, they juz want go after me only, fren also dont 1 make wif u when they know no chance anymore  look like all the guy u know also wanna chase u  , cuz no feel ? den reject? or other reason ? |
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May 4 2007, 04:37 PM
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aiyaaa....of course gal and guys can be good frens
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May 4 2007, 04:45 PM
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For me, yes. There's a possibility 2 ppl from opposite gender to become very good friend. but friendship/relationship is a 2-way traffic, maybe you treat her like your good friend, but she's actually fall for you.
oh well relationship changes from time to time anyway. |
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May 5 2007, 06:49 PM
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i cannot be good friends with guyssssss .....
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May 5 2007, 09:56 PM
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QUOTE(LoveMeNot @ May 5 2007, 06:49 PM) i cannot be good friends with guyssssss ..... i wonder what's the reason ah...why can't be good friends with guys |
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May 5 2007, 11:06 PM
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QUOTE(wai_w3ng @ May 5 2007, 09:56 PM) i wonder what's the reason ah...why can't be good friends with guys cos ended up sure got something something....  |
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May 5 2007, 11:23 PM
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hey..based on your first post hor~ i had a best best best female friend for the past 3 years..and one day i tell her that i liked her and tell her my feelings and go after her for almost 6 months...then one day..we just never talk to each other anymore until today ..about 6 months already....
so...it's 50/50~ depending on the guy or the girl... care can become love also ma |
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May 6 2007, 08:37 AM
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I can =) I got guy friends who are best friends =) Thank God
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May 6 2007, 08:53 AM
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QUOTE(LoveMeNot @ May 5 2007, 11:06 PM) cos ended up sure got something something.... something something...what thing....the 8 gong me came out liaw...i'm curious... Added on May 6, 2007, 8:57 am QUOTE(alantan @ May 5 2007, 11:23 PM) hey..based on your first post hor~ i had a best best best female friend for the past 3 years..and one day i tell her that i liked her and tell her my feelings and go after her for almost 6 months...then one day..we just never talk to each other anymore until today ..about 6 months already.... thats why must differentiate the care love and the love love lorso...it's 50/50~ depending on the guy or the girl... care can become love also ma 3 years friendship... maybe 1 of u must turn to the other lor...if both side also dun wanna see each other...then end liaw lor the friendship.. QUOTE(xcutelilgal @ May 6 2007, 08:37 AM) I can =) I got guy friends who are best friends =) Thank God god where u live wor...UK?it's a different culture there lehThis post has been edited by wai_w3ng: May 6 2007, 08:57 AM |
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May 6 2007, 01:08 PM
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QUOTE(wai_w3ng @ May 6 2007, 09:53 AM) Added on May 6, 2007, 8:57 am god where u live wor...UK?it's a different culture there leh it juz depends on wat kind of live style u choose... |
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May 6 2007, 04:10 PM
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wai weng oh wai weng,
meanin sure either party will have feeling for each other.. can be crush or like.. love..erm..not till that level yet.. soo soo 8 kong for what.too free liao is it.. This post has been edited by LoveMeNot: May 6 2007, 04:11 PM |
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May 6 2007, 06:57 PM
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QUOTE(LoveMeNot @ May 6 2007, 05:10 PM) wai weng oh wai weng, every1 also have curiousity la... honestly i also curious but wai weng already ask... meanin sure either party will have feeling for each other.. can be crush or like.. love..erm..not till that level yet.. soo soo 8 kong for what.too free liao is it.. |
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May 6 2007, 07:00 PM
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I have a guy as a best friend. No problems...just that other people think we're dating cos we're so close. Eeyerr.
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May 6 2007, 07:49 PM
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haha... ehh...my pet sister also do that la... better to be safe than sorry ma...god knows who saw us...right...
i memang very free...unemployed liaw...lol nop..actually i do see a different culture in UK and malaysia...people there are much more friendly than we do... they can mix up with almost any kind of person... even taiwan or sg also same our malaysia shyness barrier isn't being breach by too many people... |
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May 9 2007, 12:38 PM
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depends...
mostly ppl who r nt frm co-ed sch tend 2be more sensitive... wen a guy treat her gd she'll start misunderstand .. coz i myself aso... i had a gd close fren.. sharing everything wit him... n i end up being his gf!! i hv few guy gd frenz...alwiz find me wen got prob wit their gf....but juz thru sms o call o msn ler...hehez... |
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May 9 2007, 12:57 PM
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QUOTE(-oct17babe- @ May 9 2007, 12:38 PM) depends... ehh...being close friend with him then ended up being his gf is better than not being his gf and end up losing a friendship mostly ppl who r nt frm co-ed sch tend 2be more sensitive... wen a guy treat her gd she'll start misunderstand .. coz i myself aso... i had a gd close fren.. sharing everything wit him... n i end up being his gf!! i hv few guy gd frenz...alwiz find me wen got prob wit their gf....but juz thru sms o call o msn ler...hehez... i wonder why would guys always go for good friends...even me also did it once...lolehh i also find female friends when i got prob with my gf 1 ahh...listen to the female's mind is better than listening to males ones..and male friends always not helpful 1 la |
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May 9 2007, 10:30 PM
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I don't think so. When a male and a female gets too close, they will start to feel certain attractions to each other. Most of my friends have always started out as normal friends with no attraction towards the other person, then they'll eventually grow closer and end up being a couple.
But then again, perhaps the situation only applies to most of my friends. |
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May 9 2007, 10:35 PM
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QUOTE(Fudgepop @ May 9 2007, 10:30 PM) I don't think so. When a male and a female gets too close, they will start to feel certain attractions to each other. Most of my friends have always started out as normal friends with no attraction towards the other person, then they'll eventually grow closer and end up being a couple. totally agree...this so called certain attraction always occurs to me.. But then again, perhaps the situation only applies to most of my friends. |
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May 10 2007, 05:50 PM
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QUOTE(wai_w3ng @ May 9 2007, 12:57 PM) ehh...being close friend with him then ended up being his gf is better than not being his gf and end up losing a friendship ds is wat my guy frenz told me hahaz...tatz y they search me wen got prob... i wonder why would guys always go for good friends...even me also did it once...lolehh i also find female friends when i got prob with my gf 1 ahh...listen to the female's mind is better than listening to males ones..and male friends always not helpful 1 la |
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May 10 2007, 06:53 PM
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If u ask me this question after 49 years, I will still say No way for man and woman can made good frens
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May 10 2007, 07:55 PM
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QUOTE(-oct17babe- @ May 10 2007, 05:50 PM) ds is wat my guy frenz told me hahaz...tatz y they search me wen got prob... this is very true what...personally i felt la..eventho i'm a guy...guy giving another guy opinion just sux... for me la at least... what they could think of..i could already think better than them... i need is many an ear of silent or a really good advise...most of them come from females only... |
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May 17 2007, 02:12 AM
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QUOTE(Fudgepop @ May 9 2007, 10:30 PM) I don't think so. When a male and a female gets too close, they will start to feel certain attractions to each other. Most of my friends have always started out as normal friends with no attraction towards the other person, then they'll eventually grow closer and end up being a couple. HAhah.IMHO, how can two people be a couple before being good friends? Good frens means u know each other well and are close to each other.If cant be good frens how to become a couple.. But then again, perhaps the situation only applies to most of my friends. But of course..thats only certain ppl.U can have many good/close/best friends but doesnt mean u'll end up dating all of them...and to say that guys and girls cant be good frens is ridiculous.As mentioned by many,guys prefer to confide certain things to their female frens rather than guy frens and its very very true based on wat i know abt most guys.I myself have both close guy and girl frens..more fun lah.haha This post has been edited by koalanne: May 17 2007, 02:13 AM |
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May 24 2007, 07:48 PM
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haih... m'sians are juz not tat open enough to accept all these... tat's y they get attracted to each other... even in schools gals and guys hang out in diff places...
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May 27 2007, 05:05 AM
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QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ May 24 2007, 07:48 PM) haih... m'sians are juz not tat open enough to accept all these... tat's y they get attracted to each other... even in schools gals and guys hang out in diff places... its always the trend what...guys and girls hang out in diff places...the only place that guy and girl hang out in the same place is the classroom...lol i guess becos friends would give embarrassment to each other when they go close to girls...and girls the same.... depend on the individual also...if take the hit...then mati la... heck i would go around the whole school making friends...guys and girls...nerd tak mau...cos i just dont know how to comm with study freaks... but then i always ponteng last time...school friends also not alot...haha |
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May 27 2007, 02:40 PM
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for me it depends... nerds are ok as long as study is not the only thing they know... i like war freaks, game freaks, car freaks and and computer freaks... they are nerds 2... so am i... but i not study freak... ppl say i look more like ah long...
when i was in secondary school i hang around wif every1... guys and gal... haha... the old days... although they call me godzilla last time... |
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May 28 2007, 12:42 AM
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QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ May 27 2007, 02:40 PM) for me it depends... nerds are ok as long as study is not the only thing they know... i like war freaks, game freaks, car freaks and and computer freaks... they are nerds 2... so am i... but i not study freak... ppl say i look more like ah long... behh la...i was in chinese school when i was primary...those guys group remain only for guys and girl group remains only for girls really appear there... when i was in secondary school i hang around wif every1... guys and gal... haha... the old days... although they call me godzilla last time... its hard to get a mixed group...cos all of the guys and girls hang out with their own kind when they have breaks... really only study time u'll see mixed group...haha |
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May 28 2007, 12:58 PM
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I was in a chinese high school too and most of my friends are guys JUST because we share the same interests. I play games and watch cartoons like voltron, transformers etc. And many of my guy pals are today, still my guy pals.
Although, I have to say that it wasn't easy being the girl in the guy groups because you tend to get this "reputation" of being a slut etc etc. I remember once there was this rumour about me being pregnant by one of my indian guy pal (ironically, he discovered that he is gay few years later). It got so bad that my parents actually heard about it and questioned me whether I'm pregnant or not....although at that time I was still a virgin.. Shows how evil people can be. |
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May 28 2007, 02:53 PM
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some ppl can..some ppl cannot..as for myself..cannot means cannot..surely there will be this attraction thingy going on...if its not love.then its crush...
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May 28 2007, 09:28 PM
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QUOTE(seen @ May 28 2007, 12:58 PM) I was in a chinese high school too and most of my friends are guys JUST because we share the same interests. I play games and watch cartoons like voltron, transformers etc. And many of my guy pals are today, still my guy pals. lol...our childhood days really have worst nightmares eh...Although, I have to say that it wasn't easy being the girl in the guy groups because you tend to get this "reputation" of being a slut etc etc. I remember once there was this rumour about me being pregnant by one of my indian guy pal (ironically, he discovered that he is gay few years later). It got so bad that my parents actually heard about it and questioned me whether I'm pregnant or not....although at that time I was still a virgin.. Shows how evil people can be. those that did those stupid things...come to think about it again... they'll see how stupid they are...that includes me..done quite alot of stupid stuff...but not including spreading rumors...LOL |
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May 30 2007, 05:57 PM
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QUOTE(LoveMeNot @ May 28 2007, 03:53 PM) some ppl can..some ppl cannot..as for myself..cannot means cannot..surely there will be this attraction thingy going on...if its not love.then its crush... hahaha... u are juz being uptight... if u like some1 u will feel attracted be it guys or gals... u juz don realize it when u think it's normal... it's up to u to realize it... |
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May 30 2007, 07:33 PM
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I have a best friend whom I've known for almost 5 years. Once I found myself having a crush on him, I confessed and he somewhat rejected. But hey, look at us now, we're still best buds.
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May 31 2007, 01:30 AM
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shud be ok with me, i got gf for sure
, and got a few 'best gurl-friend' also... and thats (80% my gurl, 20% freind ) |
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Jun 1 2007, 12:16 PM
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QUOTE(pokju @ May 31 2007, 01:30 AM) shud be ok with me, i got gf for sure Actually i don't see the problem guys being good friends with girls. I personally have a good friend who is a girl too. Just that one thing that we all have to bare in mind if our respect for the other party. , and got a few 'best gurl-friend' also... and thats (80% my gurl, 20% freind ) |
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Jun 4 2007, 03:06 PM
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QUOTE(DreMAx @ Jun 1 2007, 01:16 PM) Actually i don't see the problem guys being good friends with girls. I personally have a good friend who is a girl too. Just that one thing that we all have to bare in mind if our respect for the other party. tat's rite... |
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Jun 5 2007, 09:49 AM
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Normally it's the guy who fall for the girl or the girl who fall for the guy first?
Anyways, here's my case: I have a lot of female friends, in fact, I actually mix more with female friends than male friends. But then, lucky got no feelings (of like) for any of them. However, there were times when I mixed with only one of them ... and we got kinda close ... and then I fell for her. But then I never ever said anything, just kept it a secret to myself. As days pass by, and we got into our big group of friends again, my feelings for her begin to vanish since we didn't get as close as before. So, my conclusion is: You can have many gals (or guys) as good friends, but it's really hard to have JUST 1 gal (or guy) as a good friend. |
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Jun 5 2007, 11:55 AM
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me myself CAN:)
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Yes.If the gal is not chun to the guys & vice versa.If not, sure end up in bed!
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Jun 5 2007, 12:09 PM
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QUOTE(PIRATES! @ Jun 5 2007, 11:59 AM) Yes.If the gal is not chun to the guys & vice versa.If not, sure end up in bed! hahaha no laaaa,,, my best friend is d most handsome guy in college, and im definitely not ugly we just too close (also with both family) so dont wanna spoil this relationship anyway his not my type haha:blush: |
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Jun 6 2007, 02:07 PM
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QUOTE(suka milo @ Jun 5 2007, 01:09 PM) hahaha no laaaa,,, my best friend is d most handsome guy in college, and im definitely not ugly good for u... we just too close (also with both family) so dont wanna spoil this relationship anyway his not my type haha:blush: |
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Jun 6 2007, 08:31 PM
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QUOTE(suka milo @ Jun 5 2007, 12:09 PM) hahaha no laaaa,,, my best friend is d most handsome guy in college, and im definitely not ugly close with both family?as in both family knows each other?hehe...later both can't find the other half family try to couple u 2 how?haha we just too close (also with both family) so dont wanna spoil this relationship anyway his not my type haha:blush: |
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Jun 12 2007, 06:39 PM
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Jun 12 2007, 07:37 PM
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i used to be this huge footie n rock fella since i was eleven...
....n so i was pretty close to a few guy frens...my problem started when i had a crush on one of them...it was hurtin because he called me his 'buddy' and told me bout his gfs... it took me so freakin long to get over it...n i even told him but he just brushed it off as a joke.. didnt see him for years now... my opinion....guys n gals can NEVER be JUST good frens... surely either one party or another would feel something 'more'... |
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Jun 13 2007, 08:40 PM
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Jun 14 2007, 12:25 AM
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imho...gals n guys can be good fren as long as they know the boundaries between them...for me myself,i treat my gal frens diff from my gf...i treat them just like i treat my boy frens...
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Jun 24 2007, 06:15 AM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? umm..for me..close friend can..but best friend must be a guy!! hehehe~girls are sensative creatures..so better not make ur gf jealous |
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Jun 24 2007, 09:39 AM
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of course can be good friends
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Jun 24 2007, 06:05 PM
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Jun 24 2007, 09:08 PM
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QUOTE(DoOgi3 @ Jun 24 2007, 06:15 AM) umm..for me..close friend can..but best friend must be a guy!! hehehe~ what is the different between close and best fren ?girls are sensative creatures..so better not make ur gf jealous If i say me and my fren know each other few years, and until today we still connecting. When we meet we scold each other, laugh at each other, and punch each other. So u call that best fren or close fren ? |
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Jun 24 2007, 09:33 PM
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i hav a good gal fren, not girl fren. female good fren i mean. we talk wat also, even our deepest words, problems.
we also talk from night to morning also. once a while lar......haha ^^ a guy and a girl not necessary become boyfren and girlfren. depends how the friendship was built. normally, for a guy is always think of "she" become my girlfren. coz i'm a guy also. haha ^^ but now i realise that is not true. |
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Jun 24 2007, 09:52 PM
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Well i do have a very nice female fren she un me alot and i un her too. A single gancle between us can tell much without words. Everything i also can discuss with her but i never think to make her my gf or have any fancy thought of her. But now she is married lol so we seldom go out or chat over phone anymore.
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Jun 24 2007, 11:29 PM
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QUOTE(7chai @ Jun 24 2007, 09:08 PM) what is the different between close and best fren ? can you share your deepest darkest secret with him/her? and besides ur gf/bf..do you think of him/her whenever you wanna do something (e.g:going to the movies,hanging out together,shopping..etc)If i say me and my fren know each other few years, and until today we still connecting. When we meet we scold each other, laugh at each other, and punch each other. So u call that best fren or close fren ? well..i dunno that's my opinion..hehe~ for me best fren is like the relationship super tight wan..while close frens are more like jz close and hang out buddies..but u'll never share ur private stuff/dark secret with them..hmm~ i dunno..im getting confuse already.. |
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Jun 25 2007, 12:42 AM
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Haha, a girl and a guy can DEFINITELY be good friends. =) i mean, sometimes it's even better having a guy as your best frend than a girl. You'll be shock with the amount of girls that actually rather tell their best guy friends their problems than their girlfriends. =) I,myself personally have more guy friends than girl friends...and i enjoy the company of my guy friends, they are laid back, fun to be with, funny, they like to fool around, sometimes you think they dont care- but when you're in trouble or sad, you'll really see what a gd frend they are... =)
obviously, feelings can develop from there, AT TIMES. NOT ALL TIMES. + how do you expect relationships to work out without being friends with a person first. I mean i wouldnt want a guy who i'm not even friends with to be my bf, i dont even know him. BUT THAT doesnt mean being gd frends, means DEFINITELY one of them likes the other. =) |
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Jun 25 2007, 12:51 PM
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QUOTE(DoOgi3 @ Jun 24 2007, 11:29 PM) can you share your deepest darkest secret with him/her? and besides ur gf/bf..do you think of him/her whenever you wanna do something (e.g:going to the movies,hanging out together,shopping..etc) thing is I dun have dark secret at all. And of coz, the oni private stuff I have I think...is my...u know. Have to share that ? well..i dunno that's my opinion..hehe~ for me best fren is like the relationship super tight wan..while close frens are more like jz close and hang out buddies..but u'll never share ur private stuff/dark secret with them..hmm~ i dunno..im getting confuse already.. |
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Jun 26 2007, 01:07 AM
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QUOTE(7chai @ Jun 25 2007, 12:51 PM) thing is I dun have dark secret at all. And of coz, the oni private stuff I have I think...is my...u know. Have to share that ? LOL!! well..of coz not..dont need to share "that" hmm~ dont have any secrets eh? *thinking* well,umm..i guess..umm..if u can share everything and be completely comfortable with her..then u guys are consider as..umm.. best fren..umm..i think im getting dizzy..lol. well,different ppl, have different view on the definition of "best fren" |
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Jun 27 2007, 10:58 PM
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Sure can be good friends.
but other ppl will think other thing such as saying the guy is chasing the gal. |
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Jun 27 2007, 11:22 PM
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QUOTE(rachel_tef @ Jun 27 2007, 10:58 PM) Sure can be good friends. Its normal, coz by natural the guy will oni approach the girl he likes. So when the guy and gal get too close, sure there will have people who misunderstood.but other ppl will think other thing such as saying the guy is chasing the gal. |
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Jun 28 2007, 01:38 AM
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it really depends on individual.
certain ppl can draw the boundary so they will never cross over the friends line. but some i believe certain guys do have some slightest feeling or rather fantasy for their pretty girl 'friends'. |
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Jul 29 2007, 11:02 AM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? erm....i think can gua....but sumtime when they suddenly come to u then sure got sumthin de.....but tis not apply to all la.... |
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Jul 29 2007, 03:49 PM
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CANNOT
Especially one of the party love the other party ............ |
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Jul 31 2007, 03:36 AM
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i trying to have ones,
but my gf not allowed, she always will halau ppl out from me.... This post has been edited by altezza90: Jul 31 2007, 03:36 AM |
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Jul 31 2007, 09:12 AM
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would be easier if the guy is gay. but yes.
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Jul 31 2007, 12:21 PM
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yup! i think it's possible that guys and girls can be good friends
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Jul 31 2007, 09:46 PM
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y not?? i got a few good fren (buddies) which is guy also....
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Aug 1 2007, 12:47 AM
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confirm can...all my best friends are always the girls....
in my opinion,it is better for us to sharing our things with girls.. because they are more mature and sometime they also can give us the useful solution... |
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Aug 1 2007, 12:50 AM
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good friends with benefits is more like it.
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Aug 1 2007, 11:11 AM
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not necessarily. My best friend is a guy and we've been best friends for about four or five years now. We have our own partners, but we're recognized as purely platonic so we have no trouble at all.
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 Aug 1 2007, 08:48 PM
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QUOTE(Ryan11 @ Aug 1 2007, 01:47 AM) confirm can...all my best friends are always the girls.... err... i don agree wif gals are more mature part... in my opinion,it is better for us to sharing our things with girls.. because they are more mature and sometime they also can give us the useful solution... got bad exp on tat b4 d... |
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Aug 2 2007, 09:19 AM
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QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ Aug 1 2007, 08:48 PM) err... i don agree wif gals are more mature part... No doubt is not all gals r mature.....BUT majority of gal r mature than a guy who is same age with her... got bad exp on tat b4 d... |
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Aug 2 2007, 11:12 AM
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it depends. it's a two-way thingy just like a relationship. if both of u have the same mentality, then it's ok.
there're ppl who r just fren but r casual sexmate. |
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Aug 3 2007, 08:33 AM
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i have a lunch partner which is a gal and ppl started to tease us already. Just don't said best fren.....normal fren also ppl start to talk. Make both of us so kam kai.
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Aug 23 2007, 03:23 PM
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most defiantly yes..
becoz we don understand much of each other's preferences..thats what gives us such great topics to talk about... at least from my experiences....  |
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Aug 23 2007, 08:57 PM
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I got a very good friend once ( a girl..duh) back in Form 4. We have a lot of common interest and friendly toward each other. She's a very good frenz.
But somehow she says the wrong thing to me and we go downhill from there. I quite miss her as a fren now... |
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Aug 24 2007, 02:07 AM
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QUOTE(Ibrahimovic @ Aug 23 2007, 08:57 PM) I got a very good friend once ( a girl..duh) back in Form 4. We have a lot of common interest and friendly toward each other. She's a very good frenz. mayb u can call her up and jus talk for fun...But somehow she says the wrong thing to me and we go downhill from there. I quite miss her as a fren now... |
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Aug 24 2007, 03:45 AM
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of course girls and guys can be good frens..
but jus the matter how the girls think and the guys think...... ive bad experience becos the girl heard too much from a guy saying tat girl and guys cannot be good fren.... since than.......ai......hope tat guy get the same situation when he try to close with this girl... hahaa:lol: |
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Aug 24 2007, 05:59 PM
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QUOTE(angelgurl_nee @ Aug 24 2007, 02:07 AM) mayb u can call her up and jus talk for fun... I try but well its not like in the good days. But at least there is no hard feeling between us now. |
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Aug 24 2007, 08:23 PM
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gals tends to hav seasonal best guy frens
first, gal might think...hhmm, tis guy is okie, nice to talk to, great sense of humor, can b fren later, gal might think...this guy realli great, can share all my probs, summore treat me so good(like lil sis) finally, gal might think...wow, this other guy is great, nice to talk to, great sense of humor, can b fren, n my old fren still close to me even i dun talk to him so much oredi, onli sometimes can share personal stuff guys alwayz wants permenant best fren, at least with a gal first, guy might think...yup, i do not hav spark 4 her, can b best buddy since we so close later, guy might think...wow, she let me hug her, she keep on telling me she n bf got probs, mayb hinting me finally, guy might think...yup, i wanna b a spannar...coz i really like her so, guys...if ur best fren is a gal, make sure dun persist to be so close when the season is over sign of season over: she still talk personal things to u, but not so personal, n on occasion dun ever think everi little things gal do is a sign for u to proceed...ITS NOT...IS A FRIENDLY GESTURE n gals, if u wanna make a guy ur best fren, make sure dun mislead him... dun even let them hav the slightest opportunity to think u r interested(IF U R REALLY NOT) |
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Aug 25 2007, 09:11 PM
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Most of my good friends are girls. Some are ex-crushes though but things turned out fine.
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Aug 29 2007, 12:28 AM
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QUOTE(yin1226 @ Aug 2 2007, 10:19 AM) No doubt is not all gals r mature.....BUT majority of gal r mature than a guy who is same age with her... i can't agree wif tat... i've met gals 8 years my senior and 8 years dumber... |
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Sep 5 2007, 09:50 AM
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QUOTE(snow101 @ Aug 24 2007, 08:23 PM) gals tends to hav seasonal best guy frens u are very true.... some time when a guy hav a BEST friend (gal) mostlyi is oni a person.... not a group.... mayb most of the guy think they hav alot of best girl friend..... the "best friend" part mayb diff..... like how deep ur friendship is towards one gal... or u think u are best friend with a gal oledy when u talk everything.... but for other ppl ... mayb they jus see u both as a normal friend... so wat i wanna say is the "best friend" word is really hav to see each individual... how much u did for her...first, gal might think...hhmm, tis guy is okie, nice to talk to, great sense of humor, can b fren later, gal might think...this guy realli great, can share all my probs, summore treat me so good(like lil sis) finally, gal might think...wow, this other guy is great, nice to talk to, great sense of humor, can b fren, n my old fren still close to me even i dun talk to him so much oredi, onli sometimes can share personal stuff guys alwayz wants permenant best fren, at least with a gal first, guy might think...yup, i do not hav spark 4 her, can b best buddy since we so close later, guy might think...wow, she let me hug her, she keep on telling me she n bf got probs, mayb hinting me finally, guy might think...yup, i wanna b a spannar...coz i really like her so, guys...if ur best fren is a gal, make sure dun persist to be so close when the season is over sign of season over: she still talk personal things to u, but not so personal, n on occasion dun ever think everi little things gal do is a sign for u to proceed...ITS NOT...IS A FRIENDLY GESTURE n gals, if u wanna make a guy ur best fren, make sure dun mislead him... dun even let them hav the slightest opportunity to think u r interested(IF U R REALLY NOT) and i also think tat there's no such thing as best friend between guy and gal when they both are single... ( i think at least they like sth of each other ) but nvr wanna think so much about it.... enjoy every moment togather... ( so nvr quarrel like gf and bf ) so this way is much more enjoyble.... but they duno sometime they hav been cross the line... where they almost seen as a couple for outsider's eyes... gal really hav to becareful dun mislead a guy..... and guy also hav to be strong and control tats wat i think .... |
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Sep 9 2007, 05:40 PM
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Definitely can..but should know the boundaries especially if you have a partner.
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Sep 10 2007, 08:23 AM
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if both no feeling can, but very seldom lar(at least in my case)
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Sep 12 2007, 12:39 PM
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i don think can, but its depends on the personality, on my case, my ex-gf keep on say there is a good fren between gals n boys, but at last, she noe cannot be, bcoz she loves the guys....
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Sep 12 2007, 02:34 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? actually it depends on individual |
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Sep 12 2007, 03:00 PM
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Everybody makes this such an issue but it's not. Some guys can be your friend and some can't, it's that simple. People are individuals and it's not fair to group all guys together or all girls together as being one way. Friends come in all shapes, sizes, ages, colors AND genders.
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Sep 13 2007, 06:43 PM
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definetely can be good frens i think.
just because i have loads of guys best fren D |
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Sep 13 2007, 06:56 PM
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IT can happen, but it will never last.
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Sep 14 2007, 09:12 AM
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ya guy and gal wont "last" to be good or best friend... gals tend to change best friend always
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Sep 14 2007, 04:47 PM
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can.. why not?
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Sep 14 2007, 05:25 PM
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mayb this topic has no result ....... got ppl say yes got ppl say no... mayb some of them havent felt tat guy and gal impossible to be best friend while one of them mayb hav feeling on the other half
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Sep 14 2007, 06:20 PM
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Well definitely can.
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Sep 14 2007, 06:23 PM
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QUOTE(Jackygwh @ Sep 14 2007, 05:25 PM) mayb this topic has no result ....... got ppl say yes got ppl say no... mayb some of them havent felt tat guy and gal impossible to be best friend while one of them mayb hav feeling on the other half Correct...The statement is temporary true until it happens... |
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Nov 30 2007, 10:34 AM
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of course can be good friends arh.. why not ? no harm though some people will thought both of you couple lor. sometimes when i go out with my guy friends often, people around us will say that we look like couple. =.="
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Dec 1 2007, 03:01 PM
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59 posts Joined: Oct 2007 From: USJ, Subang Jaya
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Absolutely!
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Dec 4 2007, 12:09 AM
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I would liek to be good fren with gals. Here's a video to show mai friendzhip. |
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Dec 5 2007, 11:20 AM
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Of cos can not, their gf or bf sure will jealous in all the time even they know gal n guy just good fren
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Dec 5 2007, 12:50 PM
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can.. be good friends.. nothing wrong about that
very close friends if you're not attached.. if attached.. will have some boundaries.. but also depends.. there are good/very close buddies out there even they're attached. just be sure you know how to make ur other half feel important and that you're not depending on your buddy instead of him/her. |
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Dec 5 2007, 08:39 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? yes.. it's possible.but if that gal got bf... her bf might get jealous... vice versa. sometime friendship love and true love can be very confusing. haizzz... i currently in kinda confusing "a bit" relationship. |
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Dec 6 2007, 05:58 PM
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Definitely Can....My best fren were a guy,been fren with him since college time(hmmmm already been 12 years).
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Dec 9 2007, 06:58 PM
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well, true to what one of the posters wrote, some guys or girls can be friends yet some cant..its juz a matter of finding out which is which=)i've had my spate of girls who call me 'BEST FRIENDS' yet in the end the moved on afta finding boyfriends..but i'm not losing hope that guys and girls can indeed be best friends=)i've seen alot of cases where guys will be 'BEST FRIENDS' wit a girl juz because she is hot and as a way to get close to her..afta the girl rejects him,thats when the guy goes into withdrawal syndrome and being possesive..sighs..
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Dec 9 2007, 08:31 PM
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QUOTE(JPlaSMaY666 @ Dec 9 2007, 06:58 PM) well, true to what one of the posters wrote, some guys or girls can be friends yet some cant..its juz a matter of finding out which is which=)i've had my spate of girls who call me 'BEST FRIENDS' yet in the end the moved on afta finding boyfriends..but i'm not losing hope that guys and girls can indeed be best friends=)i've seen alot of cases where guys will be 'BEST FRIENDS' wit a girl juz because she is hot and as a way to get close to her..afta the girl rejects him,thats when the guy goes into withdrawal syndrome and being possesive..sighs.. well said.some so-called best friends just wanna get close so can have the next level relationship... and indeed boy & girl can be best friend... there'll be difficulties if he/she have bf/gf... coz his/her partner will jealous & block such friendship... which might either break ur friendship or ... |
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Jan 11 2008, 07:03 AM
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Frankly speaking, imposibble !
Unless he is not a man.. |
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Jan 11 2008, 07:52 AM
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QUOTE(dvinez @ Jan 11 2008, 07:03 AM) Frankly speaking, imposibble ! A man is a man. They cannot get over with the sex thing! Man can never have girl as best friend. I have some guy friend who says they just wanna be friends but ended up asking u to go late nite out or go dating. To man, girls will always be an object of lust no matter who you are unless of course you are his mother or sister.Unless he is not a man.. |
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Jan 11 2008, 07:57 AM
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haha ya ya its true man.
but u must control yourself lah. dun so "ham sap". |
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Jan 11 2008, 11:24 AM
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QUOTE(Shirli @ Dec 6 2007, 06:58 PM) Definitely Can....My best fren were a guy,been fren with him since college time(hmmmm already been 12 years). hehe.. u're hitting "3 pages" liao..! so did that guy ever hinted to get to the next level with u? not even once? |
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Jan 11 2008, 03:03 PM
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is possible
but kinda rare. |
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Jan 11 2008, 03:52 PM
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For me it's a big NO.. bcoz tis kind of incident juz happened on me.. both of them hv developed "feeling" to each other..
mayb guy n girl can only b good friend when both of them r stil single n available.. if either one is attached, then no way.. |
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Jan 11 2008, 09:26 PM
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To me... it's possible... Why not? However, u have to be open la... Don think too much... Last time when i was quite young... actually small, there is this boy... I think he broke his arm or sumthing... So i was being helpful as in always helping him do stuff... then the gossip started... And he was so shy that he ignored me for a year... Wow... and i felt so bad about it... People... With there stupid gossips... But now... we are very close friends again... At least after he knew how to think with a mature mind... So the point here is don ever think too much... Who cares what other people say... Phew... we're still good friends... Go lunching together... Even though there's another gossip going on... but i think our friendship shall sustain if we are clever enough to think with a sensible mind... Well... We're all humans... Humans should care for each other... Humans should learn how to love each other (the love here doesn't necessarily mean the boy girl relationship love) So... of course boys and girl can be good friends.
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Jan 12 2008, 12:35 AM
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QUOTE(@lice~~ @ Jan 11 2008, 04:52 PM) For me it's a big NO.. bcoz tis kind of incident juz happened on me.. both of them hv developed "feeling" to each other.. err... if married and available how...? mayb guy n girl can only b good friend when both of them r stil single n available.. if either one is attached, then no way.. QUOTE(Peichen @ Jan 11 2008, 10:26 PM) To me... it's possible... Why not? However, u have to be open la... Don think too much... Last time when i was quite young... actually small, there is this boy... I think he broke his arm or sumthing... So i was being helpful as in always helping him do stuff... then the gossip started... And he was so shy that he ignored me for a year... Wow... and i felt so bad about it... People... With there stupid gossips... But now... we are very close friends again... At least after he knew how to think with a mature mind... So the point here is don ever think too much... Who cares what other people say... Phew... we're still good friends... Go lunching together... Even though there's another gossip going on... but i think our friendship shall sustain if we are clever enough to think with a sensible mind... Well... We're all humans... Humans should care for each other... Humans should learn how to love each other (the love here doesn't necessarily mean the boy girl relationship love) So... of course boys and girl can be good friends. absolutely agree... especially the bolded words... many of us are still juz 2 uptight or pretend to be righteous... |
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Jan 14 2008, 05:07 PM
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can, y not?? i'm having gals as my best fren..yet my gf doesnt mind cos i let her mix around wif them...all of them has got their own relationship..so do i.. so i tink its nt wrg to haf a gal as best fren n still in a relationship wif another gal..
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Jan 14 2008, 05:45 PM
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QUOTE(t3chn0m4nc3r @ Jan 12 2008, 12:35 AM) err... if married and available how...? what?? married and available??? anyway, if u r attached n u know well ur limitation then of coz u can hv a opposite sex as a good fren.. n so do ur good fren is.. n make sure ur partner is well-known of ur friendship n no hidden things n dun do anything tat can make ur partner feel suspicious.. |
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Jan 14 2008, 06:55 PM
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i dont see there is any problems wor...i treat gals (especially coursemate) as good fren...dont think beyond other....some attached, some not
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Jan 14 2008, 08:29 PM
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its possible for a couple of years but it is hard to maintain the relationship as decent as it is if u have a very very cute best guy friend who smell nice and always manjakan u..hhaha dats what happened to me..we were bestfriend for lik 6 yrs and somehow along the road felt so hard for each other..but still doesnt have the heart to confess until one day he said dat he was jealous seeing me with another guy..and guess wat we are still going strong after 3 yrs of serious relationship..yay!
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Jan 14 2008, 08:44 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? totally disagree.. |
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Jan 14 2008, 08:49 PM
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nth wrong in having a girls as good frens. its good to have some girl-frens around as in comparison to guy-frens.
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Jan 14 2008, 11:06 PM
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I've been best friends with my guy friend for six years now.
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Jan 15 2008, 12:40 AM
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spunkberry...u're bery pretty...can i be ur best fren??hehe
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Jan 16 2008, 02:47 AM
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QUOTE(@lice~~ @ Jan 14 2008, 06:45 PM) what?? married and available??? haha... good to know... but i'm single and not available BTW... anyway, if u r attached n u know well ur limitation then of coz u can hv a opposite sex as a good fren.. n so do ur good fren is.. n make sure ur partner is well-known of ur friendship n no hidden things n dun do anything tat can make ur partner feel suspicious.. |
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Jan 16 2008, 11:38 AM
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i haf good guy frens! haha.nth happened =)
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Jan 16 2008, 06:27 PM
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QUOTE(lovette @ Jan 16 2008, 12:38 PM) i haf good guy frens! haha.nth happened =) hell yeah... |
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Jan 19 2008, 12:54 PM
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It is definitely possible.
What is good friend? Good friend (Best friend) means a very very close friendship. So, if this happen between a guy and a lady, they are in friendship. They are not fall in love. They won't be jealous with each other in each party love relationship, and they will encourage each other to live happily with their partner they will wishing each other all the best. I don't think they will have sex relationship also......because most of them not Dr. Chua and his "best friend". This is luck. Whether you meet a very very close friendship in opposite sex. I don't know any special words for this kind of relationship in English however in Chinese could say is 红颜知己。 I believe with that. Because it happen to me.....I think I'm lucky. |
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Jan 20 2008, 03:39 AM
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Am I the only girl who is going to say that guys and gals cannot have platonic friendship? Honestly, 90% of my guy friends ended up falling in love with me. My hubby is one of them and now he is my hubby and my best friend!!
Anyone heard of the proverb "Yat kau sang cheng..."? So, how is this possible at all? |
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Jan 20 2008, 12:32 PM
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A guy and a gal can be juz fren, but at at point or another, they will fall for each other... maybe temporary, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, maybe forever...
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Jan 20 2008, 01:39 PM
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QUOTE(WiNdGa| @ Jan 20 2008, 04:39 AM) Am I the only girl who is going to say that guys and gals cannot have platonic friendship? Honestly, 90% of my guy friends ended up falling in love with me. My hubby is one of them and now he is my hubby and my best friend!! well u said 90% had fallen, the rest of 10% are ur platonic frens lo. Anyone heard of the proverb "Yat kau sang cheng..."? So, how is this possible at all? imagine this scenario: Well if a guy have a gf liao, and consistently meets his female good fren , but for normal stuff like yumchar or just be a friend, helps her if she needs help etc (like how he treat his guy buddies too), I'm sure its still sustainable as platonic right? Its not as if that guy has made any "special" xtra moves. If this happens, what are the chances that the girl (a typical one) might start to "lose control of the frenship" and start falling for that guy? |
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Jan 20 2008, 11:25 PM
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i still feel that if the guy and girl are too close each other, they must got something between them(俗称"有耶")...
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Jan 21 2008, 03:09 PM
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hmm...i personally do think guyz n gurlz can b close fren...nothing is impossible ~~
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Jan 21 2008, 05:02 PM
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sure can be good friend lo
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Jan 21 2008, 05:05 PM
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777 posts Joined: Sep 2007 From: bandar baru bangi
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yeah,why not??
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Jan 22 2008, 11:25 AM
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i hv few good friend(guy) wo...
v oso closely friend there is nothing happen between us.. purely friend only y not... |
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Jan 22 2008, 01:41 PM
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My former bestie was a guy (and my ex-boyfie).
Apparently I find it easier to talk to a girl bestie than him. We're still good friends though |
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Jan 22 2008, 01:46 PM
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QUOTE(Lena314 @ Jan 22 2008, 11:25 AM) i hv few good friend(guy) wo... Do like hitz.fm...v oso closely friend there is nothing happen between us.. purely friend only y not... tell ur guy friend u just broke up with ur bf and u wan to be with him. or if u dun have bf tell him u realised u love him. im sure he will fall for that QUOTE(Shish @ Jan 22 2008, 01:41 PM) My former bestie was a guy (and my ex-boyfie). before and after its still countedApparently I find it easier to talk to a girl bestie than him. We're still good friends though |
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Jan 22 2008, 01:51 PM
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until now, I will still say the same. Cannot.
good fren and normal fren, whats the difference ? Fren also. Not say is belongs to special category. If want special why not save some time, save some effort go find your destinied 1 ? Instead of recognizing each other as good fren and hoping something special will happen. lol and also, those who already attached or couple better dun get to close to your opposite sex close fren. |
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Jan 22 2008, 03:17 PM
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it all depends...
best friends/good friends/close friends... when a girl and guy see each other alot ... and always... somehow, there's this feeling there... hard to explain... probably not enough for you to get together but would have a chance... alot of lasting couples come from friends or good friends or even best friends... seen many... i've my fair share of good friends... females... not much feeling because we're both attached but then again... when we were both single... things were a little different... almost like couple but not yet couple... wanting to get together but don't want to lose friendship... and etc etc but it varies from person to person... if its about your bf/gf being too close to a particular friend(opposite sex) ... just be open and let them knwo about it... and of course TRUST them about it... normally... it is because you don't trust them that ruins the relationship and your partner would end up wit that friend that you suspected.... |
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Jan 24 2008, 05:46 PM
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[quote=WaCKy-Angel,Jan 22 2008, 01:46 PM]
Do like hitz.fm... tell ur guy friend u just broke up with ur bf and u wan to be with him. or if u dun have bf tell him u realised u love him. im sure he will fall for that y should we break this relationship?? since this is comfortable for us Dont u think to couple every1 is a tired work??? loss ur own thinking and satistified for some1 lossing mind for him and make the relationship more n more tile and the end... dumping us for the non sense reason... sometime in single status oso could be very enjoying 2 |
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Jan 24 2008, 06:27 PM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? Of course can.... But if the guy already being booked.... then harder for him lor.... but good friends are forever. They are willing to help to their means every time you need them. |
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Jan 25 2008, 12:25 AM
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surely can...
it depends on the personal character of 2 person.. which is the guy n the girl are they matc to be perfect best friend/ good friend or even close friend. yes TRUST is important. it happen in me with my buddz which i call him my heng tai. we do call each other darl (darling), or even dear or b**** or ******* or etc. we could be even more closer then bf/gf... cause we understood each other so well. n he has become apart of my life like my bro.. |
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Jan 25 2008, 02:59 AM
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ofcourse can be good friends larr..
i myself have many many good girl friends.. around 7 very close friends.. can talk on the phone for hours.. go out just 2 of us watch movie or dinner.. when go out, put arms around each other.. they sit on my lap.. etc.. (basicly all the things people do in relationships before all the kissing la lol =P) and their boyfriends dun get jealous (well most of the time) and we never fall for each other. guess we just know too much private stuff about each other lar. =D |
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Jan 25 2008, 09:52 AM
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yes...i also have few good/best female friends and our friendship more than 10 years already
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Jan 25 2008, 02:57 PM
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really????
anyone that i might know? |
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Jan 25 2008, 04:12 PM
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Hell ya. Why not? Most of my best friends are like guys untill they start falling in love with me. LOL.
I like to act like a tomboy but yet i love the idea of how i can cheat my way around not having to do all the heavy work and dirty stuff I enjoy a man's conversation more than i enjoy the ladies talk. Very much about what the bf did and what the bf was, what to wear and what to use. Beachy and beaching about other woman. I dont mind the info of whens the next sale happening and where it is though Man's topic move along very fast. They talk about something, everyone gives their two cents worth of thoughts and then move on. Prolly alittle bit of discussion still but it never drags for the entire week. Well, overall a man and a woman can still be besties if its well balanced and also we are aware of the boundaries that we are not allowed to cross. |
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Jan 25 2008, 05:56 PM
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But then when u said something bout gals n boys can be best frends, here something u should b careful of. It happen me though. I have close female frend around, where we share anything, like sex, porno, period and so on. There's no gap for shyness or watsoever. But then when i develop feeling for one of them who r still single, n we bcame couple, here comes interesting story. Some of my frend starting to avoid calling me to yum cha. I dunno wat the real reason, but there's totally a gap being developed. Having some "special" reason for the frendship should be kicked out as the reason for the gap, as they too have their own gf n bf. For them, it's really weird for frend to bcome couple. Mayb they think one day i may also fall for them? But then i tought shouldn't us bcome frend to knoe each other better b4 moving further into relationship ? If frend cannot bcome lover, means there's only love at 1st sight ? Am i wrong ? But if so, how would u probably knoe his characteristic or know him or her well ?
So, conclusion guys n gals can b best frend, but must b very careful not to developed unwanted feeling. If not, mayb u will b like me? Juz my 3 cent. Lolz |
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Jan 25 2008, 06:06 PM
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QUOTE(sexyamber @ Jan 25 2008, 04:12 PM) Hell ya. Why not? Most of my best friends are like guys untill they start falling in love with me. LOL. we man talk bout spa thrill lotsa times, are u interested ? lol I like to act like a tomboy but yet i love the idea of how i can cheat my way around not having to do all the heavy work and dirty stuff I enjoy a man's conversation more than i enjoy the ladies talk. Very much about what the bf did and what the bf was, what to wear and what to use. Beachy and beaching about other woman. I dont mind the info of whens the next sale happening and where it is though Man's topic move along very fast. They talk about something, everyone gives their two cents worth of thoughts and then move on. Prolly alittle bit of discussion still but it never drags for the entire week. Well, overall a man and a woman can still be besties if its well balanced and also we are aware of the boundaries that we are not allowed to cross. |
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Jan 25 2008, 10:05 PM
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QUOTE(wypua @ Jan 25 2008, 05:56 PM) But then when u said something bout gals n boys can be best frends, here something u should b careful of. It happen me though. I have close female frend around, where we share anything, like sex, porno, period and so on. There's no gap for shyness or watsoever. But then when i develop feeling for one of them who r still single, n we bcame couple, here comes interesting story. Some of my frend starting to avoid calling me to yum cha. I dunno wat the real reason, but there's totally a gap being developed. Having some "special" reason for the frendship should be kicked out as the reason for the gap, as they too have their own gf n bf. For them, it's really weird for frend to bcome couple. Mayb they think one day i may also fall for them? But then i tought shouldn't us bcome frend to knoe each other better b4 moving further into relationship ? If frend cannot bcome lover, means there's only love at 1st sight ? Am i wrong ? But if so, how would u probably knoe his characteristic or know him or her well ? oh well...So, conclusion guys n gals can b best frend, but must b very careful not to developed unwanted feeling. If not, mayb u will b like me? Juz my 3 cent. Lolz in your case ... its probably different... either the rest of them kind of like you and feel disappointed... or maybe behind you... they had some sort of miscommunication and etc etc.... or another part... they are just afraid of your gf getting jealous... girls can be really close to you so as long you're single... but once you've a gf... things change... DRASTICALLY... trust me... |
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Jan 25 2008, 10:08 PM
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yeah...u can be good fren...if
1)he is a gay.. 2)he dun hav interest in u... 3)he aredi hav gf/he has another gal in his heart.. if he lik u...then never can b fren...coz he think by being fren..he can approach u anytime...he is gonna get u..sooner o later... my opinion... |
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Jan 25 2008, 11:52 PM
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Haha. Seems like it getting more n more complicated. Well, i juz wish the same things will b like last time since they all got their own crush. But things totally went out on control
Mayb like wat u said, they scare my gal will get jealous. |
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Jan 26 2008, 10:44 AM
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my good friends are guys, we go lunch together in school, it's all alright. I know i'm so young and stuff, but we have feeling too bah.
I did have a little feelings for one of them, (and i told him about it) but it didn't work out. So.. we're just friends *slaps forehead* |
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Jan 29 2008, 09:39 AM
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well...
this is life... the ones we do like or admire are normally NOT the ones we're able to work things out with... |
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Jan 29 2008, 04:20 PM
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QUOTE(JS5016 @ Jan 25 2008, 10:08 PM) yeah...u can be good fren...if 1)he is a gay.. 2)he dun hav interest in u... 3)he aredi hav gf/he has another gal in his heart.. if he lik u...then never can b fren...coz he think by being fren..he can approach u anytime...he is gonna get u..sooner o later... my opinion... yaya.. i totally agree with u good friend when v are no interest on each other and once interest appear there hard to maintain purely friendship liao. |
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Jan 29 2008, 09:37 PM
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QUOTE(aracia93 @ Jan 26 2008, 10:44 AM) my good friends are guys, we go lunch together in school, it's all alright. I know i'm so young and stuff, but we have feeling too bah. Still remember the time he took my seat??? haha... that was real funny... I was like laughing half dead and nearly choked bcos my mouth was full of rice... All ur fault... I remember EVERYONE was STARING!!!I did have a little feelings for one of them, (and i told him about it) but it didn't work out. So.. we're just friends *slaps forehead* |
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Jan 30 2008, 02:08 AM
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but then again... good friends can maintain friendship even if they have feelings...
as for me... i've feelings for one of my good friend but then we're still goood goood friend until now... because i know what i am suppose to do and what i am not to do... |
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Jan 31 2008, 11:22 PM
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i cant be friend of gal of my type.
haha. means i wan kau ler/ |
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Feb 1 2008, 04:00 AM
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yes, they can be good friends
I have this guy friend who is friendly with all the girls, i actually will pity his gf when he gets one but never treat ur bf as your good friend or best friend.. things can go very wrong |
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Feb 5 2008, 05:23 PM
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QUOTE(chupachups @ Feb 1 2008, 04:00 AM) yes, they can be good friends hey i dun really agree with that... if dun treat as good fren then that means not close enough, if not close enough then...it's going down the drain lerI have this guy friend who is friendly with all the girls, i actually will pity his gf when he gets one but never treat ur bf as your good friend or best friend.. things can go very wrong btw, i agree that guy & gal can be good frens/ best frens |
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Feb 5 2008, 09:28 PM
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I personally keep best guy friend and boyfriend separate. My boyfriend isn't considered my best friend...because if that happens, there's a drawn line that shouldn't be there. THere are things you can't do with a best friend but you can with a boyfriend...so..
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Feb 11 2008, 11:39 PM
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well, my opinion is yes, but honesty is the best policy. if you having a partner, must let he/she knows what exactly happening between you and your best friend. so your SO would not easily get jealous and have the feeling of insecure.
and, for ex-lovers. i'm not so sure leh. initially i thought i wouldn't befriend back with my ex. but in these 5 months, he texts me daily, we chat alot everyday as in everything. gradually, i tend to forget he's my ex lover and i hope we can maintain our friendship now cause we're the one who understand each other the most. |
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Feb 12 2008, 02:02 AM
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nope they cant becuz man r horny creatures and they would take advantage and rape their good female frens
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Feb 26 2008, 03:24 AM
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Depends, IMO it can be yes or it can be no..different people have different way of thinking mah..
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Feb 26 2008, 05:59 PM
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it depends. my best friend eventually became my bf now. and even though i'm attached, i still have extremely close guy friends.
LOL male tag. This post has been edited by sE_vIxEn: Feb 26 2008, 05:59 PM |
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Feb 27 2008, 03:07 AM
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hmm, help me out peeps. I'm in a situation where my gal friend is getting closer and opening up. We spend time together, chat etc. But I'm developing feeling... which i use to..but after a while i thought maybe maintain as friends would be the best.. yet the feeling is getting stronger..advice??
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Feb 27 2008, 01:55 PM
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Sure can...
The course i m studying now all guys so i have plenty of guy's friends. We are still a gang of good friends that will share everything together. |
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Feb 27 2008, 02:23 PM
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for the thread question...
yes... guy and gals can be best of friends... personally i hv a few very good gal buddies... shared stuffs... help each other... listen to their problems... and vice versa... even after marriage we do keep in touch... but not that obvious ler... as hubby might get the wrong picture... but one relationship went awkward after somehow we 'fell' for each other... after that things turned ugly... nightmare... |
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Feb 28 2008, 03:23 PM
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Well sure! Y not? I do have 2 male frens who are quite closed. We knew each other since we were form1 and we keep our frenship till now
It's has been 15years... Although A is working in singapore whereas B is working in nilai, but surely we'll meet up for drinks, dinner or k session every time A comes back I called this ever lasting frenship, lol! |
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Feb 29 2008, 03:57 PM
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CAN~~~~~
I used to like this guy, A for couple of years...then eventually we became great friends. Nothing wrong about it tho. We even make fun of how I confessed to him last time...and how he rejected me... but things are fine now. We go for movie together, dinner together..everyone thought we're couple when I pass baju to him in the fitting room. but things seems to be fine. He got gf, I got bf But we're still best friends. Hahaha... |
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May 23 2008, 03:05 PM
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Thats childish thinking, if u saying a guy always wan something from girl, thn thats same goes to girl always wan something from guy.
Guy and girl always is good friends, just that some unmature ppk keep on saying something like guy got problem, girl got problem, cant go along, and bla bla bla. Don't just follow what ppl say, I don't see wats the reason guy and girl cannot get along |
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May 24 2008, 06:00 PM
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The field that I'm studying, is rarely to have girls. Most of the time I have boys as my friend.
I have this very very good friend, last time at 1st he was hoping me to be his gf, but I refuse and I accept other guy because I think he's won't suit to be my bf. I'm glad that I have chosen the right bf and my this friend has become my very good and close friend. Now, he also has gf, and he loves that gf very much. I always discuss my problems, schoolwork, even we chit chat like girls do. haha... So he's like "sisters" to me. So, why not? |
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May 24 2008, 08:29 PM
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platonic relationships are but a veil to hide the naked heart-wrenching truth
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May 25 2008, 02:15 AM
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how can be fren ? Pantang u know, forbidden !!! Men from Mars and Women from Venus !!!
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May 25 2008, 08:11 AM
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Can be..
Not all relationship can be seriously like cuopling Some also need to have many friend To make you think wide. |
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May 25 2008, 08:52 PM
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OK gentlemen who will be reading this thread please allow me to let you in on a secret , See the truth of the matter about the dance of the s3xes is that , When a guy and girl meet , The girl makes immediate judgement's as to what you will be for her , this subconscious processing takes place in about 5 minutes or so , Then you will fall under the category or either friend our potential lover. Now from what I have seen and experienced. Its always us guyz who get the impression that a woman is into us , when in actuality she has alrady placed you as a friend inside her head. SO we keep being sweet and nice and being close and good and all that nice guy rubbish ! , THen lo and behold , The woman who you though liked Or loved you , Goes out with some other guy , comes to you and sez who she thinks that the guy was so hot... And you being nice and all secretly cry inside out of the great mishap which has just happened...
The fact of the mattter is that when a woman meets a guy and classifies him as just a FRIEND , it is indeed a negative classification, Before getting all mad and stuff hold on let me finish... Lets say a girl and a guy are good friends for such a long time , and then suddenly the guy or the girl in this relationship will find some mate , How will you feel , There is definitely going to be some jealousy and sadness there. But eventually you will be ok , But what about the heartbreak you have sustained as a result of it. Now if you argue with me that no no i dont feel anything (then that is not a normal hetrosexual reponse) , It all boils down to the fact that they guy and girl should be clear at the beginning and if they agree they can be freinds and hang out and do all the stuff that women do , But the question still remains .. what if ????? .. there will always be a part of you which will feel bad , because you were not good enough to be their mate. So its your choice , Either be involved in this dead end relationship or just move on (im in favor of the later)... Please dont believe a single thing i said , GO to the internet research then , Make up your mind , Hearbreaks are the equivalent of not death , but a slow dying process that will destroy , you , Just look at the women who haev heartbreak they are forever changed , And look at the guyz , they become the most hardcore players the world has ever seen... |
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May 26 2008, 02:06 AM
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QUOTE(ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? Obviously a guy and a girl can be GOOD FRIEND and even best friend. Not all guys make friend with you cause they want sumthing.. there is such thing but not all.. |
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May 26 2008, 01:52 PM
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4,436 posts Joined: Oct 2005 From: Pen@nG ~> Ku@l@ LuMpUr
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can, why not. but might eventually turn into bf / gf like me.
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May 28 2008, 08:19 PM
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QUOTE(pink_crayon @ Apr 14 2005, 06:23 PM) guys are fun to have as friends. and they're easier to talk to than girls cos they tend to be more sociable yup, i prefer hanging out with guys even though my bf hates that |
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May 30 2008, 03:39 PM
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33 posts Joined: May 2008 From: Petaling Jaya, Selangor.
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Nope. Definitely NOT!
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May 30 2008, 05:24 PM
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i can and want to know why not?
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May 30 2008, 06:58 PM
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i think is depends on wat is the relatinship between the guy n me.
if since we meet, we are keep a distance as just really" brothers " or " sisters".. i think the relationship can alst longer are more real.. this are the frens tat mostly i meet in university.. we go through a good life together in a "GANG"... but not onli "HE " and "ME "... but,, i think if "HE" is my "PAST".. i think even i can accept we are good frens, not meaning tat he could, or we may hv deeply hurt to him or me.. may coz misunderstanding between my partner, as her partner if he/she knew our past.. sometime keep a certain distance may let our partner feel better .instead of feeling no good.... |
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May 30 2008, 11:25 PM
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33 posts Joined: May 2008 From: Petaling Jaya, Selangor.
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Well. Why not?
Let's make it this way. Myself and another guy are friends. We are close as in we do everything together, I don't like that guy but just taking him as my bestie. But yet who knows maybe that guy adores me ain't? Well. You know..this feeling kinda thingy. It happens all the time. Especially when there's a guy and a girl. |
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May 31 2008, 12:48 PM
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13 posts Joined: Jul 2007
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surely can..
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May 31 2008, 02:33 PM
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I feel can..
even i am a les.. but i do have lots of guys fren.. they all really gentlemen. and treat me like thier little brother.. |
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May 31 2008, 03:58 PM
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649 posts Joined: Jun 2005 From: Behind U~
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aiyo should make a poll on these coz its so subjective..
depends on the person really.. for some open minded ppl, making frens with opposite sex in a long run is ok coz they tend not to cross the boundary.. some ppl like me is easily attracted to gals lol.. esp if we spend too much time together, some feelings will play in my subconscious mind and suddenly will feel of liking her.. dats why most of my gal frens are normal normal nia.. |
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May 31 2008, 06:16 PM
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50 posts Joined: Mar 2006
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depends on person and ur social circle really...
me myself.. majority of my frens are guys... n both my best frens are guys also. haha. they are always there for me whenever i "fall". seriously all depends whether u choose ur frens properly or not.. for me.. i'm seriously lucky to have sincere frens. they have gfs and their gf know me also. hahaha!! they em song me once due to the closeness, but i guess they know who i really am adi... they are close to me also.. lol. so... in conclusion, not all guys are pathetic. some are really sincere. best frens are not bound by the same sexuality. |
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Jun 3 2008, 10:01 AM
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3,116 posts Joined: Apr 2008
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for me..to be best or close frens can lor..but i just dont get y some cant...
i was close with my this fren cw..he n me very close fren..n everytime i also disturb him in class..when he appear in college i will be there..he MIA...i also MIA...we sit together..n stuff..till lecturers tot we r together..but we r not coz he got gf alr..haaha... |
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Jun 7 2008, 10:07 PM
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17 posts Joined: May 2008
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QUOTE(�ngel @ Apr 14 2005, 02:50 PM) Just wondering that can a gal and a guy be a good fren? My fren alwiz tell me there is no such thing as good fren between gals and guys. Sure the guy want something from you or in either way. Is it true? depending on wht the guy is thinking lo but nowadays where got guys just 1 b friends la.. dun b so stupid. nonsense when they say just friends... trust me. esp when they say send u home late at nite la, go out for drink late at nite la... it's all bullshit... unless u know tht guy VERY well den is another situation. or else... b prepared for the worst |
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